Self Detective Club

Brushes With Death

We have a process when it comes to death. We call it grieving. But there's not much going on, ritualistically speaking, when death brushes past us. In this episode we will be staying with these reminders, these close shaves. We have instances from poems, songs and prose. While Simon, your host, will also be sharing his own lived experience cheats, inspired by Maggie O'Farrell's non-fiction book I Am I Am I Am [https://stargazer-online.com/2021/05/09/book-review-i-am-i-am-i-am-by-maggie-ofarrell/]. Here are some more show notes, starting with: Ten Meter Tower | A Short Film by Maximilien van Aertryck and Axel Danielson [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cU2AvkKA4kM&list=PLxJM6wxYtlwkk6HKvUI6dr_0-HY9P8SuN&index=29] A TIMELINE OF IRA ATTACKS IN LONDON [https://www.londonmuseum.org.uk/collections/london-stories/timeline-ira-attacks-london/] Freud's Concepts of Thanatos and Eros [https://www.verywellmind.com/life-and-death-instincts-2795847] Fortune Presents Gifts Not According to the Book [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zkRwbjNlyXA] Joe Henry's Ohio Plane Crash [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jb1CIS9kDPk] Bongwater's Great Radio [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-iPF-lr0O5c] Smog's Lazy Rain [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0YecBIh-1jA] Dr Alimantado's Born for a Purpose/reason for Living [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pzmMeciGbbo] Neko Case's Tightly [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qlrxJCAFGaU] Andrew Bird's Fake Palindromes [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6NIiWU9d1KI] Courtney Barnett's Avant Gardener [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bcnIhzaDTd0] And, and, and... it would a great remiss if we didn't flag up the importance of burping kombucha. [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LC7_acN9Zts] BTW - If you are interested in the logo of this episode, it comes from a medieval movement called Danse Macabre [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Danse_Macabre] (Mystery Bonus Track) [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hWiyAGbQwKE]

May Wellness Calendar [Our Internal World]

How much of our internal world do we understand? Our thinking, feeling, actions? Our senses, hormones, nervous system? Would it be useful to delve into this world for the sake of our wellbeing? If so, listen up. Here's some show notes: The B [https://profilebooks.com/wp-content/uploads/wpallimport/files/PDFs/9781781251300_preview.pdf]ook of Human Emotions [https://profilebooks.com/wp-content/uploads/wpallimport/files/PDFs/9781781251300_preview.pdf] The Action Cycle (aka The Gestalt Cycle) [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GZyF0JsyreM] Bad Faith [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xxrmOHJQRSs] Defence mechanisms [https://drive.google.com/file/d/1ucBL4JVkOssmY0WFMQTW55AEj-4LFp3n/view?usp=share_link] Polyvagal Theory [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0zrlKLgnov4] NLP: changing bad memories [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4W_4p39xFzE]

Body Talk (Parts 1 + 2)

If the body expresses what the mind represses then we're going to need some somatic knowledge to help us out. In this episode Louise shares her lived-experience as well as her professional wisdom when it comes to healing, regulating, and generally being at one with our bodies. She's full of ideas, interventions and challenges. Enjoy. Here's some links to go with this episode... Top Ten Somatic Exercises [https://drive.google.com/file/d/1YlvcqnHPD2SXDAXbHDjWgWeuYrURlf8I/view?usp=share_link] Grounding Techniques [https://drive.google.com/file/d/189516TD25U26xNWM8IxCpi8wuulVXGKu/view?usp=share_link] Brain development and the alarm system [https://drive.google.com/file/d/1oFJE4OAyjiRiJHs9TLTpBefQ0aFh_aKk/view?usp=share_link] Nervous system/polyvagal theory [https://drive.google.com/file/d/1rPGwcHauQiAcFx0eXiTeRxiDvr8TXhv3/view?usp=share_link] Self regulation/Co-regulation [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UD9m5n-ZpB0] Mirror neurons [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tq1-ZxV9Dc4] Vooing [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eXz9b9dD00I] Peter Levine (1) [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n1bPdbBF1Ck] Peter Levine (2) [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DjKfLoHqCAc] Body Doubling [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ni9biXNDZe0]

April Wellness Calendar [Relationships]

Isn’t just about everything we do based around relationships in some way or other? Aren’t relationships the source of 99.9% of all our happiness and 99.9% of all our distress?  In today's episode we are going to explore themes such as games people play, attachments, love, as well as substitutes of love. Here are some show notes that follow up on some of these themes... Games people play https://xabierlopez.co.uk/a-classification-of-games-people-play/ [https://xabierlopez.co.uk/a-classification-of-games-people-play/] A strange situation https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DRejV6f-Y3c [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DRejV6f-Y3c] The elephant in the room https://www.nyc.gov/assets/olr/downloads/pdf/wellness/elephantintheroom-poembyterrykettering.pdf Harlow's monkeys https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OrNBEhzjg8I Mental Load https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/

Exercises That Bypass The Brain

It's all very well having a cognitive self. But if we want to work out stuff that isn't so easy to pin-point or find answers to, then we'll likely need a wider approach. Welcome to the world of creativity - as a means of tapping into our unconscious self. Welcome to the idea that when we are actively expressive we are less dominated by our neocortex and more open to accessing more aspects of ourselves. In this session you'll be invited to undertake 10 relatively simple tasks. With time and space, alongside pens, pencils and 10 sheets of paper, let's have an experience and see where it takes us.