Real Honest with Samantha LaBat

Who’s gonna know you like me?

Just be cause we feel like we know someone, doesn't mean they feel like we do. How do we get the context out of our heads and into the conversation? Today I'm unpacking various things that impact our interpretation of what it means to know someone, including generation gaps as explained by Daniel Moral on Silicon Canals. * 00:00 Intro * 01:28 Goals Check-In * 07:36 What I’m Learning from God rn * 12:30 Knowing with Context * 24:55 Generational Gaps * 38:20 Knowing with New Information * 48:39 Hard Conversation of the Week * 51:41 What I’m Watching Right Now Article referenced today: I’m 38 and I noticed last summer that my parents mostly ask about logistics — the drive, the weather, the dogs, the job — and rarely ask how I actually am [https://siliconcanals.com/d-im-38-and-i-noticed-last-summer-that-my-parents-only-ask-about-logistics-the-drive-the-weather-the-dogs-the-job-and-never-about-how-i-actually-am-and-i-realized-id-been-answe/] by Daniel Moran Thanks for listening! Leave me a review if you want—new episodes on Wednesdays at 6 am CT. Questions, comments, concerns, want to chat? Email realhonestpod@gmail.com.

It's just indifference... Part 2, with Cody Beck

It’s been brought to my attention that when I say “I hate small talk, I want to be deep,” some people have interpreted that as “I want to be dark and sad all the time,” which is not at all the case. So I brought on Cody Beck, one of my best friends, to demonstrate what I find to be a deep and interesting discussion. We revisit last week’s topic, indifference, along with the first chapter of How to Know a Person by David Brooks, which also explores this topic. The goal of this conversation is to figure out how we feel about indifference - what does it mean? Is it good? Is it bad? Etc. The point is not for us to arrive at the same conclusion or to agree with each other, but to help each other arrive at a conclusion and understand how we each got to where we land. * 00:00 Intro * 05:10 Recapping last week’s topic of indifference * 11:28 Emotional data points and being known * 17:46 Communication and therapy * 18:49 Is indifference inherently bad? * 23:18 What does indifference actually mean? * 29:50 How to Know a Person by David Brooks * 42:56 When someone assigns a personality trait you disagree with * 57:29 Feeling seen * 01:10:31 How new information changes an opinion Cody Beck is the creator and co-host of American Hauntings Podcast, which is available wherever you listen to podcasts. Learn more here: https://www.codybeck.com/american-hauntings-podcast Thanks for listening! Leave me a review if you want—new episodes on Wednesdays at 6 am CT. Questions, comments, concerns, want to chat? Email realhonestpod@gmail.com.

It isn't love, it isn't hate, it's just indifference

I used to think indifference was a bad thing, but I’m starting to feel like it’s good, maybe even necessary, because it allows space for us to evaluate things, look at the big picture, see clearly, and decide what action to take to create meaningful change. Let's talk about it. * 00:00 Intro * 01:30 Goals Check-In * 09:00 Topic: Indifference * 32:06 Hard Conversation of the Week * 43:09 What I’m Watching Right Now Thanks for listening! Leave me a review if you want—new episodes on Wednesdays at 6 am CT. Questions, comments, concerns, want to chat? Email realhonestpod@gmail.com.

You need to hear me out, and they said speak now

When we speak, we are afraid our words will not be heard or welcomed. But when we are silent, we are still afraid. So it is better to speak. - Audre Lorde * 00:00 Intro * 01:33 Goals Check-In * 05:56 What I’m learning from God rn * 08:24 Topic: Speak Up * 17:42 Hard Conversation of the Week * 28:33 What I’m Watching Right Now Thanks for listening! Leave me a review if you want—new episodes on Wednesdays at 6 am CT. Questions, comments, concerns, want to chat? Email realhonestpod@gmail.com.

Miscommunications lead to fallout

Currently obsessed with Netflix’s new reality series, Age of Attraction, and how it highlights that age gaps don’t break relationships - bad communication does. I am notorious for wanting everyone to read my mind (which, yes, I know is impossible, I never said I was sane) and I will probably be in therapy forever just because I’ll never understand how other people’s brains work, but I’m still trying!! I love my friends soo much and want them to know that and want to be able to communicate it in ways that make them feel loved, and I also want that from them, but sometimes it’s so hard that it doesn’t feel worth the time or energy.  Let’s get into it. * 00:00 Intro * 01:29 What I’m learning from God rn * 04:54 Goals Check-In * 11:33 Topic: Bad Communication Ruins Relationships * 20:58 Hard Conversation of the Week * 28:12 What I’m Watching Right Now Thanks for listening! Leave me a review if you want—new episodes on Wednesdays at 6 am CT. Questions, comments, concerns, want to chat? Email realhonestpod@gmail.com.