Fak'n Tired with Dr Heidi

Fawning, the Sweetest Hat We Own

In this episode, Dr Heidi and Queenie Christinie explore the concept of fawning as a post abuse response, its impact on relationships, even your healthy ones and practical ways to recognize and overcome this automatic behavior. Fawning is a response that can carry over into many of our healthy relationships long after the danger is gone. They share personal insights, behavioral patterns, and strategies for healthier interactions.

The Hypervigilance Hat

Whether you are presently in a toxic relationship or you are trying to rebuild after a toxic relationship it can feel impossible to take the steps you desire. Dr Heidi knows it can feel extreme to ask for help, at least it did for her. Because she has been where you are now, she gets it so her service offerings focus on your needs. Start by taking the Toxicity Profile Analysis for validation or the Survival Mode Assessment for understanding.  https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/ [https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/] In this episode, Dr. Heidi and Christine explore the concept of survival behaviors that were put in place for your safety during a time where your environment or a relationship was not a safe place. They using the metaphor of a travel trunk filled with hats with each hat representing one of the lasting survival behaviors you may see in yourself. Today they discuss the act of always being on alert, or hypervigilance and how understanding this residual behaviors can lead to peace and self-acceptance.

The Trunk on the Stagecoach

Whether you are presently in a toxic relationship or you are trying to rebuild after a toxic relationship it can feel impossible to take the steps you desire. Dr Heidi knows it can feel extreme to ask for help, at least it did for her. Because she has been where you are now, she gets it so her service offerings focus on your needs. Start by taking the Toxicity Profile Analysis for validation or the Survival Mode Assessment for understanding.  https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/ [https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/] Today we begin the discovery of the reactions, responses, and behaviors that many see in themselves after being in an unsafe environment, a toxic relationship, or an abusive situation for a long period of time. In this episode I have illustrated a story to help you visualize this concept.

The Biology of the Battle Part 2 - The Unavoidable Nervous System Take Over

Struggling to pinpoint why you’re struggling? Take the Survival Mode Assessment and see which of your behaviors, reactions, feelings, and responses may indeed be residual effects from the overwhelming toxicity you have experienced. Take the SMA Here! ⁠https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/ [https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/] Today in part 2 of the Biology of the Battle, Dr. Heidi explores the impact of toxic relationships on the nervous system and how survival behaviors can persist long after leaving such environments. She introduces the Survival Mode Assessment (SMA) to help individuals identify their post-trauma behaviors and discusses the importance of understanding the nervous system's role in trauma recovery. The conversation delves into the various data collectors within the nervous system, including nociception and neuroception, and emphasizes the need for recalibration to achieve inner peace and emotional stability.  Dr Heidi knows it can feel extreme to ask for help, at least it did for her. As one who has been where you are now, perhaps one of her service offerings would feel less extreme, and would be totally confidential. Let her experience be your secret weapon. ⁠https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/ [https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/]

Part 1 | The Biology of the Battle

Dr Heidi knows it can feel extreme to ask for help, at least it did for her. As one who has been where you are now, perhaps one of her service offerings would feel less extreme, and would be totally confidential. Let her experience be your secret weapon. https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/ [https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/] In this episode, Dr. Heidi explores the intricate relationship between the nervous system and our survival instincts, particularly in the context of toxic relationships. She discusses how our bodies react to perceived threats, the biological mechanisms behind these reactions, and the importance of understanding these processes to reclaim control over our emotional health. The conversation delves into the brain's response to danger, the role of boundaries, and the impact of past trauma on present behavior.