Breaking Free From Conditioning: The Story I Did Not Have Words For Until Now

Breaking Free From Conditioning: The Story I Did Not Have Words For Until Now

You have been doing everything 'right' and still felt like your life was not quite yours. That is not a personal failure. That is what happens when you spend years living by scripts you never chose. In this six-month anniversary episode, I am sharing the part of my story I did not have the words for until now. The layer underneath all the tools, the research, and the conversations we have been having. The invisible scripts that quietly run our lives, and what it actually takes to start questioning them. You will walk away with: * An honest look at what underlying scripts are, where they come from, and why they stop feeling like opinions and start feeling like facts * Kamila's personal story of burnout, grief, and the moment she started asking "whose life am I actually living?" * An understanding of why so many of our struggles are not personal failures but the result of conditioning, culture, and history * A new question to carry with you this week: not "what is wrong with me" but "where did this belief come from" Kamila is a Business Psychologist and coach who rebuilt her life after burnout by unlearning the scripts she had inherited, and now helps women do the same. If something in your life has been feeling more like a performance than a choice, this episode is where we begin. This podcast is for women in the middle of rewriting their own story, looking for honest, research-backed conversations across relationships, sexuality, career and health. You will learn how to separate conditioning from choice, know what is truly yours, and build a life that actually feels like it belongs to you. If you want to hear about the experiments I have mentioned today check out: Do I Want Children: Or Was I Raised to Want Them?https://open.spotify.com/episode/5k0378TvRNkh3kKR06skZEsi=uhDwOnKTSZiiujJCQoVxIA [https://open.spotify.com/episode/5k0378TvRNkh3kKR06skZEsi=uhDwOnKTSZiiujJCQoVxIA] Rewriting the Story of Female Pleasure https://open.spotify.com/episode/4l9nJ5muVOU0Mv4T2y3olH?si=Gu7siM4hTbSJqfIKpiZ32w [https://open.spotify.com/episode/4l9nJ5muVOU0Mv4T2y3olH?si=Gu7siM4hTbSJqfIKpiZ32w] Connect with Kam Insta @coachingwithkam [https://www.instagram.com/_self_ish_me/] LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/kamila-turek-019738a7/]

Not Good With Money: What Every Woman Inherits About Finances and How to Break Free

"Not good with money" is something almost every woman has thought about herself. But it is not a personality trait and it is not the truth. It is what every woman inherits about finances through decades of conditioning, handed down so quietly most of us never think to question it. In this episode, Kamila traces exactly where that belief comes from, turning it into a genuine women's empowerment conversation that starts not with budgeting apps, but with the stories we were handed as girls. You will walk away with: * A clear understanding of why feeling not good with money is a product of societal conditioning, not capability * The research showing how girls are socialised around finances differently from boys, from childhood through to adult life * Recognition of how shame and silence around money quietly remove whole possibilities from your awareness, and what letting go of shame opens up * Kamila's own story of growing up in post-communist Poland and the inherited money beliefs she carried for decades without knowing it * One practical first step to start overcoming societal expectations around money and writing your own financial story Kamila is a Business Psychologist and coach specialising in personal development for women. She draws on research into societal conditioning and her own lived experience to show that understanding how women are socialized is genuinely life-changing. If you have ever avoided looking at your bank account or felt like growing your money was for someone else, press play. This podcast is for women in the middle of rewriting their own story, looking for honest, research-backed conversations across relationships, sexuality, career and health. You will learn how to separate conditioning from choice, know what is truly yours, and build a life that actually feels like it belongs to you. The Money Script Toolkit https://tr.ee/ikA1fuHXuj [https://tr.ee/ikA1fuHXuj] If you preparing to negotiate your salary check this episode on Money, Confidence and Changing the Rules https://open.spotify.com/episode/6mKJNskI2fKZIBtoMzNuHK?si=vzJIOiIwStiiq3fbs5kzvw [https://open.spotify.com/episode/6mKJNskI2fKZIBtoMzNuHK?si=vzJIOiIwStiiq3fbs5kzvw] Connect with Kam Insta @coachingwithkam [https://www.instagram.com/_self_ish_me/] LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/kamila-turek-019738a7/]

Period Shame, Female Friendship and the Power of Being Believed

Period pain has been dismissed, minimised, and silenced for so long that many of us started believing we were the problem. Passing out on bathroom floors. Being rushed to hospital on holiday and still being asked if you'd been drinking. I've been there, and I know how isolating it is when no one believes you. In this episode, I'm joined by my best friend Lottie, an advocate for young people from care experience backgrounds with over a decade in education, safeguarding and wellbeing, for an honest conversation about menstrual cycles and women's health, period shame, and what it truly means to be believed. You'll walk away with: * Real stories of period pain so severe it meant ambulances, fainting, and medical dismissal * Why shame around menstruation is learned, not inevitable, and how to stop passing it on * Practical ways to advocate for yourself in medical settings, including going prepared and bringing someone you trust * How normalising menstrual cycles with children can change the next generation's relationship with their bodies * A reminder that letting go of shame around your body starts with being witnessed and believed Kamila, a Business Psychologist and coach, brings her own lived experience of endometriosis and expertise in women's wellbeing to this raw, empowering conversation. This is the episode to send to every woman who has ever second-guessed her period pain and been told it's just how it is. Want to go deeper? Listen to Kamila's episode, Breaking the Stigma: How Menstrual Cycles Empower Women's Emotional Well-Being and Career Growth, Press play https://open.spotify.com/episode/1M8N9ZCpCNBWbROxxxDTn1?si=gTpGFNPwROCQcp90LFRbkA [https://open.spotify.com/episode/1M8N9ZCpCNBWbROxxxDTn1?si=gTpGFNPwROCQcp90LFRbkA] Connect with Kam Insta @coachingwithkam [https://www.instagram.com/_self_ish_me/] LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/kamila-turek-019738a7/] Connect with Lottie LinkedIn Lottie Ormerod | LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/lottie-ormerod-662392b1/] Period Poem https://youtu.be/4vu2BsePvoI?si=K43SWl6PuYATrUfu [https://youtu.be/4vu2BsePvoI?si=K43SWl6PuYATrUfu]

Career Growth for Women: Hard Work Is Only 10% of Getting Promoted — Here's What's Missing

You have done everything right at work and somehow still feel invisible. You deliver results, you stay late, you go above and beyond — and yet when promotion conversations happen, your name isn't the one in the room. That gap between the work you do and how it lands with the people who matter? That's not a performance problem. It's a visibility problem. And career growth for women often stalls right there. This episode is all about what actually drives career progression, and it is not just hard work. It is how intentionally you are building your personal brand at work, whether you are remote, hybrid, or in the office every day. You will walk away with: * A clear understanding of why performance alone accounts for only 10% of career success (and what the other 90% is) * A practical framework for building visibility beyond your manager and immediate team * The difference between a mentor and a sponsor, and why women need both for real career growth * A way to map the relationships that actually influence your career progression * Concrete language to communicate your impact in a way that resonates with senior leaders, peers, and stakeholders Kamila, a Business Psychologist and coach with over a decade in Learning and Development, draws on her own promotions, mistakes, and research to make this one genuinely useful. If career growth for women is something you think about but never quite act on, this is the episode to start with. Press play. Connect with Kam Insta (@self_is_me) • Instagram photos and videos [https://www.instagram.com/_self_ish_me/] LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/kamila-turek-019738a7/]

When Your Body Changes but Nothing Is Wrong

Lately, I've found myself thinking about my body more than I used to. Not because anything is wrong, but because my body is changing, and I seem to have a lot more thoughts about those changes than I did a decade ago. In this episode, I explore why body changes can feel so emotionally loaded, especially as we move through our thirties, forties and beyond. Through stories about smart scales, yoga mirrors, Instagram videos, tight trousers and old travel photos, we unpack body image, ageing, body neutrality, self-worth and the difference between experiencing our bodies and evaluating them. This isn't an episode about weight loss or learning to love your body every day. It's a conversation about building a more honest relationship with your body, one rooted in curiosity, compassion, and the question: how do I want to feel in my body, rather than how do I want it to look? Connect with Kam Insta @coachingwithkam [https://www.instagram.com/_self_ish_me/] LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/kamila-turek-019738a7/]