Who's Moving the Matresses - A Tell All Chat with Jamie Love - Ep 76

Who's Moving the Matresses - A Tell All Chat with Jamie Love - Ep 76

If you've ever wondered what it would feel like to build a sex life completely on your own terms... Jamie Love is living it. And she's here to tell us everything. Jamie is the executive director of Sex Positive World and Sex Positive Portland, a cuddle coach, a kink educator, and a brand new board member of Portland Leather Alliance. She calls herself a polyamorous slut and a free agent... and also, very accurately, a cat. In this tell-all episode, we get into all of it. What her sex life actually looks like right now, including six to nine regular lovers, group play at Joshua Tree, and her newest favorite kink: being a sushi table. We talk primal play and what it actually means, the difference between romantic partners and chosen family, how she lost her taste for BDSM during the pandemic and slowly found her way back to it, and why sensuality is always her home base no matter what else is on the menu. We also talk about grief showing up at a swingers club, the ethics of facilitating vs. participating, and why community care and self-care are the same thing when you're the one holding space for other people's pleasure. Plus: Jamie walks us through everything Sex Positive World offers, from their free and sliding-scale classes to their big annual events like Convergence and Polytopia, and how to get involved even if you're just curious and have no idea where to start. Find Jamie at sexpositiveworld.org [http://sexpositiveworld.org] and on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/jamielove_pdx/ [https://www.instagram.com/jamielove_pdx/] Visit Gwyn at WhatExcitesUs.com [http://whatexcitesus.com]

Mythic Love Real Desire with Nishita Rao

Have you ever fallen in love with someone who doesn't exist in your world? A fictional character, an anime figure, a god... what if that's not a phase, and it never was? Researcher and founder of Pillow Talk with Nixi, Nishita Rao, joins Gwyn to explore fictophilia, the experience of romantic or erotic attraction to beings outside of your “reality”. We start with having crushes on cartoon characters, and go back to the 10th century Sufi poets writing love letters to Allah and ancient Tamil Akam poetry that is quite steamy. Nishita and Gwyn also get into how heterosexuality was once the diagnosis, why the Global South has always had a far richer and weirder and more honest map of desire than colonization left us with, and what it actually means that our relationships were never meant to be legible to a state. She also sings. Live. A 15th century Telugu love poem. Beautiful and heady this is an amazing episode! Find Nishita at pillowtalkwithnixi.com [http://pillowtalkwithnixi.com] and on Instagram at @pillowtalkwithnixi [http://instagram.com/pillowtalkwithnixi] Visit Gwyn at WhatExcitesUs.com [http://WhatExcitesUs.com]

Stop Healing and Start Pleasuring with Sharon Marie Scott ep 74

Have you ever pursued something that felt taboo... and wondered if the shame around it was trying to tell you something? Sharon Marie Scott says yes. And that it's pointing you straight to your fastest path to freedom. In this conversation we dig into the pleasure ceiling and what happens when you stop collapsing before you can fully receive... the Jenga tower framework for understanding your core wounds... the dark masculine and feminine as energetic currents moving through all of us... and why Sharon walked away from the healing world entirely to come at all of this through pleasure instead. Her book Forbidden Alchemy: Transmuting Taboo Into Erotic Medicine is the book she wished she had. And Flesh & Flame: Pleasure as the Portal to Divine Mastery is out now too. Find Sharon at sharonmariescott.com [http://sharonmariescott.com] and at linktr.ee/sharonmariescott [http://linktr.ee/sharonmariescott]. Visit Gwyn at WhatExcitesUs.com [http://WhatExcitesUs.com]

Lie Back and Think of England with Jess WIldman - ep 73

Have you ever caught yourself saying "I shouldn't want that" or "I should just be grateful"... and wondered where that voice is even coming from? Jess Wildman is a Personal Power Coach who helps women shed the weight of societal expectations so they can live delicious lives full of pleasure and joy. Her work is rooted in a simple but radical idea: that personal power begins the moment you stop outsourcing your own desires. In this episode we get into all of it... shame, sex, body image, self-trust, diet culture, and why "fine" is not good enough for you. Jess brings warmth, zero judgment, and some genuinely great anecdotes to conversations most women aren't having anywhere else. In this episode: * Why every "should" might be a self-betrayal * How diet culture and shame around sex are running the same con * The moment Jess realized she'd completely outsourced herself * Body image, performance anxiety, and why the lights-off thing has to go * Porn, pleasure, and what we're accidentally teaching ourselves * Why "fine" is actually a cry for help * How to start reclaiming your personal power right now Content note: This episode includes an open conversation about disordered eating and diet culture. Please take care of yourself as you listen. Find Jess: Instagram: @personalpowercoach Email: hello@jesswildman.com [hello@jesswildman.com] Visit What Excites Us! and Gwyn: WhatExcitesUs.com [http://whatexcitesus.com]

Stop Editing Yourself with Elize Simon - ep 72

If you've ever edited yourself down to be more lovable, Elize Simon is here to tell you to stop. As a relationship and communication coach and self-described professional permission granter, Elize helps people build love that actually feels good — without hiding who they are to get it. In this conversation with Gwyn, Elize unpacks why so many people enter relationships for the wrong reasons, what real communication looks like when emotions are high, and how her Sacred Goodbyes ritual helps people move through heartbreak with grace instead of getting pummeled by it. She also completely rewires the way you think about flirting. Grab her free dating profile checklist and the Sacred Goodbyes download — both linked below. This episode originally aired as part of the Reclaiming You Summit. Both Elize and Gwyn are firm believers that Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski should be required reading for every human with a body. Elize also quotes the legendary Regena Thomashauer, better known as Mama Gena, whose several books are equally worth your time. Find them all at bookshop.org/shop/whatexcitesus [/shop/whatexcitesus] Find Elize at linktr.ee/elize.simon [http://linktr.ee/elize.simon] and instagram.com/elize.simon [http://instagram.com/elize.simon]. Visit Gwyn at WhatExcitesUs.com [http://WhatExcitesUs.com].