The Male Room with Dr. Jesse Mills

How Fatherhood Changes the Male Brain

Clinical psychologist and USC professor Dr. Darby Saxbe joins The Male Room to unpack the science behind fatherhood, from the ways caregiving reshapes the brain to how testosterone, sleep loss, stress and postpartum mood changes can affect new dads. Drawing from her new book Dad Brain, Saxbe explains why great fathers are made through practice, presence and repetition and not just biology. The conversation also explores dad bods, men’s mental health, changing gender roles, sitcom father stereotypes and why modern fatherhood is far more flexible, complicated and rewarding than old clichés suggest. See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

How Long Should Sex Last? Understanding Ejaculatory Disorders

What happens when a man finishes too quickly — or struggles to finish at all? Dr. Jesse Mills explains why issues like premature ejaculation and delayed orgasm are more common than many men realize, and walks through the treatments that may help. He and Jordan also discuss unrealistic expectations shaped by porn, the internet phenomenon known as “death grip syndrome,” and why honest communication with a partner is often the best place to start. See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

The Hard Truth About Penis Size: What Most Men Get Wrong

Dr. Mills and Jordan tackle one of the most common — and least openly discussed — insecurities among men: penis size. Inspired in part by a story from recent guest Jordan Ritter Conn's new book American Men, the pair explore the surprising history of cultural attitudes toward penis size, how pornography and unrealistic expectations shape men's self-image, and why most men dramatically overestimate what is actually considered average. The conversation separates myth from reality on everything from enlargement pills and traction devices to fillers and surgery, while also examining the emotional toll of penis shame and its connection to confidence, relationships, and erectile dysfunction. Most importantly, Dr. Mills offers a reassuring message for listeners: you're probably okay — and if you're not, there are legitimate medical and psychological resources available to help. See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

When Medical Care Becomes Trauma: One Man’s Story of Shame, Healing, and Vulnerability

Dr. Mills speaks with writer Brad Snyder about the lasting emotional impact of childhood medical trauma, body shame, and the complicated relationship many men have with vulnerability. Drawing from a deeply personal HuffPost essay about his experience with an undescended testicle and humiliating pediatric exams, Snyder opens up about fear, secrecy, masculinity, and the long road toward self-acceptance. The conversation explores how shame shapes men’s health decisions, why so many men avoid doctors altogether, and the healing power of finally speaking openly about experiences once kept hidden See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

American Men and the Crisis of Connection with Jordan Ritter Conn

Dr. Mills sits down with journalist and author Jordan Ritter Conn to explore the emotional lives, hidden struggles, and evolving identities of modern American men. Drawing from his deeply reported new book American Men, Conn shares the stories of four vastly different men — from a closeted fighter and a haunted Army veteran to a trans man navigating life in the Rust Belt — and examines how masculinity, loneliness, vulnerability, and the pursuit of power shape their lives. The conversation dives into why men so often struggle to open up, the emotional scripts many inherit from childhood, and what happens when men begin to dispense with those scripts. Along the way, they reflect on friendship, fatherhood, therapy, emotional honesty, and whether today’s American men are truly “all right” — or simply trying their best to become so. See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.