Ep. 37 | Leadership Under Pressure: Lessons from a Life of Service with Steve Nance

Ep. 37 | Leadership Under Pressure: Lessons from a Life of Service with Steve Nance

What does leadership look like when the stakes are high? In this special episode of Tutum Talk, I sit down with my dad, Steve Nance, to explore the lessons he's learned through a lifetime of leadership. Steve served more than 20 years in the U.S. Army, including service during the Vietnam War, before transitioning into the private sector as an advertising executive. Throughout our conversation, he shares the principles that guided him through moments of uncertainty, responsibility, and change. Together, we explore what it means to lead under pressure, the importance of situational awareness, and why listening is one of the most powerful leadership tools available. Steve reflects on lessons learned from military service, insights gained from leading teams in civilian organizations, and the responsibility that comes with being entrusted to lead others. Whether you're leading a team, a family, a classroom, a business, or simply yourself through a challenging season, this conversation offers practical wisdom that remains just as relevant today as it was throughout Steve's decades of service. In this episode, we discuss: • How early life experiences shaped Steve's leadership philosophy • The importance of active listening and situational awareness • Why leaders must take ownership when responsibility falls to them • The difference between leadership and management—and why both matter • Lessons learned from military service that apply to everyday leadership • How preparation creates confidence during uncertainty • Leading people through challenges while maintaining trust and clarity • The value of humility, service, and lifelong learning One of the most memorable lessons Steve shares comes from a four-star general: "When you're in charge, take charge." Simple. Direct. Timeless. This conversation is a reminder that leadership isn't reserved for a title or position. It's reflected in how we show up, serve others, make decisions, and respond when circumstances demand our best. Thank you for listening to Tutum Talk. If this conversation resonates with you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share the episode with someone who may benefit from it. If you're interested in exploring your own leadership journey through strengths-based coaching, I'd love to connect. Learn more about one-on-one coaching opportunities at tutumleadershipcoaching.com. Connect with Cara: Website: www.tutumleadershipcoaching.com [https://www.tutumleadershipcoaching.com/] LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/caranance [https://www.linkedin.com/in/caranance/] About Tutum Talk: Tutum Talk with Cara Nance is a podcast for leaders who lead with heart - even when they doubt themselves. Through honest conversations about presence, intuition, courage, and connection, Cara helps listeners build leadership rooted in humanity, not perfection. Music provided by Music_Unlimited

Ep. 36 | The Power of Psychological Safety: Why We Grow Where We Feel Safe with Jesse Erdheim, Ph.D.

What helps people thrive at work, in relationships, and in life? According to leadership researcher and organizational psychologist Jesse Erdheim, Ph.D., one of the most important ingredients is psychological safety. In this episode of Tutum Talk, Jesse and Cara explore what psychological safety really means beyond the workplace buzzword. Together, they discuss why people are more likely to learn, contribute, innovate, and grow when they feel safe enough to be themselves, take risks, and speak honestly without fear of judgment or punishment. The conversation extends beyond leadership and organizations into everyday life, exploring how psychological safety influences our relationships, parenting, friendships, and personal development. Whether you're leading a team, raising children, supporting loved ones, or simply seeking to create healthier connections, this episode offers practical insights for fostering trust, belonging, and growth in the spaces that matter most. In This Episode, We Discuss: • What psychological safety is—and what it isn't • Why psychological safety is essential for learning, creativity, and innovation • The connection between trust, vulnerability, and growth • How leaders can create environments where people feel safe to contribute • The impact of psychological safety on team performance and workplace culture • Why psychological safety matters in friendships, families, and personal relationships • The role of curiosity, empathy, and active listening in building trust • How mistakes can become opportunities for learning when safety is present • Practical ways to foster psychological safety in everyday interactions Key Takeaways ✔ People grow where they feel safe. ✔ Psychological safety encourages honest communication and healthy risk-taking. ✔ Trust is built through consistency, transparency, and empathy. ✔ Growth happens more readily when mistakes are viewed as learning opportunities. ✔ Leaders set the tone for whether others feel safe to speak up and contribute. ✔ Psychological safety is not just a workplace concept—it is a foundation for healthy human relationships. About Jesse Erdheim, Ph.D. Jesse Erdheim, Ph.D. is an Industrial/Organizational Psychologist with 20 years of experience working with individuals and groups to enhance well-being, resilience, and connection. He is passionate about empowering others to flourish using evidence-based strategies from Positive Psychology, Mindfulness, and Behavioral Change. In his private practice, he works with individuals, couples, and groups to strengthen resilience, deepen connection and create intentional thriving lives. Connect with Jesse Erdheim, Ph.D. Website: https://www.jesseerdheim.com/ [https://www.jesseerdheim.com/] LinkedIn: Jesse Erdheim, Ph.D. [https://www.linkedin.com/in/jesse-erdheim-ph-d-58105a12b/] (hyperlinked text) Connect with Cara Nance & Tutum Leadership Coaching If this conversation resonated with you and you're interested in creating stronger connections, healthier team cultures, or more psychologically safe workplaces, Cara would love to connect. Schedule a complimentary conversation: https://calendly.com/tutumleadershipcoaching/let-s-connect [https://calendly.com/tutumleadershipcoaching/let-s-connect] Learn more: www.tutumleadershipcoaching.com [https://www.tutumleadershipcoaching.com/] About Tutum Talk: Tutum Talk with Cara Nance is a podcast for leaders who lead with heart - even when they doubt themselves. Through honest conversations about presence, intuition, courage, and connection, Cara helps listeners build leadership rooted in humanity, not perfection. Music provided by Music_Unlimited

Ep. 35 | The Quiet Wisdom Behind Great Leadership with Connie Nance

There’s a certain kind of wisdom that doesn’t demand attention. It quietly shapes the way we lead, listen, prepare, and care for others. In this special episode of Tutum Talk, Cara sits down with her mother, Connie Nance, for a heartfelt conversation about the leadership lessons that only life experience can teach. Drawing from decades of professional and personal leadership experience, Connie shares practical insights on planning ahead, listening beyond words, asking thoughtful questions, and using storytelling to build trust and connection. Together, they explore the kind of leadership that isn’t always loud or flashy, but deeply impactful — the kind rooted in curiosity, preparation, humility, and human understanding. In this episode, we explore: • Why great leaders always have a Plan B (and sometimes a Plan C) • The power of active listening and paying attention to what isn’t being said • How storytelling creates connection and trust • Why curiosity is one of the most underrated leadership skills • Leadership lessons passed from one generation to another • The importance of humility, preparation, and emotional awareness About Connie Nance: Connie Nance brings decades of leadership experience across labor relations, occupational safety, team leadership, and public service, including her work with the Department of Defense. Her thoughtful perspective and lived experience offer timeless reminders that leadership is less about authority and more about awareness, adaptability, and connection. Thank you for listening to Tutum Talk — a space for exploring leadership in the every day and beyond. If this episode resonated with you and you’d like support in your own leadership journey, I’d love to connect with you for one-on-one coaching: https://www.tutumleadershipcoaching.com [https://www.tutumleadershipcoaching.com] About Tutum Talk: Tutum Talk with Cara Nance is a podcast for leaders who lead with heart - even when they doubt themselves. Through honest conversations about presence, intuition, courage, and connection, Cara helps listeners build leadership rooted in humanity, not perfection. Music provided by Music_Unlimited

Ep 34 | Ambition, Motherhood, and the Courage to Want More with Alicia Grantham

What happens when the version of success you worked so hard to build no longer feels aligned with the life you want to live? In this episode of Tutum Talk, Cara sits down with Alicia Grantham, founder of Lavender and Lemons Coaching, for an honest conversation about ambition, motherhood, identity, burnout, and redefining success on your own terms. After years of climbing the corporate ladder, Alicia began to realize that while she still desired meaningful work and financial freedom, she no longer wanted achievement at the expense of her well-being, family, or sense of self. Together, Cara and Alicia explore the quiet tension many ambitious women carry: wanting more while also longing for peace, flexibility, and alignment. This conversation is a gentle but powerful reminder that success can evolve alongside us — and that choosing a different path does not mean you’ve failed. It may simply mean you’re becoming more honest about what truly matters. Whether you’re navigating leadership, motherhood, career transition, burnout, or the pressure to “hold it all together,” this episode offers encouragement, reflection, and permission to redefine success in a way that feels sustainable and true. In this episode, Cara and Alicia discuss: • Redefining success beyond titles and external validation • The hidden emotional weight many ambitious mothers carry • Career pivots, identity shifts, and evolving priorities • Why self-care is essential, not selfish • Creating boundaries that support both ambition and well-being • Learning to trust yourself during seasons of change • Building a life and career that align with your values About Alicia Grantham: Alicia Grantham is the founder of Lavender and Lemons Coaching and a strategic coach for ambitious moms who feel successful on paper but internally exhausted. After a successful corporate career as a CPA and leader, Alicia now helps women build careers and lives that feel aligned with who they are becoming — without sacrificing themselves in the process. Connect with Alicia on Instagram: @a.s.grantham Listen to: The Mom’s Got This... Mostly Podcast [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-moms-got-this-mostly-podcast/id1823046248] If this episode resonated with you, please consider subscribing, sharing with someone who may need this conversation, or leaving a review. And if you’re navigating leadership, burnout, transition, or personal growth, Cara would love to connect with you for one-on-one coaching support. Connect with Cara: https://www.tutumleadershipcoaching.com/ About Tutum Talk: Tutum Talk with Cara Nance is a podcast for leaders who lead with heart - even when they doubt themselves. Through honest conversations about presence, intuition, courage, and connection, Cara helps listeners build leadership rooted in humanity, not perfection. Music provided by Music_Unlimited

Ep 33 | Unlearning Money Shame and Reclaiming Financial Confidence with Sarah Elder

What if your relationship with money didn’t actually begin with you? Many of us inherited unconscious beliefs about money through family dynamics, cultural conditioning, silence, stress, scarcity, or messages we absorbed long before we understood their impact. Over time, those beliefs can quietly shape our confidence, leadership, decision-making, self-worth, and relationship with success. In this episode of Tutum Talk, Cara sits down with Sarah Elder [https://www.sarahelder.com/] for a thoughtful and deeply honest conversation about money shame, leadership, and healing our relationship with money. Inspired in part by Sarah’s Substack release, “Taught Not to Talk About Money? It’s Time to Unlearn That One [https://open.substack.com/pub/imaketherules/p/taught-not-to-talk-money?utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=email],” this conversation explores the emotional and societal layers many people, especially women, carry around finances. Together, Cara and Sarah discuss: *  How subconscious money stories shape adulthood  *  Why money conversations can feel emotionally charged  *  The historical and cultural roots of money shame  *  Leadership, visibility, and financial self-trust  *  The importance of financial literacy and awareness  *  Healing inherited beliefs around worth and success  *  Creating healthier, more honest conversations about money  This episode is a compassionate reminder that awareness creates choice, and that healing our relationship with money can become part of healing our relationship with ourselves. Show Notes In this episode, Cara welcomes Sarah Elder for a meaningful conversation about money shame, inherited beliefs, leadership, and financial empowerment. Sarah shares insights from her work supporting women in business and reflects on how early experiences and societal conditioning often shape our emotional relationship with money long before adulthood. Together, Cara and Sarah explore how silence around finances can impact confidence, stress, leadership, and personal growth. Listeners will hear reflections on: *  Generational beliefs around money  *  Money shame and emotional conditioning  *  Leadership and financial confidence  *  Self-worth and visibility  *  Financial literacy and empowerment  *  Healing subconscious money patterns  *  Why open conversations around money matter  This episode was inspired in part by Sarah’s Substack release:  “Taught Not to Talk About Money? It’s Time to Unlearn That One [https://open.substack.com/pub/imaketherules/p/taught-not-to-talk-money?utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=email]” Learn more and subscribe to Sarah’s highly informative Substack:  I Make the Rules [https://imaketherules.substack.com/] substack About Tutum Talk: Tutum Talk with Cara Nance is a podcast for leaders who lead with heart - even when they doubt themselves. Through honest conversations about presence, intuition, courage, and connection, Cara helps listeners build leadership rooted in humanity, not perfection. Music provided by Music_Unlimited