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Ep 174: What Outshines Your Suffering?

Suffering generally has a disempowering tone. In the middle of disappointment or displeasure, doubt and other disempowering thoughts tend to appear more often. It does not feel good when we are in the middle of suffering and pain. So, we try to avoid it with a myriad of coping mechanisms. Obviously, we are just perpetuating the suffering and the coping mechanisms. However, we can shift our relationship to suffering. This requires extremely deep clarity of what lights us up and is worth suffering for. * Pattern of suffering * If there’s an end goal, suffering is important * Shifting relationship to suffering * The clarity to ask for support * Being aware of the choice * We’re in a “feel-good” time * Instinct towards coping mechanisms * Unpacking suffering from childhood * Suffering that comes with shifting dreams * What are you willing to suffer for? ------------------------- CONNECT WITH JEFF: Website: https://jeffmillercoaching.com/ [https://jeffmillercoaching.com/] LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/] IG: @jeffmillercoaching FB: https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965 [https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965] Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching [https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching] CONNECT WITH TATSU: Website: https://tatsuyafushimi.com [https://tatsuyafushimi.com] LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuyafushimi/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuyafushimi/] IG: @tatsuyafushimi FB: https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/ [https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/] Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi [https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi]

Ep 173: O.F.G. May

O.F.G. means opportunities for growth. Every situation we experience presents a seemingly infinite number of growth opportunities towards becoming the highest version of ourselves. However, it is up to us to train our minds to identify the opportunities and to integrate our hearts in the process. In this series of episodes, Jeff and Tatsu illustrate their thought processes when triggered by people and events in their lives. * Digging into my 93-year-old dad’s communication style * Being triggered by his tone of voice is tied to my root fears * The gap between my and my son’s communication styles * Allowing the space for discomfort * We can be the generational change * Leaning into what’s uncomfortable ------------------------- CONNECT WITH JEFF: Website: https://jeffmillercoaching.com/ [https://jeffmillercoaching.com/] LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/] IG: @jeffmillercoaching FB: https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965 [https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965] Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching [https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching] CONNECT WITH TATSU: Website: https://tatsuyafushimi.com [https://tatsuyafushimi.com] LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuyafushimi/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuyafushimi/] IG: @tatsuyafushimi FB: https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/ [https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/] Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi [https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi]

Ep 172: The Reinvention Loop

When was the last time you reinvented yourself? And what drove that reinvention? What area(s) in your life did you reinvent? Reinvention is far more than a change. It is a transformation. We often consider a reinvention only when our usual strategies and tactics stop working. It is a reactionary, almost desperate, attempt to salvage something. Our decision to reinvent is usually a delayed choice, while our intuition immediately signals when it is time. So, we probably do not reinvent ourselves often enough. Reinvention presents the opportunity for us to realign our lives holistically and express ourselves in ways we currently do not. To squeeze as much juice out of life as possible, it would be wise to foster an empowering and inspirational relationship with reinvention. * Need vs. want of reinvention * Reinvention as an opportunity to express yourself differently * Purpose with the doing vs. the being * Change vs. transformation * Opportunity to reinvent doesn’t stop * The dynamic dance of vision and dreaming * Using vision and dreams to win each day ------------------------- CONNECT WITH JEFF: Website: https://jeffmillercoaching.com/ [https://jeffmillercoaching.com/] LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/] IG: @jeffmillercoaching FB: https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965 [https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965] Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching [https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching] CONNECT WITH TATSU: Website: https://tatsuyafushimi.com [https://tatsuyafushimi.com] LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuyafushimi/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuyafushimi/] IG: @tatsuyafushimi FB: https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/ [https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/] Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi [https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi]

Ep 171: Clarity Comes After The Choice, Not Before

Many of us want clarity before making a choice that will require time, energy, money, and other resources. We want the straightest, most efficient path to a goal. But what is clarity? Evidence to support a logical or practical conclusion? Assurance that we are making the right choice? An intuitive sense of alignment? An attempt to avoid wasting resources? It is a combination of things. But how do we know we are choosing the straightest, most efficient path to a goal? We do not know. We gain more clarity only after we choose and collect more information. We never actually have the clarity we seek because the information we collect is never complete. Also, our biased perception of the world taints our decision-making process. So, the clarity we seek is actually faux, not what we truly want. * More clarity of what you don’t want * Fake clarity wrapped up in lived experience, opinions, and context * Awareness of boundaries after the event * Reactionary behavior isn’t clarity * Reflecting on a future choice can lead to being more unclear * Clarity of commitments over clarity of a choice * Fear of the winding road and being wrong ------------------------- CONNECT WITH JEFF: Website: https://jeffmillercoaching.com/ [https://jeffmillercoaching.com/] LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/] IG: @jeffmillercoaching FB: https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965 [https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965] Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching [https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching] CONNECT WITH TATSU: Website: https://tatsuyafushimi.com [https://tatsuyafushimi.com] LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuyafushimi/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuyafushimi/] IG: @tatsuyafushimi FB: https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/ [https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/] Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi [https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi]

Ep 170: Are Your Expectations Clear?

Expectations are natural and unavoidable. They also often lead to disappointment because outcomes are not 100% controllable. Our expectations reveal a lot about ourselves. It is beneficial to understand what drives our expectations and to communicate them clearly and vulnerably. Otherwise, unmet expectations can create much resentment within, and resentment powerfully impacts our behavior. * A lot of times, expectations are internal * What’s driving us to want something in the first place? * Zero expectations? * Taking ourselves out of the present * It’s unrealistic to be 100% unattached * A growth mindset will always find a win * Unmet expectations can lead to resentment * Shoulds and obligations get weird * Keep refining the ability to communicate * Why is this expectation important to me? ------------------------- CONNECT WITH JEFF: Website: https://jeffmillercoaching.com/ [https://jeffmillercoaching.com/] LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/] IG: @jeffmillercoaching FB: https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965 [https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965] Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching [https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching] CONNECT WITH TATSU: Website: https://tatsuyafushimi.com [https://tatsuyafushimi.com] LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuyafushimi/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuyafushimi/] IG: @tatsuyafushimi FB: https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/ [https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/] Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi [https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi]