#008 - You aren't actually angry at your parents...

#008 - You aren't actually angry at your parents...

If you have yet to subscribe to the show, please do so now!This is a solo episode. No guest. Just me, a microphone, and one of the most important conversations of our time.Your parents hurt you. That is real. That pain is valid. And this episode is not here to dismiss it. But it is here to ask you a harder question. At what point does the blame that once protected you become the very thing that is keeping you from the life you say you want?I speak from personal experience in this one. A mother with heavily narcissistic tendencies. A father who gaslights and evades. A childhood that left me confused, wounded, and looking for answers. And a long, nonlinear journey from denial to villainization to responsibility to something that finally felt like freedom.This episode covers:- Why most people are more committed to proving they were hurt than actually becoming free- The four stages of processing your relationship with your parents- Why you keep forgiving them but still keep getting activated- The prison of hope and the grief of a relationship that will never become what you secretly wish it might- Why unresolved resentment is almost always unresolved self abandonment- The difference between fitting in and truly belonging- The question that reframes your entire perspective on your parents- How to truly move beyond your parents psychological gripThis one will meet you wherever you are with your parents. And it will ask you to go one step further.Follow the podcast: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/Follow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/CHAPTERS03:00 to 06:30 It is easier to blame your parents than heal. Here is why that keeps you stuck.06:30 to 12:00 You are not actually angry at them. You are angry at this.12:00 to 18:00 The four stages Billy walked through to understand his parents18:00 to 22:00 Why you keep forgiving them but still keep getting hurt22:00 to 27:45 The prison of hope and the vision of the relationship that will never exist27:45 to 30:24 Stop asking why weren't you perfect. Ask this instead.30:24 to 35:30 Unresolved resentment is actually unresolved self abandonment35:30 to 41:43 Shrink your vision or let go of the resentment. You must choose.41:43 to 46:26 Healing is not pretending they didn't hurt you. It is this.46:26 to 51:07 The visualization of resentment. Billy reads the piece that changed everything.

#007 - Chris Griffin - The one trait we all lack but need

If you haven't yet, please subscribe to the show! Three years ago Chris Griffin was broke, heartbroken, and boarding a one way flight to Thailand on a credit card with no plan. Today he has one of the biggest podcasts in Australia, millions of followers, and a clarity about himself that most men spend their entire lives chasing.But the most honest moment in this conversation is not about the success. It is about the season when he had millions of fans and no one to call. When he had changed five friend groups in two years and finally had to ask himself the question most men are too proud to ask. Is it them or is it me?In this conversation Billy and Chris go deep on: * The real difference between confidence and ego and why most men have it backwards * Why naivety and delusion are not weaknesses but the only fuel that gets you through what you cannot yet see * How the $200 million thought experiment will permanently change the way you show up today * Why people pleasing is secretly serving the belief that you are not enough * What it actually means to be okay alone and why most men are terrified of finding out * How ego is the childhood wound that protected you then and is destroying you now * Why the most freeing thing anyone ever said to Chris was that no one cares about you. This one moves fast. It hits hard. And it ends with the line that might change everything for you.Chapters:03:00 to 08:30 Why do people admire but never commit?08:30 to 15:00 What if not knowing is the secret?15:00 to 23:30 Broke, heartbroken, one way flight to Thailand...23:30 to 30:08 Why knowing nothing brings Chris closer to God30:08 to 38:00 What does people pleasing say about you?38:00 to 44:00 Why can most men not sit alone?44:00 to 55:00 What if $200 million hit your account tomorrow?55:00 to 01:00:50 What happens when you become the person first?01:00:50 to 01:05:37 Millions of followers and no one to call...01:05:37 to 01:15:00 What is your childhood ego still hiding?01:15:00 to 01:27:12 The most freeing thing anyone ever told ChrisFollow Chris: https://www.instagram.com/morechrisgriffin/Follow the podcast: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/Follow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/

#006 - David Siciliano - Here's why you feel like you're doing it all wrong

If you have yet to subscribe to the show, please do so now!What does it feel like to spend your whole life knowing you're different?This is the primary theme that threads David Siciliano's story.Raised inside a conservative religious community that rewarded conformity and punished curiosity, David spent years collecting shame for simply being wired differently. He went into acting not because he wanted to perform but because it was the only space that let him explore without judgment. He studied psychology at the Ivy League level, went to therapy every week, and slowly pieced together what it actually meant to be himself.In this episode we cover: * What it really means to feel other as a man * Why the religious shame so many men carry is actually a rebellion against interpretation and not belief * How acting teaches you to see your feelings as information rather than identity * What David's one year old son River is teaching him about self acceptance * Why most parents are unconsciously parenting from their own discomfort * How the body rehearses anxiety the same way an actor rehearses a character * The inside out versus outside in approach to regulating your nervous system * The improv rule that will change how you show up in every relationship * Why the most liberating thing a man can hear is that there is nothing to fix.Chapters:03:00 to 07:20 He spent his whole life feeling different07:20 to 13:56 The shame his church gave him 13:56 to 20:16 He used acting to escape. 20:16 to 28:00 Jacob wrestled God and broke his hip...28:00 to 35:00 His one year old son is healing something in him35:00 to 44:38 Your parents were parenting their own discomfort not yours44:38 to 57:00 Are you actually anxious or have you just rehearsed it?57:00 to 01:04:00 What your voice is telling you about your nervous system01:04:00 to 01:21:00 Being called feminine as a boy 01:21:00 to 01:46:00 The one improv rule that will change every relationship you have01:46:00 to 01:52:43 What David would say to his son if he had 60 secondsThis one goes somewhere most conversations never reach.Follow David: https://www.instagram.com/sicilianod/Follow the podcast: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/Follow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr_/

#005 - Joshua Church - He Built a $20M Company By Partnering With the Universe

If you have yet to subscribe to the show, please do so now! Joshua Church is a Forbes 30 Under 30 founder, author and podcast host who built Edge Theory Labs into a $20 million company in three years — and then watched it fall apart. But this conversation is not about the rise and fall. It is about what the whole journey revealed about the universe, the self, and what it actually means to follow the path you were put here to walk. Joshua weaves together entrepreneurship, spirituality, Jewish faith, breathwork and a lifelong relationship with his own physical body to arrive at something rare — a man who has genuinely learned how to follow the breadcrumbs. In this episode: * What it means to build a profitable partnership with the universe * Why your job on this earth is smaller than you think * How four major surgeries and a near death experience at 19 led Joshua to his life's work * The rise and fall of Edge Theory Labs and what the collapse really taught him * Why business is the greatest self development course you can enroll in * How to weave spirituality into a business when not everyone sees the world the same way * The danger of missing your own life while you are busy building something * How he wants to be remembered CHAPTERS 03:00 Who he is beyond the accolades07:00 What cosmic breadcrumbs actually means13:00 The path of least resistance and how to find it20:00 Four surgeries and a near death experience at 1928:00 How the body became his greatest teacher35:00 The rise of Edge Theory Labs44:00 Why the company collapsed and what it taught him57:00 Business as a spiritual and self development practice1:05:00 Three years of business advice in 60 seconds1:15:00 Weaving spirituality into a team that does not share your worldview1:28:00 The greatest fear beneath most people's ambition1:38:00 Living off autopilot — the poem that stopped the conversation1:44:00 How he wants to be remembered Get Joshua's book "Cosmic Breadcrumbs":https://www.amazon.com/Cosmic-Breadcrumbs-Building-Profitable-Partnership/dp/B0GG1NRZWF [https://www.amazon.com/Cosmic-Breadcrumbs-Building-Profitable-Partnership/dp/B0GG1NRZWF] Follow Joshua:https://www.instagram.com/joshuadeanchurch/ [https://www.instagram.com/joshuadeanchurch/] Follow You Choose Podcast:https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/ [https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/] Follow Billy:https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr_/ [https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr_/]

#004 - Stefanos Sifandos - You're in Conflict With Your Past, Not Your Partner

If you have yet to subscribe to the show, please do so now!Stefanos Sifandos is a behavioral scientist, author and relationship expert who has worked with special forces soldiers, Olympic gold medalists and world champion fighters. But more than any credential — he is someone who has lived inside the wound he now helps others heal.In this conversation Billy sits down with Stefanos not just as an interviewer, but as a case study of everything Stefanos teaches. This is one of the rawest, most personal conversations you will see online.In this episode: - What mother-son enmeshment actually is and why it is showing up in your adult relationships- Why men who desperately want intimacy keep pushing it away — and what is really happening in the nervous system- Why the work you do outside the argument is the only thing that changes the argument- Billy's own reckoning with shutdown, repressed anger and what happens when sport is no longer the outlet- Why Andrew Tate serves a purpose — and what that says about the men following him- The real reason men cannot find friends who are both ambitious and emotionally deep- What it means to embrace the part of you that wants to burn everything down- Whether some lessons in life can only be learned the hard way- If aliens offered you everything in the cosmos — would you leave this life behindChapters:03:00 Mother son enmeshment and relationships10:00 Why men shut down in intimacy15:00 Regulating your nervous system in conflict28:00 Repressed anger and where it goes37:00 Addiction and the pull toward escape44:00 Monogamy desire and the fear of commitment56:00 Guilt shame and self honesty1:00:00 Finding men who are deep and driven1:06:00 His story — the moment everything changed1:21:00 Andrew Tate and modern masculinity1:30:00 Are some lessons only learned through pain1:38:00 How much do you love this life1:50:00 What stopped him from ending itGet Stefanos' book "Tuned In and Turned On":https://www.amazon.com/Tuned-Turned-Connection-Healing-Lasting-ebook/dp/B0F4QBVX5GFollow Stefanos:https://www.instagram.com/stefanossifandos/https://www.youtube.com/@stefanosssifandosFollow You Choose Podcast:https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/Follow Billy:https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr_/