Sanity Optional

Hypnosis, Hope, and Importance of Kindness | Sanity Optional | Episode 12

This episode does not have a tidy theme and Alexis is the first to admit it. She starts with some genuinely good news, talks about quitting vaping through hypnosis after two years of trying everything else, and then goes somewhere bigger. She gets into why everyone has become so mean online, why we have lost the ability to have fun, and why the loneliness epidemic is not going to be solved by anyone at the top of the room. She also gets into hope, excitement, community, and why the small choices we make every single day matter more than we think. Timestamps  00:00 Quitting Nicotine: A Personal Journey 03:00 Hypnosis: The Breakthrough Solution 06:40 The Rise of Judgment and Fear 09:50 Social Media’s Impact and Loneliness 13:00 Embracing Imperfection and Connection 17:28 Prioritizing Real-Life Interaction 19:38 Economic Disparity and Lack of Empathy 24:52 Rekindling Hope, Excitement, and Community 29:50 Workplace Fun and Kindness 32:40 The Power of Small Choices and Kindness ABOUT SANITY OPTIONAL Sanity Optional is a podcast about the parts of mental health we usually keep to ourselves. It’s for the moments when your life looks fine on the outside but feels messy underneath. When you’re tired of being told to “do the work.” When you secretly wonder if you’re the only one struggling with something that feels too taboo to say out loud. Hosted by therapist and founder of Rowan Healing, Alexis Ely, this show was created for people who feel like they’re in the other club. The ones who don’t fit the timeline. The ones who have been to the edge of their own mind and made it back. Alexis shares her story, from early trauma and suicidal depression to the perfectionism and addiction that followed, and ultimately the kind of peace she once believed was impossible. She brings clinical experience and lived experience into the same room, without turning healing into a performance or a checklist. This isn’t about becoming a better version of yourself. It’s about feeling at home in your own mind. Welcome to the rabbit hole. Show Links Rowan Healing: https://www.rowanhealing.com/

ChatGPT vs. Therapist: Stop Asking the Computer and Start Asking Each Other | Sanity Optional | Episode 11

Alexis has a bone to pick with ChatGPT. She works through the most googled mental health, sex, and dating questions and makes the case that most of what people are searching for has nothing to do with information; it’s about wanting to know that someone else feels the same way. She also gets into burnout culture, why community has quietly disappeared from modern life, and why the simple act of talking to a stranger might be more healing than anything you will find on a screen. Timestamps 00:00 ChatGPT vs. Therapist 01:36 ChatGPT’s Offense: Therapist to Therapist 04:00 Is What I’m Feeling Normal? 06:56 Coping with Stress: It’s Not That Serious 08:11 Sex Drive and Body Normality 09:37 Feeling Stuck and Burnt Out 12:12 Dating: Why Can’t I Find Someone? 14:31 Funny Questions and Texting Etiquette 16:40 The Fear of Human Connection 17:50 ChatGPT as a Tool, Not a Replacement 21:07 Bringing Back Community and Connection ABOUT SANITY OPTIONAL Sanity Optional is a podcast about the parts of mental health we usually keep to ourselves. It’s for the moments when your life looks fine on the outside but feels messy underneath. When you’re tired of being told to “do the work.” When you secretly wonder if you’re the only one struggling with something that feels too taboo to say out loud. Hosted by therapist and founder of Rowan Healing, Alexis Ely, this show was created for people who feel like they’re in the other club. The ones who don’t fit the timeline. The ones who have been to the edge of their own mind and made it back. Alexis shares her story, from early trauma and suicidal depression to the perfectionism and addiction that followed, and ultimately the kind of peace she once believed was impossible. She brings clinical experience and lived experience into the same room, without turning healing into a performance or a checklist. This isn’t about becoming a better version of yourself. It’s about feeling at home in your own mind. Welcome to the rabbit hole. Show Links Rowan Healing: https://www.rowanhealing.com/

The Sex Episode: Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Body | Sanity Optional | Episode 10

The sex episode is here, and it goes somewhere unexpected. Alexis starts with performance anxiety, orgasmic disorder, and why we are all so weird about sex in America, before pivoting into the conversation she really wanted to have. The one nobody wants to have. She gets into sexual safety, predatory behavior, how to talk to your kids about body safety, and what she learned from the years she spent working with some of the most dangerous people she has ever encountered. She closes with a reminder that whatever happened to you does not leave a mark you cannot heal from, and that you deserve to thrive, not just survive. ABOUT SANITY OPTIONAL Sanity Optional is a podcast about the parts of mental health we usually keep to ourselves. It’s for the moments when your life looks fine on the outside but feels messy underneath. When you’re tired of being told to “do the work.” When you secretly wonder if you’re the only one struggling with something that feels too taboo to say out loud. Hosted by therapist and founder of Rowan Healing, Alexis Ely, this show was created for people who feel like they’re in the other club. The ones who don’t fit the timeline. The ones who have been to the edge of their own mind and made it back. Alexis shares her story, from early trauma and suicidal depression to the perfectionism and addiction that followed, and ultimately the kind of peace she once believed was impossible. She brings clinical experience and lived experience into the same room, without turning healing into a performance or a checklist. This isn’t about becoming a better version of yourself. It’s about feeling at home in your own mind. Welcome to the rabbit hole. Show Links Rowan Healing: https://www.rowanhealing.com/

The Dating Episode: The More You Heal the Better It Gets | Sanity Optional | Episode 9

In this episode, Alexis gets into dating habits, and she does not hold back. She starts with a quick history of how we got here, from property arrangements and goats to situationships and Instagram story surveillance, and makes the case that nobody ever actually taught us how to do any of this. From there she gets into why dating apps are burning everyone out, why meeting in person is worth bringing back, and what it actually means to date with intention instead of just swiping into a void. She also works through a list of the most Googled dating questions out there, from ghosting to breadcrumbing to whether liking someone's story counts as a personality disorder. Timestamps 00:00 The Struggle of Modern Dating 03:36 Life Updates and Celebrations 05:13 Evolution of Dating Habits 11:36 Defining Modern Partnerships 14:14 Dating App Burnout and Honesty 21:58 The Art of In-Person Connections 26:07 Dating with Confidence and Values 31:22 Intentional Dating and Self-Worth 35:00 Become the Person You Want to Date 37:13 Exclusivity, Standards, and Pace 39:59 Handling Rejection and Commitment 43:19 Signs of Wasted Time 43:38 When You Like Someone More 44:14 Decoding Vague Communication 45:54 Emotional Avoidance vs. ADHD 48:00 Why You Become Irresistible 49:12 Dealing with Non-Committal Behavior 50:29 Avoiding Breadcrumbing and Unresolved Trauma 52:17 Attracting Emotionally Unavailable Partners 54:51 Healing Makes Dating Better   ABOUT SANITY OPTIONAL Sanity Optional is a podcast about the parts of mental health we usually keep to ourselves. It’s for the moments when your life looks fine on the outside but feels messy underneath. When you’re tired of being told to “do the work.” When you secretly wonder if you’re the only one struggling with something that feels too taboo to say out loud. Hosted by therapist and founder of Rowan Healing, Alexis Ely, this show was created for people who feel like they’re in the other club. The ones who don’t fit the timeline. The ones who have been to the edge of their own mind and made it back. Alexis shares her story, from early trauma and suicidal depression to the perfectionism and addiction that followed, and ultimately the kind of peace she once believed was impossible. She brings clinical experience and lived experience into the same room, without turning healing into a performance or a checklist. This isn’t about becoming a better version of yourself. It’s about feeling at home in your own mind. Welcome to the rabbit hole. Show Links Rowan Healing: https://www.rowanhealing.com/

The Women's Episode: As I Am, I Am Enough | Sanity Optional | Episode 8

The Women's Episode is finally here. Alexis comes in with a lot of coffee and a lot to say about the generation of women she sees behind closed doors every week. Women who are running companies, raising kids, doing everything right, and still standing in the mirror telling themselves it is not enough. She gets into where that perfectionism comes from, why so many women have repressed rage they have never been given permission to feel, and what it actually looks like to stop letting the world evaluate you and start evaluating yourself. She also gets into shadow work, the rules of your kingdom, the pizza order, and why she is officially retiring the word boundaries. Timestamps 00:00 Introduction & Allyship Statement 03:18 The Pressure of Perfectionism 06:26 Historical Conditioning and Emotional Intelligence 12:28 Constant Evaluation & Generational Trauma 22:08 Healing Perfectionism with Shadow Work 31:52 Trusting Yourself & Releasing Repressed Anger 38:58 Queen Bitch Energy & Kingdom Rules 43:48 Metamorphosis Moment: Redefining Identity 47:32 Dating: The Pizza Order & Merging Kingdoms 53:49 Honest Dating: Beyond Trophies and Fear 57:34 Confidence and Self-Belief   ABOUT SANITY OPTIONAL Sanity Optional is a podcast about the parts of mental health we usually keep to ourselves. It’s for the moments when your life looks fine on the outside but feels messy underneath. When you’re tired of being told to “do the work.” When you secretly wonder if you’re the only one struggling with something that feels too taboo to say out loud. Hosted by therapist and founder of Rowan Healing, Alexis Ely, this show was created for people who feel like they’re in the other club. The ones who don’t fit the timeline. The ones who have been to the edge of their own mind and made it back. Alexis shares her story, from early trauma and suicidal depression to the perfectionism and addiction that followed, and ultimately the kind of peace she once believed was impossible. She brings clinical experience and lived experience into the same room, without turning healing into a performance or a checklist. This isn’t about becoming a better version of yourself. It’s about feeling at home in your own mind. Welcome to the rabbit hole. Show Links Rowan Healing: https://www.rowanhealing.com/