The Gentle Village

Gentle Village #018 - Martyr Addiction And The Art Of Saying 'No'

Topics we explore: * The martyr / rescuer / compulsive pleaser * What is healthy and even selfish generosity? * Working with and integrating the inner critic Jamie's stuff: Jamie’s opening the doors to Bring It! - his teacher (preacher) training for facilitators, leaders, coaches and clowns. If you’re ready to bring your unique gifts to the world with lightness and playfulness, while making some lifelong friends along the way, then maybe it’s for you - https://workshops.jamiecatto.com/bring-it-course And the link to Bristol Transforming Shadows weekend: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/jamie-cattos-transforming-shadows-two-day-workshop-live-in-bristol-tickets-1981798086425 Neil's stuff: Neil will be runing a new 'Building Secure Attachments' course in April: https://www.positively-mindful.com/building-secure-attachments.html All of Neil's offerings: https://linktr.ee/Neilmorbs

Gentle Village #017 - The Selfish Case for Generosity

What do you do when you wake up feeling blue… but life still expects you to show up strong? In this episode of The Gentle Village, we explore the emotional reality of low mornings, the vulnerability of receiving negative feedback (including a juicy barrister story), and the subtle ways relationships either help us grow… or slowly shrink us. We unpack the power of appreciation as a green flag, the warning signs of yellow and red flags in relating, and what it really means to champion each other rather than compete, criticise, or withdraw. We also talk about emotional safety — the kind where you can express your truth without fear — and why generosity isn’t just “nice”… it’s actually one of the most selfishly beneficial things we can practise. Because when one person feels safer, more supported, and more seen… it creates a ripple effect far beyond the relationship itself. OUR OFFERINGS: Neil offers coaching and counselling, plus his incredible relationship 12 week course (also for single people) : https://www.positively-mindful.com/building-secure-attachments.html [https://www.positively-mindful.com/building-secure-attachments.html] If you want more spicy and playful offerings (like '') then visit: https://playful-desires.co.uk/ [https://playful-desires.co.uk/] Jamie's work is found here: https://www.jamiecatto.com/ [https://www.jamiecatto.com/ ]

Gentle Village #016 - Power, Privilege and Kinky Religions

Jamie and Neil discuss the nature of god as the sadist in the sky which leads us into explorations of power, privilege and exploring our choice vs vulnerability . We sit in some challenging questions about rescuing, victim and perpetrator narratives. As always we try to be in the question instead of knowing all the answers and we would love to hear your feedback. Links: Wheel of Power [https://www.positively-mindful.com/blog/putting-intersectionality-into-daily-practice] Ram Dass - How Can I Help? [https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/95713.How_Can_I_Help_] Moral Ambition by Rutger Bregman [https://www.moralambition.org/book] Games People Play -- Eric Berne [https://www.butler-bowdon.com/eric-berne---games-people-play.html] Adam Lane Smith - Attachment [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_uvwh9x_MQ0] Come and work /play with us: Jamie will be offering his world renowned 'Game Changer; course very soon - find our more and sign up here: ⁠https://www.jamiecatto.com/gamechanger⁠ [https://workshops.jamiecatto.com/gamechanger] Neil offers coaching and counselling, plus his incredible relationship workshop (also for single people) - '⁠Building Secure Attachments⁠ [https://www.positively-mindful.com/building-secure-attachments.html]', here: ⁠https://www.positively-mindful.com/⁠ [https://www.positively-mindful.com/] If you want more spicy and playful offerings (like '⁠Caring Kink⁠ [https://playful-desires.co.uk/experiences-and-workshops]') then visit: ⁠https://playful-desires.co.uk/⁠ [https://playful-desires.co.uk/]

Gentle Village #015 - Sex anxiety, porn, AI sex robots and other obstacles to intimacy

Jamie and Neil discuss issues around sex, pornography and performance anxiety - how can we be with these in relationship in the modern era, especially with the advent of AI? Offerings Jamie will be offering his world renowned course very soon - find our more and sign up here: Neil offers coaching and counselling, plus his incredible relationship workshop (also for single people): https://www.positively-mindful.com/ [https://www.positively-mindful.com/] If you want more spicy and playful offerings then visit: https://playful-desires.co.uk/ [https://playful-desires.co.uk/]

Gentle Village #014 - Could feeling unworthy of your relationship become your kink?

Jamie and Neil discussed personal relationships and our feelings of unworthiness. When we reflect on our own and others' flaws can we reveal and play with our shadow aspects? How can we use games and kink to make this fun, arousing and connecting? We discuss the impact of childhood experiences and parental influences on developing beliefs about oneself. If we are able to focus on the positive aspects of trauma can it lead to personal growth, connection and even juiciness!? Offerings Jamie will be offering his world renowned 'Game Changer' [https://workshops.jamiecatto.com/]course very soon - find our more and sign up here: https://www.jamiecatto.com/gamechanger [https://workshops.jamiecatto.com/gamechanger] Neil offers coaching and counselling, plus his incredible relationship workshop (also for single people) - 'Building Secure Attachments [https://www.positively-mindful.com/building-secure-attachments.html]', here: https://www.positively-mindful.com/ [https://www.positively-mindful.com/] If you want more spicy and playful offerings (like 'Caring Kink [https://playful-desires.co.uk/experiences-and-workshops]') then visit: https://playful-desires.co.uk/ [https://playful-desires.co.uk/]