Parenting Like a M*ther

When Your Brain Won't Stop Spinning: Breaking Free from Overthinking

Do you ever find yourself replaying conversations, worrying about your child's future, or lying awake wondering if you've missed something important? If so, you're not alone. In this episode of Parenting Like a Mother, I dive into the topic of parental overthinking—not from a "just stop worrying" perspective, but through the lens of psychology, neuroscience, and real-life parenting. We explore why some of the most loving parents are often the ones who overthink the most, and how our brains can mistake worry for preparation. Drawing from both research and my own experiences parenting a child with Type 1 diabetes and a teenager navigating adolescence, I discuss the difference between healthy vigilance and anxiety-driven rumination. We unpack why overthinking feels productive, why it often isn't, and how it can quietly steal us away from the very moments we're trying so hard to protect. In this episode, you'll learn: * Why overthinking is often rooted in love, not weakness * How the brain's negativity bias keeps us scanning for threats * The difference between problem-solving and rumination * Why uncertainty is one of the hardest parts of parenting * Practical strategies to interrupt overthinking cycles * How naming your thoughts can calm your nervous system * The power of "worry windows" and present-moment awareness * What attachment research tells us children actually need from us Most importantly, we'll talk about the truth many parents need to hear: your child does not need a parent who can predict every possible problem. They need a parent who is present, connected, and willing to repair when things don't go perfectly. If you've been carrying the weight of overthinking lately, this episode is a gentle reminder that you can care deeply about your children without carrying every possible future on your shoulders. Because parenting isn't about certainty—it's about showing up, again and again, in the moments that matter most. 🎙️ Listen in and learn how to step off the hamster wheel of worry and reconnect with the life that's happening right in front of you.

It Snuck Out Again: The Real Reason Behind Your Child's Accidents

In this episode, I'm joined by someone I genuinely love collaborating with — Calista Powell, a pelvic floor physiotherapist at Pine Integrated Health Center here in Edmonton. And I'll be honest, before I became a psychologist and before I had kids, I would have assumed that a child having bladder or bowel accidents past a certain age was either a behavioural problem or a parenting problem. I was completely wrong — and this conversation challenged that assumption in the best way. Because what looks like defiance or laziness is almost always something happening in the body. And there is real, effective help available. Calista walks us through what's actually going on physiologically when kids struggle with accidents, why constipation is so much more complicated than most of us realize, and how anxiety and stress can create a cycle in the body that's really hard to break on your own. She also explains exactly what appointments with a pelvic floor physiotherapist actually look like for kids — because I know a lot of parents are nervous about that — and spoiler: it's nothing to be afraid of. I also share some of the ways I approach this in my own psychology practice, including why I always start with a parent session alone, and why shifting our language around accidents can make a huge difference for kids. In this episode, we talk about: * What enuresis and encopresis actually mean — in plain language * When parents should start seeking support (hint: it's earlier than you might think) * Why accidents are almost never intentional or behavioural * The surprisingly powerful connection between constipation and bladder accidents * Why your child can be constipated even if they're going every day * How anxiety and stress tighten the pelvic floor and make everything worse * The dysfunctional evacuation cycle — and why we have to break every part of it * Why laxatives alone only get you about 25% of the way there * What pelvic floor physiotherapy with kids actually looks like (no scary exams) * How to shift your language so kids feel supported instead of blamed One takeaway I hope parents remember These kids are not choosing this. There is always something more complicated going on — in their bodies, their nervous systems, or both. Our job isn't to fix their frustration or rush the process. It's to take the blame out of the equation, get curious about what's actually happening, and get them the right support. Because when we stop asking "why won't they just go?" and start asking "what's getting in the way?" — that's when things start to change. Connect with Calista: Pine Integrated Health Center — Edmonton (Calgary Trail) Holistic Fertility Group — St. Albert Instagram: @lifewithyourpelvicpt [https://www.instagram.com/lifewithyourpelvicpt] Virtual appointments available across Alberta

Raising Resilient Kids Through Sport

In this episode, I talk about something I’m really passionate about — how sports can help our kids build real resilience. But resilience isn’t what many of us think it is. It’s not about pushing through at all costs or never falling apart. In my experience as both a child psychologist and a sports parent, resilience is actually the ability to struggle, take a break when needed, and then try again. Right now our family is deep in gymnastics competition season and wrapping up soccer, so I share some personal stories from our own experiences this year. I talk about watching my daughter return to gymnastics after breaking her arm, and my son navigating a difficult soccer season where his team didn’t win a single game — but still grew tremendously. I also talk about the ways I see parents (often unintentionally) getting in the way of resilience. Things like focusing too much on scores, blaming referees or judges, or trying to fix our kids’ disappointment can actually prevent them from developing the skills they need to handle hard things. Instead, I share some of the ways we try to approach sports in our house — focusing on effort, helping our kids hold two feelings at once (proud and disappointed), and giving them space to process tough moments. Because the goal of youth sports isn’t perfection. It’s helping our kids learn that they can handle hard things. In this episode, I talk about:  • What resilience really is — and what it isn’t  • Why struggle and disappointment are an important part of growth  • How sports can create a safe environment for kids to experience failure  • Why I believe it’s important for kids to feel both proud and disappointed at the same time  • How we talk about winning and losing in our family  • The challenge of different commitment levels on youth sports teams  • The ways I sometimes see parents accidentally undermine resilience  • How we try to focus more on effort and growth instead of outcomes One takeaway I hope parents remember Resilience isn’t about raising kids who never struggle. It’s about raising kids who learn that when things go badly, they can rest, recover, and try again. Our job isn’t to protect our kids from the hard parts of sport — it’s to be there beside them while they figure out how to move through them.

Fifteen Months In: Our Family’s Type 1 Diabetes Journey

In this deeply personal episode, I share what the last 15 months have been like since my youngest was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes. From the initial hospitalization to daily life now, this journey has been filled with grief, growth, resilience, and a constant mental load that few people truly understand. I talk openly about: * The relentless mental math – carb counting, insulin dosing, and the constant calculations that run in the background of every meal, snack, outing, and school day. * The invisible vigilance – checking glucose numbers overnight, sleeping in shifts, responding to alarms, and managing exhaustion while continuing to parent, work, and function. * Mood and behavior changes – how high and low blood sugars directly impact emotional regulation, memory, impulse control, and attitude — and why these shifts are biological, not character flaws. * The emotional toll on the whole family – from grief and fear to the resilience of siblings and the delicate balance of avoiding parentification. * Social challenges – navigating stares, questions, teasing, and the growing self-awareness that comes with being a 9-year-old managing a visible medical condition. * Control, guilt, and advocacy – learning to trust others, setting boundaries around her care, and embracing the role of being “that parent” who checks the numbers — unapologetically. * Food and balance – avoiding rigid restriction, protecting against disordered eating, and ensuring she still gets to be a kid who enjoys birthday cake and Christmas treats. I also share the gratitude — for supportive teachers, incredible coaches, educated grandparents, helpful technology like Loop, and a sibling who has stepped up in beautiful ways. This episode isn’t about strategies. It’s about reality. It’s about the grief of a lifelong diagnosis, the resilience of a child, and the complicated, exhausting, love-filled work of parenting a child with type 1 diabetes. If you’re parenting a child with T1D, you’re not alone. And if you’re not, I hope this gives you a window into what families are quietly carrying every single day.

When You’re Maxed Out: Honoring Your Capacity as a Parent

In this episode, I get real about what it feels like when your mental load is maxed out—and why that doesn’t make you a failure. I share a particularly rough week where workouts were skipped, work piled up, and even simple social interactions felt impossible. Through my own experiences—like a muted podcast recording, managing a full caseload, juggling office logistics, and parenting a child with chronic health needs—I explore the sneaky ways “shoulding” exhausts us and depletes our capacity. I dive into: * The trap of “shoulding” – how the voice in our head that tells us what we “should” be doing can be exhausting, judgmental, and unhelpful. * Capacity vs. character – low tolerance doesn’t mean you’re failing; it’s simply a reflection of your current capacity. * Practical strategies to honor your needs – including identifying non-negotiables vs. negotiables, outsourcing tasks, and building intentional moments of joy and rest. * Why self-care matters for your family – modeling awareness and honoring your own needs teaches your kids to do the same. I also share concrete examples from my weekend reset, like a silent massage, family support in the office, and playful experiences like puppy yoga, showing how small, intentional actions can restore energy and patience. The key takeaway: before judging yourself for low tolerance or feeling overwhelmed, pause and ask: What do I need right now? Giving yourself permission to rest and care for your own needs is not selfish—it’s essential for staying present and resilient in all areas of life.