Out Late With David

Summary   In this conversation with David, LGBTQ+ ally and researcher Kami Hunley-Jackson, who shares her personal journey and research on the coming out process, particularly focusing on the experiences of LGBTQ+ individuals and their families. The former Latter Day Saint is the mother of two LGBTQ+ children and sister to her gay brother. She discusses the challenges faced by families, the impact of religion, and the importance of communication and support systems. Kami emphasizes the need for understanding and acceptance, both for those coming out and their loved ones, and highlights the mental health implications of the coming out journey. The conversation also touches on the evolving nature of religious acceptance and the importance of creating safe spaces for dialogue.   Keywords   coming out, LGBTQ+, acceptance, mental health, family support, religion, communication, research, personal stories, allyship   Takeaways   * Kami's personal experiences with her children and brother shaped her understanding of the coming out process. * The decision between religious beliefs and family acceptance can be a painful conflict for parents. * Supportive communities, like Mama Dragons, provide essential resources for families of LGBTQ+ individuals. * The theater community often offers a more accepting environment for LGBTQ+ individuals. * Kami's research revealed that non-religious individuals tend to communicate better during the coming out process. * Mental health issues, including suicidal ideation, were prevalent among the study participants. * Self-acceptance is a crucial step in the coming out journey, often requiring individuals to confront their identity. * The coming out process is deeply personal and should be respected as such by family members. * Creating a safe space for communication is vital for both the individual coming out and their loved ones. * Religious institutions are evolving, with some becoming more inclusive of LGBTQ+ individuals. Sound Bites   * "I realized that I needed to search my own heart." * "The love of a mother over the situation." * "I acted differently this time around."   Audio Chapters   00:00 Understanding the Importance of Coming Out 02:36 Personal Journeys: Family and Acceptance 05:25 The Role of Religion in Coming Out 08:35 Research Insights: Communication and Relationships 11:13 Mental Health and the Coming Out Process 14:05 Support Systems and Resources 16:48 Advice for Families and Individuals 19:51 Looking Ahead: Future Research Directions   Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com [https://www.outlatewithdavid.com/]   YouTube Edition:   https://youtu.be/jCsPAB9C2aM [https://youtu.be/jCsPAB9C2aM]  YouTube Channel:   https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg]   Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton:  https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com [https://www.davidcottoncoaching.com/]   Contact David:  * mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com * https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqazY4U004NGpVT3Q1SGVhYmxZSUs2a0txdFRHUXxBQ3Jtc0ttOE51VU9CeXRxY3htejdQTHpPbWFYdGkyd2o1dklsZUxYTnhtWUd1T010T2RWSU1famo4a0ctdjdyZldYWUtZcTNRemMzT1hrd2t4OWdyRURBRmxGTlA1ZmNzVXl3Sjd2LVZRUnQ0dGhMNGdoenp3Zw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.DavidCottonCoaching.com%2F&v=HNGYxa-fGt8] * https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbmhiSjNUUkxqbDFNcW80RHNWV1REeF9HdHlyUXxBQ3Jtc0tuRUFmdFhxMmV2Q2tfeThyQmxlLWJQVHdnelFoY3V4TXpXUS15SFFVRG9QRVdsank0enlNOUwzazB2dnh4TDBHTnUwaHM0X3ZoUXMtM3NIOEprektlUzRuUHBkUU1KZUNLQWtRcXVSODJqU2tkc1RBTQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.OutLateWithDavid.com%2F&v=HNGYxa-fGt8] * https://linktr.ee/davidacotton [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbFE5UmRKZHUzM0tsQ0djUW9kVk9RNkFtYWJzUXxBQ3Jtc0tramo3ZnNjSE9raEhvN01pS0xhU0VlZ2l0RnhCNE1yZlo4azJsR1h5aGNJSDllQ0lYUXRFMHpSYVVHM1RzdTlZTnlvcFZ5Q0NZb3RuNkQ3eFVGa01yWHNmaU9aQTJKN0drbjBrTWpqdGJJQkJ1WkRJQQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Flinktr.ee%2Fdavidacotton&v=HNGYxa-fGt8]   © 2025 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved. The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.

Summary   At age 67, Wendy Cole transitioned from male to female after a lifetime of hiding her true identity. In this candid conversation, Wendy shares the emotional cost of repression, her turning point in 2014, and how she found joy, health, and purpose by finally embracing who she is. Now a mentor and advocate, Wendy is helping others navigate their own gender journeys and working to humanize what it means to be transgender.   Keywords   transgender, coming out, identity, support, mental health, community, authenticity, transition, LGBTQ+, personal growth   Takeaways   * Wendy transitioned male to female at age 67. * She felt a lifelong sense of not belonging. * Gender identity is formed in the brain during the second trimester. * Wendy faced significant societal and familial pressure to conform. * She repressed her identity for decades due to fear and shame. * The DSM's classification of LGBTQ+ identities has evolved over time. * Wendy found support and community later in life. * She emphasizes the importance of living authentically. * Wendy's mission is to educate others about transgender experiences. * It's never too late to pursue one's true identity. Sound Bites   * "I was punished for breaking my glasses." * "I was taken to a psychiatrist." * "I was threatened with being committed." * "I couldn't take it anymore." * "I was doing this out of survival." * "I was pretty much on my own." * "I was going to do this for me." * "It's never too late to take charge." Audio Chapters   00:00  Wendy's Journey of Self-Discovery 11:58  The Struggles of Repression and Acceptance 22:15  Transitioning and Finding Community 32:29  Living Authentically and Educating Others   More About Wendy Cole:    * http://meetwendycole.com/ [http://meetwendycole.com/] * https://wendycolegtm.net/category/podcasts/ [https://wendycolegtm.net/category/podcasts/] * Demystifying the Transgender Journey Podcast: https://wendycolegtm.net/episode-001-demystifying-this-podcast/ [https://wendycolegtm.net/episode-001-demystifying-this-podcast/] Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com [https://www.outlatewithdavid.com/]   YouTube Edition:    https://youtu.be/eU5v97dHNIs  [https://youtu.be/eU5v97dHNIs] YouTube Channel:   https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg]   Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton:  https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com [https://www.davidcottoncoaching.com/]   Contact David:  * mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com * https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqazY4U004NGpVT3Q1SGVhYmxZSUs2a0txdFRHUXxBQ3Jtc0ttOE51VU9CeXRxY3htejdQTHpPbWFYdGkyd2o1dklsZUxYTnhtWUd1T010T2RWSU1famo4a0ctdjdyZldYWUtZcTNRemMzT1hrd2t4OWdyRURBRmxGTlA1ZmNzVXl3Sjd2LVZRUnQ0dGhMNGdoenp3Zw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.DavidCottonCoaching.com%2F&v=HNGYxa-fGt8] * https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbmhiSjNUUkxqbDFNcW80RHNWV1REeF9HdHlyUXxBQ3Jtc0tuRUFmdFhxMmV2Q2tfeThyQmxlLWJQVHdnelFoY3V4TXpXUS15SFFVRG9QRVdsank0enlNOUwzazB2dnh4TDBHTnUwaHM0X3ZoUXMtM3NIOEprektlUzRuUHBkUU1KZUNLQWtRcXVSODJqU2tkc1RBTQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.OutLateWithDavid.com%2F&v=HNGYxa-fGt8] * https://linktr.ee/davidacotton [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbFE5UmRKZHUzM0tsQ0djUW9kVk9RNkFtYWJzUXxBQ3Jtc0tramo3ZnNjSE9raEhvN01pS0xhU0VlZ2l0RnhCNE1yZlo4azJsR1h5aGNJSDllQ0lYUXRFMHpSYVVHM1RzdTlZTnlvcFZ5Q0NZb3RuNkQ3eFVGa01yWHNmaU9aQTJKN0drbjBrTWpqdGJJQkJ1WkRJQQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Flinktr.ee%2Fdavidacotton&v=HNGYxa-fGt8]   © 2025 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved. The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.

Thank you to Jon & Brian of Out Loud for allowing me to publish this episode from their podcast. You guys are fantastic! I've been a fan since I first discovered you on YouTube! Keep living your life, OUT LOUD!! Out Loud Podcast with Jon and Brian: * https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/out-loud/id1560962922 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/out-loud/id1560962922] * https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHLEcaJ0RewmS9XyfVa-fww [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHLEcaJ0RewmS9XyfVa-fww] Summary   In this episode of Out Late With David, David Cotton is a guest on the podcast, Out Loud, while visiting Key West FL. Along with the hosts of Out Loud, Jon and Brian, they discuss the complexities of coming out later in life, the importance of community support, and the dynamics of relationships, especially for older gay men. He shares insights from his experiences and those of his guests, emphasizing the need for authenticity, compassion, and understanding in navigating personal journeys and family dynamics. The conversation also touches on the challenges faced by older men in the dating world and offers advice on how to approach relationships with clarity and openness.   Keywords   coming out, LGBTQ, age gap relationships, gay community, life coaching, support, authenticity, family dynamics, relationships, self-discovery   Takeaways   * Coming out later in life can be a complex journey. * Community support is crucial for those coming out. * Navigating family dynamics requires patience and understanding. * Authenticity is key to living a fulfilling life. * Older men face unique challenges in dating. * It's important to communicate clearly in relationships. * Self-acceptance is a vital part of the coming out process. * Compartmentalization can hinder personal growth. * You can maintain relationships even after coming out. * Love can be found unexpectedly, regardless of age. Sound Bites * "Don't rush into coming out." * "I couldn't continue living a lie." * "You have to accept who you are." * "I feel transparent many times." Audio Chapters   00:00  Introduction to Out Late with David 01:06  Coming Out Later in Life 04:05  The Role of Community and Support 07:54  Navigating Relationships and Family Dynamics 12:09  The Impact of Age and Experience 15:54  Living Authentically and Finding Peace 18:45  Advice for Older Men in Dating   Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com [https://www.outlatewithdavid.com/]   YouTube Edition:   https://youtu.be/YOGFb9CWCjw   YouTube Channel:   https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg]   Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton:  https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com [https://www.davidcottoncoaching.com/]   Contact me:  mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com   https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqazY4U004NGpVT3Q1SGVhYmxZSUs2a0txdFRHUXxBQ3Jtc0ttOE51VU9CeXRxY3htejdQTHpPbWFYdGkyd2o1dklsZUxYTnhtWUd1T010T2RWSU1famo4a0ctdjdyZldYWUtZcTNRemMzT1hrd2t4OWdyRURBRmxGTlA1ZmNzVXl3Sjd2LVZRUnQ0dGhMNGdoenp3Zw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.DavidCottonCoaching.com%2F&v=HNGYxa-fGt8] https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbmhiSjNUUkxqbDFNcW80RHNWV1REeF9HdHlyUXxBQ3Jtc0tuRUFmdFhxMmV2Q2tfeThyQmxlLWJQVHdnelFoY3V4TXpXUS15SFFVRG9QRVdsank0enlNOUwzazB2dnh4TDBHTnUwaHM0X3ZoUXMtM3NIOEprektlUzRuUHBkUU1KZUNLQWtRcXVSODJqU2tkc1RBTQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.OutLateWithDavid.com%2F&v=HNGYxa-fGt8] https://linktr.ee/davidacotton [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbFE5UmRKZHUzM0tsQ0djUW9kVk9RNkFtYWJzUXxBQ3Jtc0tramo3ZnNjSE9raEhvN01pS0xhU0VlZ2l0RnhCNE1yZlo4azJsR1h5aGNJSDllQ0lYUXRFMHpSYVVHM1RzdTlZTnlvcFZ5Q0NZb3RuNkQ3eFVGa01yWHNmaU9aQTJKN0drbjBrTWpqdGJJQkJ1WkRJQQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Flinktr.ee%2Fdavidacotton&v=HNGYxa-fGt8] © 2025 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved. The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.

Summary   In this conversation, Wayne Scott shares his journey through a mixed orientation marriage, detailing the challenges and transformations he and his wife faced. They navigated the complexities of identity, love, and commitment, ultimately redefining their relationship through non-monogamy. Wayne emphasizes the importance of communication, patience, and the willingness to adapt as individuals grow over time. His story serves as a testament to the possibility of creating a fulfilling partnership that honors both personal and shared desires.   Keywords   mixed orientation marriage, non-monogamy, relationships, LGBTQ+, marriage advice, communication, love story, personal growth, therapy, bisexuality, coming out, LGBTQ+   Takeaways   * Mixed orientation marriages can thrive without ending in divorce. * Communication is key in navigating relationship challenges. * Non-monogamy can be a viable option for some couples. * Patience is essential when exploring new relationship dynamics. * It's important to redefine what marriage means to you. * Love can persist through difficult transitions in a relationship. * Couples can create their own rules for their relationship. * Support from a therapist can facilitate difficult conversations. * Children can adapt to their parents' non-traditional relationships. * Personal growth is a continuous journey within a marriage. Sound Bites   * "It doesn't always end in divorce." * "A new idea turned his marriage into a love story." * "Your marriage can be whatever you want it to be." * "It's okay to take a couple years to figure it out." * "It can be whatever you want it to be." * "They chose to break the rules and norms of society." Audio Chapters   00:00 Navigating Mixed Orientation Marriages 09:50 The Shift to Non-Monogamy 20:01 Lessons Learned from Non-Traditional Relationships   Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com [https://www.outlatewithdavid.com/]   YouTube Edition:    https://youtu.be/wHFdiTkYoYk  [https://youtu.be/wHFdiTkYoYk]  YouTube Channel:   https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg]   Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton:  https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com [https://www.davidcottoncoaching.com/]   Contact me:  mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com   © 2025 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved. The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.

In this episode of Out Late with David, Stefan Schneider shares his journey of coming out as gay, navigating relationships, and building a modern family. He reflects on the challenges of coming out in the early 90s, the impact of his sexuality on his marriage, and the emotional turmoil of divorce. Through self-discovery and therapy, Stefan learns to embrace his identity and finds happiness in his new life with his husband and blended family. The conversation highlights the importance of authenticity, communication, and the complexities of family dynamics in the LGBTQ+ community.    Takeaways   * Coming out is a complex process that varies for everyone. * The societal context during the early 90s made coming out challenging. * Authenticity in relationships can create both closeness and tension. * Divorce can be a painful but necessary step towards self-acceptance. * Rebuilding relationships with children requires patience and love. * Self-discovery often involves confronting difficult truths about oneself. * Having a clear vision of what you want in a partner can guide your choices. * The journey to happiness is not linear and requires effort. * Childhood experiences can shape one's understanding of identity. * Creating a supportive environment for children is crucial during transitions. Sound Bites   * "I just wanted to fit in and be normal." * "The only way out is through sometimes." * "I always wanted to be a dad." * "I had to sacrifice something of myself." * "I felt like I had split up my family." * "We met on Christian Mingle."   Chapters   00:00 Navigating Identity and Relationships 15:00 The Journey of Self-Discovery 30:00 Building a Blended Family 33:48 Reflections on Happiness and Authenticity   Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com [https://www.outlatewithdavid.com/]   YouTube Edition:  https://youtu.be/YGWJGVhw2s8 [https://youtu.be/YGWJGVhw2s8] YouTube Channel:   https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg]   Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton:  https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com [https://www.davidcottoncoaching.com/]   Contact me:  mailto:david@davidcottoncoaching.com   © 2025 David Cotton Coaching, LLC. All rights reserved. The "Out Late With David" podcast and its content are the property of David Cotton Coaching, LLC. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from David Cotton Coaching, LLC is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to "Out Late With David" and David Cotton Coaching, LLC with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.