Burnout, Boundaries and Building a Career That Lasts as a Pilates Teacher with Audrey O'Connor

Burnout, Boundaries and Building a Career That Lasts as a Pilates Teacher with Audrey O'Connor

"I cannot be of service to other people if I cannot be of service to myself." You left the corporate world for a reason. But somehow you're exhausted, resentful, and wondering why this passion-driven career feels just as relentless as the one you walked away from. Nic is joined by Audrey O'Connor - former quantity surveyor, Pilates teacher, sound healer, and wellness educator who now works with global brands like Google. Back for her second appearance, Audrey digs into what burnout actually looks like for Pilates teachers - not just tiredness, but resentment, physical symptoms, and the trap of performing busyness as a badge of honour. They get practical on morning rituals, finances, multiple revenue streams, and valuing your time before resentment does it for you. Audrey also brings in something unexpected: astrology and human design as tools for understanding why you show up the way you do - and why changing your mind is not the same as being flaky. Whether you're in the thick of burnout or starting to feel the edges of it, there's something here for you. Timestamps 01:13 What burnout actually is - beyond just being tired 03:50 Busyness as a badge of honour and how to recognise the patterns 07:52 Vision, values, and the Pilates industry comparison trap 09:02 How performance and money are connected to burnout 11:12 Taking care of your body when teaching is your job 13:15 Switching off on holiday (and why content creation doesn't count as rest) 17:05 Rituals, routines and habit stacking 23:37 Finding a ritual practice that fits your life 26:07 Astrology and human design as tools for self-understanding 31:34 Why Pilates teachers are particularly prone to burnout 32:21 Being of service vs. sacrificing yourself 34:15 Burnout, undervaluing, and our complicated relationship with money 56:58 Mindset, self-worth, and why opportunities arrive when you stop chasing them 58:44 If you're overwhelmed right now - start here If this episode resonated, share it with someone in the industry who needs to hear it. And make sure you're following along so you don't miss what's coming next. Connect with Nic: * Beyond the Reformer Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/beyond_reformer_pod/] * Soul Pilates Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/soul_pilates/] * Soul Pilates Education [https://www.instagram.com/soul_pilates_education/] * Nic's Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/nic_soulpilates/] * Join Soul at Home [https://soulpilates.tv/] * Book a Pilates Class [https://www.soulpilates.co.uk/our-timetable.html] * Sign up to Our Newsletter [https://mailchi.mp/2bff55298739/beyond-the-reformer] Connect with Audrey: * Audrey's Sound Healing Training [https://corestatehq.com/mastery-of-sound] * Core State Website [https://corestatehq.com/about] * Audrey’s Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/audreyoconnor_____/] * The Everyday Hero Manifesto Book [https://www.amazon.co.uk/Everyday-Hero-Manifesto-Positivity-Productivity/dp/0008312877] Join the Soul Pilates Retreat in Cornwall on 19 June for a weekend of movement, rest and nourishment. Find all the details here. [https://www.soulpilates.co.uk/restful-retreats.html] Thinking about investing in Pilates equipment? Balanced Body are offering our listeners a special discount! Fill in the form here [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSd-lGFiH2VDIZP7OY1xB3Mew_NgD79rR-Vccrr8pFD3j_MMew/viewform] and mention Soul Pilates when you order. Interested in joining the July Teacher Training intake? Find all the details and book a call here [https://www.soulpilates.co.uk/reformer-teacher-training.html]. Get 5% off Balanced Body Pilates equipment with the code SOUL PILATES  [https://balancedbodyequipment.uk/reformers/]

Teaching Pilates to Children: How to Make It Fun, Inclusive & Effective

Nic is joined by Clarissa Shepherd, kids Pilates specialist, pre and postnatal educator, Club Pilates master trainer, and author of Sage Does Pilates [https://www.amazon.co.uk/Sage-Does-Pilates-Clarissa-Shepherd/dp/B0CT9Y67YX] and Babies & Barre. [https://store.bookbaby.com/book/babies-and-barre1?srsltid=AfmBOor9T9nv05H6kW2Uf0-hUlTWzI2I5sZZZjYboj5CauRxJIwu3BjC] Clarissa's story is anything but conventional. From working in TV news and witnessing a live on-air shooting, to packing up her car with $600 and driving to Dallas, to funding her Pilates certification while working night shifts - her path to becoming a Pilates teacher is one of grit, resilience and pure determination. But what makes Clarissa's work truly unique is who she teaches. While the Pilates industry talks about being "for everyone," Clarissa noticed a glaring gap - children are almost always left out.  She shares why bringing Pilates into families' lives earlier is one of the biggest untapped opportunities in the industry, and how her own experience of an absent mother during childhood became the driving force behind her mission to connect families through movement. The conversation explores how to adapt Pilates for different ages - from babies and toddlers to teenagers and everything in between - and why storytelling, play and affirmations are just as important as the repertoire. Clarissa also shares how she's training other teachers to do this work and working towards licensing her kids Pilates framework so it can reach families around the world. Timestamps 00:00 Intro to Clarissa  00:32 Why families are the missing piece in Pilates  02:51 Clarissa's backstory - news, Dallas and $600 to her name  05:43 Discovering Pilates and being inspired by female leadership  09:01 Funding her certification and the sacrifices she made  13:13 Moving to Germany, becoming a mother and finding her path  16:03 How pregnancy sparked her interest in pre and postnatal Pilates  17:30 Teaching children for the first time  17:40 How to adapt Pilates for different ages and stages  20:07 Using affirmations and mentorship with teenagers  22:52 Making Pilates a game for younger children  24:18 Mommy and me classes and incorporating babies into movement  25:41 The creativity and storytelling skills kids Pilates demands  25:41 Training teachers to teach kids Pilates  44:10 Who Clarissa works with - from ballerinas to retirees  45:04 What's next for Clarissa  46:24 Quick-fire questions  48:24 Where to connect with Clarissa Thanks so much to Clarissa for coming on the podcast and sharing such an honest and inspiring story. Please make sure to subscribe and rate the show 5 stars if you've been loving it - it helps the show more than you know. Connect with Nic: * Beyond the Reformer Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/beyond_reformer_pod/] * Soul Pilates Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/soul_pilates/] * Soul Pilates Education [https://www.instagram.com/soul_pilates_education/] * Nic's Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/nic_soulpilates/] * Join Soul at Home [https://soulpilates.tv/] * Book a Pilates Class [https://www.soulpilates.co.uk/our-timetable.html] * Sign up to Our Newsletter [https://mailchi.mp/2bff55298739/beyond-the-reformer] Connect with Clarissa: * Clarissa's Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/pilatesmamii_/] * Pilates Mamii Website [http://www.pilatesmamii.com] * YouTube: Pilates Mamii [https://www.youtube.com/@PilatesMamii/videos] * Facebook: Pilates Mamii [http://facebook.com/1499958710045630?ref=NONE_xav_ig_profile_page_web] * Clarissa’s Sage Does Pilates Book [https://www.amazon.co.uk/Sage-Does-Pilates-Clarissa-Shepherd/dp/B0CT9Y67YX] * Clarissa’s Babies & Barre Book [https://store.bookbaby.com/book/babies-and-barre1?srsltid=AfmBOor9T9nv05H6kW2Uf0-hUlTWzI2I5sZZZjYboj5CauRxJIwu3BjC] Join the Soul Pilates Retreat in Cornwall on 19 June for a weekend of movement, rest and nourishment. Find all the details here. [https://www.soulpilates.co.uk/restful-retreats.html] Thinking about investing in Pilates equipment? Balanced Body are offering our listeners a special discount! Fill in the form here [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSd-lGFiH2VDIZP7OY1xB3Mew_NgD79rR-Vccrr8pFD3j_MMew/viewform] and mention Soul Pilates when you order. Interested in joining the July Teacher Training intake? Find all the details and book a call here [https://www.soulpilates.co.uk/reformer-teacher-training.html]. Get 5% off Balanced Body Pilates equipment with the code SOUL PILATES  [https://balancedbodyequipment.uk/reformers/]

Beyond Classical: Ron Fletcher's Pilates Legacy With Kyria Sabin

"The body floats on the breath. Without the breath, we don't have a core. We don't have a centre." - Kyria Sabin In this episode, we are joined by Kyria Sabin, director of Fletcher Pilates International and one of the most respected custodians of a first-generation Pilates lineage in the world. Kyria worked directly with Ron Fletcher - a first-generation teacher who studied with Joseph and Clara Pilates and danced with Martha Graham - and has dedicated her career to preserving and evolving his approach to the method. Her path into Pilates was never planned; she was heading towards law school when a session at the Ron Fletcher Studio changed everything. Kyria and Nic explore what it truly means to carry a lineage forward, why the "classical vs contemporary" debate misses the point, and what made Ron Fletcher's approach so unique - from his movement-based philosophy to his breath-centred teaching. They take an honest look at the current state of Pilates education, the dangers of watered-down training, the rise of reformer-only studios, and what it actually takes to establish meaningful standards for the industry. And they go deeper into the spiritual dimension of Pilates - why client transformation so often shows up in relationships and sense of self first, and what Ron Fletcher would likely say if he saw where Pilates is today. (Spoiler: it's one word.) Timestamps 00:00 Introduction to Kyria Sabin 00:10 Carrying Ron Fletcher's legacy - responsibility and blessing 04:47 What makes the Fletcher approach unique 08:31 Classical vs contemporary - why the conversation misses the point 12:42 Kyria's journey: from art world to Pilates 15:38 How Kyria trained - the apprenticeship model 17:24 Life in Tucson and accidentally staying for 35 years 18:39 The gift of seeing bodies and learning to teach 21:57 Taking over Fletcher Pilates International 23:13 Building a cohesive studio culture and team 26:35 Creating the Fletcher Pilates teacher training programme 28:39 What goes into a quality Pilates education 32:39 The 12-step framework that underpins the Fletcher programme 34:02 Why Pilates transformation shows up in clients' lives, not just bodies 38:45 What defines a high-quality teacher training programme 43:55 Should reformer teachers still be comprehensively trained? 56:29 What excites Kyria about the future of Pilates 58:21 What concerns her about where the industry is heading 01:00:22 Quick-fire questions 01:02:26 Where to find Kyria If you're enjoying the podcast, make sure you're following along so you don't miss future episodes. And feel free to share this one with someone you think would take something from it. Connect with Nic: * Beyond the Reformer Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/beyond_reformer_pod/] * Soul Pilates Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/soul_pilates/] * Soul Pilates Education [https://www.instagram.com/soul_pilates_education/] * Nic's Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/nic_soulpilates/] * Join Soul at Home [https://soulpilates.tv/] * Book a Pilates Class [https://www.soulpilates.co.uk/our-timetable.html] * Sign up to Our Newsletter [https://mailchi.mp/2bff55298739/beyond-the-reformer] Connect with Kyria: * Fletcher Pilates Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/fletcher.pilates/] * Fletcher Pilates Website [https://fletcherpilates.com/] * Fletcher Pilates Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/fletcherpilates/] * Kyria’s Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/kyria_sabin/] Get 5% off Balanced Body Pilates equipment with the code SOUL PILATES  [https://balancedbodyequipment.uk/reformers/]

A Year of Pilates Conversations Changed How I Think About Teaching

Beyond the Reformer turns 1!! 🥳 In this special solo anniversary episode, Nic marks one full year of Beyond the Reformer by sharing her honest reflections on everything she has learned over the past year. She opens up about nearly quitting the podcast, the challenge of doing too much as a studio owner and educator, and how a year of conversations with some of the most respected Pilates professionals in the world has genuinely changed her perspective. A huge thank you to every single one of you who has supported the podcast over the past year. The community that has been built is more than anything Nic could have imagined, and she cannot wait to continue bringing you these conversations. Timestamps: 00:00 Reflecting on one year of the podcast 07:08 The reality of doing too much 10:13 Bringing a journalism mindset into podcasting 14:31 Putting yourself out there and asking for opportunities 18:30 Understanding classical vs contemporary Pilates 22:39 Why your personality is your superpower 24:16 Finding your reason for teaching Pilates 26:01 How to choose the right teacher training 30:28 What presence really means in teaching 35:35 Humility and the importance of continuous learning 41:01 Rethinking failure and challenge in classes 45:07 What’s next for the podcast and community Make sure to subscribe to continue hearing these conversations every week, and send Nic a DM on the Beyond the Reformer Instagram page with your thoughts on this week’s episode. Connect with Nic: * Beyond the Reformer Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/beyond_reformer_pod/] * Soul Pilates Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/soul_pilates/] * Soul Pilates Education [https://www.instagram.com/soul_pilates_education/] * Nic’s Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/nic_soulpilates/] * Join Soul at Home [https://soulpilates.tv/] * Book a Pilates Class [https://www.soulpilates.co.uk/our-timetable.html] * Sign up to Our Newsletter [https://mailchi.mp/2bff55298739/beyond-the-reformer] Get 5% off Balanced Body Pilates equipment with the code SOUL PILATES  [https://balancedbodyequipment.uk/reformers/]

Rethinking Pilates for Runners, Pain, and Performance with Juan Nieto

Nic is joined by Juan Nieto, a physical therapist, Polestar educator, founder of the Reformer Flow Collective and co-creator of Runty. Juan brings a completely different perspective to Pilates, movement, and coaching. Rather than focusing on perfect technique or choosing the “right” exercises, he challenges the idea that there even is a single correct way to move. Instead, he shares why expanding movement options, building awareness, and increasing variability is what truly helps people move better, reduce pain, and build resilience. The conversation explores how Pilates can act as a foundation for everything else, from running to strength training, and why it should be seen as part of a bigger movement ecosystem rather than a standalone solution. Juan shares why group classes can be more powerful than privates, how play and task-based learning can transform the way people move, and why teachers need to shift from instructing to creating environments where real learning can happen. Timestamps 00:00 Intro to Juan 00:37 Why Pilates should be seen as a starting point, not the end goal 04:58 The challenge of getting runners into Pilates 08:16 Using Pilates as effective cross-training 11:30 Juan’s journey into movement and physical therapy 12:27 Moving away from hands-on treatment to building client independence 14:30 The opportunity for Pilates teachers in modern rehab 20:33 Understanding pain, beliefs, and the nervous system 23:01 Assessing movement through tasks and tendencies 25:45 Why group classes can be more powerful than privates 29:03 Building agency and independence in your clients 31:57 Why Pilates teachers need to stop over-cueing 35:03 Using play and games to improve movement and learning 37:44 The Reformer Flow Collective and creative teaching 45:41 Quick-fire questions 49:31 Where to connect with Juan Thanks so much to Juan for coming on the podcast. Please make sure to subscribe and rate the show 5 stars if you’ve been loving it, it helps the show more than you know. Connect with Nic: * Beyond the Reformer Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/beyond_reformer_pod/] * Soul Pilates Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/soul_pilates/] * Soul Pilates Education [https://www.instagram.com/soul_pilates_education/] * Nic’s Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/nic_soulpilates/] * Join Soul at Home [https://soulpilates.tv/] * Book a Pilates Class [https://www.soulpilates.co.uk/our-timetable.html] * Sign up to Our Newsletter [https://mailchi.mp/2bff55298739/beyond-the-reformer] * Connect with Juan * Juan Nieto Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/juaninguiso/] * Email: juan@postpilates.es [juan@postpilates.es] * Reformer Flow Collective [https://www.skool.com/reformer-flow-collective/about?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAc3J0YwZhcHBfaWQMMjU2MjgxMDQwNTU4AAGnPQUAmDpwEm8wH2-mBocfJ2ISDJBcssZoKRh7QS6BcxT6x3IluU7HEATuTZ4_aem_VE3I3I_FQSdIuQm3aj45rw] * Polestar Pilates Spain [https://www.cursosdepilates.com/] Get 5% off Balanced Body Pilates equipment with the code SOUL PILATES  [https://balancedbodyequipment.uk/reformers/]