NOT THE NARRATIVE with Abi

The Storm Is Not Your Story

This is the final episode of the Walking Through the Valley of the Storm series. For years, I walked through uncertainty, financial pressure, family court battles, fear, grief, and seasons where I genuinely didn't know how things would work out. I thought the goal was simply to survive. What I learned is that the valley wasn't sent to destroy me. It was shaping me. Teaching me. Refining me. In this episode, I share the lessons that carried me through the darkest season of my life: faith, prayer, surrender, financial stewardship, resilience, community, and learning to trust God when I couldn't see the outcome. If you're walking through your own valley right now, I want you to know something: The storm is not your story. Your story is who you're becoming because of it. 🎙️ Listen now and share with someone who needs hope today. If you're navigating separation, divorce, high-conflict co-parenting, financial rebuilding, or simply trying to find your footing again, you don't have to walk through it alone. I offer one-on-one high-conflict divorce support, separation coaching, and peer support based on lived experience. 📩 Connect with me through my Beacons page or send me a DM. Follow @NotTheNarrativeWithAbi on TikTok, Instagram, Beacons and YouTube. The storm isn't my story anymore. The testimony is.

When Mommy Is Still Running The Relationship

What happens when a man grows up but never truly leaves home? In this episode, Abi explores the painful reality many women experience when unhealthy mother-son dynamics begin affecting a romantic relationship. From blurred boundaries and loyalty conflicts to emotional enmeshment and control, she unpacks why some women feel like they're competing for a place that should already belong to them. Using Genesis 2:24 as the foundation, Abi discusses God's design for marriage, the transition from son to husband, and why a man must emotionally leave his family of origin before he can fully unite with his wife. This conversation isn't about hating mothers. It's about boundaries. It's about emotional maturity. It's about breaking unhealthy cycles. And it's about recognizing when you're trying to build a future with someone who never fully separated from their past. 🎙️ Not The Narrative with Abi Because healing begins when we stop accepting dysfunction as normal. Follow @NotTheNarrativeWithAbi on TikTok, Instagram, Beacons and YouTube. 🎙️ DM me for voiceover requests. 💜 DM me for trauma coaching and separation/divorce coaching. 💰 Join my masterclass on breaking free from financial control. 📩 DM me today.

The Mask Slipped When I Left

Nobody tells you this part. The mask doesn't slip while you're still there. It slips the moment they realize you're really leaving. Not threatening to leave. Not taking space. Gone. In this episode I'm talking about what actually happens when you stop reacting. When you choose silence over chaos. When peace becomes more important than being understood. Because the chaos was the connection. And the moment I stopped feeding it — everything changed. If you've ever walked away from something and met a completely different person on the other side of that decision... this episode is for you. In this episode:— Why the mask slips after you leave, not during— How emotional access is a form of control— Why your silence removes their performance stage— The difference between loving someone and needing their reaction— When healing actually begins 🎙️ notthenarrative with AbiFollow the show so you never miss an episode → [Follow on Spotify] Follow me on Instagram and tiktok @notthenarrativewithabiShare this with someone who needs to hear it.

They Thought I Was Crazy

They called you dramatic. Emotional. Difficult. Crazy. But the truth is — you weren't crazy. You were being systematically destabilized by someone who needed to control you because they had no power over themselves. In this episode we are talking about the silent warfare of coercive control — the kind that leaves no bruises but strips away your dignity, your autonomy, and your sense of self. We break down why the most dangerous abusers are never the loud and obvious ones — and why the people closest to you couldn't see what was happening behind closed doors. We also talk about what moving on actually means. Not finding the next love. Not pretending it didn't happen. But reaching the place where they no longer hold a single piece of you. And we close with something major — the Supreme Court of Canada just passed a landmark ruling on May 15th, 2026 recognizing coercive control as a legal basis for survivors to sue for damages. Isolation. Manipulation. Financial abuse. Litigation abuse. All of it finally named in law. This episode is for every woman who has been made to feel like she was the problem. You were always the prize. And the proof is everything he did to keep you. 🎙️ Listen & Follow on Spotify: Not The Narrative with Abi📱 TikTok: @NotTheNarrativewithAbi📸 Instagram: @NotTheNarrativewithAbi▶️ YouTube: @NotTheNarrativewithAbi👥 Facebook: @NotTheNarrativewithAbi

Pain Made Me Pay Attention To Her

There’s a song by Dax called Pain Made Me Pay Attention. When I heard it, I didn’t just listen. I sat in it. Because it wasn’t just music — it felt like a mirror. In this episode I’m getting real with you. Not from the other side of the storm. From the middle of it. I talk about the old version of me that used to sit in meditation and visualize future Abi — strong, stable, unbothered. And how I’m her now… but the path to becoming her looked nothing like I imagined. I talk about choosing growth and peace and healing — and how the people around me responded not with celebration, but with aggression. With judgment. With attempts to pull me back into a version of myself that served them. I talk about a conversation with my therapist that gave me language for something I had been feeling but couldn’t name. I talk about a legal battle I’m still walking through. And I talk about the nights I cry quietly after holding it together all day. This episode is for every woman who has ever been broken and kept going anyway. Who prayed for a better version of herself and didn’t recognize her when she finally arrived. Who has been poked, judged, and kicked by people threatened by her healing. Your pain didn’t come to destroy you. It came to make you pay attention. 🎙️ Not The Narrative with Abi — new episodes every week on Spotify. 📍 Follow & Connect with Abi: 📸 Instagram — Daily reflections, behind the scenes & real talk: @notthenarrativewithAbi 🎵 TikTok — Short form truth, healing moments & episode clips: @notthenarrativewithAbi 🖤 Patreon — Join the Inner Circle for exclusive content, deeper conversations & unfiltered Abi: Inner Circle with Abi 💬 If this episode resonated with you — share it with someone who needs it. Leave a review. And follow so you’re always in the room. Protect your peace. Trust your growth. And never let pain make you forget your purpose.