Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee

Episode 36 | Reciprocity - Where'd You Go?

This episode is probably going to ruffle some feathers. Everywhere you look there’s content telling men what they should do for women. Provide. Protect. Create emotional safety. Communicate. Be patient. And a lot of that is valid. But somewhere along the way the conversation stopped being about healthy relationships and started being about one person doing all the giving while the other does all the receiving. That’s not reciprocity. That’s an arrangement. In this episode Rachel Lee gets into what reciprocity actually means in real relationships, why we model relationships more than we teach them, why emotional safety needs to go both ways, and why if you don’t want someone you need to let them heal. This one is honest. Direct. And worth the conversation. Follow the podcast. Leave a review. Share it with someone who needed to hear it. ✨ Coaching | Ways to connect:figuringitoutwithrachel.com [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=channel_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbWViMGNmdDlOS05ad3hralhoQ0xlVWRlX1JoUXxBQ3Jtc0trWGJEWnBlUnpsX1U1M2hudWFNams5QXhiMi0xQ1V6LUNfYTZ0UWNEMUkybmpBSnE0UzJwazd5dUVfcTNwdHpXSjBfT2FYSXFvaTVrRWZfNUVIbWNwLWk0RjN4NWtTVXgwdjlfeHdVd0VHdUdrNkdMTQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Ffiguringitoutwithrachel.com]

Episode 35 | The Good Things - Remembering What Helped Us Too

When people hear the hard parts of someone’s story, it’s easy to assume that’s the whole story. But what about the good things? In this episode, I’m talking about the memories, people, communities, traditions, and experiences that shaped me in positive ways. From Christmas luminaries and homemade donuts with my Grammy to volunteer firefighters, lifelong friendships, and raising my boys, this is a conversation about remembering that not everything that made us who we are came from pain. Because yes, hard things happened. But they were never the whole story. Sometimes healing also means remembering the good things. ✨ Coaching | Ways to connect: figuringitoutwithrachel.com [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=channel_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqblQ2ZnpuWi1XT0I0TTliR0tXQmhkN2xLRXQ4d3xBQ3Jtc0tsRnlXMHIteGpfeHVfYkVwbDhka2dUdzg2d01kTkFtaHhSOXlFVm5iNGZfbFhZMHVFbVZzSGJjNWt4Q09oZW9oYU1fbTNPZHduS1RCYTY1WXZTVFB0QndGaXpEYWlJQkotM1hjbUNiQjZINHA4MHA1Zw&q=https%3A%2F%2Ffiguringitoutwithrachel.com]

Episode 34 | Emotionally Unavailable... Or Emotionally Overwhelmed?

We hear phrases like “If they wanted to, they would” and “They’re emotionally unavailable” all the time online. But what if the reality is more complicated than that? In this episode, Rachel explores the difference between emotional unavailability, emotional overwhelm, emotional awareness, and emotional capacity. From relationships and conflict to trauma, nervous system regulation, and personal growth, this conversation challenges the black-and-white labels we often place on ourselves and others. Because sometimes people don’t lack desire. Sometimes they lack the tools, capacity, or emotional safety to show up the way they want to. And that’s a very different conversation.

Episode 33 | I’d Like to Return This Self-Doubt, Please and Thank You

In this episode, Rachel talks about inherited self-doubt, emotional conditioning, generational pain, relationships, and the invisible rules many of us grow up living by without ever consciously choosing them. From a moment at 19 years old that quietly changed how she viewed herself, to the emotional patterns that followed her into relationships, motherhood, and adulthood — this episode explores how self-doubt is often learned long before we ever realize it. Rachel shares honest reflections on: • emotional conditioning • people pleasing & validation • emotionally unavailable relationships • generational trauma • self-worth • healing without perfection • learning to trust yourself differently • and what it means to stop carrying beliefs that never truly belonged to you in the first place. This episode is raw, reflective, honest, and deeply human. Because maybe healing isn’t becoming a different person. Maybe it’s becoming aware enough to stop living automatically from wounds you never consciously chose.

Episode 32 | The Things People Say & Don't Think About

This episode is about grief, mental health, suicide, and the things people say without realizing who might be listening. Rachel opens up about losing her brother Jason to suicide, the complicated realities of mental health, addiction, shame, and the emotional aftermath left behind for families who survive it. But this conversation is bigger than loss. It’s about awareness. The way pain changes how you hear people. The way careless language can quietly reveal emotional blind spots. And the importance of creating spaces where people feel safe enough to say, “I’m struggling,” without fear of shame or judgment. This is not a clinical conversation. It’s a human one. If you’ve ever experienced grief, mental health struggles, addiction, emotional exhaustion, or watched someone you love suffer silently, this episode will probably hit close to home.