Lust in Translation

What Women Fantasize About with Literary Erotica Founder Carly Pifer of Aurore

What if your “low libido” is actually a lack of imagination? In this episode, Natassia sits down with writer Carly Pifer, founder of literary erotica platform Aurore [http://readaurore.com], to explore what women really want, how responsive desire styles get turned on by storytelling and why reading erotica is such an effective form of low-pressure foreplay. Carly shares the real‑life experiences that inspired her crowdsourced erotica platform—from interviewing strangers about their intimate lives in bars and going on Tinder “research dates” across Europe to rewriting painful relationships through erotic fiction and helping women feel less ashamed of what turns them on. For the past two years, Natassia has been an avid reader of Aurore’s stories and loves how it offers a playful way to sample different scenarios, learn what actually lights you up (and what doesn’t), and bring those discoveries back into your own sex life. If you’re curious, use code NATASSIA to get 10% off your subscription at readaurore.com [http://readaurore.com]. 00:00 – Why women connect more with erotica than porn 02:00 – Responsive desire vs spontaneous desire 04:18 – Erotica as a place you go mentally 05:25 – Writing through body image insecurities 08:16 – Turning insecurity into eroticism 09:39 – Building Aurore and crowdsourced erotica 10:30 – Why romance novels don’t work for everyone 12:02 – Feeling emotionally safe during sex 13:32 – The rise of “real eaters” 15:44 – Interviewing strangers about sex in bars 18:21 – What people secretly reveal about intimacy 20:03 – Bathroom habits and relationship comfort 22:09 – Pubic hair trends and attraction 24:34 – Tinder dates across Europe 27:12 – Why men struggle to talk about intimacy 28:55 – Two Frenchmen in Paris story 32:12 – Why sex gets better with age 33:35 – Writing erotica as emotional healing 35:01 – Men learning oral sex from lesbian stories 36:25 – What women actually want sexually 37:18 – Fantasies as clues to your deeper desires 39:16 – Using erotica to communicate with partners 41:10 – How to start talking about fantasies 43:45 – Why sexual coaching matters 44:16 – Making quickies hotter through fantasy 45:16 – Love Is Blind and relationship psychology 46:43 – The rebellious origins of Aurore 48:05 – Straight men writing erotica 50:15 – The jeans story and male desire 51:10 – Why threesomes dominate fantasies 53:09 – Female gaze, dick pics, and visual desire 55:14 – Writing erotica to heal sexual trauma 56:34 – Understanding consensual non-consent fantasies 59:10 – Rewriting trauma through fantasy 01:01:06 – A powerful body acceptance writing exercise 01:02:22 – Final thoughts and where to find Carly It’s really hard to feel sexy when your vagina feels off. If you’re bracing for irritation, infections, or yet another post‑sex UTI, it’s almost impossible to stay present in the bedroom. Momotaro Apotheca [https://momotaroapotheca.com/discount/lust] offers organic solutions that Natassia uses everyday to take care of her intimate health—from their soothing balm, Salve, to their UTI supplement, probiotic, and yeast infection suppository. Build your own ritual at https://momotaroapotheca.com/discount/lust [https://momotaroapotheca.com/discount/lust] and get 20% off with code LUST. ⸻ Lust in Translation Podcast Subscribe to our newsletter for exclusive insights: ⁠lustintranslation.com [http://lustintranslation.com] ⁠ Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lustintranslationpod/ [https://www.instagram.com/lustintranslationpod/] ⁠ Follow Natassia on on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/natassiamiller/⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/natassiamiller/%E2%81%A0]

From Chronic Infections to Organic Solutions: Vulvovaginal Health 101 with Momotaro Apotheca Founder Lindsay Wynn

Let’s be honest: it’s really hard to feel sexy when your vagina feels off. If you’re bracing for irritation, infections, or yet another post‑sex UTI, it’s almost impossible to stay present in the bedroom.  In this episode, I sit down with vulvovaginal wellness founder Lindsay Wynn of Momotaro Apotheca for what is essentially Vaginal Health 101—a crash course on UTIs, yeast infections, pH balance, the vaginal microbiome, and why so many of us were never taught how any of this actually works. We  break down the basics in plain language while also talking about the emotional side—shame, anxiety, and that constant low‑grade fear that something is “wrong” with you. You’ll also hear how Lindsay’s own nightmare cycle of recurrent infections pushed her to create the products she couldn’t find: organic salves, suppositories, probiotics, and UTI‑support supplements designed to soothe symptoms, protect the microbiome, and help you feel good in—and about—your body again.  Think of this as your bedside‑table guide to feeling more comfortable, more informed, and more confident the next time you get naked with someone, including yourself. Curious to learn more about Momotaro Apotheca? It’s the organic solution that actually works, and I use it everyday. From their soothing balm, Salve, to UTI Supplement, Probiotic, and Yeast Infection Suppository, they have you covered. Build your own ritual at https://momotaroapotheca.com/discount/lust [https://momotaroapotheca.com/discount/lust] and get 20% off with code LUST. Guide to 10 vagina smells and what that means about your intimate health: https://momotaroapotheca.com/blogs/vaginal-wellness/vaginal-scents-odors [https://momotaroapotheca.com/blogs/vaginal-wellness/vaginal-scents-odors?_pos=6&_sid=0e85adf48&_ss=r] 00:00 – Meet the founder & origin story 02:00 – The wilderness mistake that changed everything 04:30 – How infections spiral out of control 06:30 – The science behind vaginal health & bacteria 08:30 – Why traditional treatments don’t always work 11:30 – Discovering natural and antimicrobial solutions 14:30 – Building a wellness brand from scratch 16:00 – Daily rituals and preventative care 18:30 – Products that actually work (and why) 21:30 – Shocking gaps in sex education 24:00 – What we were never taught about our bodies 26:30 – What’s “normal” when it comes to smell & pH 29:00 – How to talk to a partner about intimacy issues 32:00 – Overcoming shame and stigma 34:00 – Gen Z, sex, and changing cultural norms 38:00 – Relationships, pleasure, and the orgasm gap 43:00 – Expanding the product line & business growth 46:00 – Supplements, probiotics, and what matters 49:00 – Holistic approach to vaginal health 52:00 – Practical tips to prevent infections 56:00 – Final thoughts on sex, health, and confidence ⸻ Lust in Translation Podcast Subscribe to our newsletter for exclusive insights: ⁠lustintranslation.com [http://lustintranslation.com] ⁠ Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lustintranslationpod/ [https://www.instagram.com/lustintranslationpod/] ⁠ Follow Natassia on on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/natassiamiller/⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/natassiamiller/%E2%81%A0]

Polyamorous Thought Leader, Hayley Folk, On What Really Happens Inside Her Open Marriage.

What does it actually look like to build a relationship outside the traditional script, and make it work?  In this honest and eye-opening conversation, Hayley Folk opens up about her journey from a young, open marriage to becoming a leading voice in polyamory and modern relationships. She shares how discovering her queerness, navigating an open marriage, and ultimately redefining partnership transformed her understanding of love, desire, and personal truth.  From play parties and kink exploration to therapy, communication, and emotional safety, this episode goes far beyond surface-level takes on non-monogamy. Instead, it reveals the real work behind it: vulnerability, boundaries, and radical honesty.  Whether you’re curious about polyamory, questioning traditional relationship norms, or just want a more honest look at intimacy and connection, this conversation offers a powerful, human perspective on what it means to love, and live, authentically. 00:00 – Podcast intro & guest welcome 01:20 – Why polyamory is gaining attention 03:40 – Growing up queer & early relationship dynamics 06:00 – Open marriage vs polyamory explained 08:00 – Falling in love outside a marriage 10:00 – First experiences with women 12:00 – Meeting Kyle & building radical honesty 15:00 – Safety, communication & emotional openness 16:00 – One penis policy explained 18:00 – Boundaries, anxiety & early challenges 21:00 – Therapy and redefining the relationship 23:30 – First play party experience 25:30 – How confidence and boundaries evolved 27:30 – Discovering kink and impact play 30:00 – Vulnerability, trust & emotional intimacy 34:30 – Advice for attending sex parties 37:00 – Consent, safety & aftercare in kink 41:00 – Misconceptions from pop culture 42:30 – Open marriage memoir trends & gender dynamics 46:30 – Mistakes people make opening relationships 48:30 – Rules vs agreements vs boundaries 50:30 – Staying connected in long-distance marriage 52:30 – Living apart while married 54:30 – Poly vs monogamous dating dynamics 56:30 – Final thoughts & closing ⸻ Let’s be honest: it’s really hard to feel sexy when things feel off down there. Momotaro Apotheca is the organic solution that actually works, and I use it everyday. From their soothing balm, Salve, to UTI Supplement, Probiotic, and Yeast Infection Suppository, they have you covered. Build your own ritual at https://momotaroapotheca.com/discount/lust [https://momotaroapotheca.com/discount/lust] and get 20% off with code LUST. ⸻ Hayley Folk is a sex and relationships writer and polyamorous content creator based in New York City. She specializes in writing about sex, wellness, mental health and more. Her work has appeared in New York Magazine, Refinery29, Cosmo and more. When she’s not sharing about her life as a bisexual, polyamorous woman married to a man online, you can find her writing her upcoming memoir, thrifting or on an airplane. Follow her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepoly.pocket/ [https://www.instagram.com/thepoly.pocket/] Follow her on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thepoly.pocket [https://www.tiktok.com/@thepoly.pocket] ⸻ Lust in Translation Podcast Subscribe to our newsletter for exclusive insights: ⁠lustintranslation.com⁠ [⁠lustintranslation.com⁠] Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lustintranslationpod/⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/lustintranslationpod/⁠] Follow Natassia on on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/natassiamiller/⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/natassiamiller/%E2%81%A0]

Purity Culture, Marriage Struggles, and Sexual Healing with Lauren Elise Rogers

What if the beliefs you were taught about sex, purity, and relationships were never actually yours? In this episode, Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy & Relationship Coach Lauren Elise Rogers unpacks the hidden impact of purity culture and the long road back to personal agency, pleasure, and truth. She shares her story of growing up in a highly controlled religious environment, navigating a marriage shaped by repression and confusion, and ultimately reclaiming her identity and voice. Lauren takes us inside the emotional and psychological unraveling that comes with questioning everything you were taught about desire, gender roles, and partnership. From how sexual shame lives in the body to the deep rewiring required to build healthy, fulfilling relationships, this conversation is raw, honest, and deeply illuminating. Together, we explore the intersection of sexuality, faith, trauma, and healing—offering a nuanced, real-world look at what it takes to reconnect with your body, your desires, and your truth. Whether you're unpacking your upbringing, craving deeper intimacy in long-term relationships, or simply curious about how desire is shaped (and reshaped), this episode is a powerful invitation to rethink everything you thought you knew about sex and connection. 00:00 – Introduction & Lauren’s background 01:00 – Growing up in purity culture 03:00 – Ownership of the body & early conditioning 05:00 – Marriage expectations and gender roles 07:00 – Trauma, loss, and a broken marriage 08:30 – Feeling undesired & sexual confusion 10:00 – Discovering desire and self-exploration 12:00 – Shame, literature, and awakening sexuality 14:00 – What actually turns people on 16:00 – Eroticism vs long-term relationships 18:00 – Reintroducing desire in partnerships 20:00 – Role play, fantasy, and mental stimulation 21:30 – Faith vs sexuality: can they coexist? 24:00 – Rewriting harmful beliefs about sex 26:00 – Biology, pleasure, and the body 28:00 – Female desire and evolutionary dynamics 30:00 – Owning sexuality without shame 32:00 – Why sex education failed us 34:00 – Coaching clients through sexual shame 37:00 – Rewiring beliefs stored in the body 39:00 – Cultural messaging and gender roles 41:00 – Marriage, obligation, and sexual expectations 43:00 – Toys, pleasure, and removing stigma 46:00 – Expanding pleasure in real life 48:00 – Monogamy, safety, and desire 50:00 – Rethinking marriage and fulfillment 52:00 – Dating scripts and societal conditioning 53:30 – Sexual health and overall well-being 55:00 – Parenting and breaking the cycle 57:00 – Comprehensive sex education vs abstinence 59:00 – Raising confident, informed kids 01:01:00 – Final thoughts & closing ⸻ Couple's Intimacy Card Deck - https://www.wonderlust.co/intimacy-card-deck [https://www.wonderlust.co/intimacy-card-deck] Code LUST15 for 15% off ⸻ Lauren Elise Rogers is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy & Relationship Coach, celebrated for her warm and approachable style. Her holistic and embodied approach to education and coaching is deeply rooted in her own pain-to-purpose journey. Lauren brings an empathetic and non-judgmental approach to her coaching, podcasts, and speaking engagements, offering practical tools that empower her clients and audiences to take ownership of their pleasure and grow in confidence and connection. She is known for creating shame-free spaces, where she invites individuals and couples to navigate complex topics like long-term partnerships, consensual non-monogamy, life transitions, purity culture and LGBTQIA+ issues. Follow Lauren here: instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you [instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you] Lauren's website: https://sexedforyou.com/ [https://sexedforyou.com/] ⸻ Lust in Translation Podcast Desire, Decoded. Subscribe to the Lust in Translation newsletter: lustintranslation.com [lustintranslation.com] Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lustintranslationpod/ [https://www.instagram.com/lustintranslationpod/] Follow Natassia on on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/natassiamiller/ [https://www.instagram.com/natassiamiller/]