Beauty in the Break

We Got Coached on Air: Navigating Our Open Relationship with Ally Iseman (Pt. 2)

An inside look: a LIVE on-air coaching session. Foster and Cesar built a relationship on their own terms, and now they spill all the sticky parts of opening their relationship with the help of relationship coach and non-monogamy educator Ally Iseman [http://www.passport2pleasure.com]. This is a rare, real-time look at what navigating consensual non-monogamy actually feels like from the inside. Ally guides them through the emotional terrain of being in an open relationship, giving practical tools and anchor behaviors along the way. For anyone in a non-monogamous OR monogamous relationship, this episode is a masterclass in conscious partnership and emotional intelligence.  In this episode they explore:  * What happens when one partner is sexually active outside the relationship, and the other isn't? * Foster’s deep fear of disappointing Cesar * The difference between equality and equity in a relationship — and why it matters * A new practice that Foster and Cesar put to use right away Ally Iseman, CRC [https://www.passport2pleasure.com/]:  * What is your relationship style? Take the quiz [https://www.passport2pleasure.com/quiz]!  * Passport 2 Pleasure [https://www.passport2pleasure.com/] * IG: @allyiseman [https://www.instagram.com/allyiseman] or @passport2pleasure [https://www.instagram.com/passport2pleasure/] Listen to Part 1 of our conversation with Ally Iseman here: Opening Your Relationship the Right Way with Ally Iseman (Pt. 1) [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/opening-your-relationship-the-right-way-with-ally/id1795211471?i=1000771846601]. You can also watch the episodes on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@beautyintheBreak]. If you enjoyed this episode, take a moment to follow Beauty in the Break on your favorite podcast app and leave a review—it really helps! Reach out to the show—send an email or voice note to beautyinthebreakpod@gmail.com [beautyinthebreakpod@gmail.com] and be sure to follow on Instagram [http://www.instagram.com/beautyinthebreakpod] and TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@beautyinthebreak].  Cesar Cardona: * Receive his newsletter Insights That Matter [https://www.cesarcardona.com/connect] * Get guided meditation from Cesar on his website [https://cesarcardona.com/]  * Listen to music from Cesar + The Clew on Apple Music [https://music.apple.com/us/artist/cesar-the-clew/1742643811] and Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/artist/276j7z30iDuFkoMtymMzCo] Foster Wilson: * Buy her poetry book Afternoon Abundance [https://www.fosterwilson.com/books] * Learn about her postpartum services [http://www.fosterwilson.com/doula] * Receive her newsletter Foster’s Village [https://www.fosterwilson.com/newsletter] Created & Hosted by: Cesar Cardona [http://www.cesarcardona.com] and Foster Wilson [http://www.fosterwilson.com] Executive Producer: Glenn Milley [http://instagram.com/goforglenn] Editor: Bessie Fong [http://www.bessiefong.com] Special Guest: Ally Iseman, CRC [https://www.passport2pleasure.com/] This episode is brought to you by Jamaal Pittman. You can donate to his scholarship at WheelerScholarship.com [http://wheelerscholarship.com], supporting college enrollment. Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2448921/fan_mail/new]

Opening Your Relationship the Right Way with Ally Iseman (Pt. 1)

Is jealousy actually good for your relationship? Foster and Cesar sit down with relationship coach and non-monogamy educator Ally Iseman [https://www.passport2pleasure.com/], for a candid conversation about opening their relationship and the practice of ethical non-monogamy (ENM) or consensual non-monogamy (CNM) – wait, what’s the difference?? Turns out there’s a skill set behind building conscious partnerships. Ally offers a compassionate framework that challenges the inherited scripts most of us never questioned. Whether you're polyamorous, monogamous, or simply curious about what healthy relationships can look like, this conversation is a masterclass in emotional intelligence, self-awareness, and the courage it takes to truly know yourself. In this episode they explore:  * Is jealousy actually good for your relationship? * The one question to ask before you open your relationship * How to stay emotionally connected to your partner while exploring non-monogamy * The four types of jealousy and what each one is trying to tell you Ally Iseman, CRC [https://www.passport2pleasure.com/]:  * What is your relationship style? Take the quiz [https://www.passport2pleasure.com/quiz]!  * Passport 2 Pleasure [https://www.passport2pleasure.com/] * IG: @allyiseman [https://www.instagram.com/allyiseman] or @passport2pleasure [https://www.instagram.com/passport2pleasure/] If this episode spoke to you, you will love Curiosity Over Conflict: How to Heal Relationships with JJ Brake (Pt. 1) [https://pod.fo/e/3b78db] where an expert couples therapist helps with common relationship conflicts. You can also watch the episodes on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@beautyintheBreak]. If you enjoyed this episode, take a moment to follow Beauty in the Break on your favorite podcast app and leave a review—it really helps! Reach out to the show—send an email or voice note to beautyinthebreakpod@gmail.com [beautyinthebreakpod@gmail.com] and be sure to follow on Instagram [http://www.instagram.com/beautyinthebreakpod] and TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@beautyinthebreak].  Cesar Cardona: * Receive his newsletter Insights That Matter [https://www.cesarcardona.com/connect] * Get guided meditation from Cesar on his website [https://cesarcardona.com/]  * Listen to music from Cesar + The Clew on Apple Music [https://music.apple.com/us/artist/cesar-the-clew/1742643811] and Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/artist/276j7z30iDuFkoMtymMzCo] Foster Wilson: * Buy her poetry book Afternoon Abundance [https://www.fosterwilson.com/books] * Learn about her postpartum services [http://www.fosterwilson.com/doula] * Receive her newsletter Foster’s Village [https://www.fosterwilson.com/newsletter] Created & Hosted by: Cesar Cardona [http://www.cesarcardona.com] and Foster Wilson [http://www.fosterwilson.com] Executive Producer: Glenn Milley [http://instagram.com/goforglenn] Editor: Bessie Fong [http://www.bessiefong.com] Special Guest: Ally Iseman, CRC [https://www.passport2pleasure.com/] This episode is brought to you by Arlene Thornton & Associates [https://www.arlenethornton.com/] Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2448921/fan_mail/new]

Do We Actually Suck at Compliments?

Do you struggle with receiving compliments? Foster and Cesar explore the art of giving and receiving compliments. Why do we have such a hard time accepting praise? And what’s the difference between physical and character-based compliments? Together they unpack how authentic affirmation strengthens relationships and how rejecting a compliment is like rejecting a gift. Foster and Cesar also dive into masculine and feminine energy dynamics in how they exchange words of affirmation. They each share their favorite compliments and how to truly make someone’s day.  In this episode they explore:  * Why rejecting a compliment is the same as rejecting the person giving it * Why physical compliments are the least interesting thing to give (and why) * What happens when you compliment someone on their effort vs. their appearance * How masculine and feminine energy shows up differently in giving compliments If this episode spoke to you, you will love Stop Caring What People Think: The Art of Giving Less Fucks [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/stop-caring-what-people-think-the-art-of-giving-less-f-s/id1795211471?i=1000768542940]. You can also watch the episodes on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@beautyintheBreak]. If you enjoyed this episode, take a moment to follow Beauty in the Break on your favorite podcast app and leave a review—it really helps! Reach out to the show—send an email or voice note to beautyinthebreakpod@gmail.com [beautyinthebreakpod@gmail.com] and be sure to follow on Instagram [http://www.instagram.com/beautyinthebreakpod] and TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@beautyinthebreak].  Cesar Cardona: * Receive his newsletter Insights That Matter [https://www.cesarcardona.com/connect] * Get guided meditation from Cesar on his website [https://cesarcardona.com/]  * Listen to music from Cesar + The Clew on Apple Music [https://music.apple.com/us/artist/cesar-the-clew/1742643811] and Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/artist/276j7z30iDuFkoMtymMzCo] Foster Wilson: * Buy her poetry book Afternoon Abundance [https://www.fosterwilson.com/books] * Learn about her postpartum services [http://www.fosterwilson.com/doula] * Receive her newsletter Foster’s Village [https://www.fosterwilson.com/newsletter] Created & Hosted by: Cesar Cardona [http://www.cesarcardona.com] and Foster Wilson [http://www.fosterwilson.com] Executive Producer: Glenn Milley [http://instagram.com/goforglenn] This episode is brought to you by Jamaal Pittman. You can donate to his scholarship at WheelerScholarship.com [http://wheelerscholarship.com], supporting college enrollment. Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2448921/fan_mail/new]

Question Everything You've Inherited with Brandon Kyle Goodman

Who would you be if society never got its hands on you? In this expansive conversation, writer, actor, and host of the hilarious podcast Tell Me Something Messy [https://podfollow.com/1766708240] Brandon Kyle Goodman joins Foster and Cesar to discuss ‘disruptive curiosity’, destigmatizing sex, and choosing to be child-free in a society that expects parenthood. Brandon opens up about their new journey on Lexapro, the healing power of talking openly about sex while working on Big Mouth, and the profound decision to not have children despite years of assuming they would. Brandon is both hilarious and wise, as they break down how to live authentically, build community, and break generational cycles by asking the questions no one else wants you to ask, like… aren’t all sports super gay??  In this episode they explore:  * Why Brandon tried on heels to discover what was truly theirs vs. what was inherited * The moment Brandon realized: "I don't want kids" (and how that broke a generational cycle) * The difference between wanting to have kids and wanting to be a parent * Why raising a mixed-race child as a gay couple required questions they couldn't answer Brandon Kyle Goodman [https://www.brandonkylegoodman.com/]:  * Listen to their podcast Tell Me Something Messy [https://www.youtube.com/@brandonkgood] * Subscribe to their Substack [https://substack.com/@brandonkylegoodman] * IG: @brandonkylegoodman [https://www.instagram.com/brandonkylegoodman/] Also mentioned:  * Pamela Samuelson’s Sex Ed class for tweens/teens & Take Back The Speculum: EMBODYWORK [https://embodyworkla.com/] If this episode spoke to you, you will love From Homeless to The Oscars: Dedrick Bonner on Resilience [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/from-homeless-to-the-oscars-dedrick-bonner-on-resilience/id1795211471?i=1000758402649]. You can also watch the episodes on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@beautyintheBreak]. If you enjoyed this episode, take a moment to follow Beauty in the Break on your favorite podcast app and leave a review. It really helps! Reach out to the show! Send an email or voice note to beautyinthebreakpod@gmail.com [beautyinthebreakpod@gmail.com] and be sure to follow on Instagram [http://www.instagram.com/beautyinthebreakpod] and TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@beautyinthebreak].  Cesar Cardona: * Receive his newsletter Insights That Matter [https://www.cesarcardona.com/connect] * Get guided meditation from Cesar on his website [https://cesarcardona.com/]  * Listen to music from Cesar + The Clew on Apple Music [https://music.apple.com/us/artist/cesar-the-clew/1742643811] and Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/artist/276j7z30iDuFkoMtymMzCo] Foster Wilson: * Buy her poetry book Afternoon Abundance [https://www.fosterwilson.com/books] * Learn about her postpartum services [http://www.fosterwilson.com/doula] * Receive her newsletter Foster’s Village [https://www.fosterwilson.com/newsletter] Created & Hosted by: Cesar Cardona [http://www.cesarcardona.com] and Foster Wilson [http://www.fosterwilson.com] Executive Producer: Glenn Milley [http://instagram.com/goforglenn] Editor: Bessie Fong [http://www.bessiefong.com]  Special Guest: Brandon Kyle Goodman [https://www.brandonkylegoodman.com/] This episode is brought to you by Arlene Thornton & Associates [https://www.arlenethornton.com/] Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2448921/fan_mail/new]

Stop Caring What People Think: The Art of Giving Less Fucks

Why do we care so much about what other people think? Foster and Cesar explore the art of giving less fucks, as a source of freedom from needing to control how others perceive you. Despite a world steeped in people-pleasing, our biological fear of being ostracized by the tribe no longer serves us in the age of social media and cancel culture. They ask the question: is it possible to incrementally build the muscle of caring less? They reveal how to balance kindness and truth, why you can't control how someone receives your message, and the power of giving less fucks as a soil bed for boldness and creativity. In this episode they explore:  * The real work: not giving a fuck without anger  * Why caring what people think is a biological fear that no longer serves us * How Foster incrementally desensitized herself to being seen * Cesar's "back pocket fucklessness" and when to access it * How posting daily on TikTok made the flops stop mattering If this episode spoke to you, you will love How to Keep Creating When Your Inner Critic Says You’re Worthless [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-keep-creating-when-your-inner-critic-says-youre/id1795211471?i=1000764008916]. You can also watch the episodes on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@beautyintheBreak]. If you enjoyed this episode, take a moment to follow Beauty in the Break on your favorite podcast app and leave a review—it really helps! Reach out to the show—send an email or voice note to beautyinthebreakpod@gmail.com [beautyinthebreakpod@gmail.com] and be sure to follow on Instagram [http://www.instagram.com/beautyinthebreakpod] and TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@beautyinthebreak].  Cesar Cardona: * Receive his newsletter Insights That Matter [https://www.cesarcardona.com/connect] * Get guided meditation from Cesar on his website [https://cesarcardona.com/]  * Listen to music from Cesar + The Clew on Apple Music [https://music.apple.com/us/artist/cesar-the-clew/1742643811] and Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/artist/276j7z30iDuFkoMtymMzCo] Foster Wilson: * Buy her poetry book Afternoon Abundance [https://www.fosterwilson.com/books] * Learn about her postpartum services [http://www.fosterwilson.com/doula] * Receive her newsletter Foster’s Village [https://www.fosterwilson.com/newsletter] Created & Hosted by: Cesar Cardona [http://www.cesarcardona.com] and Foster Wilson [http://www.fosterwilson.com] Executive Producer: Glenn Milley [http://instagram.com/goforglenn] This episode is brought to you by Jamaal Pittman. You can donate to his scholarship at WheelerScholarship.com [http://wheelerscholarship.com], supporting college enrollment. Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2448921/fan_mail/new]