The Growth Project with Michelle Quaid

Why the 'RIGHT' Change is so important

Change is a fundamental part of life, if we don't adapt and change in life we can stay the same.  If we are caught up in the past, we are blocking ourselves from our future - or happy fulfilled future.   How many of us know or have been the person who always steers a conversation back to an event or situation which caused us pain or suffering, an ex or loss of some sort; blaming, shaming the other person and becoming resentful they took away the life they thought they deserved or resentful about what had happened.  They end up carrying this around in to relationships, chapters, more often changing parts of their life, instant gratification - quick fixes to fill a void and ultimately feel better, yet always coming back to 'that event' - the repeated patterns and cycles as we tend to be attracted to whats familiar.  This happens until the lightbulb goes off,  then we realise we need to change ourselves, not other people, jobs or situations.  It starts with us, knowing, trusting and loving ourselves is the first, most important step and becoming aware and willing is when the magic happens, releasing the past and embracing the change, your future.     You can't change anyone else, YOU CAN change yourself!  Love & Light, Michelle x

Love, Trust and Boundaries

My Birthday Edition (so more of a chat) Love and Trust is essential to develop healthy relationships and when you lack self love or clear boundaries, you can fall in to a situation where people can treat you poorly, without respect or take advantage of these blurred lines.     We sometimes learn the biggest lessons at our darkest moments.    During this podcast I discussed how when I was faced with life threatening situations, I was truly let down the most by those I loved and trusted, I was devastated. During this time I realised how much I needed to make changes within myself for anything to change, to practice self love (which isn't selfish) - create a vision and follow a path true to my aligned values, not be led or influenced by others, this was when I learned to walk alone and not be afraid.   I was accused of various failings, shamed, humiliated and disregarded because I remained true to myself and walked away from anything sent to destroy my peace!  We are in control of how we think, act & speak, we can send out positive vibes through focusing on changes right here. When you face adversity, this time can be a test of character and mindset shift to believe whats happening is for you not to you.   If you face fear head on, prove to yourself you have everything you need within and become the better version of yourself, focus on self growth and your higher purpose.   Practice self love, create boundaries, back yourself and align with your values and be TRUE to yourself thats where we find true happiness, some people find that place with ease and some directing.  Don't accept less than you deserve. Take aways: 'Everything happens for you, not to you' 'Actions speak louder than words, people can only pretend for so long' "Live aligned with your personal values, if live on a high average basis you're doing ok, no ones perfect' ' Before you speak Is it true, kind or necessary?' "Whats meant for you won't pass you by'  The world needs love and compassion right now and it starts with you. Love and light, Michelle x

Finding Love after Loss

Unfortunately there was some slight disruption for the recording today, this will also be available on you tube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCrTWFcop7-8Tqxq59v3Eifw Within this Episode Navee Sparkles - Love and Dating Coach jones to talk about Love and finding a worthy partner for you.   We have both experienced abusive relationships and agree to first step is to focus on yourself, loving yourself as you attract where you are and the energy you give out at the time.  We discussed our thoughts on 50/50 during dating, what are your thoughts on this?  We also discuss how you need to be whole, if you are needy, unhappy and bring baggage in to a relationship this will make it difficult to connect to a new partner, it's important to let everything go to be able to open yourself up for a loving trusting relationship which EVERYONE deserves.  There may not be a man on a while horse yet there is someone for everyone and if you are seeking a long lasting love, taking your time to get to know them is key, it's a marathon - not a sprint (I learnt this the hard way) and the right person will show patience, consistency and curiosity towards you.  If you would like to discuss anything covered within this episode get in touch with Navee or me, here to help, inspire and motivate. Remember 'I can be changed by what happened  to me but I refuse to be reduced by it' Maya Angelou If you're enjoying the show please follow. Love and light, Michelle @  Rain and Shine Coaching @ The Growth Project Podcast

Overcoming Fear of Change

Fear affects us on a daily basis and causes us to react and make decisions which can impact on our lives direction even steering us away from our true path.  Fear really is there when we genuinely have to protect ourselves. It’s a vital response to physical and emotional danger, and LIFE OR DEATH back in the day, which was how it was in ancient times, people faced ACTUAL threats. We have evolved from this yet still experience FEAR; change, success, failure & abandonment which cause responses such as fight, flight of freeze.   These fears can arise from being taken out of your comfort zone, public speaking, flying , spiders and CHANGE.   Within this I discuss how I encountered fear which held me back from decision and triggered self saboteur behaviours, this ultimately is sabotaging yourself and leading you away from your dreams.  These reactions can lead to shame and regret and then cause your fears to become worse through expecting this painful outcome, this can turn in to a pattern and the only way to overcome this is to recognise and face HEAD ON.   WE explore 10 ways to overcome fears and maintain calmness.   If you don't change anything, nothing changes.   I hope this is useful.

Dealing with Unhelpful Habits

Within this episode we explore how we react and develop unhelpful habits; these can show up in the form of self saboteur behaviour, lead us into toxic situations and vicious cycles. The first step is to recognise the ‘why’ and making steps to change thoughts, actions and behaviour. We discuss examples of habits, when we become triggered, the subconscious and knee jerk reactions can take hold of you, recognising and overcoming these habits involves healing from your past, leading us to a healthier happier life not getting in our own way!