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70 | 4 Costs of Staying Silent at Work

You're sitting in a meeting. You have a thought, a question, an idea worth sharing. Then the filter kicks in. What if it's a dumb question? What if I should already know this? What if I upset someone? You say nothing. The meeting moves on. You leave feeling invisible, even though you had so much to offer. This isn't a confidence problem you were born with. It's a learned pattern, often one that started long before this job. And learned patterns can be unlearned. In this episode, I share my own story of staying quiet in professional settings, not because I lacked expertise, but because fear was louder than the ideas and questions I had to offer. And I break down exactly what that editing and silence costs.  What this episode uncovers: * The physical experience happening in your body the moment you stay silent * The mental loops that run during the meeting, and the ones that follow you after it * The real costs of staying silent at work * What begins to shift when you start sharing your ideas, even imperfectly If this episode felt familiar, if you've been the quietest person in rooms where you had the most to offer, know that this pattern can shift.  Curious what that could look like for you? Book a consultation [https://calendar.app.google/QBJ2rZ7ojv2sVx9J6] Connect with me: info@allyssya.coach [info@allyssya.coach] @lifecoach_allyssya [https://www.instagram.com/lifecoach_allyssya/profilecard/?igsh=MThwbHV0emVyYnlpcQ==] Allyssya Gossett Coaching [https://www.facebook.com/lifecoachallyssya]

69 | Your Energy Is Sacred: Learning to Choose What You Carry - with Alexandra Goldwell

For decades, my guest couldn't stop absorbing the emotions of everyone around her - her clients, her students, and even strangers in a room - and it took her years to understand she wasn't broken. She was highly sensitive, and no one had ever taught her what to do with that. In this conversation, somatic therapist and counselor educator Alexandra Goldwell shares what three decades of working with highly sensitive people (and being one herself) has taught her about energy, emotion, and self-trust. We talk about why crying, anger, and grief are not problems to be managed but information to be honored, and why the HSPs who feel most depleted after social gatherings are often the ones who never learned to express rather than just absorb. Alexandra also opens up about the inherited beliefs many women carry about their own worth, and how those imprints, passed down through generations, shape the way we overgive, overstay, and undervalue ourselves in relationships. In this episode, we cover: * Why "what's wrong with me" is often the first stop on the road to understanding sensitivity * Simple, elemental practices for clearing absorbed energy at the end of the day (nature, water, movement, sweat, tears) * How to build a relationship with difficult emotions instead of fearing them * Why expressing yourself in social settings changes how drained you feel afterward * The difference between honoring someone else's story and abandoning your own energy to hold it A favorite moment: "Your energy is sacred. You are the one who chooses where to spend it, where to put it, who gets the honor of being with it. You're the one who decides." Be gentle with yourself this week. Take care. Connect with Alexandra: Find her on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/alexandragoldwell?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==], where she shares her work supporting women through fertility challenges as a healer and through her group program focused on collective growth. Connect with Me: 📩 info@allyssya.coach 📅 Book a consultation [https://calendar.app.google/FvUAZtVdiqNPpeky8]

68 | Falling Back Into Old Habits Doesn't Mean You're Failing

Lately, I’ve been having similar conversations with several of my clients. They find themselves back in old habits and old thought patterns they were sure they'd already worked through, and the frustration that follows can be brutal. There's this quiet shame that creeps in, like the work was supposed to be finished by now and certain challenges should have been resolved for good. So today I'm revisiting an episode from last summer that captures exactly what's going on. Because slipping back into old patterns isn't a sign that something is wrong with you. It's simply a normal part of the process. In this episode, I talk about: * Why personal growth isn't a straight line, and what it actually looks like to be "in a dip" * Why old thought patterns resurface when you challenge yourself in new ways * The stock market mindset shift that makes setbacks feel less like failure If you've been feeling discouraged because you're back in a place you thought you'd left behind, this episode is going to meet you right where you are. Growth was never meant to be a straight line. The dips are part of the climb. Connect with Me: 📩 info@allyssya.coach 📅 Book a consultation [https://calendar.app.google/FvUAZtVdiqNPpeky8]

67 | Why Social Settings Leave You Completely Drained

You're in a room full of people you genuinely like. A topic comes up. You have something real to say. And then the internal checklist starts. Is this the right moment? Will that sound weird? What if they disagree? By the time you've run through all of it, the moment is gone. You say nothing. You leave early. And the next three days, you replay everything you wished you had said. Today I’m talking about what is happening when social settings leave you completely drained, and why it might not be what you think. Inside this episode: * Why highly sensitive women often leave social settings exhausted, and what's really driving it * The internal editing process that's happening in real time and what it's costing you energetically * The difference between needing solitude to recharge and recovering from self-suppression * What becomes possible when you stop filtering yourself before you even speak The fatigue is real. But so is what's underneath it. You're not drained because you can't be around people. You're drained because showing up as a filtered version of yourself is exhausting in a way that showing up as the real you simply isn't. Ready to explore what this looks like for you with some support? I'd love to connect. Schedule a free consultation [https://calendar.google.com/appointments/schedules/AcZssZ2CAFj5I45J8l_lQwmF7wGPwGRI-6o732eUEz-YEvoOQwdO2l3C7hjP3aUUxWiSH5y6DCPemxyB] If this episode felt like it was written for you, pass it along. Someone in your life is probably living this too.

66 | How to Have Self-Compassion When It Feels Like Your Inner Critic Is Always Winning

There's a voice inside. You know the one. The one that shows up when your needs feel like too much, when you're convinced you're a burden, when you're replaying a moment everyone else has probably already forgotten. And instead of offering yourself any grace, you listen to it. You agree with it. You let it win. In this episode, we're talking about what it means to have compassion for yourself, not as a concept, but as something you can practice in the real, hard, tender moments of your life. What's inside: * The dictionary definition of compassion  * A personal story about fragrance allergies, shame spirals, and the moment I recognized I wasn't giving myself what I give everyone else * Why the critical voice in your head is not you, it's a part of you, and understanding the difference * A simple three-part compassion check-in you can use the next time that voice gets loud Having your own back in a hard moment isn't weakness or indulgence, it's the same steady, generous presence you've always been able to offer the people you love. You never needed to earn it. You've always had it inside. It's time to turn it toward yourself. Ready to start giving yourself compassion with support? If this episode resonated and you're ready to explore what this work looks like for you, I'd love to connect. Schedule a free consultation [https://calendar.google.com/appointments/schedules/AcZssZ2CAFj5I45J8l_lQwmF7wGPwGRI-6o732eUEz-YEvoOQwdO2l3C7hjP3aUUxWiSH5y6DCPemxyB] If this episode gave you something, share it with someone who needs to hear it. You probably already know who that person is.