Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

Why Stillness and Attention are at the Core of Peaceful Relationships

To pay attention, this is our endless and proper work. Mary Oliver PHIL: I’ve been meditating recently and have discovered that when I consciously sit still, it works much better. I’m not talking about making an effort to keep my … Why Stillness and Attention are at the Core of Peaceful Relationships Read More » [https://philandmaude.com/why-stillness-and-attention-are-at-the-core-of-peaceful-relationships/]

How to Stop Playing the Blame Game and Actually Feel Peaceful

MAUDE: I experienced a close friend engaging in the blame game this last week, and it was such a strong experience that it made me want to write about it here. My friend seemed to be walking around drowning in … How to Stop Playing the Blame Game and Actually Feel Peaceful Read More » [https://philandmaude.com/how-to-stop-playing-the-blame-game-and-actually-feel-peaceful/]

How the Play Between Words and Feelings Affects Your Relationships

PHIL: Besides writing with Maude, I also write independently on Substack. Maude is away on a trip for a few weeks, so I want to describe some ideas of mine and explain how they apply to relationships. I’ve been thinking … How the Play Between Words and Feelings Affects Your Relationships Read More » [https://philandmaude.com/how-the-play-between-words-and-feelings-affects-your-relationships/]

The Pleasures and Importance of Shared Experience in Your Relationships

MAUDE: Phil is always saying that “we are a social species, and connection is a deep need we all have.” One of the ways that we achieve this in our various relationships is by sharing our experiences. This generally happens … The Pleasures and Importance of Shared Experience in Your Relationships Read More » [https://philandmaude.com/the-pleasures-and-importance-of-shared-experience-in-your-relationships/]

Are You Emotionally Present in Your Relationships or Just Not There?

MAUDE: Last night, as we were talking about what we want to write a post about, a way of being present came up, and here we are with the post that grew out of that conversation. After an evening jamming … Are You Emotionally Present in Your Relationships or Just Not There? Read More » [https://philandmaude.com/are-you-emotionally-present-in-your-relationships-or-just-not-there/]