The Identity Midwife Podcast

Calling Forth the 12: Why You Keep Delaying God's Call (And What It's Costing You)

"When God calls you to show up, he does not expect you to come with everything intact. He's not waiting for you to be perfect. If you were perfect, you wouldn't need him. You grow while you go, and eventually the reward outweighs the fear." —Kishea Boyd Some clarity cannot be unseen. When God reveals direction, returning to comfort starts to feel heavier than the risk of moving forward. Staying in limbo slowly drains momentum, purpose, and trust. In this conversation, Keisha addresses those who are not exploring faith casually but are wrestling with a specific call they have already acknowledged. She shares how obedience unfolds through movement, why fear does not disqualify us, and how delay quietly shifts what we were meant to steward. Topics include: * The hidden cost of waiting too long * Why God does not require us to arrive whole * How fear distorts timing and identity * The danger of shrinking after hearing no * Understanding assignment and alignment * Why obedience is built on trust, not certainty * When it is time to stop revisiting the same question Connect with Kishea: Website [https://theidentitymidwife.com/] Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/shapedonpurpose?igsh=dm45OWZyZDI0Yzdn&utm_source=qr] Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61576981619782] YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@shapedonpurpose] TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@shapedonpurpose?_t=ZT-8zfZAGhLYhK&_r=1] Episode Highlights: 02:25 Facing Resistance– Excuses, Discernment, & Delays 03:15 Obedience & The Cost of Waiting 04:00 Your Unique Calling– Domino Effect 04:35 Overcoming Fear & Accusation– Walking in Faith 06:48 Keep Moving Forward in Obedience Resources: * Coaching Service: https://www.shapedonpurpose.com/services [https://www.shapedonpurpose.com/services] Meet Your Host: Kishea Boyd is a woman whose journey began not with triumph but with a search for identity, purpose, and the heart of God in every season. After serving over 20 years in the U.S. Coast Guard, where she honed resilience and leadership, she found her true strength not in uniform, but in faith. Rededicating her life to Christ in 1999 marked a turning point, leading her into ministry, mentorship, and a deeper understanding of who she was called to be. Through the joys of family life with her husband, Quinton, and their son, Kameron, and through the challenges that shaped her, Kishea has learned that God's love never lets go. Today, she lives to help others rediscover identity, healing, and purpose through Him.

Why You Can't Become Who God Called You To Be While Holding Onto Your Old Identity

"The old version of you simply doesn't fit anymore, like shoes that are too small. You can keep wearing them and walking around uncomfortable if you want to, or you can size up and learn how to walk again." —Kishea Boyd We reach a point where success looks fine on the outside but feels heavy on the inside. Old labels, safe environments, and expectations start to clash with what God is stirring beneath the surface. This message speaks to the tension of outgrowing who we used to be. Keisha walks through the spiritual and emotional work of releasing identities that no longer align with God's purpose. Her insight comes from personal surrender, deep reflection, and learning when to let go without guilt. Explore the episode and reflect on: * Identity beyond titles like mother, wife, or friend * Why growth often feels like loss before clarity arrives * The fear and doubt that surface when God calls us forward * Releasing relationships that cannot come with us * How obedience sharpens spiritual direction * Using silence, journaling, and prayer to realign purpose Connect with Kishea: Website [https://theidentitymidwife.com/] Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/shapedonpurpose?igsh=dm45OWZyZDI0Yzdn&utm_source=qr] Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61576981619782] YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@shapedonpurpose] TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@shapedonpurpose?_t=ZT-8zfZAGhLYhK&_r=1] Episode Highlights: 02:10 The Cost of People-Pleasing and Losing Your Voice 03:30 Letting Go of the Old Self: Faith, Change & Unfamiliar Territory 05:10 Embracing Change: Permission to Grow and Move 07:10 Guided Journaling Exercise: Find Your Next Step 08:10 Embracing Your God-Given Identity Resources: * Coaching Service: https://www.shapedonpurpose.com/services [https://www.shapedonpurpose.com/services] Meet Your Host: Kishea Boyd is a woman whose journey began not with triumph but with a search for identity, purpose, and the heart of God in every season. After serving over 20 years in the U.S. Coast Guard, where she honed resilience and leadership, she found her true strength not in uniform, but in faith. Rededicating her life to Christ in 1999 marked a turning point, leading her into ministry, mentorship, and a deeper understanding of who she was called to be. Through the joys of family life with her husband, Quinton, and their son, Kameron, and through the challenges that shaped her, Kishea has learned that God's love never lets go. Today, she lives to help others rediscover identity, healing, and purpose through Him.

Why Obedience to God Feels Uncomfortable

"If obedience feels uncomfortable, that does not mean you hear God wrong. biblical peace is not comfort. Biblical peace is alignment, and sometimes alignment stretches you before it settles you. " —Kishea Boyd Life with God does not always feel calm or safe. Many of us stay stuck because we believe peace should feel easy, and when it does not, we assume something is wrong. This conversation reframes discomfort as a sign of alignment, not failure, and names the quiet fear that keeps us circling the same decisions. In this episode, Keisha draws from her own spiritual formation to unpack how obedience often disrupts comfort before it brings clarity. She explains how doubt, resistance, and hesitation show up differently across seasons, yet point to the same invitation to grow. Press play and sit with the questions that matter right now. We explore: * Why biblical peace is about alignment, not comfort * How spiritual discomfort can signal growth instead of disobedience * The difference between resistance and rebellion * Why doubt often shows up right before a breakthrough * Recognizing fear-based hesitation versus divine warning * Letting go of people pleasing during identity shifts Connect with Kishea: Website [https://theidentitymidwife.com/] Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/shapedonpurpose?igsh=dm45OWZyZDI0Yzdn&utm_source=qr] Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61576981619782] YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@shapedonpurpose] TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@shapedonpurpose?_t=ZT-8zfZAGhLYhK&_r=1] Episode Highlights: 01:10 Why Obedience Feels Uncomfortable 03:20 Overcoming Resistance in Growth 06:05 Breaking the Lie 07:05 Questions for Reflection Resources: Coaching Service: https://www.shapedonpurpose.com/services [https://www.shapedonpurpose.com/services] Meet Your Host: Kishea Boyd is a woman whose journey began not with triumph but with a search for identity, purpose, and the heart of God in every season. After serving over 20 years in the U.S. Coast Guard, where she honed resilience and leadership, she found her true strength not in uniform, but in faith. Rededicating her life to Christ in 1999 marked a turning point, leading her into ministry, mentorship, and a deeper understanding of who she was called to be. Through the joys of family life with her husband, Quinton, and their son, Kameron, and through the challenges that shaped her, Kishea has learned that God's love never lets go. Today, she lives to help others rediscover identity, healing, and purpose through Him.

Embracing Change and Personal Growth

"You are never going to feel ready in the flesh. Never. There will always be one more class, one more video, one more training, one more certification. Just one more thing you think you may need. That's not wisdom, that's fear dressed up as responsibility. God confirms before you feel ready." —Kishea Boyd Growth rarely feels clean when purpose starts knocking. Staying in the same place can feel safer than moving forward, even when peace has already left the room. That tension is not failure. It is a signal. Keisha shares personal stories from life transitions, including retirement and identity shifts, revealing how fear shows up when destiny becomes real and how delay stretches the journey without canceling the call. Press play for a steady, faith-rooted conversation that names what fear hides and clarifies what alignment actually requires. * Why resistance to change is not a lack of faith * How limiting beliefs form from past hesitation and failure * The difference between physical readiness and spiritual obedience * What fear signals when purpose is getting close * Finding peace through alignment instead of comfort * The Crystal and Joy archetypes and what season they reveal * Recognizing divine invitations through stillness and 2–3 AM wake-ups * Asking heaven how identity is seen and named Connect with Kishea: Website [https://theidentitymidwife.com/] Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/shapedonpurpose?igsh=dm45OWZyZDI0Yzdn&utm_source=qr] Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61576981619782] YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@shapedonpurpose] TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@shapedonpurpose?_t=ZT-8zfZAGhLYhK&_r=1] Episode Highlights: 02:37 Understanding the Calling and Mindset 05:47 Personal Stories and Encouragement 09:39 The Role of Fear and Seeking Clarity 11:17 There is No Pressure, Only Alignment Resources: * Coaching Service: https://www.shapedonpurpose.com/services [https://www.shapedonpurpose.com/services] Meet Your Host: Kishea Boyd is a woman whose journey began not with triumph but with a search for identity, purpose, and the heart of God in every season. After serving over 20 years in the U.S. Coast Guard, where she honed resilience and leadership, she found her true strength not in uniform, but in faith. Rededicating her life to Christ in 1999 marked a turning point, leading her into ministry, mentorship, and a deeper understanding of who she was called to be. Through the joys of family life with her husband, Quinton, and their son, Kameron, and through the challenges that shaped her, Kishea has learned that God's love never lets go. Today, she lives to help others rediscover identity, healing, and purpose through Him.

You Are Not Alone

"Your story does not end where the pain began. Your identity is not determined by who showed up or who didn't. Your identity is determined by the God who has been present in every chapter." —Kishea Boyd There are moments when the people meant to guide us fall short, and the questions about identity grow louder. The search for where we belong does not disappear with age or faith. It simply waits for truth to meet us where we are. In this episode, Keisha shares the story of discovering her biological father as a teenager and realizing that human answers were never meant to carry the full weight of identity. That journey led to a deeper dependence on God and shaped the work she now carries for women seeking healing, alignment, and spiritual clarity. Press play for a grounded, faith-centered conversation that reminds us where identity is truly formed and why no story is finished yet. In this episode: Discovering identity beyond father wounds God's presence in identity discovery Redemption and healing through Jesus The vision behind The Locate Journey for women Spiritual alignment, accountability, and sisterhood Stepping out of hiding and embracing purpose Connect with Kishea: Website [https://theidentitymidwife.com/] Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/shapedonpurpose?igsh=dm45OWZyZDI0Yzdn&utm_source=qr] Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61576981619782] YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@shapedonpurpose] TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@shapedonpurpose?_t=ZT-8zfZAGhLYhK&_r=1] Episode Highlights: 01:15 Speaking to the Woman Who Is Tired but Still Trying 04:55 My Identity Shift Began at 14 08:40 Your Pain Is Not the End of Your Story 12:39 Introducing the Locate Journey 17:10 Your Yes Will Shift Generations 21:00 Breaking Fear, Shame & Delay 26:20 Nothing About Your Story Is Wasted Resources: * Coaching Service: https://www.shapedonpurpose.com/services [https://www.shapedonpurpose.com/services] Meet Your Host: Kishea Boyd is a woman whose journey began not with triumph, but with a search for identity, purpose, and the heart of God in every season. After serving over 20 years in the U.S. Coast Guard, where she honed resilience and leadership, she found her true strength not in uniform, but in faith. Rededicating her life to Christ in 1999 marked a turning point, leading her into ministry, mentorship, and a deeper understanding of who she was called to be. Through the joys of family life with her husband, Quinton, and their son, Kameron, and through the challenges that shaped her, Kishea has learned that God's love never lets go. Today, she lives to help others rediscover identity, healing, and purpose through Him.