11. The Boundary Is Not the Problem...You Set It. They Crossed It. Now What?

13. Are Your Kids Getting the Best of You? Or, What's Left of You?

Summary Dr. Celeste Simmons shares practical strategies for co-parenting, focusing on relational proximity and emotional presence to improve parent-child relationships amidst co-parenting challenges. Keywords co-parenting, relational proximity, emotional presence, parenting strategies, family dynamics Key topics * Relational proximity and emotional presence in parenting * The impact of emotional state on parent-child relationships * Strategies to improve relational access and attunement * The proximity check and emotional regulation techniques * Shifting focus from effort to relational quality Takeaways * Your kids measure your love by your presence, not your effort. * Relational proximity is about where you are emotionally, not physically. * Children manage their parents' emotions, not just their own needs. * Quality time is less important than attuned, emotionally available presence. * Relational access is given to conflict and stress, not just loved ones. Themes * The 4 Key Steps to Being Fully Present for Your Kids * How to Reclaim Your Relational Space in Co-Parenting Sound bites "Your kids measure your love by your presence, not your effort." "Relational proximity is about where you are emotionally." "Show up as a stable, attuned, emotionally available parent." Check Your Own Proximity [https://proximitycheck.lovable.app] Book with Dr. Celeste [https://www.drcelestephd.com/contact/]

12. This May Not Be the Mother's Day You Planned, and That's Okay

Summary Dr. Celeste Simmons offers practical strategies for honest and healthy Mother’s Day experiences, especially for mothers navigating grief, separation, and complex emotions. This episode emphasizes self-awareness, honest reflection, and adaptable standards to foster emotional well-being. Keywords Mother’s Day, grief, co-parenting, mental health, self-awareness, emotional resilience, parenting strategies, mental health tips, honest motherhood, coping mechanisms Key Topics Honest motherhood and grief The GPS framework (Goal, Position, Standard) Managing expectations and standards on difficult days The importance of self-awareness and honesty in parenting Practical tools for emotional resilience takeaways Grief doesn’t take holidays; it’s ongoing and needs acknowledgment. Honest reflection about where you are is essential for moving forward. Adjusting standards on hard days helps maintain emotional health. The GPS framework helps clarify goals, current position, and standards. Mother’s Day can be honest and meaningful even if it’s not perfect. Titles The Honest Mother’s Day: Embracing Your True Feelings 5 Steps to Navigate Mother’s Day When It’s Hard sound bites "Grief doesn’t take holidays; it’s ongoing." "Adjust your standards to match the terrain." "Mother’s Day can be honest and meaningful." Resources Co-Parenting Reality Check [https://drcelestephd.kit.com/d88b29b76d?utm_source=Pinterest&utm_medium=organic] Proximity Audit [https://proximitycheck.lovable.app] Work with Dr. Celeste [https://outlook.office.com/bookwithme/user/9d77f99bddb34c568b2e0b3df8f364b6@drcelestephd.com/meetingtype/mWaRSIuSqU236IX28cVv7w2?anonymous&ep=mLinkFromTile]

11. The Boundary Is Not the Problem...You Set It. They Crossed It. Now What?

Mastering Boundary Crossings in Co-Parenting: The A.I.R. Framework In this episode, Dr. Celeste Simmons shares practical strategies for navigating boundary crossings with your co-parent. Learn how understanding the underlying conflict, assessing the situation, and responding appropriately can improve your co-parenting dynamic and protect your children’s well-being. Key Topics * The importance of viewing boundary crossings as distress signals rather than communication failures * How to assess whether boundary violations are one-time issues or recurring patterns * The AIR framework: Assessment, Insight, Response – for effective conflict management * Why matching your response to the level of conflict prevents escalation * The dangers of reacting with low-conflict tools to high-conflict situations * Practical steps to interrupt escalation cycles before they become critical Effects of boundary violations on children’s sense of stability and safety Key Take Aways - Introduction to co-parenting boundaries and why they matter - What if your boundary is crossed despite clear communication? - Boundary violations are signals, not just problems - Example of Cameron’s boundary issues with their co-parent - Understanding escalation and the importance of the conflict continuum - The concept that "the boundary isn’t the problem" - Consequences of unaddressed boundary violations - Signs that boundary violations are escalating - How boundary breaches reinforce negative patterns and impact children - The cost of mismatched responses and importance of appropriate tools - Introducing the AIR framework: Assess, Insight, Response - Step 1: Assess the pattern and recurrence - Step 2: Gain insight into where the conflict sits on the continuum - Step 3: Respond at the appropriate level to prevent escalation Resources & Links * Free Co-Parenting Reality Check [https://drcelestephd.kit.com/d88b29b76d?utm_source=Pinterest&utm_medium=organic] https://drcelestephd.kit.com/d88b29b76d?utm_source=Pinterest&utm_medium=organic * Proximity Audit [https://drcelestephd.gumroad.com/l/proximityaudit] https://drcelestephd.gumroad.com/l/proximityaudit * Book with me [https://www.drcelestephd.com/contact/] Connect with Dr. Celeste * LinkedIn [www.linkedin.com/in/celeste-simmons-ph-d-97315010b] * Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/drcelestephd/]

10. Your AI Co-Parenting Coach is Here...But Can it Actually Help You? With Dr. Katrina Roundfield

Summary The conversation explores the role of AI in co-parenting, addressing the mental load and emotional health of mothers, and providing personalized guidance and support.  In this episode, Dr. Celeste Simmons interviews Dr. Katrina Roundfield and delves into the evidence-based approach in Tara, an AI parenting partner, the impact of mental load on mothers, child development, and its personalized feedback. Also discussed are the nuances of co-parenting, the philosophy behind Tara's development, practical tools for co-parents, and the role of Tara in co-parenting support. Keywords: AI co-parenting, AI parenting app, Tara app, co-parenting support, evidence-based parenting, co-parenting tools, parenting app for moms, co-parenting mom, divorced mom, separated parents, high conflict co-parenting, co-parenting help, tools for co-parents, co-parenting resources Themes * AI in co-parenting * Mental Load and Emotional Health * Personalized Guidance and Support Sound Bites "Can AI actually support co-parenting decisions?" "Most mothers feel inadequate at some point." "Try Tara and see if it moves you forward." Key Takeaways 75% of mothers who need mental health support don't get it. Not because the need isn't there, but because the shame, stigma, and access barriers are. Tara was built for the gap between "I need something" and "I'm ready to call a therapist." 96% of people drop out of digital wellness apps within the first four weeks. The reason? Generic advice that doesn't account for your child, your family structure, or your co-parenting reality. Personalization isn't a nice-to-have, it's the only thing that makes a tool worth using. 9 out of 10 moms feel inadequate at some point. So do 8 out of 10 dads. That means most of us are one of them, and we're raising kids while carrying it. The mental load isn't just logistics. It's the grief, the resentment, and the version of parenthood you didn't expect. (Source: Pew Research) About 10% of Tara users request a human response, and one is always ready. AI has a limit. The best tools know where that line is and have a human waiting on the other side of it. What's in your control is smaller than you think and that's actually good news. Your reactions. Your behaviors. Your next move. Everything outside that circle, your co-parent's choices, your child's temperament, requires a different skill: radical acceptance. That practice is where the weight starts to lift. Keep in touch! - Connect with Dr. Katrina and download Tara! * Website: withtara.com [http://withtara.com] * Newsletter: withtara.com/download [http://withtara.com/download] * IG: @motherhood.withtara * Contact: katrina@withtara.com [katrina@withtara.com] Resources from Dr. Celeste: * Co-Parenting Reality Check: https://drcelestephd.kit.com/d88b29b76d [https://drcelestephd.kit.com/d88b29b76d] * Proximity Audit: https://drcelestephd.gumroad.com/l/proximityaudit [https://drcelestephd.gumroad.com/l/proximityaudit] * Book with Dr. Celeste: https://drcelestephd.com/contact/ [https://drcelestephd.com/contact/]

9. The Score You're Keeping...and the Resentment it's Building...

Summary Dr. Celeste Simmons shares practical strategies to overcome resentment in co-parenting, emphasizing the importance of addressing internal triggers rather than keeping score. Learn how to identify the roots of resentment and take actionable steps to improve your co-parenting relationship. Keywords co-parenting, resentment, mental health, communication, emotional regulation, parenting strategies Key topics The seven seeds of resentment in co-parenting How resentment affects mental health and parenting Practical steps to stop feeding resentment The importance of addressing internal needs over external blame Takeaways Resentment grows from unaddressed internal needs, not just external offenses. Keeping score in co-parenting is a form of self-punishment, not accountability. Naming the seed of resentment helps shift focus from blame to self-awareness. Addressing one unmet need or expectation can break the cycle of resentment. Key Framework Seven Seeds of Resentment Action items Identify which seed of resentment is active for you today. Audit the cost of keeping resentment and decide what to let go. Choose one seed to address and take action to close that loop. Sound bites "The list isn't about accountability, it's about resentment." "Name the seed, not the offense." "Interrupt the pattern to stop the resentment from growing." Chapters Resources Co-Parenting Reality Check - https://drcelestephd.kit.com/d88b29b76d [https://drcelestephd.kit.com/d88b29b76d] Proximity Audit Tool - https://drcelestephd.gumroad.com/l/proximityaudit [https://drcelestephd.gumroad.com/l/proximityaudit] Website - https://www.drcelestephd.com [https://www.drcelestephd.com]