We Are in It Together with Jamie Lynn Tatera

Releasing Parenting Shame with Dr. Chris Germer

Do you struggle with forgiving yourself when you mess up as a parent? Do you hold yourself to unrealistic standards that you can never reach? Do you worry that you are going to unwittingly shame your child and damage them? If you have these struggles, please know that you are not alone. This podcast will equip you with a resource that can help: self-compassion. I originally recorded this interview with Chris Germer for my Compassionate Parenting course, but I’m sharing it with all now of you as my last podcast episode of the season. Our interview includes a heart warming and insightful conversation along with a couple of short guided practices. It is my favorite. Please listen to it. It will help you understand that embracing your imperfections can become one of your greatest parenting strengths. ______________________ Chris Germer, PhD is a clinical psychologist and lecturer on psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. He co-developed the Mindful Self-Compassion (MSC) [https://chrisgermer.com/mindful-self-compassion-msctm/] program with Kristin Neff in 2010 and MSC has since been taught to over 250,000 people worldwide. They co-authored three books on MSC, The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook [https://www.amazon.com/Mindful-Self-Compassion-Workbook-Yourself-Strength/dp/1462526780/ref=sr_1_fkmr2_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1513097435&sr=8-1-fkmr2&keywords=chris+germer+mindful+self-compassion+workbook], Teaching the Mindful Self-Compassion Program [https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-Mindful-Self-Compassion-Program-Professionals/dp/1462538894/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1536202031&sr=8-1&keywords=teaching+the+mindful+self-compassion+program] and Mindful Self-Compassion for Burnout [https://www.amazon.com/Mindful-Self-Compassion-Burnout-Recharge-Stress/dp/1462550223/]. Chris spends most of his time lecturing and leading workshops around the world on mindfulness and self-compassion. He is also the author of The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion [https://www.amazon.com/Mindful-Path-Self-Compassion-Yourself-Destructive/dp/1593859759/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1289586240&sr=1-1], and he maintains a small online practice in Cambridge, Massachusetts, USA. ______________________ For more resources to help children and caregivers grow resilience and self-compassion, including the Mindfulness and Self-Compassion Workbook for Kids, visit https://jamielynntatera.com [https://jamielynntatera.com] If you’d like to have a companion on your parenting journey and receive weekly tips on how to help kids (and yourself!) grow mindful self-compassion, sign up for Jamie Lynn’s We Are In it Together Substack: https://jamielynntatera.com/newsletter/ [https://jamielynntatera.com/newsletter/]. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit jamielynntatera.substack.com [https://jamielynntatera.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

Be a Part of the Solution

Does your heart break when you hear about about Spanish-speaking children and families experiencing fear and oppression in the US and abroad? Would you like to help support diverse communities during turbulent times? In this interview, Veronica shares about the oppression that she and many other Latinos have encountered both in the US as well as in their countries of origin. She also shares self-compassion tools that can help to soothe and empower. We discuss the effects that anti-immigrant rhetoric [https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_anti_latino_rhetoric_hurts_all_americans] has on minority groups, as well as her efforts to help Spanish-speaking children discover self-compassion, both in the United States and abroad. You can help Veronica share self-compassion with Spanish-speaking children: https://mcst.betterworld.org/campaigns/Help-Spanish-Speaking-Children [https://mcst.betterworld.org/campaigns/Help-Spanish-Speaking-Children]. ____________________________________ Veronica Diaz is a mother, naturalized American citizen, Mindfulness and Self-Compassion for Children and Caregivers teacher, engineer and project manager, yoga teacher, and a woman with a passion for helping EVERYONE, including Spanish-speaking children, develop the resource of self-compassion. Learn more about Veronica’s work bringing Mindfulness and Self-Compassion to diverse families: https://www.veronicadiaz.co/ [https://www.veronicadiaz.co/] _________________________________ For more resources to help children and caregivers grow resilience and self-compassion, including the Mindfulness and Self-Compassion Workbook for Kids, visit https://jamielynntatera.com [https://jamielynntatera.com]. If you’d like to have a companion on your parenting journey and receive weekly tips on how to help kids (and yourself!) grow mindful self-compassion, sign up for Jamie Lynn’s We Are In it Together Substack: https://jamielynntatera.com/newsletter/ [https://jamielynntatera.com/newsletter/]. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit jamielynntatera.substack.com [https://jamielynntatera.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

Unlocking our Parenting Delight

Do you ever feel like you’ve lost your parenting delight? Or maybe you feel like you never had it!? Certified parenting educator Dajana Yoakley helps us discover tools that can put the delight back into our parenting. Listen to this episode of the We Are in It Together podcast to learn how: * Self-doubt robs us of parenting joy * Self-compassion leads to increased self-regulation * Understanding our child’s underlying needs can lead to increased connection * Accepting ourselves and our child as we are increases parenting delight * Emotional coaching can help children grow and change The right mix of understanding, connection, and guidance can put the joy back into parenting. Join Jamie Lynn and Dajana to discover how! ______________________ Dajana Yoakley is a Peaceful Parenting coach, mom, and host of the Delight in Parenting Podcast [https://delightinparenting.substack.com/]. She has trained with Dr. Laura Markham and is an Aha Parenting Certified Parent Educator. She has a Masters degree in Leadership and has been trained in Playful Parenting for Parent Educators. Discover more about Dajana’s work at https://www.delightinparenting.com/ [https://www.delightinparenting.com/] _______________________________ For more resources to help children and caregivers grow resilience and self-compassion, including the Mindfulness and Self-Compassion Workbook for Kids, visit https://jamielynntatera.com [https://jamielynntatera.com]. If you’d like to have a companion on your parenting journey and receive weekly tips on how to help kids (and yourself!) grow mindful self-compassion, sign up for Jamie Lynn’s We Are In it Together Substack: https://jamielynntatera.com/newsletter/ [https://jamielynntatera.com/newsletter/]. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit jamielynntatera.substack.com [https://jamielynntatera.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

Parenting with Fierce Self-Compassion with Dr. Kristin Neff

This interview with Dr. Kristin Neff is a breath of fresh air for parents aspiring not only to nurture their children, but also empower them to be strong and agentic. And guess what!? Growing your own fierce and tender self-compassion skills is key to helping your child do the same. In this episode of the We Are in It Together podcast, Dr. Kristin Neff describes fierce self-compassion and how it can inform our interactions with our children. Jamie Lynn and Kristin also discuss how gender roles can prevent boys from embracing tender self-compassion, and girls from owning strong self-compassion, and what we as parents can do to empower our children and ourselves (listen to a discussion of gender roles starting at the 9:50 minute mark). At the end of this podcast, Dr. Neff guides listeners through a tender and/or fierce self-compassion break that can be applied to many different situations. ______________________ Visit Kristin Neff’s website, self-compassion.org [https://self-compassion.org], to learn more about self-compassion and/or join her community. Dr. Kristin Neff is a self-compassion researcher at the University of Texas, Austin. She is author of the best-selling books, Self-Compassion, Fierce Self-Compassion, and co-author of the Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook [https://www.amazon.com/Mindful-Self-Compassion-Workbook-Yourself-Strength/dp/1462526780]. Kristin Neff’s community [https://self-compassion.org/self-compassion-community/] features a host of resources for individuals aspiring to grow self-compassion in community with others. Her community is hosting a Nurturing Self-Compassion in Children Workshop taught by Jamie Lynn Tatera in February 2025. Visit https://self-compassion.org/event/how-caregivers-can-nurture-self-compassion-in-children-with-jamie-lynn-tatera-february-15-2025/ [https://self-compassion.org/event/how-caregivers-can-nurture-self-compassion-in-children-with-jamie-lynn-tatera-february-15-2025/] to register or watch the free intro session. _______________________________ For more resources to help children and caregivers grow resilience and self-compassion, including the Mindfulness and Self-Compassion Workbook for Kids, visit https://jamielynntatera.com [https://jamielynntatera.com]. If you’d like to have a companion on your parenting journey and receive weekly tips on how to help kids (and yourself!) grow mindful self-compassion, sign up for Jamie Lynn’s We Are In it Together Substack: https://jamielynntatera.com/newsletter/ [https://jamielynntatera.com/newsletter/]. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit jamielynntatera.substack.com [https://jamielynntatera.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

The Rabbit Listened - The Transforming Power of Presence with Cori Doerrfeld

What do our children and loved ones really need when things go wrong? Often it’s not our words, but rather it’s our simple presence. In this insightful interview with Cori Doerrfeld, Jamie Lynn and Cori discuss why it’s so hard to remember that what people (including our children!) often need most is our patient listening ear. And it’s not just others who need our presence, but we also need our own loving presence. Cori Doerrfeld is the author of one of Jamie Lynn’s favorite children’s books, The Rabbit Listened. Jamie Lynn and Cori’s interview unpacks how the book can serve as a jumping off point for teaching kids (and grown-ups!) how to best show up for others and how to treat ourselves with kindness when we are struggling. Cori Doerrfeld is both author and illustrator of many awesome books, including The Rabbit Listened [https://www.amazon.com/Rabbit-Listened-Cori-Doerrfeld/dp/073522935X], Ready to Soar, and Beneath. Her website is https://www.coridoerrfeld.com/ [https://www.coridoerrfeld.com/], and you can find her on social media @coridoerrfeld [https://www.instagram.com/coridoerrfeld/#]. _________________________________ For more resources to help children and caregivers grow resilience and self-compassion, including the Mindfulness and Self-Compassion Workbook for Kids, visit https://jamielynntatera.com [https://jamielynntatera.com]. If you’d like to have a companion on your parenting journey and receive weekly tips on how to help kids (and yourself!) grow mindful self-compassion, sign up for Jamie Lynn’s We Are In it Together Substack: https://jamielynntatera.com/newsletter/ [https://jamielynntatera.com/newsletter/]. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit jamielynntatera.substack.com [https://jamielynntatera.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]