After The Fantasy: Rebuilding You - What To Do After You're Free

After The Fantasy: Rebuilding You - What To Do After You're Free

- what actually can be designed - the 2 traps of designing your self/personality - what do you build with freedom - how to know if you're building from goal or panic - how to build for reliability not one-time only - how to "reality-test" - How to recognize positive change

After The Fantasy: Rebuilding You, Ep. 4 - Somatic & Social Reconstruction

- Somatic & Social Reconstruction - the difference between implicit/somatic and explicit/conscious - understanding vs. body sense - hypervigilance not as a personality trait - physiological anxiety - body reconstruction - why anxiety can get worse - dissociation during crisis - overriding the nervous system - the importance of social/communal

After The Fantasy: Rebuilding You, Ep. 3 - Identity Reconstruction

- who are you after the "we" - collapse of the shared fantasy - what you lost - the kernel of the 'self' - success defined in reconstruction - the ego would prefer you suffer - genuine failure - end-running the ego

After The Fantasy: Rebuilding You, Ep. 1 - What The Grief Is About

- the hard part (the leaving part is easy) - when a narcissistic relationship ends - the voice in your head that uses you - why survivors can't trust their own minds - why "just be yourself" is the worst advice- the "survival self" - why letting it go is hard - what actually gets rebuilt

Narcissistic Healing Ep. 7: The Relational Goal For Healing Narcissism - Co-Independence

- what you are changing into - the more important question for narcissist than healing - why most people cannot reach nonconditional love - what is the willingness to love without transaction - the internal stance that make change possible - telling the truth without losing the relationship - why most therapies contract the false self - the architecture doesn't disappear - what to build instead