Coffee No Cream Ep. 60 – Everybody Can't Be Your People

Coffee No Cream Ep. 60 – Everybody Can't Be Your People

Three Black women. Three different exits. One conversation the church doesn't want you to have. In this panel episode, Erin sits down with Abby The Attorney, Tammy Triolo, and Ashanti, The Unpunishable Woman, to talk about what it really looks like to leave organized religion. Not the sanitized version. The real one. The grief, the freedom, the rape nobody talked about, the community you lose, and the self you find on the other side. This isn't an attack on faith. It's an honest conversation about what happens when the institution stops serving the women holding it up, and what Black women find when they finally walk away. If you've ever sat in a pew feeling like something was off, this episode is for you.🎙️ Guests: Abby The Attorney TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@abbywinters80] Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/abbywinters80/] YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@abbywinters80] LinkedIn: April Holloway [https://www.linkedin.com/in/april-holloway-ba18b2230/] Tammy Triolo Website: (The Empathy Gap & Empathy Scorecard) [https://tammytriolo.com/] TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@mystylefile]Ashanti, The Unpunishable Woman YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@UChCvHUIMPkmAqWe1Akfk3EA ] TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@UChCvHUIMPkmAqWe1Akfk3EA ] Substack [https://substack.com/@unpunishablewoman]☕ Coffee No Cream is a podcast dedicated to Black women sharing the moments, challenges, and lessons that shape our professional and entrepreneurial journeys. 📌 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join the Coffee No Cream Community⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/groups/coffeenocream] 📚 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Free Educational Resources⁠ [https://CoffeeNoCream.com/free] (00:00) Intro cold open (01:37) Welcome / Erin's intro (04:39) Panelist introductions begin (04:46) Abby shares her background (Missionary Baptist) (08:05) Tammy shares her background (Pentecostal) (10:39) "I was physically and emotionally dying in this place" (11:29) "I sat in the rest of that service and I never went back" (11:45) Ashanti shares her background (Jehovah's Witness) (18:51) Ashanti on JW discipline and shunning (21:08) The "called out" conversation begins (24:26) "I feel like I was called out of the faith" (25:31) Grieving community when you leave (29:43) "I was raped on Saturday and showed up to service on Sunday" (30:17) "Purity culture makes us perfect targets for sexual assault and rape" (51:08) Cult conversation — JW and Baptist compared (1:01:11) Why are Black women so attracted to the church? (1:05:21) "White women go to church. Black women ARE Christians." (1:09:17) Performing femininity on Sunday (1:39:06) Closing thoughts

Coffee No Cream Ep. 59 – Everybody Can't Be Your People

Have you ever completely cut someone off because they said something you didn't like? As I've gotten older, I've realized that not everyone belongs in the same box. Some people are your people. Some people are Hey Girl Hey. Some people are small doses. And some people need no access at all. In this episode, I'm talking about friendship, family, disappointment, expectations, and the lessons I've learned about giving people the right amount of access to my life. What box are the people in your life in? ☕ Coffee No Cream is a podcast dedicated to Black women sharing the moments, challenges, and lessons that shape our professional and entrepreneurial journeys. 📌 ⁠⁠⁠⁠Join the Coffee No Cream Community⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/groups/coffeenocream] 📚 ⁠⁠⁠⁠Free Educational Resources⁠ [https://CoffeeNoCream.com/free] ☕ TIMESTAMPS (0:00) Everyone Can't Be My People (1:02) Have You Ever Broken Up With a Friend? (2:01) The Boxes We Put People In (4:25) Box #1: My People (10:04) Box #2: Hey Girl Hey (15:04) Box #3: You Know How They Are (25:20) Box #4: Small Doses (28:45) Box #5: No Access (31:03) Why We Put People in the Wrong Box (33:15) Final Thoughts

Coffee No Cream Ep 58 - No Man. No Kids. No Apologies. | The Unpunishable Woman ft. Ashanti

She has no man, no kids, and zero apologies about it. And she built a life that proves you don't need either one to win. Ashanti, known as The Unpunishable Woman, joins me on Coffee No Cream to talk about what it really means to be rooted, regulated, and resourced as a Black woman. Her story starts in a place most of us never talk about, being punished by her church for her own assault, and ends with her building a thriving consulting business, moving to New York, and amassing 200K TikTok followers in months by simply telling the truth. We get into faith, money, marriage, body autonomy, and why being chosen should never be the goal. If you've ever been told your independence is the problem, this one's for you. 🔗 Connect with Ashanti: YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/⁠ ⁨@UnpunishableWoman⁩ ] TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/⁠ ⁨@UnpunishableWoman⁩ ] Substack [https://substack.com/@unpunishablewoman?] ☕ Coffee No Cream is a podcast dedicated to Black women sharing the moments, challenges, and lessons that shape our professional and entrepreneurial journeys. 📌 ⁠⁠⁠Join the Coffee No Cream Community⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/groups/coffeenocream] 📚 ⁠⁠⁠Free Educational Resources⁠ [https://CoffeeNoCream.com/free] ⏰ Timestamps (0:00) Intro (1:49) Welcome to Coffee No Cream (4:34) What is an Unpunishable Woman? (6:33) Growing up as a Jehovah's Witness (9:25) The judicial process after her assault (15:08) Her consulting career (24:14) "You need to leave and get to safety" (28:39) Choosing not to marry or have children (38:00) Money does not come from men (45:09) Why she would only marry strategically (54:56) Planning to be work optional by 41 (56:30) Why she moved to New York (1:04:08) Navigating beauty standards as a dark-skinned Black woman (1:05:03) The Jamaica theory

Coffee No Cream - Ep 57 - Black Women Don't Have a Money Problem | Teri Williams, OneUnited Bank

What does it really mean to build wealth as a Black woman? In this episode of Coffee No Cream, I sit down with Teri Williams, President and COO of OneUnited Bank, the largest Black-owned bank in the United States, to talk about money, entrepreneurship, corporate America, purpose, and the lessons Black women need to hear about wealth. Teri shares the story of her great-grandmother, an entrepreneur who helped shape her understanding of success long before Brown University or Harvard Business School. We discuss the difference between income and wealth, why many Black women underestimate their financial strengths, and how discrimination continues to impact financial outcomes. We also talk about navigating corporate environments, responding to negativity with grace, finding your calling, and why success should be defined on your own terms. If you're a Black woman building a career, a business, or a life that reflects your values, this conversation is for you.In this episode: * Building wealth vs. building income * The legacy of Black entrepreneurship * Lessons from the largest Black-owned bank in America * Why Black women are often better with money than they realize * Corporate America, leadership, and navigating bias * The difference between your job and your calling * Responding to negativity without losing yourself * AI, technology, and opportunities for the future Open a OneUnited Bank Account 🌐 OneUnited Bank [https://www.oneunited.com]Watch Teri's podcast, Who's Your Ma Honey [https://www.youtube.com/@oneunitedbank] ☕ Coffee No Cream is a podcast dedicated to Black women sharing the moments, challenges, and lessons that shape our professional and entrepreneurial journeys. 📌 ⁠⁠Join the Coffee No Cream Community⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/groups/coffeenocream] 📚 ⁠⁠Free Educational Resources [https://CoffeeNoCream.com/free] ⏰Timestamps (00:00) Highlights (01:39) Introduction (03:23) Meet Teri Williams, COO of OneUnited Bank (05:56) The Great-Grandmother Who Shaped Her Success (09:35) From Indian Town to Brown University (12:59) Why Teri Left American Express (15:52) Black Women, Wealth & the Real Problem (19:58) Why We Need Black-Owned Banks (24:18) Homeownership and Building Wealth (29:37) Financial Advice for Young Black Women (33:10) Credit Scores, Debt & Financial Health (38:42) Entrepreneurship vs Corporate America (44:31) Your Job vs Your Calling (49:12) Navigating Corporate Spaces with Grace (55:43) Why Teri Is Optimistic About AI (1:00:14) Technology, Business & the Future (1:04:55) Final Advice for Black Women (1:08:01) Supporting Black-Owned Banks (1:09:48) Closing Thoughts

Coffee No Cream Ep 56 - Everybody Can't Consult | The Money You're Already Sitting On

Everybody's telling you to consult. But is that really the move?If you've been thinking about leaving corporate and someone told you to "just start consulting," this episode is for you. Consulting can be lucrative, but it's not a quick money grab, and it's not for everyone. It takes time, network, strategy, and a willingness to sell yourself. And a lot of us don't want to do all that. Here's what nobody's talking about: you're probably already sitting on something you could be monetizing right now. Something that has nothing to do with your degree or your corporate career. Something people are already coming to you for. Maybe even something you've been giving away for free.In this episode, we talk about three questions that can help you figure out what that is and how to start making moves. Important Links 📌 ⁠Join the Coffee No Cream Community⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/groups/coffeenocream] 📚 ⁠Free Educational Resources [https://CoffeeNoCream.com/free] (0:00) Consulting isn't the quick money grab (0:32) Meet my sister, the pianist who won't monetize (4:07) You don't have to jump ship, the misconception (5:49) The Gen X degree allegiance (9:11) Black women have always been enterprising (13:20) Three ways you're already sitting on money (13:32) Question 1: What problem annoys you enough to solve? (18:08) Question 2: What do people always come to you for? (20:44) Question 3: What are you giving away for free? (24:58) Goldman Sachs cohort, business doesn't have to look one way (26:12) Go forth. Do you.