The Darkness and the Divine: Reclaiming Masculinity with Traver Boehm

The Ultimate Surrender: Standing Your Ground and Navigating Life's Transitions with Bruce Dines

In this episode of the Cosmic Mistress podcast, host Amanda Frederick sits down with Bruce Dines to explore the profound beauty, struggle, and opportunity hidden within life's most intense transitions. After retiring from a successful business career, Bruce shifted his focus toward his true passions: the evolution of the human spirit and sustainability. From recovering from severe depression and a near-death medical emergency to navigating a divorce after a 25-year marriage, Bruce shares how surrendering to life's obstacles can ultimately lead to a deeper connection with ourselves and the world around us. Main Topics Covered Childhood, Repression, and Depression: Bruce grew up in Colorado and found a deep sense of belonging through outdoor activities like fly fishing and climbing. Raised by a military-grade disciplinarian father who utilized black-and-white thinking, Bruce learned to repress his feelings of anger and sadness because it wasn't safe to express his sensitive nature. This emotional containment eventually manifested as severe depression, which a therapist profoundly described to him as "disowned anger turned on yourself". Healing the Father Wound: Bruce went through a three-year period where he did not speak to his father because their interactions were highly triggering. After doing his own internal work, Bruce was able to repair the relationship; his father had also mellowed with age, transitioning into a confidant who no longer judged him. The Final Surrender (Death and Dying): Bruce views life's smaller transitions as practice for the ultimate surrender: death. He shares the inspiring story of his 98-year-old mother, who remains engaged in life through Tai Chi and bridge, and harbors absolutely no fear of dying. At age 62, Bruce survived a highly fatal aortic dissection. While on the operating table, he was able to call his loved ones to say goodbye and realized he felt entirely peaceful and unafraid of death. Divorce and the "Curse of the Empath": Bruce's near-death experience acted as a catalyst for major life changes, contributing to his retirement and the end of his 25-year marriage. He describes the painful process of divorce as pulling oneself apart at the cellular level, as identities become so deeply intertwined over decades. The greatest gift he received from his divorce was learning how to establish boundaries and stand his ground, navigating the delicate balance of being a highly caring empath. The Medicine of the Buffalo: During one of his darkest periods, Bruce spent three days with a Diné (Navajo) healer. The healer gifted him a medicine bag made of buffalo hide, symbolizing the buffalo's unique instinct to stand its ground rather than run when faced with predators like wolves. Key Takeaways Depression as Disowned Anger: When we shut down our negative feelings to comply with societal or parental guardrails, we also shut ourselves off from experiencing beauty and harmony. The Ripple Effect of Healing: It only takes one person to do the work. By healing his own emotional wounds, Bruce was able to return to his father with more acceptance, which allowed his father to soften in return. Life as Practice for Death: Bumping into major obstacles forces us to realize we cannot control everything. Giving up our ego and attachments prepares us for the peaceful transition of death. Boundaries Bring Clarity: People-pleasing eventually leads to alienation and resentment because it requires abandoning your own identity. Standing your ground with love allows society and relationships to function with much higher integrity. Connect with Bruce Dines Podcast: Listen to Bruce on his new show, Encountering Wisdom, where he explores complex subjects like the father-son relationship, judgment, and forgiveness.

Embodying the Mystery: Psychedelics, the Wisdom of Anger, and Soul Integration with Julian Royce

Can your most difficult emotions—like anger and sadness—actually be your greatest teachers? In this raw and insightful episode, host Amanda Frederick sits down with therapist and meditation teacher Julian Royce to discuss his recent journey through a psilocybin training ceremony where he faced personal conflict and inner turmoil head-on. This conversation is for anyone curious about the intersection of trauma healing, the evolving legal landscape of natural medicine, and the transformative power of mindfulness. It matters because learning to "do less" and honor the unknown is the key to moving from psychological rigidity into integrated wholeness. Main Topics Covered The Evolving Landscape of Psychedelic Therapy: Julian discusses his certification process to become a state-certified psilocybin therapist in Colorado and his experience with ketamine and cannabis-assisted therapy. Ketamine and Cannabis as Tools for Trauma: Understanding how ketamine acts as a "warm safety blanket" for treatment-resistant depression and how cannabis can gently support those suffering from disassociation. The Importance of "Walking the Walk": Why facilitators must engage in their own therapeutic and ceremonial work to speak from a place of deep core resonance. The Tantric Wisdom of Anger: Reframing anger not just as a destructive force, but as a clear message regarding boundaries and a form of "mirror-like wisdom." The Five Buddha Families: A deep dive into this Buddhist map of the human experience where emotions like jealousy, greed, and anger have both ignorant and enlightened expressions. The Subtle Art of Space Holding: Why true psychedelic therapy is often about doing less rather than more and trusting the individual’s unique process. Integration as Wholeness: Defining integration as a non-linear process of linking differentiated parts of ourselves to become more mature and fully human. A Vision for Heaven on Earth: Moving beyond materialism and the demonization of differing opinions to respect the "God essence" or "pure essence" in every being. Key TakeawaysAnger as a Compass: Underneath the surface of anger is often an aliveness and passion for what we care about; listening to this message without acting it out is a vital lifelong process. Integration is Non-Linear: Wholeness is an ongoing process where deep insights and knowledge can resurface and deepen years after the original experience. Sanity in the Unknown: Sanity and grounding are built by expanding our capacity to recognize and be with what we don't know rather than living in the torture of psychological rigidity. The Power of Being Seen: Having an experience where you are accepted while expressing "negative" emotions like sadness or anger is a profound and healing form of acceptance. Connect with Julian Royce * Podcast: www.astateofmindpodcast.com [https://www.google.com/search?q=http://www.astateofmindpodcast.com] * Therapy Services: astateofmindtherapy.com [http://astateofmindtherapy.com] * Instagram: @julianoceann [https://www.instagram.com/julianoceann/] * SoundCloud: Julian Royce [https://www.google.com/search?q=https://soundcloud.com/julian-royce] Connect with the Host * Instagram: @thecosmicmistress [https://www.instagram.com/thecosmicmistress/] * Website: The Cosmic Mistress Homepage [https://amanda-frederick-s-school.teachable.com/p/homepage] Call to Action:If Julian’s journey through the darkness sparked a light for you, please Follow, Like, and Share this episode with someone navigating their own path toward wholeness. Leave us a review to help bring more healing conversations to the collective!

From Hangovers to Handstands: Sobriety, Soul-Led Real Estate, & the Power of Choice with Adria Such

In this episode of the Cosmic Mistress podcast, host Amanda Frederick sits down with her friend of 20 years, Adria Such. Adria is a Boulder-based fitness instructor, real estate expert, and advocate for intentional living. They explore Adria’s transformative journey into sobriety, the "identity crisis" that occurs when the "party girl" persona falls away, and how she transitioned into a life of hyper-independence and professional success. Whether you are navigating the Boulder dating scene, looking for a career pivot, or curious about the emotional freedom of a sober lifestyle, Adria’s "get up and figure it out" attitude is the inspiration you need. Main Topics Covered The 20-Year Evolution: Amanda and Adria reflect on two decades of friendship, from high school sports to the "chaos loop" of the college partying scene. The Sobriety Tipping Point: Adria shares the specific moment she realized drinking was no longer in alignment with her system and why she chose a self-led, "Capricorn way" to quit. Sitting with the Silence: A deep dive into the first year of sobriety—how removing alcohol forces you to finally sit with your emotions without a place to run or hide. The "Fun Girl" Identity Shift: Navigating the fear of becoming "boring" and the reality of losing connections that were built solely on partying. Dating Sober and Single: Adria’s refreshing take on dating in your 30s, why she avoids "casual" seekers, and the hilarity of inviting first dates to her high-intensity fitness classes as a "vetting tool." Hyper-Independence vs. Nurture: Exploring the desire to be "taken care of" while maintaining a strong sense of self-love and independent success. Real Estate in the Trenches: The steep learning curve of the Boulder market and why being a successful realtor requires being an expert problem solver. The Next Creative Chapter: Adria discusses her passion for "elevated chic" staging and how she uses creative outlets to stay energized in her career. Key Takeaways Sobriety is a Tool, Not Just a Goal: Stopping drinking is the mechanism that creates the space for real growth; however, you must be proactive in being with whatever emotions come to the surface. The "Light Switch" Intuition: You don't always need a dramatic "rock bottom" to change. Trust the moment the switch flips in your mind—that is the energy that makes change sustainable. Community is the Ultimate "Why": Whether it’s the "savages" at the gym or clients in a stressful real estate transaction, human connection and belonging are the primary drivers of long-term happiness. Boundaries Let People Love You: Being hyper-independent is a strength, but voicing your needs and desires allows a partner to actually meet you and support you. Trade Addictions Wisely: High-intensity fitness can be a healthy "new drug of choice" for mental health, acting as a nervous system regulator that forces you to be 100% present. Connect with Adria Such Instagram: @suchanagent Professional Bio: Yoga Pod Team - Adria Such LinkedIn: Adria Such Real Estate & Fitness: Reach out to Adria for Boulder property inquiries or catch one of her legendary classes at Mecca or Yoga Pod. Connect with Amanda Frederick Instagram: @thecosmicmistress Website: The Cosmic Mistress Homepage Call to Action: Are you ready to press play on your own life? Follow, Like, and Share this episode with someone who is currently navigating a major identity shift. Leave a review to help our community of conscious creators grow!

Corporate Woo: Biohacking, Neuroscience, and the Power of "Yes" with Grace Erickson

In this high-energy episode of the Cosmic Mistress podcast, host Amanda Frederick sits down with Grace Erickson, a consultant and biohacker who seamlessly blends corporate grit with spiritual depth. Grace shares her radical journey from the "slow death" of long COVID and dependency on 10 prescription medications to reclaiming her health through "Corporate Woo." They dive into the mechanics of NAD, the life-changing neuroscience of Joe Dispenza, and why the fastest way to alignment is often a radical "Yes" to the unknown. Main Topics Covered The Long COVID Catalyst: Grace recounts her 2020 "OG COVID" experience and the year she spent at the doctor every day before realizing Western medicine alone wasn't the answer. Early Adoption Biohacking: From wearing "ridiculous" red-light helmets to adopting NAD early, Grace discusses the physical tools that helped her regain 25% of her health. NAD: The "Hotter" Supplement: A look at Nicotinamide Adenine Dinucleotide (NAD) and its role in mitochondrial repair, energy, and cellular regeneration. Brain Training & Speech Therapy: How Grace used meditation and neuroscience to heal a brain that felt like it had been in a "traumatic car accident." The Dispenza Shift: The impact of Dr. Joe Dispenza’s work on detaching from outcomes and healing through energy coherence (including a miraculous story about Amanda's daughter). Catholicism & Spirituality: A refreshing conversation on how quantum physics and spiritual practices can complement, rather than conflict with, traditional religious faith. The Hardest Taper: Grace shares her personal (non-medical advice) journey of tapering off Gabapentin and the importance of having a "medication exit plan." Energy Integrity & Values: Grace breaks down her "energy checks," including her five core values and how she uses quarterly reviews to stay in intentional alignment. Key Takeaways Subtraction > Addition: Biohacking isn't just about expensive tech; it starts with removing toxins (plastics, fillers, and inflammatory inputs) from your environment. Energy Flows Where Attention Goes: If you focus on the "No," you stay stuck. Saying "Yes" to new, scary opportunities is the energy that propels life forward. The Witnessing Mind: You can experience anxiety in the body without letting it consume the mind. By staying in the "witnessing mind," you can coexist with a revved-up nervous system while remaining safe and calm. Alignment is a Feeling: "Energy Integrity" is a somatic signal. When you are out of alignment, opportunities will feel like a burden; when aligned, they feel like momentum. Suffer with Intention: You still have a choice as a human for how you want to suffer. A tiny bit of willpower and faith can transform a "rock bottom" into a foundation. Connect with Grace Erickson Instagram: @gracekerickson Specialties: Reach out to Grace for questions regarding biohacking protocols, meditation consistency, and navigating the corporate/spiritual balance. Connect with Amanda Frederick Instagram: @thecosmicmistress Website: The Cosmic Mistress Homepage Call to Action: Are you ready to trade your "Nos" for a radical "Yes"? Follow, Like, and Share this episode with someone who is currently stuck in a health plateau. Leave a review to help us keep bringing you the latest in bio-spiritual evolution!

The Darkness and the Divine: Reclaiming Masculinity with Traver Boehm

In a culture that offers men binary choices—be a "wannabe Navy SEAL" or a "vegan feminist poet"—Traver Boehm is building a bridge in the middle. In this profound episode, host Amanda Frederick sits down with Traver, the founder of the international Man Uncivilized movement, to discuss his journey through a 28-day dark retreat and what it taught him about self-judgment, initiation, and the "primal-divine" duality. They dive deep into why modern men are struggling, the vital need for eldership, and how a safe man is one who has truly looked behind the curtain of his own psyche. Main Topics Covered The Binary Trap: Traver explains his mission to help men integrate both their "primal" (strength/structure) and "divine" (softness/expression) sides. 28 Days in Darkness: A deep dive into Traver's month-long dark retreat. Learn what happens to the human psyche when you remove all light and distraction, leaving only the self. The Shadow List: Inspired by Debbie Ford, Traver discusses the practice of naming the "internal roommates" we are ashamed of (e.g., "Larry the Liar" or "Adam the Abuser") to gain freedom from them. A Year to Live Project: How a sign on a corkboard led Traver to live an entire year as if he were dying, following a divorce and business collapse. Lack of Initiation: Why modern society is failing young men by not providing clear rites of passage or a group of elders to guide them into responsibility. What is a "Safe Man"? Traver shares a transformative story from a first date in New York that redefined safety from "physical protection" to "knowing one's own triggers." Supporting the Masculine: A conversation on how the collective feminine can support men by appreciating honesty—even when it's uncomfortable—rather than mocking "weakness." The 1,000 Circles Mission: Traver’s global call to action for International Men’s Day to create decentralized support systems for men everywhere. Key Takeaways The Cost of Judgment: Self-judgment is a crushing weight that prevents creativity and purpose. Removing it, even for a month, unlocks a massive reservoir of "juice" and life force. Safety is Inner Knowledge: A man with a gun isn't necessarily a protector; a man who knows what happens to him when he is rejected or angry is the one who is truly safe. Initiation Changes Reality: Ceremonial initiation (into fatherhood, adulthood, or eldership) provides the framework men need to understand their role and responsibility in the community. Honesty over Vulnerability: Many men resist the word "vulnerability." Reframing it as "being open and honest" allows for a more accessible pathway to deep relational intimacy. The "I’ve Never Said This" Moment: The most powerful healing occurs when a man finally unburdens himself of a decades-old secret in a safe, non-judgmental circle. Connect with Traver Boehm Website: manuncivilized.com Instagram: @traverboehm Books: * Man Uncivilized Today I Rise 28 Days in Darkness The 1,000 Circles: Sign up to host or join a men's circle on November 19th at manuncivilized.com/1000circles Connect with Amanda Frederick Instagram: @thecosmicmistress Website: The Cosmic Mistress Homepage Call to Action: Are you ready to look behind your own curtain? Follow, Like, and Share this episode with a man who needs to know he isn't alone. Leave a review to help us bring more "uncivilized" truth to the world!