Becoming Anchored S7E8: Why “You’re Not Fat” Isn't Helpful Reassurance for Your Child's Brain

Becoming Anchored S7E8: Why “You’re Not Fat” Isn't Helpful Reassurance for Your Child's Brain

Host and licensed therapist Laura Deneen is joined by co-host and fellow licensed therapist, Lauren Jackson. Together we discuss the harmful consequences that may arise when we teach our children they're "not fat" and how to navigate this conversation instead. Key Takeaways: 1. Our Children and Body Image: It is common for our children to come to us with body image concerns. Your child may have expressed a fear of being called "fat," which has become a weaponized word in our culture. Often parents reassure their child they are not fat; this statement and reassurance actually does more harm than good. Lauren validates us that when we reassure our child, we, as a parent, want to take away any of our child’s distress and take away their pain. However, there are better ways to support a child in coping through this possible distressing experience. 2. “Fat” Is Not a Bad Word: Lauren discusses when we reassure our child that they are not fat, we are reinforcing the idea that being fat is unacceptable and bad. It teaches our children to worry that they won’t be accepted or loved if they are “fat”. 3. Changing How We Respond: Laura discusses being curious about where your child learned this language. This opens up dialogue and connection with your child. Further, this promotes deeper conversation with your children and consideration of how to move forward if this fear is present. Lauren encourages us to shift our language about body image from appearance to function. Together we invite you to do your own body image work and be curious about your own internalized weight stigma. This episode provides insight into our children’s body image concerns and how we can respond to them in a healthy way. Homework: Reflect how you have responded when your child or children have come to you with a body image concern and explore what you may want to do differently. Affirmation: “I am capable of having these hard conversations.” Friend, we are passionate about offering more support beyond the insights and advice in this podcast.  Becoming Anchored Co. is rooted in the belief that hope is fundamental to our human experience. The body image program + resources were created to support you in accessing hope and in shifting your relationship with your body. Our commitment is to authenticity, living in harmony with our values, and embracing the incredible resilience and adaptability that define the human spirit.On this podcast, you will find topics covering topics related to body image and embodiment. We are here to support you as you navigate towards peace, kindness, tenderness, and curiosity with your body. ⚓Becoming Anchored In Peace With Your Body Program: [https://becominganchoredco.com/pages/body-image-program] This evidence-based body image program is designed to equip you with 100+ practical skills and tools to navigate the challenges of body image, from diet culture to self worth.  ⚓Becoming Anchored In Peace With Your Body Card Deck: [https://becominganchoredco.com/products/body-image-cards] This 61 card deck will provide you with support to become more at peace with your body. With practical, therapeutic tools you will learn how to become more embodied. It’s like having your therapist in your back pocket! ⚓ The Safe and Connected Masterclass: [https://becominganchoredco.com/pages/connected] This free masterclass is your guide to identifying and cultivating relationships with safe people. ⚓ Self-Confidence Masterclass: [https://becominganchoredco.com/pages/overthinking] This free masterclass teaches you how to release doubt and confidently trust yourself. Self acceptance begins here. ⚓How To Practice Boundary Setting: [https://becominganchoredco.com/pages/boundaries] This compassionate course teaches you necessary skills for self awareness, improved relationships, and fostering confidence. Let’s embark on a rewarding journey that empowers you to live authentically!  ⚓Navigating Friendships as an Adult Woman: [https://becominganchoredco.com/pages/friendship] Gain the tools to enhance communication, trust, and genuine connection in this educational wellness course. This isn’t just theory; it’s the very foundation Laura used to transform her own relationships, bringing more depth and satisfaction in her own life.  ⚓Recovering People Pleaser: [https://becominganchoredco.com/pages/people-pleasing] This evidence-based mini course will teach you how to advocate for yourself, so you can have healthy relationships and connection with others. You will learn how to advocate for yourself and access your innate self-worth. ⚓Pivoting From Perfectionism: [https://becominganchoredco.com/pages/perfectionism] This compassionate course will show you that you do not have to be perfect in order to be loved and will give you practical tools to live authentically. This course provides practical insights and tools for tackling perfectionism. We have also curated a selection of thoughtfully designed products [https://becominganchoredco.com/collections/all] to help you stay anchored,  that you can wear on your path to discovery and growth. Additionally, for those seeking personalized guidance [https://anchoredcounselingco.com/contact/]on their mental health journey, our team located in Brentwood, TN offers professional therapy services tailored to meet your individual needs, fostering a path to healing and growth. If you are not located in the greater Nashville area, we gently encourage you to find a licensed therapist local to you.   We hope you embrace the Becoming Anchored community by subscribing to this podcast. We are so honored to provide you with resources, inspiration, and support on your journey to wellness.

Becoming Anchored S7E7: When You Feel Like Your Body Betrayed You

Host and licensed therapist Laura Deneen is joined by co-host and fellow licensed therapist, Lauren Jackson. Together we discuss the spectrum of body betrayal and how to move through the grief of when you feel like your body has let you down. Key Takeaways: 1. What Is Body Betrayal?: Body betrayal is any experience in which we may feel like our body is not working the way we believe it should, does not look the way we believe it should, or we feel let down by our body. This could include chronic illness or pain, medical conditions, infertility, just to name a few. Body betrayal is often rooted in loss; loss of expectation. It may also feel like a threat to our fundamental human need of belonging or acceptance. Lauren discusses the idea of, “If my body does not function a certain way or look a certain way, will I be accepted?” 2. Healing From Body Betrayal: The first piece we discuss is acknowledging the pain and suffering we may be experiencing from the betrayal. Laura and Lauren discuss the importance of attuning to the pain and believing someone’s experience while also slowing down and sitting with the pain rather than rushing through it or trying to fix it. 3. Ways To Support Yourself: Laura encourages us to find a community who can support us, believe our stories, and advocate for us when we feel as if our body has betrayed us. Also, she encourages us to hold space for grief. Lauren encourages us to practice compassion for our bodies and provides questions to help us be compassionate towards our bodies in the midst of pain. This episode provides insight into how body betrayal may show up in our life as well as practical ways to heal and move through the betrayal with compassion. Homework: Identifying areas you notice you feel like your body has betrayed you, what is the grief that accompanies the betrayal, and where can you practice compassion towards those areas. Affirmation: “My body is for me.” Friend, we are passionate about offering more support beyond the insights and advice in this podcast.  Becoming Anchored Co. is rooted in the belief that hope is fundamental to our human experience. The body image program + resources were created to support you in accessing hope and in shifting your relationship with your body. Our commitment is to authenticity, living in harmony with our values, and embracing the incredible resilience and adaptability that define the human spirit.On this podcast, you will find topics covering topics related to body image and embodiment. We are here to support you as you navigate towards peace, kindness, tenderness, and curiosity with your body. ⚓Becoming Anchored In Peace With Your Body Program: [https://becominganchoredco.com/pages/body-image-program] This evidence-based body image program is designed to equip you with 100+ practical skills and tools to navigate the challenges of body image, from diet culture to self worth.  ⚓Becoming Anchored In Peace With Your Body Card Deck: [https://becominganchoredco.com/products/body-image-cards] This 61 card deck will provide you with support to become more at peace with your body. With practical, therapeutic tools you will learn how to become more embodied. It’s like having your therapist in your back pocket! ⚓ The Safe and Connected Masterclass: [https://becominganchoredco.com/pages/connected] This free masterclass is your guide to identifying and cultivating relationships with safe people. ⚓ Self-Confidence Masterclass: [https://becominganchoredco.com/pages/overthinking] This free masterclass teaches you how to release doubt and confidently trust yourself. Self acceptance begins here. ⚓How To Practice Boundary Setting: [https://becominganchoredco.com/pages/boundaries] This compassionate course teaches you necessary skills for self awareness, improved relationships, and fostering confidence. Let’s embark on a rewarding journey that empowers you to live authentically!  ⚓Navigating Friendships as an Adult Woman: [https://becominganchoredco.com/pages/friendship] Gain the tools to enhance communication, trust, and genuine connection in this educational wellness course. This isn’t just theory; it’s the very foundation Laura used to transform her own relationships, bringing more depth and satisfaction in her own life.  ⚓Recovering People Pleaser: [https://becominganchoredco.com/pages/people-pleasing] This evidence-based mini course will teach you how to advocate for yourself, so you can have healthy relationships and connection with others. You will learn how to advocate for yourself and access your innate self-worth. ⚓Pivoting From Perfectionism: [https://becominganchoredco.com/pages/perfectionism] This compassionate course will show you that you do not have to be perfect in order to be loved and will give you practical tools to live authentically. This course provides practical insights and tools for tackling perfectionism. We have also curated a selection of thoughtfully designed products [https://becominganchoredco.com/collections/all] to help you stay anchored,  that you can wear on your path to discovery and growth. Additionally, for those seeking personalized guidance [https://anchoredcounselingco.com/contact/]on their mental health journey, our team located in Brentwood, TN offers professional therapy services tailored to meet your individual needs, fostering a path to healing and growth. If you are not located in the greater Nashville area, we gently encourage you to find a licensed therapist local to you.   We hope you embrace the Becoming Anchored community by subscribing to this podcast. We are so honored to provide you with resources, inspiration, and support on your journey to wellness.

Becoming Anchored S7E6: The Deeper Work of Body Image Healing

Host and licensed therapist Laura Deneen is joined by fellow licensed therapist Ruth Juneau. Together we discuss the different aspects of the deeper work beyond skills as it relates to our body image. Key Takeaways: 1. Body Image Work is Lifelong: Together we discuss the idea that body image work is a lifelong process and how it can change throughout our life transitions. Ruth and Laura touch on how our responses to our body image can be adaptive and protective. 2. Attachment and Body Image: Ruth explains what is attachment and how it begins with our caregivers and Laura discusses how our body image issues may come from ruptures within our relationships with our primary caregivers. Inner child work is one way to heal from these ruptures and take care of our younger selves and body image. 3. Reconnecting To Our Bodies and Selves: We can become disconnected from our bodies for a number of reasons and it is important to attune to our bodies through noticing our emotions and physical sensations attached to our emotions. Laura and Ruth discuss how this can help us move towards healing our relationship with our body image and being more embodied with ourselves. This episode provides insight into different ways to go deeper with our body image as it relates to attachment, embodiment, and the importance of pacing in the work.   Homework: Begin to notice physical sensations in your body and notice if it is attached to an emotion without judgment. Get curious if you do notice you are judging it. Affirmation: “I can trust myself and my body here and now.” Friend, we are passionate about offering more support beyond the insights and advice in this podcast.  Becoming Anchored Co. is rooted in the belief that hope is fundamental to our human experience. The body image program + resources were created to support you in accessing hope and in shifting your relationship with your body. Our commitment is to authenticity, living in harmony with our values, and embracing the incredible resilience and adaptability that define the human spirit.On this podcast, you will find topics covering topics related to body image and embodiment. We are here to support you as you navigate towards peace, kindness, tenderness, and curiosity with your body. ⚓Becoming Anchored In Peace With Your Body Program: [https://becominganchoredco.com/pages/body-image-program] This evidence-based body image program is designed to equip you with 100+ practical skills and tools to navigate the challenges of body image, from diet culture to self worth.  ⚓Becoming Anchored In Peace With Your Body Card Deck: [https://becominganchoredco.com/products/body-image-cards] This 61 card deck will provide you with support to become more at peace with your body. With practical, therapeutic tools you will learn how to become more embodied. It’s like having your therapist in your back pocket! ⚓ The Safe and Connected Masterclass: [https://becominganchoredco.com/pages/connected] This free masterclass is your guide to identifying and cultivating relationships with safe people. ⚓ Self-Confidence Masterclass: [https://becominganchoredco.com/pages/overthinking] This free masterclass teaches you how to release doubt and confidently trust yourself. Self acceptance begins here. ⚓How To Practice Boundary Setting: [https://becominganchoredco.com/pages/boundaries] This compassionate course teaches you necessary skills for self awareness, improved relationships, and fostering confidence. Let’s embark on a rewarding journey that empowers you to live authentically!  ⚓Navigating Friendships as an Adult Woman: [https://becominganchoredco.com/pages/friendship] Gain the tools to enhance communication, trust, and genuine connection in this educational wellness course. This isn’t just theory; it’s the very foundation Laura used to transform her own relationships, bringing more depth and satisfaction in her own life.  ⚓Recovering People Pleaser: [https://becominganchoredco.com/pages/people-pleasing] This evidence-based mini course will teach you how to advocate for yourself, so you can have healthy relationships and connection with others. You will learn how to advocate for yourself and access your innate self-worth. ⚓Pivoting From Perfectionism: [https://becominganchoredco.com/pages/perfectionism] This compassionate course will show you that you do not have to be perfect in order to be loved and will give you practical tools to live authentically. This course provides practical insights and tools for tackling perfectionism. We have also curated a selection of thoughtfully designed products [https://becominganchoredco.com/collections/all] to help you stay anchored,  that you can wear on your path to discovery and growth. Additionally, for those seeking personalized guidance [https://anchoredcounselingco.com/contact/]on their mental health journey, our team located in Brentwood, TN offers professional therapy services tailored to meet your individual needs, fostering a path to healing and growth. If you are not located in the greater Nashville area, we gently encourage you to find a licensed therapist local to you.   We hope you embrace the Becoming Anchored community by subscribing to this podcast. We are so honored to provide you with resources, inspiration, and support on your journey to wellness.

Becoming Anchored S7E5: You Don't Have To Believe Everything You Think About Your Body

Host and licensed therapist Laura Deneen is joined by fellow licensed therapist and Director of Clinical Education and Training, Heidi Hensley. Together we discuss placing less value in your thoughts and how this can affect your body image. Key Takeaways: 1. Our Thoughts Are Not Always Truthful: Laura and Heidi discuss how our thoughts may take us down a “rabbit trail”, and how we tend to believe every thought as truth rather than viewing it externally. The thoughts we have about our bodies tend to be harsh or critical and it is helpful for our body image to begin separating from these thoughts. 2. Practice Non-Engagement Strategies: There are many skills to help us disengage from harmful thoughts about ourselves. Together we discuss using levity, exploring values to help disengage from the thought, the “leaves on a stream” analogy, and letting go of the urgency our thoughts tell us to react to. 3. Build Insight: Laura discusses how our thoughts impact our mood, emotions, and ability to be present and she encourages us to spend time exploring if our thoughts are true or helpful. Heidi invites us to practice being still and be curious with our thoughts and thoughts about our body in order to build a relationship with it rather than judging it. This episode provides insight into how to disengage from negative thoughts around our body image and improve our overall relationship with our bodies and our ability to be present with ourselves. Homework: Practice being still and recognize what is happening internally in your mind and body. Affirmation: “I have everything that I need.” Friend, we are passionate about offering more support beyond the insights and advice in this podcast.  Becoming Anchored Co. is rooted in the belief that hope is fundamental to our human experience. The body image program + resources were created to support you in accessing hope and in shifting your relationship with your body. Our commitment is to authenticity, living in harmony with our values, and embracing the incredible resilience and adaptability that define the human spirit.On this podcast, you will find topics covering topics related to body image and embodiment. We are here to support you as you navigate towards peace, kindness, tenderness, and curiosity with your body. ⚓Becoming Anchored In Peace With Your Body Program: [https://becominganchoredco.com/pages/body-image-program] This evidence-based body image program is designed to equip you with 100+ practical skills and tools to navigate the challenges of body image, from diet culture to self worth.  ⚓Becoming Anchored In Peace With Your Body Card Deck: [https://becominganchoredco.com/products/body-image-cards] This 61 card deck will provide you with support to become more at peace with your body. With practical, therapeutic tools you will learn how to become more embodied. It’s like having your therapist in your back pocket! ⚓ The Safe and Connected Masterclass: [https://becominganchoredco.com/pages/connected] This free masterclass is your guide to identifying and cultivating relationships with safe people. ⚓ Self-Confidence Masterclass: [https://becominganchoredco.com/pages/overthinking] This free masterclass teaches you how to release doubt and confidently trust yourself. Self acceptance begins here. ⚓How To Practice Boundary Setting: [https://becominganchoredco.com/pages/boundaries] This compassionate course teaches you necessary skills for self awareness, improved relationships, and fostering confidence. Let’s embark on a rewarding journey that empowers you to live authentically!  ⚓Navigating Friendships as an Adult Woman: [https://becominganchoredco.com/pages/friendship] Gain the tools to enhance communication, trust, and genuine connection in this educational wellness course. This isn’t just theory; it’s the very foundation Laura used to transform her own relationships, bringing more depth and satisfaction in her own life.  ⚓Recovering People Pleaser: [https://becominganchoredco.com/pages/people-pleasing] This evidence-based mini course will teach you how to advocate for yourself, so you can have healthy relationships and connection with others. You will learn how to advocate for yourself and access your innate self-worth. ⚓Pivoting From Perfectionism: [https://becominganchoredco.com/pages/perfectionism] This compassionate course will show you that you do not have to be perfect in order to be loved and will give you practical tools to live authentically. This course provides practical insights and tools for tackling perfectionism. We have also curated a selection of thoughtfully designed products [https://becominganchoredco.com/collections/all] to help you stay anchored,  that you can wear on your path to discovery and growth. Additionally, for those seeking personalized guidance [https://anchoredcounselingco.com/contact/]on their mental health journey, our team located in Brentwood, TN offers professional therapy services tailored to meet your individual needs, fostering a path to healing and growth. If you are not located in the greater Nashville area, we gently encourage you to find a licensed therapist local to you.   We hope you embrace the Becoming Anchored community by subscribing to this podcast. We are so honored to provide you with resources, inspiration, and support on your journey to wellness.

Becoming Anchored S7E4: Nourishing Women's Body Image In Every Season

Host and licensed therapist Laura Deneen is joined by Registered Dietitian, Emily Harland with Worley Nutrition Group and Emily also owns Balanced Support Co., where she is a marketing and virtual assistant for dietitians and mental health professionals. Together we discuss how women’s bodies change in regards to different life stages and health and how to support these changes nutritionally. Key Takeaways: 1. Body Image and Women’s Health: As women, our bodies go through various changes whether due to health, lifestyle, stress, hormones, etc. Laura and Emily discuss how to support our bodies during these changes instead of trying to change them. They explore the impacts of diet culture during these changes. 2. How Our Bodies Keep Us Safe: Emily discusses how our bodies are always trying to maintain balance during different life stages. She gives the example of how our bodies are prepping and equipping through changes such as pregnancy or raising children. She encourages us to reframe how we view these bodily changes, for example, saying, “My arms are strong so I can carry my child”. 3. Supporting Body Image and Health Through Nutrition: Together we discuss how important it is to nourish your body through changes and health, such as a PCOS diagnosis. Emily emphasizes the negative impacts of underfueling our bodies and the role it plays with women’s health.  This episode provides insight into navigating women’s health and body image through various life stages and emphasizes the importance of nutrition with these changes. Homework: Think about your day and where you may experience any energy low points and explore where you could add to your day nutritionally, such as a snack.   Affirmation: “My body is smart and I know what is best for me.” Friend, we are passionate about offering more support beyond the insights and advice in this podcast.  Becoming Anchored Co. is rooted in the belief that hope is fundamental to our human experience. The body image program + resources were created to support you in accessing hope and in shifting your relationship with your body. Our commitment is to authenticity, living in harmony with our values, and embracing the incredible resilience and adaptability that define the human spirit.On this podcast, you will find topics covering topics related to body image and embodiment. We are here to support you as you navigate towards peace, kindness, tenderness, and curiosity with your body. ⚓Becoming Anchored In Peace With Your Body Program: [https://becominganchoredco.com/pages/body-image-program] This evidence-based body image program is designed to equip you with 100+ practical skills and tools to navigate the challenges of body image, from diet culture to self worth.  ⚓Becoming Anchored In Peace With Your Body Card Deck: [https://becominganchoredco.com/products/body-image-cards] This 61 card deck will provide you with support to become more at peace with your body. With practical, therapeutic tools you will learn how to become more embodied. It’s like having your therapist in your back pocket! ⚓ The Safe and Connected Masterclass: [https://becominganchoredco.com/pages/connected] This free masterclass is your guide to identifying and cultivating relationships with safe people. ⚓ Self-Confidence Masterclass: [https://becominganchoredco.com/pages/overthinking] This free masterclass teaches you how to release doubt and confidently trust yourself. Self acceptance begins here. ⚓How To Practice Boundary Setting: [https://becominganchoredco.com/pages/boundaries] This compassionate course teaches you necessary skills for self awareness, improved relationships, and fostering confidence. Let’s embark on a rewarding journey that empowers you to live authentically!  ⚓Navigating Friendships as an Adult Woman: [https://becominganchoredco.com/pages/friendship] Gain the tools to enhance communication, trust, and genuine connection in this educational wellness course. This isn’t just theory; it’s the very foundation Laura used to transform her own relationships, bringing more depth and satisfaction in her own life.  ⚓Recovering People Pleaser: [https://becominganchoredco.com/pages/people-pleasing] This evidence-based mini course will teach you how to advocate for yourself, so you can have healthy relationships and connection with others. You will learn how to advocate for yourself and access your innate self-worth. ⚓Pivoting From Perfectionism: [https://becominganchoredco.com/pages/perfectionism] This compassionate course will show you that you do not have to be perfect in order to be loved and will give you practical tools to live authentically. This course provides practical insights and tools for tackling perfectionism. We have also curated a selection of thoughtfully designed products [https://becominganchoredco.com/collections/all] to help you stay anchored,  that you can wear on your path to discovery and growth. Additionally, for those seeking personalized guidance [https://anchoredcounselingco.com/contact/]on their mental health journey, our team located in Brentwood, TN offers professional therapy services tailored to meet your individual needs, fostering a path to healing and growth. If you are not located in the greater Nashville area, we gently encourage you to find a licensed therapist local to you.   We hope you embrace the Becoming Anchored community by subscribing to this podcast. We are so honored to provide you with resources, inspiration, and support on your journey to wellness.