40's in the City

When Friends and Family Get So Judgey

The entire show Sex and the City was built around a central part of single female friendships - the need to talk through our dating challenges and stories with our friends. But what happens when you need comfort or empathy and instead you get hit with judgment or even criticism (!)? Jen and Audrey share recent examples of “tough love” from friends that crossed some boundaries.

Has the Obsession With Attachment Theory Made Dating Better?

Everyone these days seems to know if they have an avoidant or anxious attachment style. Jen and Audrey discuss their styles and how their understanding of attachment theory influences how they date - or not. With one who leans avoidant and one who leans anxious, the two compare their different styles and how they’ve navigated dating men who fall into different categories.

The Guilt of Dating as a Single Mom

No podcast about dating in your 40s would be complete without a discussion around the challenges of dating as a single parent. Listen in to hear Jen reflect on how dating as a single mom requires managing a lot of logistics and navigating a minefield of emotions and challenging conversations.

The Challenges of Building Relationships in Your 40’s/50s

Jen and Audrey dive into the challenges of building relationships in your 40s and 50s. Ever feel like you’re lugging around a suitcase full of emotional baggage and the Ghosts of Traumas Past? Listen in to hear how they are dealing with exes, kids, and the complexities of midlife while trying to date and find love!

Rethinking Nice Guys vs. Bad Boys

In this episode of "40's in the City," Jen and Audrey discuss their shifting perspectives on masculinity in the dating scene. Living in New York City in their 40s, they grapple with the contrast between their past desires for dominant, masculine men and their current attraction to men who are more kind and giving. Join them as they discuss if their preferences have changed or if their definition of masculinity has changed.