episode 006: leaving social media with amelia hruby

episode 006: leaving social media with amelia hruby

if you've ever felt like you have to be on social media — for your business, your friendships, your sense of not missing out — this episode is your permission slip to rewrite that belief. amelia hruby left instagram in 2021 after recognizing she was repeating the exact same anxious attachment patterns online that she'd already done the hard work to leave behind in a relationship. five years later, she's built a full-time business with zero social media presence, hosted over 170 episodes of her podcast off the grid, and just released her book, your attention is sacred except on social media. this conversation goes past "just quit the apps." amelia and shannon get into why leaving feels so hard when the system is built to make it feel impossible, how reconnecting with ancestral lineage became an actual resource amelia built her successful business on, and why the return of self-trust — not more followers, not more reach — was the biggest thing she got back. plus: what a digital detox can actually reveal about your values, and why "tolerating" your life was never the goal. before the conversation, shannon shares a personal update on ending off grid social club and stepping back from social media themself. in this episode (01:30) shannon's personal update: why off grid social club is ending(09:53) amelia's decision to leave instagram in 2021 and start off the grid(16:19) the systemic side of social media: surveillance capitalism & the attention economy(29:08) ancestral healing as a resource for building a business(53:24) attention audits, digital detoxes & reclaiming personal agency(1:02:24) amelia's magic wand answer: hydration, sleep & starting from the body more from amelia website: ameliahruby.com [http://ameliahruby.com] podcast: off the grid — leaving social media, wherever you listen [https://offthegrid.fun/] book: your attention is sacred except on social media [http://offthegrid.fun/attention] things referenced window of tolerance → window of capacity (linda thai) [https://www.linda-thai.com/] gabor maté on attachment & authenticity — the myth of normal [https://bookshop.org/a/96484/9780593083888] (aff link), or this short video "the tragedy of having to choose between secure attachment and authenticity" [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N2xdXVpyFoo] the instagram video shannon couldn't remember on participation trophies [https://www.instagram.com/reel/DZ7d9KJOSFs/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==] if any of this resonated digital detox with collectively well [http://www.collectivelywell.com/digital-detox] go deeper with breathwork & holistic coaching [http://www.collectivelywell.com/private] join the next monthly reset - virtual community breathwork session [https://collectivelywellschedule.as.me/monthlyreset] sign up for the weekly slow down - the newsletter [https://collectivelywell.myflodesk.com/wellenough] collectively well read - the bookshop [https://bookshop.org/shop/collectivelywell] the village hosted by shannon cury produced and edited by bethany allard cover art by hil lyke of daisy district music by loyae from epidemic sound recorded on kumeyaay land in san diego where to find us substack: collectivelywell.substack.com [http://collectivelywell.substack.com] instagram: @shancury (for now!) instagram: @collectively__well (for now!) collectivelywell.com [http://collectivelywell.com] Get full access to collectively well enough at collectivelywell.substack.com/subscribe [https://collectivelywell.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

episode 005: the power of breathwork & boundaries with chauna bryant

chauna bryant — breathwork facilitator, pilates instructor, and founder of breath liberation society — joins shannon for a conversation that goes beyond the breath. they talk about what it actually means to be trauma-informed (hint: there's no finish line), the energetic boundaries that changed chauna's practice and her personal life, and why "the breath will only give you what you can handle" might be one of the most harmful things being said in wellness spaces right now. this one is equal parts practical, political, and deeply real. in this episode: (02:00) meet chauna — dog mom, leo, pilates instructor since 2006, power walker in silence (11:30) how chauna found breathwork: a messy valentine's day breakup and a witch in the woods as the catalyst to her spiritual awakening (18:00) from a 7-day training to founding BLS — why "just trust the universe" wasn't a good enough answer (26:30) energetic boundaries — what they actually are and why learning them will quietly rearrange your friendships (39:00) trauma-informed isn't a certificate. it's a commitment to keep learning from survivors (51:00) the decolonial lens on science — whose voices get funded, whose wisdom gets cited (57:00) why "your breath will only give you what you can handle" needs to go — and what agency in healing actually looks like (1:02:00) what's coming for BLS: portland in july, a new five-month program, and more where to find chauna: instagram: @chaunabryant [https://www.instagram.com/chaunabryant/] breathliberationsociety.com [http://breathliberationsociety.com] chaunabryant.com [https://www.chaunabryant.com/] newsletter: sign up at breathliberationsociety.com [http://breathliberationsociety.com] youtube: breath liberation society (launching soon) mentioned in this episode: the body keeps the score — bessel van der kolk [https://bookshop.org/a/96484/9780143127741] (aff link) trauma & recovery - judith hermann [https://bookshop.org/a/96484/9781541602953] (aff link) linda thai [https://www.linda-thai.com/]— window of capacity (reframe of dan siegel's window of tolerance) if any of this resonated off grid social club - san diego's digital detox community [http://www.collectivelywell.com/off-grid-social-club] not in san diego? you can still detox [http://www.collectivelywell.com/digital-detox] go deeper with 1:1 somatic coaching and breathwork [http://www.collectivelywell.com/private] sign up for the weekly slow down - the newslettter [https://collectivelywell.myflodesk.com/wellenough] collectively well read - the bookshop [https://bookshop.org/shop/collectivelywell] where to find us: substack: collectively well enough [https://collectivelywell.substack.com/] instagram: @shancury [https://www.instagram.com/shancury/] / @collectively__well [https://www.instagram.com/collectively__well] newsletter: collectivelywell.com [http://collectivelywell.com] website: collectivelywell.com [http://collectivelywell.com] the village: hosted by shannon cury [https://www.shannoncury.com] produced by bethany allard [https://betallard.com/] cover art by hil lyke of daisy district [https://daisydistrict.com/] music by better days from loyae on epidemic sound recorded virtually on kumeyaay land in san diego, ca Get full access to collectively well enough at collectivelywell.substack.com/subscribe [https://collectivelywell.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

episode 004: the spiritual journey of business building with eden connelly tallarico

holistic business coach, digital marketer, and equitable business builder eden connelly tallarico joins shannon for a conversation that moves fluidly between the personal and the political — from growing up on onondaga territory and learning from the haudenosaunee people, to what it actually takes to build a sustainable, values-aligned business without selling your soul. eden has spent 12+ years partnering with healers, herbalists, farmers, and creatives to prove the question she's been asking since her twenties: is it possible to do regenerative work in this world and make money at it? spoiler: yes. but it's messier and more confronting than any funnel will tell you. in this episode (00:02) a pride month note — shannon grounds us in bell hooks' definition of queer and names why allyship matters beyond june (05:39) eden & shannon's origin story & the resonance that brought them together (09:44) growing up on onondaga territory & learning from the haudenosaunee (25:19) the dual consciousness required to repattern the economy by building an equitable & sustainable business (27:09) translating spiritual energy into the material plane... without killing your soul (42:40) the achieving mind vs. the awakened brain (dr. lisa miller) (54:59) asking why eight times & connecting to your lifetime north star more from eden newmoneysocial.club [http://newmoneysocial.club] work with eden [https://www.newmoneysocial.club/work-with-eden] things referenced hoda noshone / onondaga nation [https://www.haudenosauneeconfederacy.com/who-we-are/] rootwork herbals - amanda david [https://www.rootworkherbals.com/] jordan dann - somatic therapist [https://jordandann.com/] dr. lisa miller - [https://bookshop.org/a/96484/9781984855626]the awakened brain [https://bookshop.org/a/96484/9781984855626] (aff link) martha beck [https://marthabeck.com/] & gay hendricks [https://hendricks.com/] if any of this resonated off grid social club - san diego's digital detox community [http://www.collectivelywell.com/off-grid-social-club] not in san diego? you can still detox [http://www.collectivelywell.com/digital-detox] go deeper with 1:1 somatic coaching and breathwork [http://www.collectivelywell.com/private] sign up for the weekly slow down - the newslettter [https://collectivelywell.myflodesk.com/wellenough] collectively well read - the bookshop [https://bookshop.org/shop/collectivelywell] the village hosted by shannon cury produced by bethany allard cover art by hil lyke of daisy district [http://www.daisydistrict.com] music: better days by loyae from epidemic sound where to find us substack [http://www.collectivelywell.substack.com] instagram: @shancury [http://www.instagram.com/shancury] instagram: @collectively__well [http://www.instagram.com/collectively__well] shannoncury.com [http://shannoncury.com] collectivelywell.com [http://collectivelywell.com] Get full access to collectively well enough at collectivelywell.substack.com/subscribe [https://collectivelywell.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

episode 003: healing part 1

we’re all familiar with the idea of healing, but the actual act of it can be elusive. what does it mean to heal? how do we do it? where and why do people start?  in the first episode of a series on healing, shannon starts with discussing what healing is, why it’s actually even more important than you think, and how you can balance your nervous system and start listening to your mind and body.  in this episode: what we mean when we say healing  an aside on astrology and changing/saturn returns stressors, trauma, and the nervous system the mind-body connection basic physiology of the nervous system fight, flight, freeze, and the in between  reclassifying the tiger  how to actually listen to your body ways to open up to healing things referenced linda thai [https://www.linda-thai.com/] - mental health clinician & educator  saturn return calculator from the almost 30 [https://almost30.com/calculator] get your nervous system support guide here [https://collectivelywell.myflodesk.com/m1619d12mw] if any of this resonated off grid social club — san diego's digital detox community [http://www.collectivelywell.com/off-grid-social-club] not in san diego? you can still detox [https://collectivelywell.com/digital-detox] go deeper with 1:1 somatic coaching and breathwork [https://collectivelywell.com/the-somatic-work] sign up for the weekly slow down - the newsletter [https://collectivelywell.myflodesk.com/wellenough] collectively well read - the bookshop [https://bookshop.org/shop/collectivelywell] the village hosted by shannon cury produced by bethany allard [https://betallard.com/bio] cover art by hil lyke of daisy district [https://daisydistrict.com/pages/info] music : better days by loyae from epidemic sound where to find us substack [https://collectivelywell.substack.com/] instagram : @shancury [https://www.instagram.com/shancury] instagram : @collectively__well [https://www.instagram.com/collectively__well] shannoncury.com [http://shannoncury.com] collectivelywell.com [http://collectivelywell.com] Get full access to collectively well enough at collectivelywell.substack.com/subscribe [https://collectivelywell.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

episode 002: group dynamics + the transformational path with angel hu

episode 02: group dynamics + the transformational path with angel hu  leadership educator, executive coach, and buddhist practitioner angel hu (they/them) joins shannon for the first guest episode of collectively well enough. angel is also a loving care-giver to baby sonny, who just so happens to make a special appearance playing in the background of the first few minutes.  angel and shannon talk about angel’s transformational path that brought them from organizational psychology research to coaching & reforming group dynamics, the power of staying gentle and true in corporate environments (and how to do both), and the most important and underrepresented aspects of healing.  stay tuned after their conversation for a guided loving kindness meditation [1:00:34] from shannon to invite in connection & compassion for yourself & the collective.  in this episode (3:31) angel & shannon’s origin story & how the universe conspired with the algorithm to connect them  (7:29) angel’s transformational path to their current work in coaching & group dynamics  (16:50) understanding group dynamics and their transformative power in the self (26:51) the polarizing nature of group dynamics  (31:50) from group dynamics student to teacher for executives & leaders (34:00) angry surgeons, meet angel and the power of speaking truth to power  (40:24) personal healing in healing toxic dynamics in corporate environments (43:04) the key element of healing that deserves more air time (46:56) shadow work, death, and the ongoing path finding presence (51:15) the relationship between the self and collective growth (53:19) the magic wand that abolishes gender  (1:00:34) guided loving kindness meditation more from angel website [https://www.angelhu.com/] instagram : @im.angelhu [https://www.instagram.com/im.angelhu/] tiktok : @imangelhu [https://www.tiktok.com/@imangelhu] things referenced authors & activists melanie klein [https://melanie-klein-trust.org.uk/] - object relations theory  marsha p. johnson [https://marshap.org/] - trans rights activist  alok vaid menon [https://alokvmenon.com/] - artist & performer & gender  adrienne maree brown [https://adriennemareebrown.net/] - leadership & emergent strategy  books (affiliate links) miss major speaks: conversations with a black trans revolutionary by toshio meronek and  [https://bookshop.org/a/96484/9781839763342] beyond the gender binary by alok v. menon [https://bookshop.org/a/96484/9780593094655] alok vaid melon episode of the podcast the man enough podcast [https://open.spotify.com/episode/1SovB8DUniC7EwCg3hRgCM?si=2ead81ba7df74423&nd=1&dlsi=0f47b089d9d34755] all about love [https://bookshop.org/a/96484/9780060959470] by bell hooks  [https://bookshop.org/a/96484/9780060959470] the new saints [https://bookshop.org/a/96484/9781649630001] by lama rod owens [https://bookshop.org/a/96484/9781649630001] if any of this resonated off grid social club — san diego's digital detox community [http://www.collectivelywell.com/off-grid-social-club] not in san diego? you can still detox [https://collectivelywell.com/digital-detox] go deeper with 1:1 somatic coaching and breathwork [https://collectivelywell.com/the-somatic-work] sign up for the weekly slow down - the newsletter [https://collectivelywell.myflodesk.com/wellenough] collectively well read - the bookshop [https://bookshop.org/shop/collectivelywell] the village hosted by shannon cury produced by bethany allard [https://betallard.com/bio] cover art by hil lyke of daisy district [https://daisydistrict.com/pages/info] music : better days by loyae from epidemic sound where to find us substack [https://collectivelywell.substack.com/] instagram : @shancury [https://www.instagram.com/shancury] instagram : @collectively__well [https://www.instagram.com/collectively__well] shannoncury.com [http://shannoncury.com] collectivelywell.com [http://collectivelywell.com] Get full access to collectively well enough at collectivelywell.substack.com/subscribe [https://collectivelywell.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]