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Breaking Up With Your Good Girl. She's Costing You

1 h 1 min · 16 de jul de 2026
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Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2505191/fan_mail/new] This Masterclass Almost Didn't Make It to the Podcast I ran a live masterclass this week called The Ex-Good Girl, and about ten minutes in I knew I had to get it out to more of you than just the women who were on the call. So this episode is that masterclass, live and unfiltered. We get into the good girl pattern — where it actually comes from, why it's not a personality quirk but a survival strategy you built so young you've never lived without it, and what it's quietly costing you in your marriage, your friendships, your money, and your body. I also break down why just seeing the pattern never actually changes it. Awareness isn't the same as capacity, and I walk through exactly what capacity actually means and how you build it — because "just stop people pleasing" was never going to work for you. This one got raw. I went off script a few times because honestly, it was hitting me too. In this episode: * Why your attachment to being "good" is what's actually keeping you stuck * The difference between awareness and capacity (and why awareness alone makes things feel worse before better) * The three moves that actually build nervous system capacity * Why boundaries fail when they come from the same identity that created the problem * What happens in your relationships, money, and purpose when you finally stop performing If this episode moves something in you, come find me on Instagram and tell me — I read every message. And if you're ready to do this work in person, not just hear about it, my three-day immersion She Evolves is coming up July 29–31 in Perth. Link in bio.

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Portada del episodio Breaking Up With Your Good Girl. She's Costing You

Breaking Up With Your Good Girl. She's Costing You

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2505191/fan_mail/new] This Masterclass Almost Didn't Make It to the Podcast I ran a live masterclass this week called The Ex-Good Girl, and about ten minutes in I knew I had to get it out to more of you than just the women who were on the call. So this episode is that masterclass, live and unfiltered. We get into the good girl pattern — where it actually comes from, why it's not a personality quirk but a survival strategy you built so young you've never lived without it, and what it's quietly costing you in your marriage, your friendships, your money, and your body. I also break down why just seeing the pattern never actually changes it. Awareness isn't the same as capacity, and I walk through exactly what capacity actually means and how you build it — because "just stop people pleasing" was never going to work for you. This one got raw. I went off script a few times because honestly, it was hitting me too. In this episode: * Why your attachment to being "good" is what's actually keeping you stuck * The difference between awareness and capacity (and why awareness alone makes things feel worse before better) * The three moves that actually build nervous system capacity * Why boundaries fail when they come from the same identity that created the problem * What happens in your relationships, money, and purpose when you finally stop performing If this episode moves something in you, come find me on Instagram and tell me — I read every message. And if you're ready to do this work in person, not just hear about it, my three-day immersion She Evolves is coming up July 29–31 in Perth. Link in bio.

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