Polyamory & Monogamy

Polyamory & Monogamy

Well, hey! It's been a while since we've holla'd at ya. How you holdin up? We've been on a little hiatus - or not so little, to be honest - focusing on life stuff, family milestones, and sometimes just barely keepin it together. Let the church say amen   In this episode which has been in the can since prior to our hiatus, our bi blank men take on the vast and rangy topic of polyamory & monogamy.   Along the way we get into the origin, meaning and nuance of the term polyamory in culture, as well as other terms like nonmonogamy and open relationships; we grapple with and debate our own conceptions of monogamy, as two folks that have long decided it's not for either of us; we explore class dynamics within the polyamorous community writ large, stimulated by relatively recent conversation around polyamory in mainstream media and social media; we even discuss the tricky phenomenon of polyamory (or nonmonogamy) as a fix for failed monogamous partnership;   And much more!  We hope you enjoy it, and we wanna hear your thoughts.     A few links to stuff & folks referenced in our convo:   Neo-pagan leader Morning Glory Zell Ravenheart - credited with originating the term 'polyamory' [https://www.huffpost.com/entry/morning-glory-zell-dead_n_5324410] Tyler Austin Harper's article in The Atlantic which sparked our class convo [https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2024/02/polyamory-ruling-class-fad-monogamy/677312/] The Ethical Slut, by Dossie Easton [https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-ethical-slut-third-edition-a-practical-guide-to-polyamory-open-relationships-and-other-freedoms-in-sex-and-love-revised-janet-w-hardy/11368130?ean=9780399579660&next=t&next=t] Polyamory advocate and educator Evita Sawyer [https://www.instagram.com/lavitaloca34/] Polysecure, by Jessica Fern [https://bookshop.org/p/books/polysecure-attachment-trauma-and-consensual-nonmonogamy-jessica-fern/14490932?ean=9781944934989&next=t&next=t] Love's Not Color Blind [https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-s-not-color-blind-race-and-representation-in-polyamorous-and-other-alternative-communities-kevin-a-patterson/50751?ean=9781944934460&next=t&next=t], by Kevin Patterson [https://www.instagram.com/polyrolemodels] Bisexual Married Men [https://bookshop.org/p/books/bisexual-married-men-stories-of-relationships-acceptance-and-authenticity-robert-cohen/20113162?ean=9781032473260&next=t&next=t], by Rob Cohen [https://www.instagram.com/twobiguys/]

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