LET’S TALK PATRICK TA & PAINTEDBYESTER and why you should not listen to my podcast | AITL?! EP 62

let’s talk about becoming the woman i promised myself i’d be | AITL?! EP 63

It’s the 6 month mark of the year and, PODD FAM… we need to talk. not in a “my life is falling apart” way, but in a “wait, am i actually becoming the person i keep saying i want to become?” way. this episode is about growth, limbo, discipline, disappointment, ambition, self-love, and the very rude realization that being busy is not the same thing as being aligned. i talk about feeling like i’m growing in multiple areas of my life at once, why that feels so uncomfortable, what i thought this year would look like, what it actually looks like, and how i’m trying to stop romanticizing my potential and start becoming her for real. ENJOY :) 00:00 IT'S ALREADY JUNE?! 03:19 Life Updates: Apartment Hunting & Almost a Year Without a Home 04:48 Six Month Reality Check: Am I Living My Dream Life? 18:11 Trigger Warning: Feeling Suicidal & Mental Health Check-In 20:16 Regulating Your Emotions & Making Your Thoughts Reality 23:10 My 45% Performance Rating: Breaking Down My 2026 Goals 26:31 Fitness & Health: Running Three Times a Week & My Struggles 34:10 Career & Social Media: The Things I'm NOT Doing 35:58 Busy Does NOT Mean Aligned: The Hard Truth 37:13 Passive Living vs Active Living: Choosing Your Life 39:47 Self-Love is Discipline: Following Through on Promises to Yourself 40:31 Your Dream Life Needs Boring Structure 46:19 Freedom Without Structure is Chaos: What I've Learned 47:15 I Want to Win: Choosing Myself & Prioritizing Me First 51:28 Starting Over at the Six Month Mark & Birthday Month Plans LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE If you haven’t already, subscribe to AM I TOO LOUD?! with The Odditty 👇🏽 * YouTube: https://bit.ly/SubscribeToAmITooLoud [https://bit.ly/SubscribeToAmITooLoud] * Spotify: https://bit.ly/AmITooLoudOnSpotify [https://bit.ly/AmITooLoudOnSpotify] * Apple Podcasts: https://bit.ly/AmITooLoudOnApplePodcasts [https://bit.ly/AmITooLoudOnApplePodcasts] 🌐 STAY TUNED: https://www.amitooloud.com/ [https://www.amitooloud.com/] JOIN THE POD FAM * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amitooloudpod [https://www.instagram.com/amitooloudpod] * Twitter (X): https://x.com/amitooloudpod [https://x.com/amitooloudpod] * TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amitooloudpod [https://www.tiktok.com/@amitooloudpod] JOIN THE ODD FAM * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_odditty [https://www.instagram.com/the_odditty] * Twitter (X): https://x.com/the_odditty [https://x.com/the_odditty] * TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@the_odditty [https://www.tiktok.com/@the_odditty] MORE FROM THE ODDITTY * The Odditty Tv Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@TheOdditty/videos [https://www.youtube.com/@TheOdditty/videos] * The Odditty Diaries Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@TheOddittyDiaries [https://www.youtube.com/@TheOddittyDiaries] HASHTAGS #AmITooLoud #TheOdditty #AmITooLoudSofi #AmITooLoudPod #SoloEpisode #PersonalGrowth #MentalHealth #Reflection

LET’S TALK PATRICK TA & PAINTEDBYESTER and why you should not listen to my podcast | AITL?! EP 62

PODD FAM 💚 Today on Am I Too LOUD?, we’re flipping the TikTok trend “reasons why you wouldn’t be my friend” into a full episode: reasons why you shouldn’t listen to my podcast. In this solo episode, I’m talking honestly about what this podcast stands for — queerness, womanhood, feminism, honesty, loudness, and creating a space where we can tell the truth without shame. We are also talking about Patrick TA, Painted by Esther and Jackie Aina! This might be my favorite episode yet!! Join the #PODDFAM by streaming #AmITooLoudPod every Wednesday and subscribe for more loud, honest, unfiltered conversations. 00:00 IT'S ALREADY MAY!! 07:38 Hot Topic: Patrick Ta & Painted by Esther Drama Explained 12:26 Am I Too Loud If I Say He Didn't Owe Her Anything? 18:12 Cancel Culture, Accountability vs Crucifixion & Jackie Aina 22:40 We Need All Types of Black Women: Messy to Perfect 25:21 Why You Should NOT Listen to This Podcast 30:22 Don't Listen If You're Homophobic 34:17 I'm a Feminist & Women Don't Need to Be Perfect 40:07 Don't Listen If You're Judgmental or Want Perfect Advice 42:32 Culture Should Be Questioned & Life Updates LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE If you haven’t already, subscribe to AM I TOO LOUD?! with The Odditty 👇🏽 * YouTube: https://bit.ly/SubscribeToAmITooLoud [https://bit.ly/SubscribeToAmITooLoud] * Spotify: https://bit.ly/AmITooLoudOnSpotify [https://bit.ly/AmITooLoudOnSpotify] * Apple Podcasts: https://bit.ly/AmITooLoudOnApplePodcasts [https://bit.ly/AmITooLoudOnApplePodcasts] 🌐 STAY TUNED: https://www.amitooloud.com/ [https://www.amitooloud.com/] JOIN THE POD FAM * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amitooloudpod [https://www.instagram.com/amitooloudpod] * Twitter (X): https://x.com/amitooloudpod [https://x.com/amitooloudpod] * TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amitooloudpod [https://www.tiktok.com/@amitooloudpod] JOIN THE ODD FAM * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_odditty [https://www.instagram.com/the_odditty] * Twitter (X): https://x.com/the_odditty [https://x.com/the_odditty] * TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@the_odditty [https://www.tiktok.com/@the_odditty] MORE FROM THE ODDITTY * The Odditty Tv Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@TheOdditty/videos [https://www.youtube.com/@TheOdditty/videos] * The Odditty Diaries Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@TheOddittyDiaries [https://www.youtube.com/@TheOddittyDiaries] HASHTAGS #AmITooLoud #TheOdditty #AmITooLoudSofi #AmITooLoudPod #SoloEpisode

Let's talk about my complicated relationship with money | AITL?! EP 61

PODD FAM 💚 Today on Am I Too LOUD?!, we’re finally having the money conversation. In this episode, I’m talking about my complicated relationship with money: growing up in Lagos, watching my mom give even when she barely had enough, learning to see money as a blessing instead of a tool, coming to America as an immigrant student, surviving college on basically fumes and prayer, and then suddenly making influencer money that completely changed my brain. We’re getting into the guilt of sending money home, the pressure immigrant kids carry, why boundaries are necessary even when you love your family, and how social media can warp your relationship with money when everyone online looks richer, younger, softer, shinier, and more booked than you. I’m also talking about my first brand deals, going from $150 a month to getting paid thousands for content, learning about savings, taxes, investments, financial responsibility, and why financial freedom is really the soft life. This episode is personal, funny, honest, slightly chaotic because your girl was sick, and also sponsored by SENDWAVE — my first official podcast sponsor, Use my code “ODDITTY” for $10 credit off your first time transfer or click this link https://try.sendwave.com/kjap/qxalfv1s with that being said, Let’s talk about money, PODD FAM. 00:00:00 First Podcast Sponsor 00:04:30 Sendwave Ad Read 00:08:45 Life Update: Sick, Still Recording & Still Yapping 00:15:20 Why We’re Talking About Money 00:19:00 Growing Up in Lagos & My Mom’s Money Philosophy 00:28:35 Money as a Blessing vs. Money as a Tool 00:36:50 Coming to America as an Immigrant Student 00:44:10 College, Class Differences & Feeling Broke Around Rich Kids 00:53:00 My First Brand Deal & Influencer Money Changing My Brain 01:02:30 Learning Financial Responsibility the Hard Way 01:10:45 Sending Money Home, Guilt & Boundaries 01:20:15 Social Media, Black Girl Luxury & Comparing Wealth Online 01:29:40 Rich vs. Wealthy: Financial Freedom Is the Soft Life 01:36:10 Advice Column: Making Money as a Young Adult 01:42:30 Saving Habits, Paychecks & Money Boundaries 01:49:00 Immigrant Guilt, Family Pressure & Enjoying Your Money 01:56:20 Women, Relationships & Separate Money 02:00:10 Comparing Yourself to Rich Women Online 02:06:00 Closing Thoughts LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE If you haven’t already, subscribe to AM I TOO LOUD?! with The Odditty 👇🏽 YouTube: https://bit.ly/SubscribeToAmITooLoud [https://bit.ly/SubscribeToAmITooLoud] Spotify: https://bit.ly/AmITooLoudOnSpotify [https://bit.ly/AmITooLoudOnSpotify] Apple Podcasts: https://bit.ly/AmITooLoudOnApplePodcasts [https://bit.ly/AmITooLoudOnApplePodcasts] JOIN THE PODD FAM * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amitooloudpod [https://www.instagram.com/amitooloudpod] * Twitter (X): https://x.com/amitooloudpod [https://x.com/amitooloudpod] * TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amitooloudpod [https://www.tiktok.com/@amitooloudpod] JOIN THE ODD FAM * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_odditty [https://www.instagram.com/the_odditty] * Twitter (X): https://x.com/the_odditty [https://x.com/the_odditty] * TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@the_odditty [https://www.tiktok.com/@the_odditty] MORE FROM THE ODDITTY * The Odditty Tv Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@TheOdditty/videos [https://www.youtube.com/@TheOdditty/videos] * The Odditty Diaries Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@TheOddittyDiaries [https://www.youtube.com/@TheOddittyDiaries] HASHTAGS #AmITooLoud #TheOdditty #AmITooLoudSofi #AmITooLoudPod #SoloEpisode #PersonalGrowth #MentalHealth #Reflection

Let’s Talk Rihanna, Tyla, Ayra Starr, Kevin Hart’s Roast & AMVCA Drama | AITL?! EP 60

PODD FAM 💚 Today on Am I Too LOUD?!, we're getting into ALL the tea from the past few weeks because your girl has been MIA and I'm back with opinions, gossip, and so much pop culture chaos. Trying out this new series where I share my loudest opinions around all things POP CULTURE! From Megan Thee Stallion and Klay Thompson's breakup to the Met Gala 2026 fashion, the Rihanna vs Tyla vs Ayra Starr drama, James Charles dragging an unemployed fan, and Kevin Hart's controversial roast, we're covering it ALL. I'm also getting real about mental health, lack of discipline, and why I've been inconsistent with the podcast. We're talking about monogamy, dating culture, colorism in the music industry, why the AMVCA and Met Gala shouldn't be compared, the hantavirus cruise ship conspiracy theories, and why the Ayra Starr vs Tyla discourse is rooted in pitting women against each other. Plus, I'm breaking down why Kevin Hart's roast was uncomfortable but necessary, and whether we're all just too sensitive now. This episode is messy, unfiltered, and exactly what you need. Let's get into it, PODD FAM! 00:00:00 Welcome Back & Life Updates 00:09:25 Mental Health Check-In & Lack of Discipline 00:10:54 Megan Thee Stallion & Klay Thompson Breakup 00:21:15 Met Gala 2026 Recap & Fashion Commentary 00:24:50 Rihanna vs Tyla Drama Explained 00:33:21 Ayra starr vs Tyla: Colorism & Pitting Women Against Each Other 00:37:02 AMVCA vs Met Gala: Why the Comparison Doesn't Work 00:39:45 Hantavirus Cruise Ship Conspiracy Theories 00:41:39 James Charles Drags Unemployed Fan 00:47:48 Kevin Hart Roast: Too Far or Perfect Comedy? 00:54:21 Closing Thoughts & What's Next for the Podcast LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE If you haven't already, subscribe to AM I TOO LOUD?! with The Odditty 👇🏽 * YouTube: https://bit.ly/SubscribeToAmITooLoud [https://bit.ly/SubscribeToAmITooLoud] * Spotify: https://bit.ly/AmITooLoudOnSpotify [https://bit.ly/AmITooLoudOnSpotify] * Apple Podcasts: https://bit.ly/AmITooLoudOnApplePodcasts [https://bit.ly/AmITooLoudOnApplePodcasts] 🌐 STAY TUNED: https://www.amitooloud.com/ [https://www.amitooloud.com/] JOIN THE POD FAM * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amitooloudpod [https://www.instagram.com/amitooloudpod] * Twitter (X): https://x.com/amitooloudpod [https://x.com/amitooloudpod] * TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amitooloudpod [https://www.tiktok.com/@amitooloudpod] JOIN THE ODD FAM * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_odditty [https://www.instagram.com/the_odditty] * Twitter (X): https://x.com/the_odditty [https://x.com/the_odditty] * TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@the_odditty [https://www.tiktok.com/@the_odditty] MORE FROM THE ODDITTY * The Odditty Tv Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@TheOdditty/videos [https://www.youtube.com/@TheOdditty/videos] * The Odditty Diaries Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@TheOddittyDiaries [https://www.youtube.com/@TheOddittyDiaries] HASHTAGS #AmITooLoud #TheOdditty #AmITooLoudSofi #AmITooLoudPod

Mummy... LET’S TALK DATING AS BLACK MUSLIM WOMEN | Crossover Episode: AITL X OOT | Part 2

PART 2!!! In today’s episode, Ismatou (On Our Terms) and Sofi (Am I Too Loud?!) sat down to finish the conversation from last week on sex, silence, shame, and everything Black Muslim women were never supposed to say out loud. In this part 2, we dive into relationships, dating and so much more. From our first boyfriends, to halal dating and to arranged marriages? They're unpacking first crushes, living authentically, dating experiences and what it means to truly reclaim your choice as a woman. This is the finale Part 2 of a two-part series.  00:00 Welcome to the Crossover: Dating as Black Muslim Women 03:40 First Crushes & Early Dating Experiences 09:35 Rejection, Unrequited Love & Learning Patterns 11:47 Dating After Trauma & Reclaiming Choice 15:50 Age Gaps, Coercion & Things That Happened To Us 20:26 Sexual Assault, FGM & The Consequences of Choice Being Taken 23:58 Marital Rape, Blue Balls & The Double Standard 36:00 Religion, Queerness & What the Texts Actually Say 41:57 Sinners Judging Sinners & Living Authentically 52:22 Fear of Family Reaction & What We're Really Risking 1:01:46 Boundaries, Intentionality & Choosing Yourself Always Content note: This episode includes discussions of sexual assault, FGM, and trauma. Listener discretion is advised. Follow On Our Terms: @onourtermspod  Follow Am I Too Loud?!: @amitooloudpod  Follow your hosts: @uotamsi & @the_odditty Tags Black Muslim women, sex and Islam, purity culture, Muslim women, faith and sexuality, Black women podcasts, crossover episode, Am I Too Loud, On Our Terms, FGM, sexual health, Muslim dating, shame and religion, West African culture, modesty culture, first generation, eldest daughter