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What If Wholeness Is The Real Core Competency

Send Us a Message [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2082095/fan_mail/new] Most people think they need better strategies to grow, lead, or coach well. Then a conversation like this exposes the real blocker: safety. When visibility has felt dangerous, when service has been tied to worth, or when spiritual and relational harm has shaped your nervous system, you do not fix it with another checklist. You fix it by integrating healing and coaching so your body can finally believe what your mind already understands. We talk with Hayley Surya, MCC [https://www.linkedin.com/in/suryamcc/], about why healing and coaching are complementary energies and why separating them often leaves clients with insight but no integration. We explore coaching as a calling, not just a learned skill set, and what it takes to hold a truly safe coaching container: showing up resourced, grounded, and free of the ego need to be right. Along the way, we get honest about cultural conditioning around serving, the difference between interdependence and codependence, and how overcompensating as a coach can quietly rob clients of their own agency.  The conversation goes even deeper into memory, repair, and wholeness. We unpack how apology can create real proxy healing, why “healthy” means consistency rather than perfection, and how balancing inner polarities shapes every relationship in your life, from money and career to partnership and self-trust.  If you care about ICF coaching [https://www.linkedin.com/company/international-coaching-federation], embodied leadership, trauma-informed practice, and real transformation, this will stay with you long after the audio ends. If this resonates, subscribe, share it with a coach or leader who needs depth over noise, and leave a review telling us what part challenged you most. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2082095/support] If you are interested in being a guest on the Podcast, please send an email to president@icf-sandiego.org [email:president@icf-sandiego.org]. Please connect with us on our social media channels: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/icfsan [https://www.facebook.com/icfsan] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/icf_sd/ [https://www.instagram.com/icf_sd/] LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/icf-sandiego [https://www.linkedin.com/company/icf-sandiego/?viewAsMember=true] Twitter: https://twitter.com/ICFSanDiego [https://twitter.com/ICFSanDiego]

What if Control is The Real Illusion: A Conversation with Dr. Cornelia Shipley Bearyman

Send Us a Message [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2082095/fan_mail/new] The loudest voice shaping your life might not be your own, and once you see that, everything changes. We sit down with Dr. Cornelia Shipley Bearyman, executive coach, author, and Ph.D in metaphysics, for a conversation that starts playful and turns deeply human: grief, identity, and the hidden scripts we replay when we feel threatened, judged, or out of control.  She shares the shock of losing her mother just five days after her wedding, and how other people’s reactions taught her a core lesson about perception: we see the world as we are, not as it is. From there, we explore the practical side of healing and mindset work. What do you do with the inner critic that says you’re unworthy, unlovable, or unsafe? How do you “return to sender” the stories you inherited? Dr. Berriman offers language you can use immediately, plus a powerful reframe on triggers: “hysterical is historical.”  We also widen the lens to conscious leadership, faith, and uncertainty. We talk about choosing your hard, why control is a false construct, how support systems keep you grounded, and what the age of AI is forcing all of us to confront about being a human being rather than a human doing. If you’re navigating change, burnout, career pressure, or a deeper spiritual question, this one meets you where you are.  Subscribe, Share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a review with the biggest truth you’re ready to face. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2082095/support] If you are interested in being a guest on the Podcast, please send an email to president@icf-sandiego.org [email:president@icf-sandiego.org]. Please connect with us on our social media channels: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/icfsan [https://www.facebook.com/icfsan] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/icf_sd/ [https://www.instagram.com/icf_sd/] LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/icf-sandiego [https://www.linkedin.com/company/icf-sandiego/?viewAsMember=true] Twitter: https://twitter.com/ICFSanDiego [https://twitter.com/ICFSanDiego]

Activate Your Pause: A Conversation with John O'Brien

Send Us a Message [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2082095/fan_mail/new] The world feels loud on purpose, and it’s easy to forget we have choices when stress becomes the default setting. We sit down with Dr. John O’Brien, psychologist, coach, author, and founder of Activate Success, to get practical about the smallest habit that can change your day: the pause. Not a retreat, not a perfect routine, just a few seconds of breathing and noticing what’s happening inside you. That “sacred moment” creates space to define success on your terms, instead of chasing someone else’s definition.  We also go straight into the bigger social noise that affects all of us: rising rudeness and incivility. John shares why he believes this trend has been building for decades, how loneliness and the loss of community connection make it worse, and why social media algorithms can quietly steer what we see and how we react. If you’ve felt pulled into outrage or trapped in reactive conversations, this part will land.  From mindfulness to coaching, we keep circling back to agency. Mindfulness is not perfect focus; it’s noticing where your attention is and deciding whether it serves you. John also opens up about perfectionism, taking risks, and the “good enough” mindset that helped him write, speak, and even start a podcast while still learning.  If you want more calm, better boundaries, and a clearer way to respond to the noise, you’ll leave with tools you can use today.  Subscribe, Share this with a friend who needs a reset, and leave a review with your biggest takeaway. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2082095/support] If you are interested in being a guest on the Podcast, please send an email to president@icf-sandiego.org [email:president@icf-sandiego.org]. Please connect with us on our social media channels: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/icfsan [https://www.facebook.com/icfsan] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/icf_sd/ [https://www.instagram.com/icf_sd/] LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/icf-sandiego [https://www.linkedin.com/company/icf-sandiego/?viewAsMember=true] Twitter: https://twitter.com/ICFSanDiego [https://twitter.com/ICFSanDiego]

The Inside Game: A Conversation with Dr. Nana Gyesie

Send Us a Message [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2082095/fan_mail/new] Something happened to how we lead after 2020, and it wasn’t just remote work or new policies. It was the moment the noise got quiet enough for truth to show itself. Our host, Donald E. Coleman [https://www.linkedin.com/in/semperkaizen/], sits down with Dr. Nana Gyesie, PCC  [https://www.linkedin.com/in/nanagyesie/]for a deep, spiritual conversation about what he calls the “inside game” and why the inner world quietly determines the outer results we chase in leadership, coaching, and life. We talk about what it means to see beyond the veil, to carry the discomfort of feeling different, and to turn that sensitivity into resilience and compassion. From there, we trace how the coaching profession points us back to internal states like presence, metacognition, and real awareness. We also zoom out to the culture shift leaders are facing now: AI changing the value of overfunctioning, a redefinition of work and identity, and why concepts like narcissistic leadership and the loneliness epidemic are suddenly part of mainstream business language. Then we go all the way in: unbecoming, ego death, and non-duality. Dr. Nana breaks down how the protective self forms, why letting go can feel like a void, and how acceptance is not defeat but the release that allows new possibilities to emerge. We close with practical grounding practices, including Vipassana meditation, observing the mind, breath, and self-compassion as strength. If you’ve been feeling the pressure of uncertainty, a career change, or the AI era’s constant acceleration, this conversation offers language and tools to lead from alignment rather than attachment. Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs steadiness, and leave a review. What part of the “inside game” do you want to practice next? Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2082095/support] If you are interested in being a guest on the Podcast, please send an email to president@icf-sandiego.org [email:president@icf-sandiego.org]. Please connect with us on our social media channels: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/icfsan [https://www.facebook.com/icfsan] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/icf_sd/ [https://www.instagram.com/icf_sd/] LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/icf-sandiego [https://www.linkedin.com/company/icf-sandiego/?viewAsMember=true] Twitter: https://twitter.com/ICFSanDiego [https://twitter.com/ICFSanDiego]

Love And Resilience: A Conversation with Katherine Virdi

Send Us a Message [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2082095/fan_mail/new] Love isn’t just a feeling we fall into. It can be the foundation that keeps us standing when life cracks the concrete. Our host, Donald E Coleman, is joined by executive coach Katherine Virdi for a conversation that moves from profound personal loss to practical tools for resilience, intuition, and authentic leadership. Along the way, we explore how relationships shape who we become, how grief changes our inner world, and why “knowing” often shows up before we can explain it. We dig into the difference between mental noise and body-based intuition, including what it looks like when your foundation has “air pockets” like ignored red flags and constant second-guessing. Katherine shares how self-awareness helps you recognize what’s true for you, and how taking action matters as much as receiving the signal. We also talk about stillness in a loud world and why meditation doesn’t have to look one specific way. Art, calming music, and learning to observe thoughts rather than obey them become real practices for mindfulness and emotional regulation. From there, we connect gratitude to nervous system calm, calling in your senses to interrupt fight-or-flight and return to center. Finally, we bring it into executive coaching and leadership coaching: wholeness at work, the humanity behind every title, and the power of being a mirror so people can see how capable they already are.  If you care about resilience, intuition, wholeness, and authentic leadership, this one stays with you. Subscribe, share this with a leader or friend who needs it, and leave a review with the line that hit you hardest. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2082095/support] If you are interested in being a guest on the Podcast, please send an email to president@icf-sandiego.org [email:president@icf-sandiego.org]. Please connect with us on our social media channels: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/icfsan [https://www.facebook.com/icfsan] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/icf_sd/ [https://www.instagram.com/icf_sd/] LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/icf-sandiego [https://www.linkedin.com/company/icf-sandiego/?viewAsMember=true] Twitter: https://twitter.com/ICFSanDiego [https://twitter.com/ICFSanDiego]