How To Stop Self-Sabotage After Bariatric Surgery (Therapist Explains)

Bariatric Dating: What No One Tells You After Major Weight Loss

Ever wonder what really happens after you lose 100+ pounds? The attention changes. The dating changes. And the fear of gaining it all back? That gets LOUDER. This week I'm joined by Cory Padarathsingh, who lost 162 pounds and is giving us something we rarely hear in this space — the male perspective. We're talking pretty privilege, the DM flood, dating when you're still a "big guy at heart," and why the surgery changes your stomach but NOT your brain. If you've ever questioned someone's motives after your transformation, mourned your relationship with food, or lie awake scared of regaining — this episode is for you. What we cover: * How people treat you differently after major weight loss * Pretty privilege — and why it's uncomfortable at first * Dating standards, confidence, and finding someone who gets the lifestyle * Why food triggers don't disappear after surgery * The fear of regain and how to manage it mentally * Emotional eating, binge patterns, and building real discipline Timestamps: 00:00 Intro — Losing 162 Pounds 01:23 Bariatric Dating — Being Treated Differently 03:38 Bariatric Weight Loss & Pretty Privilege 07:45 Bariatric Dating Standards & Finding a Partner 12:31 Bariatric Food Triggers — When Love Looks Like Cookies 14:45 The Bariatric Mental Battle — Stomach, Not Brain 21:19 Bariatric Discipline & Binge-Eating Triggers 25:18 Bariatric Fear of Regain & the Scale Connect with Cory: All links: https://linktr.ee/sleevedwithcory [https://linktr.ee/sleevedwithcory] His Bariatric Journal: https://a.co/d/0dlvK7AW [https://a.co/d/0dlvK7AW] His Podcast — Heavy Topics & Lighter Lives: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCcEcKWufK7CdoiAOXwJiLCg [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCcEcKWufK7CdoiAOXwJiLCg] Social: @sleevedwithcory Join the Parallel Paths membership community: https://www.bariatricpaths.com/parallel-paths [https://www.bariatricpaths.com/parallel-paths] Subscribe so you never miss a Tuesday episode.

How To Stop Self-Sabotage After Bariatric Surgery (Therapist Explains)

You did the surgery. But what about your marriage, your mental health, and the patterns you brought with you? In Part 2, licensed therapist and bariatric patient Danielle Palermo, LMSW joins Jatoyia Armour to get real about the work that makes bariatric surgery actually stick — accountability, support systems, GLP-1 as a tool, marriage after surgery, addiction transfer, depression after weight loss, and why the mental health piece is the one nobody prepares you for. This episode covers: how to stop self-sabotage, what real accountability looks like post-op, why your support network matters more than any coping skill, GLP-1 after bariatric surgery, the real reason bariatric divorce rates are high, and why insurance is failing bariatric patients on mental health coverage. If you've ever felt like you're doing everything right but still falling apart — this episode is for you. Connect with Danielle: Instagram @daniellepalermo.lmsw Subscribe to the Podcast: https://pod.link/1797899095 [https://pod.link/1797899095] Join the Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/595270663220246 [https://www.facebook.com/groups/595270663220246] Visit the Website: https://www.BariatricPaths.com [https://www.BariatricPaths.com] 00:00 How to get unstuck after bariatric surgery 01:14 Identity — are you doing this for you or for others? 03:12 Acceptance, self-awareness, and breaking old patterns 04:01 What real accountability looks like post-op 05:22 Coping tools that actually work long-term 06:20 Why your support network matters more than coping skills 08:09 Bringing your family and partner into your new routine 09:24 Working out with an accountability partner (real talk) 10:25 GLP-1 after bariatric surgery — it's just another tool 11:21 Why the mental work matters even more on GLP-1 12:36 Why mental health is deprioritized in bariatric programs 13:02 The psych eval that doesn't actually prepare you 14:06 What should change in bariatric pre-op and post-op care 15:39 Insurance gaps — mental health and GLP-1 coverage 16:30 How bariatric surgery can trigger depression 17:08 Bariatric surgery and divorce — the real conversation 19:06 How to recalibrate your marriage after massive weight loss 20:20 Starting therapy and marriage counseling at the same time 21:37 Embracing your new body — loose skin, crop tops, and confidence 22:16 Why weight can't be your only measure of success 23:59 How to find and work with Danielle Palermo 24:24 My Journey, My Business: Danielle's moment of truth

The Emotional Healing Bariatric Surgery Can't Do

You lost the weight. But the emotional healing? Surgery can't do that part. In this episode of the Bariatric Paths Podcast, licensed therapist and bariatric patient Danielle Palermo joins host Jatoyia Armour for an unfiltered conversation about the emotional side of bariatric surgery — the part nobody prepares you for. In this episode: * Why goal weight doesn't automatically create happiness or confidence * Identity shifts after massive weight loss * Addiction transfer and fixation patterns post-op * Self-sabotage cycles and how to break them * Why women lose their emotional 'shield' after surgery * Regain anxiety, shame, and fear * Body image struggles after bariatric surgery * Why so many bariatric patients still feel lost post-op * How therapy and self-awareness create lasting change If you've ever asked yourself: 'Why do I still feel stuck after losing the weight?' — this episode is for you. Connect with Danielle Palermo for coaching and support focused on emotional healing, identity shifts, self-sabotage patterns, and navigating life after bariatric surgery. 🌐 Website: www.daniellepalermocoaching.com [http://www.daniellepalermocoaching.com] 📧 Coaching Consultations: daniellepalermolsw@gmail.com [daniellepalermolsw@gmail.com] 📱Instagram: @daniellepalermocoaching [www.instagram.com/daniellepalermocoaching] 🎙️ Subscribe to the Podcast: https://pod.link/1797899095 [https://pod.link/1797899095] 👥 Join the Community: Bariatric Paths: Your Journey, Your Tribe [https://www.facebook.com/groups/595270663220246] 🌐 Visit the Website: BariatricPaths.com [http://BariatricPaths.com] 00:00 The Emotional Healing Bariatric Surgery Can’t Do 00:49 Why We Keep Starting Over In Weight Loss 02:33 Regain Fears and Self-Sabotage 03:35 The Emotional Weight Moms Carry 05:13 Why Progress Feels Like It Disappears 06:38 Addiction, Weight Loss Highs, and Transfer Behaviors 08:03 Goal Weight Doesn’t Create Happiness 09:17 Discovering Your Identity Beyond Weight Loss 10:17 The Emotional Reality After Surgery 11:58 Why Women Blame Themselves 12:32 Society’s Expectations After Massive Weight Loss 14:00 Obesity as Emotional Protection 15:39 Identity Shifts After Bariatric Surgery 17:47 The Questions People Ask After Weight Loss 18:59 Old Habits and Patterns Returning 20:10 Life After The Honeymoon Phase 21:48 Food Freedom, Balance, and Accountability 23:24 Self-Compassion Without Self-Sabotage 25:52 Emotional Triggers and Mental Health 27:17 Balancing Mental and Physical Health 28:49 Lasting Change Starts With Understanding Yourself 30:03 Self-Awareness Can Feel Uncomfortable 31:40 Healing Through The Layers 32:49 What Happens When You Avoid The Inner Work #bariatricsurgery #weightlossjourney #bariatricpodcast #emotionalhealing #bariatricmentalhealth #vsgjourney #gastricbypass #weightlosssupport #bariatriclife #selfworth

What My Son Noticed About My 179-Pound Weight Loss | Mother's Day Special

People always ask moms how bariatric surgery changed their lives. But no one asks the kids. In this Mother's Day special, my 9-year-old son RJ sits down with me for an honest, unfiltered conversation about what he saw, felt, and noticed throughout my 179-pound weight loss journey after gastric sleeve surgery. From the stitches that confused him to the trampoline he finally got to share with me — RJ saw things I didn't even realize. And he said things that stopped me in my tracks. This one is for every bariatric mom who's doing it for her kids. Topics covered: * What RJ remembered about me before surgery * How he noticed (and didn't notice) the weight loss * Changes in my energy, personality, and habits * What confused him most during recovery * The moment he knew mom had really changed * Why I got the surgery — in his own words * Mom vs. Son quiz * My Journey, My Business moment 🎙️ Bariatric Paths Podcast — Season 2, Episode 16 🔗 Subscribe: https://pod.link/1797899095 [https://pod.link/1797899095] 👥 Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/595270663220246 [https://www.facebook.com/groups/595270663220246] 🌐 Website: https://www.BariatricPaths.com [https://www.BariatricPaths.com]

Weight Regain After Bariatric Surgery: You Didn't Fail (ft. Bariatric Coach Allyson Jackson)

Weight regain after bariatric surgery is one of the hardest and least discussed parts of the journey — and it does not mean you failed. In Part 2 of this Bariatric Paths conversation, Jatoyia and bariatric coach Allyson Jackson go deeper on food noise, emotional eating, GLP-1 medications, and the mental side of long-term success after gastric sleeve or gastric bypass surgery. This episode covers the real conversation around why so many post-op patients struggle years after surgery — the shame around regain, the trap of "starting over," and how to rebuild without punishment or extremes. You'll hear honest conversation about emotional eating and coping mechanisms after weight loss surgery, why therapy should be part of standard bariatric care, the truth about food cravings post-op, sustainable habit changes vs crash dieting, and why a slip is not a slide. This episode is a reminder: regain is not failure, and you are not alone in this process. Guest: Allyson Jackson IG: @ajacks324 | TikTok: @allysonjackson5 | Facebook: Allyson Elizabeth FB Group:  The Bariatric Comeback | Support After Weight Regain | YouTube: coachallysonj Subscribe to the Podcast: https://pod.link/1797899095 [https://pod.link/1797899095] Join the Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/595270663220246 [https://www.facebook.com/groups/595270663220246] Website: https://www.BariatricPaths.com [https://www.BariatricPaths.com]