#188 - ‘The nasty narcissist’

#188 - ‘The nasty narcissist’

In this pod, I uncover the deceptive mask of the ‘Covert narcissist’. A tricky customer indeed as they so often present as the vulnerable victim! I also run through the abc’s of narcissism, the dark tetrad & all things nasty! Podcast Editor - Ger Kellett [https://www.instagram.com/ger_kellett?igsh=MWc2c3c4ZDk0Nm8xbQ==] CLICK HERE FOR THE PLAYLIST OF THIS EPISODE.......... [https://open.spotify.com/playlist/53dwea1mnGXXsKC67oGAOx?si=ZXdn3H-HTGSS7ItNNilD-w&pi=abEARXdIS5iv9] References ------------ ‘Done’ Frazy Ford from Indian Ocean (2014) ‘Amelia’ Joni Mitchell from Hejira (1976) You’re so vain’ Carly Simon from No secrets (1972) ‘Brooklyn owes the charmer’ (Under me) Steely Dan from Cant buy a thrill (1972) ‘Fuck yourself’ (Love yourself) Single (2018) ‘Joking’ Indigo girls from Rites of Passage (1992) ‘Everybody knows that aint right’ Izo Fitzroy Single (2018) ‘Lies’ JJ Cale from Really (1972) ‘Positively 4th St’ Bob Dylan from Positively 4th St (1965) ‘On your way down’ Little Feat from Dixie Chicken (1972)

#187 - 'The Shame Game'

Shame! Shame! Shame! Shame! The four distinct faces of shame that all interplay with each other: 1. Toxic shame (ouch!) there is something deeply wrong with me-i am bad. 2. ⁠Invitational shame, opportunity to learn, grow, make amends, deepen empathy & put things right. 3. ⁠The blamers & shamers- they project their own unprocessed toxic shame onto others. Always angry, always looking for the opportunity to be offended! 4. ⁠playful shame. Shame on you 😊 this invites deep healing to meet & embrace our authentic, beautiful selves 🙏❤️🙏 Podcast Editor - Ger Kellett [https://www.instagram.com/ger_kellett?igsh=MWc2c3c4ZDk0Nm8xbQ==] CLICK HERE FOR THE PLAYLIST FOR THIS EPISODE.............. [https://open.spotify.com/playlist/71zMzpkJp10fPGJ5i4SSnn?si=dywZJHV_SuKhCZfmQOZV4A&pi=hsmEv0SSR7q-X] Referenxes ------------ ‘Shame, Shame, Shame Shirley & Company from Shame, Shame, Shame (1975) ‘Creep’ Radiohead from Pablo honey (1992) ‘Freak like me’ Macy Gray from The Id (2001) ‘Going down the road feeling bad’ (Grateful dead) performed by Lucinda Williams & friends from Day of the dead (2016) ‘Shame’ Matchbox 20 from Yourself or someone like you (1996) ‘Ways to cry’ John Martyn from No little boy (1992) ‘How?’ John Lennon from Imagine (1971) ‘Blinded by the hunt’ Rickie Lee Jones from The other side of midnight (2015) ‘Dirty Blvd.’ Lou Reed from New York (1989) ‘Movin on up’ Primal Scream from Screamadelica (1991)

#186 - ‘Hubris or Humility?’

In this episode, I take a close look at two opposing energies in the human personality. What dictates how we present to the world? Arrogant, over confident, inflated, unpleasant, unkind..or lovable, warm, friendly, affable, modest, considerate, balanced & grounded..Are we a mixture of both? Are we naturally one way? Does choice enter the picture? I’l be discussing this & more & as usual we’l have some groovy tunes! Podcast Editor - Ger Kellett [https://www.instagram.com/ger_kellett?igsh=MWc2c3c4ZDk0Nm8xbQ==] CLICK HERE FOR THE PLAYLIST OF THIS EPISODE......... [https://open.spotify.com/playlist/0KcwoFm9u7UETjlhue2DyV?si=jdLZSUZ8QGO5w8h2pYGLvQ&pi=mIH8Vr25ThuZN] References -------------- ‘Gumboots’ Paul Simon (Ft The Boyoyo boys) from Graceland (1986) ‘Can i kick it?’ A tribe called quest from Peoples instinctive travels & the paths of rhythm (1990) ‘Games people play’ Lucinda Williams from Southern soul: From Memphis to Muscle Shoals & more (2020) ‘Real’ Kendrick Lamar (Ft Anna Wise) from Good kid m.A.A.d city(2012) ‘You can do magic’ Limme & the family cooking-Single (1972) ‘All i want’ Joni Mitchell from Blue (1972) ‘Everybody loves me, baby’ Don Mclean from American pie (1971) ‘Maybe im amazed’ Paul Mcartney from Paul Mcartney (1971) ‘Aint no cure for love’ (Leonard Cohen) performed by Jennifer Warnes from Famous blue raincoat (1987) ‘The way it is’ Bruce Hornsby & the range from the way it is (1987) ‘Everyday people’ Sly & the family stone from The essential Sly & The family stone (1968)

#185 - Are you coming out to play?’ - Vinnie Judge

In this episode, we keep in the family as I interview my baby brother Vinnie, who is now a grown assed adult! We explore childhood, loneliness, isolation, family dynamics, a little bit of Alan Partridge, lots of laughs as we discuss recovery, spirituality & philosophy..as always through the lens of some brilliant music! Podcast Editor - Ger Kellett [https://www.instagram.com/ger_kellett?igsh=MWc2c3c4ZDk0Nm8xbQ==] CLICK HERE FOR THE PLAYLIST FOR THIS EPISODE [https://open.spotify.com/playlist/57KeJ4nShpqpv9fbnufvTI?si=wRLRxt-MRzakLUVkz0LbQg&pi=IuJxk6OuSM6_P] References ---------------------- ‘More than a feeling’ Boston from Boston (1976) ‘Hey you’ Pink Floyd from The Wall (1979) ‘While my guitar gently weeps’ The Beatles from The Beatles (1968) ‘I want you to want me’ Paul Brady from Spirits colliding (1996) ‘The boys of summer’ BellX1 (single 2020) ‘The only living boy in New york’ Everything but the girl’ from the Only living boy EP (1993) ‘Waterloo Sunset’ The Kinks from Something else (1967) ‘Wouldnt it be good’ Nik Kershaw from Human racing (1984) ‘Big love’ (live) Lyndsey Buckingham (1997) originally from Tango in the night (1987) ‘Whatever’s written in your heart’ Gerry Rafferty from City to City (1978)

#184 - Do you wanna play safe? Or do you wanna be saved?

Playing safe, following rules & guidelines rigidly, can be a hiding place from real living. Playing psychological games ie: the intellectual, the cynical, the smarmy, entitled victim..grows old & tiresome..being saved on the other hand, requires courage, risking being vulnerable, willingness to walk, jump or dive into the epicentre of human love, relationships & experiences..are you curious? Tune in & also enjoy the wonderful music. Podcast Editor - Ger Kellett [https://www.instagram.com/ger_kellett?igsh=MWc2c3c4ZDk0Nm8xbQ==] CLICK HERE FOR THE PLAYLIST FOR THIS EPISODE [https://open.spotify.com/playlist/5AU3bDNu9qcDiS2pTzgvUx?si=3bGAxiaBQmaamHURlPgyQA&pi=dB6z-CRXTsSI_] References ---------------- 'Cum on feel the noize’ Slade (single 1973) ‘Before i walk on fire’ Sophie B Hawkins from Tongues & tails (1992) ‘Is this love’ Bob Marley & the wailers’ from Kaya (1978) ‘Save me’ Aimee Mann from Magnolia (1999) ‘Close to it all’ Melanie from Born to be (1968) ‘Get it on’ T.Rex (Marc Bolan) from Electric Warrior (1971) ‘Love’ John Lennon from Signature box (1970) ‘Risk it all’ from the original motion picture The colour purple Usher & H.E.R. Coming home (2023) ‘Make me feel’ Janelle Monae from Dirty computer (2018) ‘When it comes down to it’ Tasmin Archer from Great expectations (1992) ‘Walk this world’ Heather Nova from Oyster (1994) ‘Ive got a feeling’ The Beatles from Let it be (1970) ‘Fill your heart’ David Bowie from Hunky Dory (1971)