Middle of the Fence

Being Liked vs. Being Respected | Ep. 53

Most of us grow up wanting to be liked. We avoid conflict. We struggle to say no. We put other people's comfort ahead of our own authenticity. But what happens when chasing approval starts costing us opportunities, confidence, and peace of mind? In this episode of Middle of the Fence, Andre Spruell explores the difference between being liked and being respected and why understanding that distinction can completely change the way you approach relationships, leadership, personal growth, and everyday decisions. Drawing from personal experiences and psychological insights, Andre discusses why people pleasing is so common, how healthy boundaries actually strengthen relationships, and why lasting respect is built through integrity rather than popularity. If you've ever worried about disappointing others or felt pressured to earn everyone's approval, this conversation is for you. In this episode: • Why we naturally crave acceptance • The psychology behind people-pleasing • Why respect and popularity aren't the same • How boundaries create healthier relationships • The role authenticity plays in earning trust • Why becoming someone you respect changes everything If this episode resonates with you, please follow the podcast, leave a rating and review, and share it with someone who values meaningful conversations. Because no matter what side of the fence you grew up on, we're all more alike than we think. Question of the episode: What's more important to you today...being liked or being respected? ___________ 📲 Follow & leave a 5-star rating on Spotify and Apple Podcasts to support this show.  🎥 Watch full episodes on YouTube: @andrespruell __ For more Middle of the Fence, visit: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/middleofthefence/ [https://www.instagram.com/middleofthefence/] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/p/Middle-of-the-Fence-61572183504501/ [https://www.facebook.com/p/Middle-of-the-Fence-61572183504501/] Website: https://www.middleofthefence.com/ [https://www.middleofthefence.com/]

Why We Judge People So Quickly | Ep. 52

How often do you decide who someone is before they've even finished introducing themselves? Whether it's the way someone dresses, speaks, carries themselves, or the assumptions we make based on appearance, first impressions happen almost instantly. But are they actually accurate? In this episode of Middle of the Fence, Andre Spruell explores the psychology behind first impressions, why our brains are wired to make snap judgments, and how confirmation bias can reinforce beliefs that aren't always true. You'll also learn about the concept of thin slicing—our ability to form opinions within seconds—and why those opinions can sometimes help us... but often hold us back. More importantly, this conversation challenges us to replace assumptions with curiosity and reminds us that meaningful relationships are built by looking beyond what we see at first glance. Whether you're navigating friendships, dating, networking, leadership, or everyday conversations, this episode will encourage you to slow down, ask better questions, and see people more completely. In this episode, we discuss: • Why first impressions happen so quickly • The psychology of confirmation bias • What "thin slicing" really means • Why our brains are wired to judge • How assumptions shape relationships • The importance of curiosity over certainty • Building stronger human connections • Looking beyond appearances If this episode resonates with you, please follow the podcast, leave a rating and review, and share it with someone who values meaningful conversations. Because no matter what side of the fence you grew up on, we're all more alike than we think. ___________ 📲 Follow & leave a 5-star rating on Spotify and Apple Podcasts to support this show.  🎥 Watch full episodes on YouTube: @andrespruell __ For more Middle of the Fence, visit: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/middleofthefence/ [https://www.instagram.com/middleofthefence/] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/p/Middle-of-the-Fence-61572183504501/ [https://www.facebook.com/p/Middle-of-the-Fence-61572183504501/] Website: https://www.middleofthefence.com/ [https://www.middleofthefence.com/]

Can You Love Someone You Disagree With? | Ep. 51

Can you genuinely love someone you disagree with? In this solo episode, Andre explores one of the biggest challenges facing relationships today: maintaining connection with people whose beliefs, values, and perspectives differ from our own. Through personal stories, psychological insights, and reflections from hosting Middle of the Fence, he examines the difference between understanding and agreement, why disagreements often feel personal, and how active listening, empathy, and respectful dialogue can strengthen relationships rather than divide them. If you've ever struggled to navigate differences with family, friends, coworkers, or people you care about, this episode is for you. ___________ 📲 Follow & leave a 5-star rating on Spotify and Apple Podcasts to support this show.  🎥 Watch full episodes on YouTube: @andrespruell __ For more Middle of the Fence, visit: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/middleofthefence/ [https://www.instagram.com/middleofthefence/] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/p/Middle-of-the-Fence-61572183504501/ [https://www.facebook.com/p/Middle-of-the-Fence-61572183504501/] Website: https://www.middleofthefence.com/ [https://www.middleofthefence.com/]

What I've Learned About Belonging After 50 Episodes | Ep. 50

For 50 episodes, Middle of the Fence has explored the spaces between cultures, backgrounds, identities, and life experiences. But what happens when the host reflects on what he's learned from the journey itself? In this milestone episode, Andre looks back on the lessons, conversations, challenges, and personal growth that came from creating the podcast. From growing up between different worlds to navigating identity, loneliness, purpose, and belonging, this episode explores how the meaning of "belonging" has changed over time. Andre shares: • Why he started Middle of the Fence • What 50 conversations taught him about people • The hidden challenges of building something meaningful • The loneliness that often accompanies growth • The pressure of being a bridge between worlds • Why belonging starts with self-acceptance • A message for anyone who feels stuck between worlds Whether you've been listening since Episode 1 or you're discovering the show for the first time, this conversation serves as a reflection on the journey so far and a reminder that no matter where we come from, we're often more alike than we think. Thank you for being part of the first 50 episodes. ___________ 📲 Follow & leave a 5-star rating on Spotify and Apple Podcasts to support this show.  🎥 Watch full episodes on YouTube: @andrespruell __ For more Middle of the Fence, visit: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/middleofthefence/ [https://www.instagram.com/middleofthefence/] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/p/Middle-of-the-Fence-61572183504501/ [https://www.facebook.com/p/Middle-of-the-Fence-61572183504501/] Website: https://www.middleofthefence.com/ [https://www.middleofthefence.com/]

Why the World Cup Means More Than Soccer | Ep. 49

The FIFA World Cup is often viewed as the biggest sporting event in the world. But why does it create such a powerful emotional connection for so many people? In this special World Cup edition of Middle of the Fence, Andre explores how sports can become a gateway to identity, belonging, culture, and heritage. Drawing from his experience growing up Black American and Argentinian, he reflects on how the World Cup helped him connect with his roots and understand the value of embracing multiple identities. Andre also discusses the emotional impact of collective identity, the unifying power of sports across social and economic backgrounds, and why Lionel Messi's journey resonates with so many people around the world. Whether you're a lifelong soccer fan or someone interested in personal growth, identity, and culture, this episode offers a deeper look at what the World Cup reveals about human connection. Question of the episode: What's something from your culture or upbringing that will always be part of who you are? ___________ 📲 Follow & leave a 5-star rating on Spotify and Apple Podcasts to support this show.  🎥 Watch full episodes on YouTube: @andrespruell __ For more Middle of the Fence, visit: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/middleofthefence/ [https://www.instagram.com/middleofthefence/] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/p/Middle-of-the-Fence-61572183504501/ [https://www.facebook.com/p/Middle-of-the-Fence-61572183504501/] Website: https://www.middleofthefence.com/ [https://www.middleofthefence.com/]