Episode 59: Child-Centered Divorce: Part 2 - Throwing Away The WHY!

Season 2: Episode 2 - Can I Or Should I Date Before the Ink Is Dry?

1. Are you considering dating before your divorce is finalized? This episode dives into essential legal, emotional, and parenting considerations to help you navigate this tricky territory responsibly and with clarity. Key Topics:The legal ramifications of dating during divorce, including asset dissipation, alimony, and custody implications 2. The importance of understanding your personal motivations ("the raw truth of your why") for wanting to start dating early 3. Practical advice on how to date discreetly, avoid legal pitfalls, and protect your children’s emotional well-being 4. The significance of knowing your state laws regarding adultery and how they may impact property and support 5. How to approach new relationships with full transparency, without trauma bonding or rushing into intimacy 6. The child-centered approach: safeguarding your children’s stability, avoiding their perception of favoritism, and respecting their emotional process Timestamps: 00:00 - Why dating before divorce is final can be risky 00:21 - Introduction to season two and episode overview 01:07 - Why consider dating during divorce? Common reasons and emotional drivers 02:07 - How dating can complicate legal and financial matters 03:02 - The risks of spending marital assets on a new relationship 03:50 - Effects of cohabitation on alimony and custody 04:20 - Impact of introducing new partners on child custody and stability 05:16 - Legal considerations around adultery and fault states 06:12 - The importance of understanding your true motivations for dating 07:07 - Personal reasons for early dating and potential emotional benefits 08:07 - How to date smartly: financial boundaries and social discretion 09:00 - The importance of legal awareness and consulting professionals 10:05 - Strategies for transparent communication and avoiding trauma bonds 11:12 - Recognizing the infatuation phase and its distinction from real love 12:28 - Buffering pain with new relationships while focusing on healing 13:04 - Protecting your children: the child-centered approach 14:12 - How children perceive new partners and the importance of empathy 15:06 - The emotional impact of new partners on children’s perception 16:07 - Practical rules: timing for introducing partners and social media boundaries 17:17 - Continual check-ins with children and maintaining their stability 18:14 - Recap: key takeaways on legal, emotional, and parental considerations 18:43 - Final encouragement: navigating your divorce journey with clarity and care Resources & Links: Better Than Bitter Podcast [https://betterthanbitter.coach/] – Join live coaching sessions 1. Child-Centered Method [https://betterthanbitter.coach/] – Protecting children’s emotional well-being 2. Apply to get FREE COACHING by being a guest on our podcast to be coached LIVE, schedule your free consult here: www.betterthanbitter.coach/application [www.betterthanbitter.coach/application] 3. Join our Better Than Bitter community [https://betterthanbitter.coach/supportmembership] for $1 a Month! Remember: Your journey through divorce is unique. Educate yourself, set clear boundaries, and always prioritize your children's well-being to move forward with confidence and peace.

Season 2: Episode 1 - Learn About New Format, Live Coaching, & Our Community

Discover the exciting new features of the second season of the Better Than Bitter podcast, including live coaching sessions, an active support community, and expert guidance for those navigating divorce. MAIN TOPICS: 1. Launch of live coaching sessions on the podcast 2. How listeners can apply to be coached and share their stories 3. Creation of the Better Than Bitter Community for ongoing support 4. Resources, virtual events, and expert Q&A sections 5. Emphasis on hope, healing, and positive forward movement after divorce IN THIS EPISODE: 1. Introduction to live coaching opportunities and how to apply 2. Overview of the new Better Than Bitter Community and its purpose 3. Details on community features such as support circles, resource library, and live groups 4. Membership options and the importance of small, intentional investments 5. How the community aims to foster hope, courage, and amicable divorce journeys TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 - Welcome to season two and the new focus on live coaching 00:28 - How to apply for live coaching sessions on the podcast 00:56 - Introducing the Better Than Bitter Community and its purpose 01:23 - Community features: support circles, resources, and events 02:15 - Membership options and community goals for hope and healing 02:45 - Joining instructions and URL overview 03:14 - Closing remarks and encouraging ongoing support RESOURCES & LINKS: 1. Apply for Live Coaching [https://betterthanbitter.coach/application] 2. Better Than Bitter Community [https://betterthanbitter.coach/supportmembership] 3. Better Than Bitter Website [https://betterthanbitter.coach/] CONNECT WITH TANYA LEICHLITER: 1. Website [https://betterthanbitter.coach/] 2. Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/betterthanbitter.tm]

Episode 60: You May Be Divorcing a Narcissist — Here’s How to Tell

EPISODE 60: YOU MAY BE DIVORCING A NARCISSIST, HERE’S HOW TO TELL GUEST: JEFF WRIGHT Jeff Wright is a performance coach, speaker, and someone I’m grateful to call a friend and mentor. He runs a global insurance firm and has built tremendous success professionally — but what really defines Jeff is his commitment to helping people change their lives. He’s the ultimate change-maker, and he genuinely does this work because it matters to him. His perspective on narcissism isn’t just professional — it’s personal. Jeff grew up with a father who struggled with alcoholism and narcissistic behavior, so he understands these dynamics firsthand. Through his coaching and his Instagram platform, @therealjeffwright, he breaks down narcissistic traits, high-conflict behavior, and the difference between patterns and personality disorders with clarity and depth. I’m excited for you to hear this conversation. Website: Jeff's Website [https://therealjeffwright.com/] Connect with Jeff Wright Here: @therealjeffwright on Instagram [https://instagram.com/therealjeffwright] Jeff on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@therealjeffwright] SPECIAL OFFER: For $1, get a month's access to our Divorce Companion Community. This includes tools tailored to your divorce stage, a self-paced course, and a supportive community of relatable individuals. Coupon code: BTBCOMPANION2026 Click here to JOIN [https://community.betterthanbitter.coach/checkout/divorce-companion] SUMMARY In this episode, Jeff and Tania explore narcissistic traits, their impact on relationships, especially during divorce, and practical strategies for managing interactions with narcissists. They discuss passive-aggressive behaviors, active listening, and maintaining emotional control to protect oneself. KEYWORDS narcissism, relationships, divorce, passive-aggressive, emotional intelligence, communication strategies, narcissistic traits, conflict resolution, co-parenting, emotional control KEY TOPICS Narcissistic traits and behaviors Impact of narcissism on relationships and divorce Strategies for effective communication and emotional control TAKEAWAYS * Most people have some narcissistic traits, but only a small percentage have narcissistic personality disorder. * Passive-aggressive behavior often overlaps with narcissistic traits and can be used to manipulate or criticize subtly. * Active listening and staying neutral, brief, and factual can disarm narcissistic attacks and reduce conflict. * Controlling your emotional reactions is crucial; emotional reactions feed narcissistic behavior. * Consistently applying the same communication strategies is necessary to prevent narcissists from reverting to old behaviors. * Avoiding conflict and not speaking badly about your ex to children helps protect their emotional well-being. * Modeling healthy behavior and maintaining high-road communication influences children positively. TITLES * Understanding Narcissistic Traits in Divorce: Practical Strategies * How to Manage Narcissistic Behaviors During Co-Parenting SOUND BITES "Everybody has a little bit of narcissism in them." "Model healthy behavior to influence children positively." "Avoid avoiding conflict; it only makes problems worse." CHAPTERS 00:00 Understanding Narcissism in Today's Society 02:39 Traits of Narcissistic Behavior 04:45 Identifying Narcissistic Responses 07:44 The Importance of Active Listening 10:29 Managing Emotions in Conversations 13:33 Effective Communication Strategies 16:08 Conflict Avoidance vs. Conflict Efficiency 22:31 The Burden of Unspoken Words 24:38 Choosing Your Battles in Relationships 27:06 The Ripple Effect of Family Dynamics 31:27 Recognizing Narcissistic Behaviors 31:57 The Role of Parents in Shaping Narcissism 32:56 Navigating Co-Parenting with a Narcissist 34:49 The Importance of Taking the High Road 36:01 Modeling Behavior for Future Generations 44:15 Introduction to Amicable Divorce 45:37 Resources for Support and Growth On our website [https://www.betterthanbitter.coach/] you'll find details and additional information on our 5-Step Gameplan [https://betterthanbitter.coach/all-courses] multimedia course, our different types of coaching [https://betterthanbitter.coach/divorce-coaching] methods [https://betterthanbitter.coach/divorce-coaching], monthly memberships, events and retreats [https://betterthanbitter.coach/how-to-work-with-us], and a whole lot more. Plus, we've got a ton of free resources, like our monthly newsletter [https://betterthanbitter.coach/newsletter], our private Facebook group [https://www.facebook.com/groups/betterthanbitter], our Instagram channel [https://www.instagram.com/betterthanbitter.tm/], and a library of articles [https://betterthanbitter.coach/blog] and free webinars [https://betterthanbitter.coach/registration] to help you along the way. When you go to our website, you'll be able to schedule a free 45-minute breakthrough call [https://betterthanbitter.coach/application]. Remember, we're here to help you reach an amicable resolution. Find your courage and believe in your brighter future because you know what? It is possible. At Better Than Bitter™, we measure success by what we give and not by what we get. So, let's change the divorce dialogue together. It's time to be better than bitter. Do you want to know if We Can Help You? Book A Free 1:1 Breakthrough Call Now! Click Here [https://betterthanbitter.coach/application] If you want to connect with a Divorce Concierge, contact Vesta Divorce Concierge here [https://vestadivorce.com/]!

Episode 59: Child-Centered Divorce: Part 2 - Throwing Away The WHY!

EPISODE 59: CHILD-CENTERED DIVORCE: PART 2 - HOW TO MAKE YOUR LIFE NOT SUCK DURING DIVORCE (CHILD CENTERED DIVORCE PART 2: THROWING AWAY THE WHY!) For $1, get a month's access to our Divorce Companion Community. This includes tools tailored to your divorce stage, a self-paced course, and a supportive community of relatable individuals. Coupon code: BTBCOMPANION2026 Click here to JOIN [https://community.betterthanbitter.coach/checkout/divorce-companion] SUMMARY In this episode, Tania Leichliter discusses how to move beyond dwelling on the past in divorce by 'throwing away the why.' She offers practical strategies to release emotional baggage, reframe thoughts, and focus on creating a brighter future, emphasizing emotional accountability and self-care. KEYWORDS divorce, emotional regulation, mental health, self-care, future focus, mental reframe, emotional baggage, healing, child-centered divorce KEY TOPICS The importance of releasing the 'why' in divorce Strategies to reframe negative thoughts Focusing on future goals and emotional accountability TITLES Throw Away the Why: Moving Forward in Divorce Reframe Your Past: A Guide to Child-Centered Divorce SOUND BITES "Throw away the why to stop living in the past." "Healing comes from direction, not explanations." "Separate others' choices from your self-worth." CHAPTERS 00:00 Introduction to Child-Centered Divorce 01:28 The Importance of Emotional Accountability 02:19 Letting Go of the Why 03:50 Creating Space for the Future 04:35 Exercises to Evict the Why 07:19 Healing Through Future Focus 08:20 Conclusion and Next Steps 08:55 Introduction to Amicable Divorce 10:18 Resources for Support and Growth On our website [https://www.betterthanbitter.coach/] you'll find details and additional information on our 5-Step Gameplan [https://betterthanbitter.coach/all-courses] multimedia course, our different types of coaching [https://betterthanbitter.coach/divorce-coaching] methods [https://betterthanbitter.coach/divorce-coaching], monthly memberships, events and retreats [https://betterthanbitter.coach/how-to-work-with-us], and a whole lot more. Plus, we've got a ton of free resources, like our monthly newsletter [https://betterthanbitter.coach/newsletter], our private Facebook group [https://www.facebook.com/groups/betterthanbitter], our Instagram channel [https://www.instagram.com/betterthanbitter.tm/], and a library of articles [https://betterthanbitter.coach/blog] and free webinars [https://betterthanbitter.coach/registration] to help you along the way. When you go to our website, you'll be able to schedule a free 45-minute breakthrough call [https://betterthanbitter.coach/application]. Remember, we're here to help you reach an amicable resolution. Find your courage and believe in your brighter future because you know what? It is possible. At Better Than Bitter™, we measure success by what we give and not by what we get. So, let's change the divorce dialogue together. It's time to be better than bitter. Do you want to know if We Can Help You? Book A Free 1:1 Breakthrough Call Now! Click Here [https://betterthanbitter.coach/application] If you want to connect with a Divorce Concierge, contact Vesta Divorce Concierge here [https://vestadivorce.com/]!

Episode 58: Child Centered Divorce Part 1 -Be Bigger Than Yourself

EPISODE 58: CHILD CENTERED DIVORCE-BE BIGGER THAN YOURSELF For $1, get a month's access to our Divorce Companion Community. This includes tools tailored to your divorce stage, a self-paced course, and a supportive community of relatable individuals. Coupon code: BTBCOMPANION2026 Click here to JOIN [https://community.betterthanbitter.coach/checkout/divorce-companion] SUMMARY In this conversation, Tania Leichliter discusses the concept of a child-centered divorce, emphasizing the importance of emotional regulation and personal responsibility. She introduces the Four Rs method (retract, regroup, re-script, respond) to help individuals navigate their emotions during divorce. The conversation highlights the impact of one's actions on children and the importance of modeling positive behavior. Tania encourages listeners to align their actions with their values and to choose resilience and self-compassion throughout the divorce process. TAKEAWAYS 1. A child-centered divorce begins with personal responsibility. 2. Emotional regulation is key to navigating divorce. 3. The Four Rs method helps manage emotional responses. 4. Your actions impact not just you, but your children. 5. Self-compassion is crucial during difficult times. 6. You have the power to choose how you feel. 7. Align your actions with your core values. 8. Evaluate the impact of your behaviors on others. 9. Resilience is essential in overcoming challenges. 10. Join supportive communities for guidance and resources. TITLES Navigating Divorce with a Child-Centered Approach Emotional Regulation in Divorce: The Four Rs SOUND BITES "It begins with you." "Who is watching you?" "You get to choose." KEYWORDS child-centered divorce, emotional regulation, four Rs, parenting, divorce support, self-compassion, personal responsibility, emotional maturity, resilience, co-parenting On our website [https://www.betterthanbitter.coach/] you'll find details and additional information on our 5-Step Gameplan [https://betterthanbitter.coach/all-courses] multimedia course, our different types of coaching [https://betterthanbitter.coach/divorce-coaching] methods [https://betterthanbitter.coach/divorce-coaching], monthly memberships, events and retreats [https://betterthanbitter.coach/how-to-work-with-us], and a whole lot more. Plus, we've got a ton of free resources, like our monthly newsletter [https://betterthanbitter.coach/newsletter], our private Facebook group [https://www.facebook.com/groups/betterthanbitter], our Instagram channel [https://www.instagram.com/betterthanbitter.tm/], and a library of articles [https://betterthanbitter.coach/blog] and free webinars [https://betterthanbitter.coach/registration] to help you along the way. When you go to our website, you'll be able to schedule a free 45-minute breakthrough call [https://betterthanbitter.coach/application]. Remember, we're here to help you reach an amicable resolution. Find your courage and believe in your brighter future because you know what? It is possible. At Better Than Bitter™, we measure success by what we give and not by what we get. So, let's change the divorce dialogue together. It's time to be better than bitter. Do you want to know if We Can Help You? Book A Free 1:1 Breakthrough Call Now! Click Here [https://betterthanbitter.coach/application] If you want to connect with a Divorce Concierge, contact Vesta Divorce Concierge here [https://vestadivorce.com/]!