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☕ Soft Hours: The Day I Forgot My Gloves

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🧭ROR SQ: Is It Resentment... Or Did We Just Run Out of Words?

Research References Mentioned * Barrett, L. F. (2017). How Emotions Are Made * Brown, B. (2021). Atlas of the Heart * Gottman, J. M. (1999). The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work * Lerner, H. (1985). The Dance of Anger * Siegel, D. J. (2010). Mindsight Knowledge is power. Ignorance is a choice This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.thesafetytospeak.com/subscribe [https://www.thesafetytospeak.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_2]

🖍️🧤🦠 ROR: Glove Up

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🧭🛺🦠 ROR Stop 1: The Resentment Infection

As always come as you are where you are. 🫶🏽 Remember knowledge is power ignorance is a choice. References Barrett, L. F. (2017). How emotions are made: The secret life of the brain. Houghton Mifflin Harcourt. Beck, A. T. (1976). Cognitive therapy and the emotional disorders. International Universities Press. Boszormenyi-Nagy, I., & Spark, G. M. (1973). Invisible loyalties: Reciprocity in intergenerational family therapy. Harper & Row. Bowen, M. (1978). Family therapy in clinical practice. Jason Aronson. Cozolino, L. (2014). The neuroscience of human relationships: Attachment and the developing social brain (2nd ed.). W. W. Norton & Company. Doidge, N. (2007). The brain that changes itself: Stories of personal triumph from the frontiers of brain science. Viking. Gottman, J. M., & Silver, N. (1999). The seven principles for making marriage work. Crown Publishers. Hochschild, A. R. (1989). The second shift: Working parents and the revolution at home. Viking. Kahneman, D. (2011). Thinking, fast and slow. Farrar, Straus and Giroux. Lerner, H. G. (1985). The dance of anger: A woman’s guide to changing the patterns of intimate relationships. Harper & Row. Perry, B. D., & Winfrey, O. (2021). What happened to you?: Conversations on trauma, resilience, and healing. Flatiron Books. Porges, S. W. (2011). The polyvagal theory: Neurophysiological foundations of emotions, attachment, communication, and self-regulation. W. W. Norton & Company. Satir, V. (1983). Conjoint family therapy (3rd ed.). Science and Behavior Books. van der Kolk, B. A. (2014). The body keeps the score: Brain, mind, and body in the healing of trauma. Viking. Welwood, J. (2000). Toward a psychology of awakening: Buddhism, psychotherapy, and the path of personal and spiritual transformation. Shambhala Publications. Extended Reading For those who wish to go deeper down the rabbit hole, I highly recommend the following: 📚 The Body Keeps the Score — Bessel van der KolkTrauma, nervous system activation, and how the body stores unresolved emotional experiences. 📚 The Polyvagal Theory — Stephen PorgesUnderstanding safety, connection, threat detection, and the nervous system’s role in relationships. 📚 The Dance of Anger — Harriet LernerA foundational exploration of resentment, boundaries, self-abandonment, and overfunctioning. 📚 Family Therapy in Clinical Practice — Murray BowenThe gold standard for understanding family systems, emotional fusion, differentiation, and inherited relational patterns. 📚 Invisible Loyalties — Ivan Boszormenyi-Nagy & Geraldine SparkAn exploration of intergenerational burdens, relational debts, destructive entitlement, and inherited family obligations. 📚 The Neuroscience of Human Relationships — Louis CozolinoHow relationships shape the brain, regulate the nervous system, and influence emotional functioning. 📚 What Happened to You? — Bruce Perry & Oprah WinfreyA practical and accessible introduction to trauma-informed understanding and nervous system development. 📚 Thinking, Fast and Slow — Daniel KahnemanHow cognitive biases, assumptions, and mental shortcuts shape perception and decision-making. 📚 How Emotions Are Made — Lisa Feldman BarrettA powerful challenge to traditional views of emotion that helps explain why perception is so central to human experience. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.thesafetytospeak.com/subscribe [https://www.thesafetytospeak.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_2]