Conflict Coach with Dr. Emily Taylor

Lessons From A Life Filled With Conflict

Join Dr. Emily Taylor as she does something a little different this week—she sits down with her mom, Miriam, to talk about what conflict looks like across a lifetime. Perhaps you have someone older in your life, a parent, grandparent, or older friend who you look up to in your life? Having a conversation with them like the one Emily has with her mother can be a great way to gain new insights into your own conflicts. They explore how Miriam’s strict upbringing shaped her into a conflict-avoider, and how freedom and “coming of age” helped her see that adults get to choose the kind of life they want. Miriam shares her practical guide for deciding when to engage: ask whether it will matter next week or next month, and prioritize relationships and peace of mind over being right. She also offers a way to talk about tough issues without escalating—share personal experiences, listen for common ground, and validate that you may never fully understand the other person, but you genuinely want to. Dr. Emily closes by highlighting the power of “family weavers,” vulnerability, gratitude, and connection—especially when we don’t agree. Let us know how you like this episode! Email Dr. Emily at conflictcoach@byu.edu or connect with her on social media: @conflictcoachwithdremily CHAPTERS (0:00) Welcome to Conflict Coach (0:53) Introducing Today's Special Guest (2:17) Recurring Conflicts Across Generations (5:05) Coming of Age (9:02) Choosing Your Battles (11:05) Talking About Difficult Topics (12:19) The Power of Listening (13:14) Family Weavers (14:14) Advice for Younger Generations (20:13) Guiding Principles for Disagreement (21:02) Closing Reflections (25:45) Season Wrap Up

How Do I Resolve Conflict With Someone I Don’t Trust?

Join Dr. Emily as she coaches Vicky, who has reached a breaking point in a long-simmering conflict with a fellow volunteer leader in her church congregation. It’s a conflict that will feel familiar to anyone who has been a leader in a volunteer organization like a PTA or neighborhood board where passionate people with different communication and leadership styles all try to do good things together. A series of frustrating encounters has led Vicky to distrust another volunteer leader she must work with closely. In this coaching session, Dr. Emily helps Vicky explore how to rebuild that trust and find a path forward, using all of the conflict management skills we’ve learned this season. In this episode, we’ll review how to: - Identify the root of a conflict - Recognize the story you’re telling yourself about the conflict - List and express your needs - Use nonviolent communication to meet your needs Dr. Emily recommends this resource from the Nonviolent Communication (NVC) Academy to help you name your needs and feelings: https://nvcacademy.com/media/NVCA/learning-tools/NVCA-feelings-needs.pdf Let us know how these strategies work in your own life! Email Dr. Emily at conflictcoach@byu.edu or connect with her on social media: @conflictcoachwithdremily CHAPTERS (0:00) Introduction to Conflict Coach (0:52) Introducing Vicky’s Conflict (2:23) Vicky’s Story: The Flashpoint (8:19) Exploring Vicky’s Needs (12:00) Formulating a Plan with Nonviolent Communication (27:12) Conclusion and Key Takeaways

What If You Don’t Want to Reconcile, but Feel Like You’re Supposed To?

Join Dr. Emily Taylor as she coaches Clay who is estranged from his sister and ambivalent about reconciling. Like Clay, you may have conflicts that you don’t feel motivated to resolve, but also feel a little guilty about that. “I know I should want to fix this,” says Clay. Dr. Emily helps him explore the reasons for his indifference and assess whether it’s something he wants to honor or ignore. Sometimes indifference toward a conflict is healthy self-regulation. But sometimes it’s rooted in unhealthy avoidance. In this episode, you’ll learn how to: - Sort out your internal conflict (what you want vs. what you think you should want) - Identify healthy vs. unhealthy indifference - Create a framework for reengaging with estranged loved ones Let us know how these strategies work in your own life! Email Dr. Emily at conflictcoach@byu.edu or connect with her on social media: @conflictcoachwithdremily (0:00) Introduction to Conflict Coach (0:53) Introducing Clay’s Estrangement (3:50) Clay’s Internal Conflict: Indifference vs. Reconciliation (10:59) Exploring Healthy and Unhealthy Indifference (18:58) Creating a Framework for Reengagement (23:03) Conclusion and Key Takeaways

How Do We Approach Reconciliation with Caution and Care?

Join Dr. Emily Taylor as she coaches Maya through her complex family estrangement. Like Maya, you may have estranged relatives or friends that you’d like to reconnect with, but fears of manipulation or accidentally worsening the conflict may make you hesitant. Dr. Emily helps Maya understand her hesitations, and gives her concrete skills for moving forward. Tune in to glean practical strategies and insights on handling your own conflicts. In this episode, you’ll learn how to: - Review your push and pull factors - Build on previous relationship success through small interactions - Incorporate your spiritual beliefs into your conflict strategy Let us know how these strategies work in your own life! Email Dr. Emily at conflictcoach@byu.edu or connect with her on social media: @conflictcoachwithdremily CHAPTERS (0:00) Introduction to Conflict Coach (0:53) Introducing Maya’s Family Conflict (6:16) Exploring Push and Pull Factors (8:45) Reconnecting Through Small Steps (15:56) Incorporating Spiritual Beliefs (21:00) Conclusion and Key Takeaways

Tips For Leveling Up Your Conflict Resolution Skills

Dr. Emily Taylor kicks off the new year by introducing five essential skills for managing conflicts more effectively in 2026. With the new year, you may have goals or resolutions related to conflicts in your life. Listen along as she offers insights pulled from previous episodes of Conflict Coach. In this episode, you’ll learn how to: - Focus on your relationship - Work towards repair in small steps - Identify your “why” in a conflict - Role-playing from someone else’s point of view - Create a positive personal narrative Let us know how these strategies work in your own life! Email Dr. Emily at conflictcoach@byu.edu or connect with her on social media: @conflictcoachwithdremily CHAPTERS (0:00) Introduction (1:13) Skill 1: Focus on the Relationship, Not the Conflict (6:46) Skill 2: Take Smaller Steps to Repair the Relationship (13:49) Skill 3: Identify Your ‘Why’ in a Conflict (17:51) Skill 4: Role-Playing from the Other Person’s Point of View (22:13) Skill 5: Creating a Positive Narrative of Conflict Failures (26:37) Conclusion and Key Takeaways Watch video of this episode on the Conflict Coach YouTube Channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@ConflictCoachPodcast Listen to the full episodes referenced in this episode: S1E5: What Role Are You Playing in the Conflict? (Tyler) https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/conflict-coach-with-dr-emily-taylor/id1790957419?i=1000697558934 S1E8: How Can You Mend an Estranged Relationship? (Morgan) https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/conflict-coach-with-dr-emily-taylor/id1790957419?i=1000703559303 S2E1: How Do You Navigate Difficult Relationships When You’re Grieving? (Stacie) https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/conflict-coach-with-dr-emily-taylor/id1790957419?i=1000729214824 S2E3: Are You The Source of Tension in Your Conflicts? (Laura) https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/conflict-coach-with-dr-emily-taylor/id1790957419?i=1000733809885 S2E6:How Do I Make the Change I Want in My Life? (Spencer) https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/conflict-coach-with-dr-emily-taylor/i