Were You Raised to Always Be Nice? The Truth About the ‘Good Girl’ Pattern

The Jealousy Detox You Didn't Know You Needed

Raise your hand if you've ever found yourself stalking your partner's ex on Instagram at 1:00 AM... Ok put your hands down. In this episode of All Good Girls Here, a podcast for recovering Millennial good girls, I dive into why obsessing over a partner’s past feels so addictive and how it’s tied to Rebecca Syndrome and the anxious attachment style. I share my own experiences with retroactive jealousy and the strategies I’ve learned to break the cycle: from grounding techniques and journaling to naming that pesky brain of ours. Come join us for practical advice and a deep dive into the psychology behind it all. 💖 This podcast is for every Millennial woman who’s curious about understanding herself better, unlearning patterns that don't serve us, and building real, authentic relationships with herself and with others. ⏱️ Timestamps  02:06 Dating in Your Early 20's vs. Late 20's 05:24 Understanding Rebecca Syndrome 06:23 The Role of Attachment Styles 09:18 Coping Strategies for Retroactive Jealousy 10:16 Social Media's Impact on Jealousy 14:47 Professional Help and Therapy Options 👯‍♀️ Join the GG's (good girls) Community: 💌 Newsletter: ⁠allgoodgirlshere.substack.com⁠ [https://allgoodgirlshere.substack.com/] 📸 Instagram: ⁠@chiefoflovemedia⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/chiefoflovemedia] 🤳🏽 TikTok: ⁠@chiefoflovemedia⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@chiefoflovemedia] 🙋🏽‍♀️ Let's connect: 📸 Instagram: ⁠@alexxandracheca⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/alexxandracheca] 🤳🏽 TikTok: ⁠@missalexxandracheca⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@missalexxandracheca] 🤝 Collaborations & partnerships: ⁠hello@chiefoflovemedia.com⁠ [hello@chiefoflovemedia.com] 📫 Therapists, coaches, or creators covering Millennial women (friendships, relationships, self-esteem, etc.), we’d love to collaborate: ⁠hello@chiefoflovemedia.com⁠ [hello@chiefoflovemedia.com] ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ Please rate, review, and subscribe to help our community grow. 💌Share this with a friend who would feel seen by this. 📖 References: 1. Marshall, T. C., Bejanyan, K., Di Castro, G., & Lee, R. A. (2013). *Attachment styles as predictors of Facebook-related jealousy and surveillance in romantic relationships*. *Personal Relationships*, 20(1), 1–22. 2. “What is Rebecca Syndrome? The relationship-killing mental illness ..." Yahoo! Lifestyle, 16 Oct. 2024. 3. “Experts Concerned About Rise Of 'Rebecca Syndrome', A ..." 2oceansvibe News, 18 Oct. 2024. 4. “Jealous of your partner's ex? 'Rebecca syndrome' may be to blame ..." Moneycontrol, 22 Oct. 2024. 5. Ingham, Toby. “Rebecca Syndrome.” TobyIngham.com [http://TobyIngham.com]. 6. Faye Plunkett [@fayeplunkett]. “Trust me on this one…” TikTok.   🎵 by Rockot, Allicante — 🎙️All Good Girls Here is a Chief of Love Media production. 📍 ⁠chiefoflovemedia.com [https://chiefoflovemedia.com/]

The 4 Friendship Rules & Friendship Audit Every Millennial Girlie Should Know About

Hey Gigi's, ever wondered if your friendships are  healthy? I spent time in a friendship advice subreddit and came across some eye-opening questions that made me reflect on the complexities of adult friendships, especially for us recovering Millennial good girls.  In this episode of All Good Girls Here, a podcast for recovering Millennial good girls, we dive into how to build balanced, fulfilling friendships with expert insights from Dr. Marisa Franco and Dr. Brené Brown. I also share the monthly friendship audit I’ve been practicing that has made a big difference in my life, along with the four rules I’ve created that I know will work for you too. I hope you enjoy & pls share your pov.💌 🔔Today you’ll get: 💭 millennial friendship and good girls patterns  💭 friendship audit  💭 the 4 friendship rules  ⏱️ Timestamps  00:00 Introduction: Is Your Friendship Healthy? 02:24 Understanding Good Girl Patterns in Friendships 03:52 The Blueprint for Healthy Friendships 07:01 The Friendship Audit 10:52 The 4 Friendship Rules 15:54 Embracing Vulnerability 👯‍♀️ Join the GG's (good girls) Community: 💌 Newsletter: ⁠allgoodgirlshere.substack.com⁠ [https://allgoodgirlshere.substack.com/] 📸 Instagram: ⁠@chiefoflovemedia⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/alexxandracheca] 🤳🏽 TikTok: ⁠@⁠⁠chiefoflovemedia⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/alexxandracheca] 🙋🏽‍♀️ Let's connect 📸 Instagram: ⁠⁠@alexxandracheca⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/alexxandracheca] 🤳🏽 TikTok: ⁠⁠@⁠⁠⁠⁠missalexxandracheca⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/alexxandracheca] 🤝 If you want to collaborate and/or partner with us: hello@chiefoflovemedia.com 📫 If you’re a therapist, coach, or creator working on topics around the Millennial woman experience (friendships, relationships, self-esteem, etc...) , reach out, we'd love to collaborate: hello@chiefoflovemedia.com ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ Please rate, review, subscribe to help our community grow. 💌 Share this with a friend who would feel seen by this. 📖 References: 1. Franco, Marisa. Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and Keep—Friends. Penguin Press, 2022. 2. Brown, Brené. Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone. Random House, 2017. 3. Heller, Cathy. Abundant Ever After: Tools for Creating a Life of Prosperity and Ease. S&S/Simon Element, 2024. 4. Kirmayer, Miriam. ‘Friendship Breakdowns: How to Navigate Conflict and Build Stronger Friendships’. Call your Girlfriend, 2020. 5. Tawwab, Nedra Glover. Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself. TarcherPerigee, 2021. 6. Mun, J., and H. Kim. "Influence of False Self-Presentation on Mental Health and Deleting Behavior on Instagram: The Mediating Role of Perceived Popularity." Personality and Individual Differences, 2022 7. Gottman, John M., and Nan Silver. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. Harmony Books, 1999. 🎵 by Rockot, Allicante --- All Good Girls Here is a Chief of Love Media production.

the lesson every millennial woman was never taught growing up

Have you ever felt like you lost yourself in a relationship? Like you’ve poured all your energy into other people and suddenly realize… wait, where’s my space? My world? If no one ever told you how important it was to build a world that was just yours, welcome to the club. Most of us don’t start doing it until our late 20s, and wow… do we wish someone had taught us this sooner. This is my personal story, and the tips I share are what worked for me, so go easy on me... we're all good girls here.💌 📽️ Today you’ll get: 💌 Why many women fall into living in their partner’s world 💌 The hidden fears of losing yourself once you’ve built independence 💌 3 practical exercises to build your own world while still being in love 💌 How to balance connection and independence using insights from Esther Perel 💖 This podcast is for every Millennial woman who’s curious about understanding herself better, unlearning patterns that don't serve her, and building real, authentic relationships with herself and with others. ⏱️ Timestamps  00:00 – my Carrie Bradshaw moment 02:11 – Living in someone else’s world (parents, partners, fiancés) 05:00 – Breakup + emotional homelessness 07:00 – Why women aren’t taught to build their own world 08:33 – Family history & patriarchy’s role 09:37 – The fears that come when you finally build your own world 10:05 – Esther Perel on freedom vs. commitment 12:39 – Balancing security and independence 13:01 – 3 DIY exercises to create your world (friends, boundaries, neutral territory) 16:36 – Long-distance relationships & neutral ground 👯‍♀️ Join the GG's (good girls) Community: 💌 Newsletter: ⁠allgoodgirlshere.substack.com⁠ [https://allgoodgirlshere.substack.com/] 📸 Instagram: ⁠@chiefoflovemedia⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/chiefoflovemedia] 🤳🏽 TikTok: ⁠@chiefoflovemedia⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@chiefoflovemedia] 🙋🏽‍♀️ Let's connect: 📸 Instagram: ⁠@alexxandracheca⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/alexxandracheca] 🤳🏽 TikTok: ⁠@missalexxandracheca⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@missalexxandracheca] 🤝 Collaborations & partnerships: ⁠hello@chiefoflovemedia.com⁠ [hello@chiefoflovemedia.com] 📫 Therapists, coaches, or creators covering Millennial women (friendships, relationships, self-esteem, etc.), we’d love to collaborate: ⁠hello@chiefoflovemedia.com⁠ [hello@chiefoflovemedia.com] ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ Please rate, review, and subscribe to help our community grow. Share this with a friend who would feel seen by this. 🎵 by Rockot, Allicante — 🎙️All Good Girls Here is a Chief of Love Media production. 📍 ⁠chiefoflovemedia.com [https://chiefoflovemedia.com/]

Why Do I Love This Way?! Understanding Your Attachment Style & Building Secure Relationships :)

Have you ever panicked over a text, ghosted someone after opening up, or convinced yourself you’re better off alone? If yes, this episode is for you. I’m Alex, host of All Good Girls Here, a podcast for Millennial women unlearning good girl patterns. In this episode, we’re breaking down attachment styles — secure, anxious, avoidant, and fearful avoidant — and how they shape the way we love, text, fight, ghost, and connect. We’ll talk about how your early childhood experiences with caregivers shaped your love blueprint, why anxious or avoidant patterns might show up in dating and friendships, and most importantly, how to move toward an earned secure attachment. 📽️ Today you’ll get: 💌 a breakdown of the four attachment styles and how they affect dating, friendships, and self-love 💌 why healing happens in relationships, not isolation (and the role of secondary attachment figures) 💌 three practical healing tools (journaling, affirmations, small boundaries challenges) 💌and why secure relationships aren’t just lucky — they’re learnable. 💖 This episode is for every Millennial woman who wants to understand her patterns in love, heal from anxious or avoidant tendencies, and build authentic, secure connections in dating, friendships, and with herself. ⏱️ Timestamps 00:00 — How you love 101: ghosting, overthinking & independence 01:30 — Attachment styles explained (secure, anxious, avoidant, fearful avoidant) 05:00 — Childhood roots of anxious, avoidant & fearful avoidant attachment 07:00 — What secure attachment looks like in love & friendships 09:00 — Secondary attachment figures: why healing happens in relationships 09:55 — 3 healing tools: journaling, affirmations, setting boundaries 11:20 — Therapy approaches: attachment-based, EFT, CBT 11:49 — Your past doesn’t define your future: learning how to love better 12:00 — Sneak peek: Can we fall in love without losing ourselves? 👯‍♀️ Join the GG's (good girls) Community: 💌 Newsletter: allgoodgirlshere.substack.com 📸 Instagram: @chiefoflovemedia 🤳🏽 TikTok: @chiefoflovemedia 🙋🏽‍♀️ Let’s connect: 📸 Instagram: @alexxandracheca 🤳🏽 TikTok: @missalexxandracheca 🤝 Collaborations & partnerships: hello@chiefoflovemedia.com 📫 Therapists, coaches, or creators covering Millennial women (friendships, relationships, self-esteem, etc.), we’d love to collaborate: hello@chiefoflovemedia.com ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ Please rate, review, and subscribe to help our community grow. Share this with a friend who would feel seen by this. 📖 References 1. “What Is Attachment-Based Therapy? Signs That Suggest You Could Benefit from It.” Headspace, 3 July 2025. 2. “Emotionally Focused Therapy.” Psychology Today, reviewed by Psychology Today Staff. 3. “Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT).” NHS, National Health Service (UK). 4. “Can Your Attachment Style Change?” Verywell Mind, 24 July 2024. 5. Sagone, E. “Exploring the Association between Attachment Style and Psychological Well-Being.” PMC, 2023. Music🎵 by Rockot, Allicante — 🎙️ All Good Girls Here is a Chief of Love Media production. 📍 chiefoflovemedia.com

Were You Raised to Always Be Nice? The Truth About the ‘Good Girl’ Pattern

Were you raised to always be nice, agreeable, and never rock the boat? Many Millennial women were taught to be the “good girl” — polite, selfless, and perfect on the outside, all while secretly struggling with people pleasing, lack of boundaries, and self-doubt on the inside. Hi there, I'm Alex, your host, and in this first episode of All Good Girls Here, a podcast for Millennial women unlearning good girl patterns, I share how growing up with “good girl” conditioning affects everything from your dating life to your friendships to your self-worth and self-esteem. I unpack a little of my own story of being raised in Perú, moving to the U.S. as an immigrant, and how my upbringing subconsciously determined the kind of relationships I had as an adult. My goal with this podcast is to create a community for all the Millennial good girls out there. This is a space for you. 💌 🔔Today you’ll get: 💭 what the “good girl” pattern is 💭 understanding why you are this way is the first step to healing 💭 how self-love, boundaries, and curiosity can help you rewrite your story. ⭐️ This podcast is for every Millennial woman who’s curious about understanding herself better, unlearning patterns that don't serve us, and building real, authentic relationships with herself and with others. ⏱️ Timestamps 00:00 — Welcome to All Good Girls Here 00:45 — Who is this podcast for 01:11 — Defining the “good girl” pattern 01:55 — The first steps of healing 02:28 — Who I am + why I started this journey 02:38 — Career-first mindset in my 20s → shifting priorities in my 30s 03:19 — The unraveling: hyper-independence, fear of failure, avoiding vulnerability 03:52 — Growing up in Peru → moving to the U.S. 04:12 — Resilience lessons from my mom as a single mother 05:00 — How “good girl” patterns showed up in dating, friendships & self-worth 05:09 — Why understanding why we are this way is crucial for healing 05:47 — Sneak peek: next episode on hyper-independence 👯‍♀️ Join the GG's (good girls) Community: 💌 Newsletter: allgoodgirlshere.substack.com [https://allgoodgirlshere.substack.com/] 📸 Instagram: @chiefoflovemedia [https://www.instagram.com/chiefoflovemedia] 🤳🏽 TikTok: @chiefoflovemedia [https://www.tiktok.com/@chiefoflovemedia] 🙋🏽‍♀️ Let's connect 📸 Instagram: @alexxandracheca [https://www.instagram.com/alexxandracheca] 🤳🏽 TikTok: @missalexxandracheca [https://www.tiktok.com/@missalexxandracheca] 🤝 Collaborations & partnerships: hello@chiefoflovemedia.com [hello@chiefoflovemedia.com] 📫 Therapists, coaches, or creators covering Millennial women (friendships, relationships, self-esteem, etc.), we’d love to collaborate: hello@chiefoflovemedia.com [hello@chiefoflovemedia.com] ⭐️ Please rate, review, and subscribe to help our community grow. Share this with a friend who would feel seen by this. 🎵 by Rockot, Allicante -- 🎙️All Good Girls Here is a Chief of Love Media production. 📍 ⁠chiefoflovemedia.com [https://chiefoflovemedia.com/]