The Good Daughter Podcast

009 Having the Courage to Make Changes

We’re getting a different perspective today, and I’m interviewing none other than my husband, Mike Good. Born and raised in California, Mike is the epitome of what the world sees as a privileged, white male person.   We talk about Mike’s perception of immigrant families such as mine, and how he gained awareness of the issues and challenges that first-generation Americans might be facing. We dig into our own cultural differences, the differences between certain parts of the US in the level of welcoming immigrants, as well as how it is for him as a father raising two biracial daughters.  At the end, after a round of sports celebrity comments, Mike reveals a couple of secrets to a happy marriage.  What You’ll Learn:  * Surprising and challenging cultural differences Mike found when he met me and my family * When Mike started learning about the struggles of third culture kids  * What’s most important to him as a father of two biracial kids * How welcome the immigrants are made to feel in the US  * Mike’s take on why Gen Z’s hate Millennials  * All you need to know this Monday on Messi, Ronaldo, Premier League, World Cup and Tiger Woods  * Mike’s three keys to a happy marriage  Resources:  * Follow me on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/thegooddaughterpodcast [https://www.instagram.com/thegooddaughterpodcast/]/ * Follow me on TikTok at https://www.tiktok.com/@gooddaughterpod [https://www.tiktok.com/@gooddaughterpod]  * Want to be on an episode and talk about your experiences? Email me at misha@thegoodvida.com [misha@thegoodvida.com]

008 Punishment Outweighs the Crime

In immigrant families, there are often a lot of rules. And where there are rules, there are also consequences for not following the rules and not staying in line. For me, that meant a lot of sneaking around so that I could do the things I wanted to do, but it also meant getting caught quite a few times and being punished for not being the 'good daughter.'  But despite the difficulty that I had, I never ever considered leaving home and being estranged from my family. But unfortunately, estrangement is on the rise in immigrant families. So in this episode, we're going to discuss what happens when immigrant families go through estrangement, as well as some of the causes for estrangement. What You’ll Learn:  * Why there are so many rules in immigrant families and why breaking them is perceived as a crime * How parents see their roles in immigrant families and how it’s different from the Western view of parenting  * What kind of situations and events can lead to estrangement within a family * Some examples of estrangement in immigrant families and its causes * How to reduce the risk of estrangement Resources:  * Follow me on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/thegooddaughterpodcast [https://www.instagram.com/thegooddaughterpodcast/]/ * Follow me on TikTok at https://www.tiktok.com/@gooddaughterpod [https://www.tiktok.com/@gooddaughterpod]  * Want to be on an episode and talk about your experiences? Email me at misha@thegoodvida.com [misha@thegoodvida.com]

007 Being a "Good Daugther" vs Your Secret Life

There is a saying that no siblings have the same parents. Children from the same family, living under the same roof, can have completely different experiences growing up. With the children of immigrant parents, the situation gets even more complex, as there are cultural expectations on top of the common growing pains.  On today’s episode, I’m joined by my two sisters Iqra and Sanna, and we chat about our experiences of being or not being the ‘good daughters’ in our childhood and teenage years. We talk about how our parents related to each of us, the age gap between us, how we dealt with expectations, what our tactics and coping strategies were, and how we learned to navigate the relationships with our parents as we became adults.      What You’ll Learn:  * Why my parents seemed to have a different approach to me and my siblings * How my sisters perceived their own growing up  * The examples of different coping strategies we had for similar situations * How our parents changed through the years they’ve been living in the US * The impact of friends and school environment on our family dynamics * Gen Z’s vs. Millennials and the generational gap within our family * How first-generation Americans are perceived in other parts of the world Resources:  * Follow me on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/thegooddaughterpodcast [https://www.instagram.com/thegooddaughterpodcast/]/ * Follow me on TikTok at https://www.tiktok.com/@gooddaughterpod [https://www.tiktok.com/@gooddaughterpod]  * Want to be on an episode and talk about your experiences? Email me at misha@thegoodvida.com [misha@thegoodvida.com]

006 Should You Assimilate into the Country You Live in?

When it comes to immigrants and their kids, the big question is - to assimilate or not to assimilate? Assimilate and risk losing touch with your native culture, or not assimilate and your kids end up feeling like outsiders? In today's episode, we'll discuss assimilation and what assimilation looks like when you are the child of immigrants. This is a complex subject, and what worked for me might not necessarily work for you. There's nothing wrong with exposing your children to your culture, traditions and values. But there is a risk that the kids might reject your culture if you become too controlling and demonize the Western culture. Is there perhaps a better way, a third way to create a culture that is perfect for you and your kids?  What You'll Learn:  * Why most immigrants struggle with the assimilation question * When immigrant families choose not to assimilate * The signs of an overly controlling parent * Pros and cons of assimilating into the Western culture * How to blend the best of different cultures * Ways to share your unique traditions with the community * The reasons why you feel like you don't belong * Should you let your kids assimilate into the country you live in Resources:  * Follow me on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/thegooddaughterpodcast [https://www.instagram.com/thegooddaughterpodcast/]/ * Follow me on TikTok at https://www.tiktok.com/@gooddaughterpod [https://www.tiktok.com/@gooddaughterpod]  * Want to be on an episode and talk about your experiences? Email me at misha@thegoodvida.com [misha@thegoodvida.com]

005 The Cultural Expectations and What It Means for Your Kids

If you grew up in an immigrant home, you probably grew up with a lot of rules and restrictions, and there were consequences for breaking any of those boundaries. Yes, rules and restrictions are meant to keep us from making mistakes. But a lot of times, when people grow up with a lot of restrictions and then get a taste of freedom, they rarely know how to handle it. In today's episode, we'll discuss cultural expectations and what they mean for our kids. We'll also cover why children of immigrants rarely raise kids the way they were raised, and how you can raise your kids in an environment free of fear and threats.  What You'll Learn:  * The four main types of parenting styles * What it's like to grow up with strict parents * Why it's never a good idea to parent through fear * Your parents don't have to approve 100% of your parenting style * How strict rules force your kids to live a double life * What to do when your kid acts out * Effective ways to navigate the different stages of parenting * How to prepare your child to succeed in the real world Resources:  * Follow me on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/thegooddaughterpodcast [https://www.instagram.com/thegooddaughterpodcast/]/ * Follow me on TikTok at https://www.tiktok.com/@gooddaughterpod [https://www.tiktok.com/@gooddaughterpod]  * Want to be on an episode and talk about your experiences? Email me at misha@thegoodvida.com [misha@thegoodvida.com]