Shared Frequencies and the Space Between

EP23 - The One About Selfcare

Episode 23 – The One About Self-Care In this open and wide-ranging episode, El and Don sit down to talk about what self-care really looks like in their day-to-day lives. From haircut philosophies and mental reset showers to routines, red meat, running, and emotional bandwidth, the conversation weaves through the deeply personal and the totally relatable. They explore how neurodivergence influences their approach to self-care, how energy levels and external expectations shape their routines, and how the lines between self-care, self-preservation, and survival sometimes blur. 🔹 Why a haircut can mean more than just a trim 🔹 Showering, task avoidance, and mental resets 🔹 How routine makes self-care possible 🔹 Listening to your body vs. pushing through 🔹 Sex, books, exercise, and the things that keep us grounded Thoughtful, honest, and sometimes very funny, this episode is a reminder that self-care looks different for everyone — and that figuring it out is a lifelong work in progress. Keywords: self-care, neurodivergence, routines, emotional bandwidth, mental health, ADHD, masking, honest conversation, friendship podcast, shared experience

EP22 - Dead Serious(ish)

Episode 22 – Dead Serious(ish) In this deeply reflective and unexpectedly wide-ranging episode, El and Don start with grief, loss, and anniversaries, but quickly find themselves unpacking far more. From running a 5K on a difficult day to navigating the emotional weight of family estrangement, breakups, and furniture that carries forgotten dreams, they explore how grief shows up in unexpected ways. The conversation touches on masking, inherited stoicism, societal expectations, and the discomfort of public or "manufactured" grieving. 🔹 Why anniversaries hit differently each year 🔹 Grieving people, futures, relationships, and decisions 🔹 The difference between being the oldest and feeling responsible 🔹 Poppies, public mourning, and social media pressure 🔹 Masking emotions even from ourselves This is an episode about the grief we talk about and the grief we don't, and how learning to feel it fully is part of living well. Keywords: grief, emotional masking, loss, anniversaries, neurodivergence, family dynamics, social media grief, breakups, honest conversation, shared experience

EP21 - Living Well, Ageing Weird

Episode 21 - Living Well, Ageing Weird!In a delightfully meandering episode full of synchronicities and side quests, El and Don unpack the recent glitches in their matrix: strange coincidences, shared brainwaves, and the bizarre ways the universe seems to line things up. What starts with a few “did that just happen?” moments turns into a bigger conversation about belief, folklore, myth, science, religion, and how the space between all of it might just hold more than we know. From Nessie sightings and Kelpies to energy, afterlife, and teleporting blue glasses, this one travels far and wide with a familiar dose of humour, wonder, and the comfort of shared weirdness. 🔹 Glitches, synchronicities, and shared sentences 🔹 The myth and mystery of Loch Ness, Kelpies, and fairy folklore 🔹 Science, belief, and the blurry line between them 🔹 Living well, ageing weird, and questioning everything 🔹 Why some things don’t need proof to feel real Curious, nostalgic, and filled with tangents, this is the kind of episode where you never know where you’ll end up, but you’re glad you came along for the ride. Keywords: belief systems, folklore, synchronicity, shared experience, neurodivergence, Scottish myths, friendship podcast, honest conversation, science vs spirituality

EP20 - One Pavement, Two Paths

Episode 20 – One Pavement – Two Paths In this powerful and vulnerable episode, El and Don explore how differently men and women navigate the world—often walking the same streets but living very different experiences. They unpack what safety really means, how social conditioning and lived realities shape their movements through public and private spaces, and how power, perception, and gendered expectations can play out in everyday interactions. Drawing on personal stories—some unsettling, some infuriating—they offer space for reflection, honesty, and the call to do better. 🔹 Being safe vs. feeling safe 🔹 Navigating gendered space and social cues 🔹 Two real-life accounts of boundary violations 🔹 Why “good guys” still need to be aware 🔹 How empathy, self-awareness, and conversation can shift things An important episode that highlights the gap between intention and impact—and the value of listening, believing, and showing up differently. Keywords: gendered experiences, safety, street harassment, allyship, lived experience, boundaries, neurodivergence, honest conversation, friendship podcast, emotional labour

EP19 - Still Catching Up

Episode 19 – Still Catching Up In their second catch-up after an unintentional hiatus, El and Don reflect on life lately—from university rejection and time perception to memory quirks, energetic dips, and the emotional impact of furniture and routines. They navigate frustrations around the barriers faced by mature students, share vulnerable moments from recent weeks, and laugh through stories of memory lapses, karaoke machines, and Denmark trips. The conversation is loose and wide-ranging—true to its title—but full of heart and insight. 🔹 The emotional toll of rejection—and asking for help 🔹 Time, memory, and why everything feels like a blur 🔹 Navigating burnout, routines, and reconnection 🔹 Small joys: side quests, song references, and shared sofas 🔹 Big topics brewing: boundaries, discomfort, and future episodes Spontaneous, reflective, and full of that familiar blend of honesty and humour. An episode that lingers in the in-between, where life really happens. Keywords: friendship podcast, neurodivergence, mature student life, burnout, memory, routines, life transitions, honest conversation, boundaries, emotional check-in