The Feminine Duality

Not Everything Is Yours (Why You Feel Responsible for Everything)

Not everything on your to-do list actually belongs to you. And you have far fewer non-negotiable responsibilities than you think. You who feel overwhelmed, I want to reassure you that you are not bad at planning, or at handling life. You’re overwhelmed because you are carrying things that aren’t yours, and keep getting more. Today I break down how to handle the to-do list items you can’t get away from, and show you how to start to question your absorbed responsibilities and why you do everything for everyone.  Join my email list: https://preview.mailerlite.io/forms/1853624/173937513812985473/share [https://preview.mailerlite.io/forms/1853624/173937513812985473/share] Watch ParentXP: https://www.youtube.com/parentxp [https://www.youtube.com/parentxp] Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thefeminineduality [https://www.instagram.com/thefeminineduality] In this episode of the nervous system friendly planning series I help you understand what kind of responsibilities you’re dealing with, and why you relate to them the way you do. From the non-negotiable items on your to-do list, your structural obligations like work, school, home, bills etc, to the many, many responsibilities you have absorbed through your good girl conditioning and the real fears that are keeping you taking on more than your fair share.  * why everything feels like your responsibility * what is actually non-negotiable (and what isn’t) * why you keep picking up more than your share * how to manage the responsibilities you can’t avoid * fear of conflict * fear of being seen as selfish * fear of letting people down * safety patterns / learned behaviour The Feminine Duality is a podcast for midlife women who know this new chapter of life has so much more to offer; if they could only stop feeling so overwhelmed, burnt out, dispassionate and fed up. Here we talk all things burnout, nervous system friendly time management, perimenopause, and midlife self image. Follow or subscribe to the podcast for more episodes. Topics:  overwhelmed woman mental load burnout in women emotional labour responsibility overload time management for busy women nervous system regulation midlife overwhelm boundaries and responsibility To-do list Ta-da list Get-to list Absorbed responsibilities Non-negotiable responsibilities Music: Built From Broken Things by Alana Jordan (Pixabay) https://pixabay.com/users/alanajordan-25247407/ [https://pixabay.com/users/alanajordan-25247407/]

Why You Feel Overwhelmed Even When You Do Everything Right

You’re doing everything right… So why do you still feel overwhelmed? Here we unpack the real problem: you’re expected to be consistent, but your capacity isn’t, and you’re the one absorbing that gap. In today’s episode: * why doing everything “right” still leaves you overwhelmed * how expectations stay fixed while your capacity doesn’t * why “enough” never seems to land * what you’re really absorbing when you try to keep up And the uncomfortable truth: something has to give Related Episodes: * Episode 6 - Lazy vs Overloaded: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2CgjOORpFFOXKpjbNLuaLA?si=bw7XiolOQi-mEDiAWxFfxA [https://open.spotify.com/episode/2CgjOORpFFOXKpjbNLuaLA?si=bw7XiolOQi-mEDiAWxFfxA]  * Episode 7 - You’re Playing A Game You Never Agreed To: https://youtu.be/2QbZD0df0i4 [https://youtu.be/2QbZD0df0i4]  * Episode 8: Planning Isn’t The Problem: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/planning-isnt-the-problem-you-are-not-in-the-plan/id1864355070?i=1000757642250&itscg=30200&itsct=podcast_box&ls=1&mttnsubad=1000757642250 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/planning-isnt-the-problem-you-are-not-in-the-plan/id1864355070?i=1000757642250&itscg=30200&itsct=podcast_box&ls=1&mttnsubad=1000757642250] Sign up for the free Burnout Reset mini course here: subscribepage.io/4aTwMe [http://subscribepage.io/4aTwMe]  For 50% off WildMint Cosmetics go to: https://www.wildmintcosmetics.com/TOVA44475 [https://www.wildmintcosmetics.com/TOVA44475] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thefeminineduality [https://www.intsgram.com/thefeminineduality] ParentXP: http://www.youtube.com/parentxp If you want to work with me directly, email me on tova@thefeminineduality.com [tova@thefeminineduality.com] and we will set up a video call to talk about everything that overwhelms you and I will help you see through that and uncover the one thing that will be the biggest game changer for you right now. In the next episode, we’ll break down the three buckets of responsibility — and how to stop them working against you, so make sure you subscribe or follow so you don’t miss when it drops. The Feminine Duality is a podcast for midlife women who know this new chapter of life has so much more to offer; if they could only stop feeling so overwhelmed, burnt out, dispassionate and fed up. Here we talk all things burnout, nervous system friendly time management, perimenopause, and midlife self image. Follow or subscribe to the podcast for more episodes. Topics: burnout and overwhelm, inconsistent energy, why you feel overwhelmed, productivity burnout, nervous system regulation, midlife burnout, perimenopause energy levels, mental load women, emotional labour, capacity vs expectations, why you can’t keep up, realistic productivity for women, burnout recovery, time management for overwhelmed women Music: Built From Broken Things by Alana Jordan (Pixabay) https://pixabay.com/users/alanajordan-25247407/ [https://pixabay.com/users/alanajordan-25247407/]

Perimenopause Periods - Is This Normal?

How many of you have googled perimenopause periods to try and find out what is normal? Join my email list: https://preview.mailerlite.io/forms/1853624/173937513812985473/share [https://preview.mailerlite.io/forms/1853624/173937513812985473/share] Watch ParentXP: https://www.youtube.com/parentxp [https://www.youtube.com/parentxp] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thefeminineduality [https://www.instagram.com/thefeminineduality] In this episode I break down what’s actually normal when your periods go completely off-script in perimenopause. What can you expect from your menstrual cycle as you enter perimenopause? Is heavy bleeding normal? When will my periods stop? Does PMS get worse in midlife? Will HRT delay menopause? I attempt to answer all of these questions and I share what my personal experience of periods in perimenopause has been over the last five years. Spoiler; my periods have been all over the place. The Feminine Duality is a podcast for midlife women who know this new chapter of life has so much more to offer; if they could only stop feeling so overwhelmed, burnt out, dispassionate and fed up. Here we talk all things burnout, nervous system friendly time management, perimenopause, and midlife self image. Follow or subscribe to the podcast for more episodes. Topics: perimenopause periods, perimenopause shift, PMS in perimenopause, is heavy bleeding normal, when will my periods stop, what is the age of menopause, perimenopause symptoms, irregular periods perimenopause, short cycle perimenopause, frequent periods perimenopause, heavy bleeding perimenopause, perimenopause cycle length changes, perimenopause hormone changes, HRT and periods, does HRT affect periods, when do periods stop perimenopause, menopause age UK, perimenopause brain fog, perimenopause mood swings, perimenopause fatigue, midlife hormones, women’s health midlife Music: Built From Broken Things by Alana Jordan (Pixabay) https://pixabay.com/users/alanajordan-25247407/ [https://pixabay.com/users/alanajordan-25247407/]

The Female Friend Group Support Network,

The Female Friend Group Support Network, this unspoken agreement where we simply have each other’s backs. For a chance to win a free 1:1 Clarity Intervention Session, sign up here: https://tinyurl.com/FemDual [https://tinyurl.com/FemDual] https://www.wildmintcosmetics.com/TOVA44475 [https://www.wildmintcosmetics.com/TOVA44475] The Burnout Reset subscribepage.io/4aTwMe [http://subscribepage.io/4aTwMe] In today’s episode  I am talking straight from my heart about the women’s friend group support network that we have around us. The women who are there, through good times but especially the bad. I am once again in hospital with my complex needs daughter and that always highlights these friendships to me. From the friend calling to check in, to the one who shows up in the hospital room with a box of chicken and jollof. We who are there with coffee and willing to hold space while you say the bad thing so you can go back to being the good mum.  The Feminine Duality is a podcast for midlife women who know this new chapter of life has so much more to offer; if they could only stop feeling so overwhelmed, burnt out, dispassionate and fed up. Here we talk all things burnout, nervous system friendly time management, perimenopause, and midlife self image. Follow or subscribe to the podcast for more episodes. Topics: time management for overwhelmed women, how to manage mental load, burnout and overwhelm help, boundaries and responsibility, midlife burnout support, overwhelmed mum life, women friend groups, friend support network Music: Built From Broken Things by Alana Jordan (Pixabay) https://pixabay.com/users/alanajordan-25247407/ [https://pixabay.com/users/alanajordan-25247407/]

Planning isn't the problem. You are not in the plan.

Planning isn't the problem. You are not in the plan.  Your planning system should free you. It's not there to make you feel controlled and like a failure. For a chance to win a free 1:1 Clarity Intervention Session, sign up here: https://tinyurl.com/FemDual [https://tinyurl.com/FemDual] In today’s episode  we are going to take a really good look at your to-do list and introduce the concept of a ta-da list and a get-to list, because I want you to leave this episode with permission to put yourself on your to-do list. We're going to cover a lot of practical elements of nervous system friendly planning, and at the end you will find out how you can win a 1:1 session with me. The Feminine Duality is a podcast for midlife women who know this new chapter of life has so much more to offer; if they could only stop feeling so overwhelmed, burnt out, dispassionate and fed up. Here we talk all things burnout, nervous system friendly time management, perimenopause, and midlife self image. Follow or subscribe to the podcast for more episodes.If you want to work with me directly, email me on tova@thefeminineduality.com [tova@thefeminineduality.com]  Topics: time management for overwhelmed women, how to manage mental load, nervous system friendly productivity, realistic productivity for busy women, burnout and overwhelm help, perimenopause fatigue and productivity, reclaiming your time and energy, boundaries and responsibility, midlife burnout support, overwhelmed mum life, working mum burnout, cognitive load women, to-do list, ta-da list, get-to list, bullet journal, what is a bullet journal, how to use a bullet journal to manage energy, planning as a support system Music: Built From Broken Things by Alana Jordan (Pixabay) https://pixabay.com/users/alanajordan-25247407/ [https://pixabay.com/users/alanajordan-25247407/]