Feedsmacked: Crucial Skills to Receive Tough Feedback

Feedsmacked: Crucial Skills to Receive Tough Feedback

Most of us have spent years learning how to give feedback well, but what about when you're on the receiving end of something unexpected or blunt?  Joseph Grenny looks back on 35 years of his own research to explore this exact problem: how we receive feedback, and why our emotional response may have less to do with the delivery than we think. Drawing on a study of 445 “feedsmack” episodes, Joseph shares the findings about what actually drives our reactions. He introduces listeners to the students of The Other Side Academy, a rehabilitation community whose approach to peer feedback offers a masterclass in emotional resilience, self-awareness, and the pursuit of truth over approval. Chapters [Start] Defining "Feedsmack": Joseph introduces the concept of feedsmack and shares real examples from a 445-person study. 06:58 The Way of the Warrior Kid: A real-life story about a children's book that sparks a conversation about ownership and interpreting feedback. 14:00 Lessons from The Other Side Academy: Students share strategies they use to receive blunt feedback, and Joseph introduces the C-U-R-E framework. 25:04 The Root Problem: The deeper psychological barriers to receiving feedback well, and why safety and worth are more internal than we realize. 36:34 Q&A with Heather Trout: Heather fields audience questions regarding difficult feedback and responding to workplace bullying. Links and Resources * Crucial Learning [https://cruciallearning.com/?utm_source=Podcast&utm_medium=website&utm_campaign=podcast] * Feedsmacked: Crucial Skills to Receive Tough Feedback [https://vitalsmarts.widen.net/s/bmnfrxkdds/ebook---feedsmacked] Learn more about Joseph Grenny here. [https://cruciallearning.com/blog/author/joseph-grenny/] The Crucial Skills Podcast is brought to you by the authors and experts at Crucial Learning [https://cruciallearning.com/], home of Crucial Conversations for Mastering Dialogue and Crucial Conversations for Accountability training.

Working with Difficult People | How to Increase Understanding with Brittney Maxfield

We've all had that person at work whose style rubs you the wrong way. It's easy to write them off as difficult. But what if the story you're telling yourself about them isn't the full picture? Brittney Maxfield introduces a powerful framework called the Strength Deployment Inventory® (SDI ®) that reframes the way we see frustrating behavior at work. The SDI shapes these behaviors not as character flaws, but as overdone strengths. It helps us to see that most people genuinely have a good motive, even if it doesn’t come across that way. Brittney walks through the three core motives that drive people at work and explains how our own motives distort how we perceive others. She offers a four-step framework for having a productive conversation with even your most challenging colleague. Whether you've been avoiding a hard conversation or dreading your next one-on-one, this episode gives you a framework to walk in with clarity, empathy, and a real plan. Chapters [Start] The Hardest Part About Working With People: Brittney opens with a relatable question about difficult work relationships. 01:14 The SDI Framework: An overview of the Strength Deployment Inventory and its three core motives. 03:53 Four Steps for Difficult Conversations: A practical breakdown of four easy steps to navigate a difficult conversation. 06:49 Tying It All Together: Brittney ties the framework together and reinforces that these skills make Crucial Conversations more possible. Links and Resources * Crucial Learning [https://cruciallearning.com/?utm_source=Podcast&utm_medium=website&utm_campaign=podcast] * Crucial Learning - Working with Difficult People: How to Increase Understanding [https://cruciallearning.com/blog/working-with-difficult-people-how-to-increase-understanding/] * Strength Deployment Inventory Free Trial [https://cruciallearning.com/try-sdi?utm_source=Podcast&utm_medium=Freemium&utm_campaign=SDI] Learn more about Brittney Maxfield here. [https://cruciallearning.com/blog/author/brittney-maxfield/] The Crucial Skills Podcast is brought to you by the authors and experts at Crucial Learning [https://cruciallearning.com/], home of Crucial Conversations for Mastering Dialogue and Crucial Conversations for Accountability training.

The Accountability Difference | Building Teams That Make and Keep Commitments with Justin Hale

Accountability is one of the most talked-about topics in organizational culture, yet one of the least understood. We’re here to fix that. Justin Hale, coauthor of Crucial Accountability, makes the case that accountability isn't just a personality trait or a matter of willpower. It's a skill set that can be taught, practiced, and embedded into any team. Justin introduces the concept of 200% accountability and walks through the specific behaviors that separate high-performing cultures from ones where commitments frequently die out. He discusses why our brains are terrible at managing unfinished tasks, and introduces a practical framework for holding colleagues accountable without damaging relationships. Justin also shares a compelling case study from Union Square Hospitality Group, whose high employee retention traces back to one thing: how leaders behave when people mess up. Whether you're a manager trying to build a stronger team culture or an individual looking to become indispensable, this episode offers a look at what accountability actually requires. Chapters [Start] Introducing Justin Hale: Justin is introduced and frames the episode's focus on accountability. 02:20 The Case for 200% Accountability: The framework of 100% personal accountability plus 100% team accountability. 04:52 Individual Accountability and Following Through: Why the brain compounds tasks into stress and how to fix it. 12:30 Personal Accountability Skills: Two practical tools to beat procrastination and become more of a finisher. 19:09 Holding Others Accountable: A framework for closing performance gaps honestly and respectfully in team settings. Links and Resources * Crucial Learning [https://cruciallearning.com/?utm_source=Podcast&utm_medium=website&utm_campaign=podcast] * Crucial Conversations for Accountability Miniseries: How to Confront and Resolve Poor Performance and Bad Behavior [https://cruciallearning.com/courses/crucial-conversations-for-accountability/miniseries/] * Crucial Conversations ® for Accountability [https://cruciallearning.com/courses/crucial-conversations-for-accountability/?utm_source=Podcast&utm_medium=ACC&utm_campaign=ACC] Learn more about Justin Hale here. [https://cruciallearning.com/blog/author/justin-hale/] The Crucial Skills Podcast is brought to you by the authors and experts at Crucial Learning [https://cruciallearning.com/], home of Crucial Conversations for Mastering Dialogue and Crucial Conversations for Accountability training.

Why We Fear Feedback | 3 Steps to Deliver Feedback Well with Justin Hale

Have you ever avoided giving feedback because you didn’t want to create tension, damage a relationship, or say the wrong thing? Justin Hale breaks down why feedback conversations often go wrong and shares a practical framework for making them more productive, respectful, and effective. Rather than focusing on scripted responses or perfect wording, Justin shares practical principles that help people improve without damaging trust or relationships and offers concrete examples of how to communicate concerns clearly while still creating safety and dialogue. Get actionable tools for leaders, teammates, and anyone looking to improve leadership communication in high-stakes workplace conversations and build trust with their teams. Chapters [Start] Why Feedback Gets Avoided: Justin introduces the common fears surrounding feedback conversations and explains why avoidance often makes workplace problems worse. 01:21 Practical Principle #1: Why mindset and intention play a major role in how these Crucial Conversations unfold. 03:17 Practical Principle #2: A practical approach to communicating concerns more clearly and effectively. 04:20 Practical Principle #3: How clarity and confidence can improve difficult workplace conversations. 05:23 Turning Feedback Into Dialogue: Why feedback works best as a two-way conversation and how inviting another perspective leads to better solutions. Links and Resources * Crucial Learning [https://cruciallearning.com/?utm_source=Podcast&utm_medium=website&utm_campaign=podcast] * Crucial Learning: How to Deliver Feedback Effectively [https://cruciallearning.com/blog/how-to-deliver-feedback-effectively/] * Crucial Accountability: Proven Skills to Build Trust, Address Disappointment, and Get Results [https://www.amazon.com/Crucial-Accountability-Address-Disappointment-Results/dp/1264597541/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3FY9GSM3522DC&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.q8FtYsK2lzaUjXNtZEVW48-xkRWPqc5bCxuqQOP1UVeNLDlLL6CpkkLwM_adQ5RONqoZPk2Wo4LtNyeLxT1b1w9AK8E_OtYs8veFpePoWt287tlR1MmGSFTEslcwoJw_mtEwpgTe1jAg7qUbt0NI6ZHIIhsD7XsV3SdrRQIJyFRu-3M3W9pb7fw-8CPw9XU7Y8aTqfyx85_7RTIPREukyrPRKc-4JtQbvcLx5B4vzHM.VMg3v-fXnpwnbXDyWhWlpqX798skj2iToK6yOJMRhSg&dib_tag=se&keywords=crucial+accountability&qid=1778516372&sprefix=crucial+accountab%2Caps%2C698&sr=8-1] * Crucial Conversations for Accountability Course [https://cruciallearning.com/courses/crucial-conversations-for-accountability/?utm_source=Podcast&utm_medium=ACC&utm_campaign=ACC] Learn more about Justin Hale here. [https://cruciallearning.com/blog/author/justin-hale/] The Crucial Skills Podcast is brought to you by the authors and experts at Crucial Learning [https://cruciallearning.com/], home of Crucial Conversations for Mastering Dialogue and Crucial Conversations for Accountability training.

How to Fix Your Accountability Problem | Three Crucial Conversations for Leaders with Joseph Grenny

In recent years, "quiet quitting" has made headlines as employees grow increasingly burned out and disengaged. But while it feels like a recent phenomenon, is it actually new? Joseph Grenny, New York Times bestselling author and co-founder of Crucial Learning, explains why quiet quitting is really a rebranding of a decades-old leadership challenge: a lack of discretionary effort. Or, discretionary effort is the gap between the minimum effort an employee can give without being fired and the maximum effort they could offer. As this gap grows, Joseph argues it isn't an employee problem; it's a leadership one. And it’s a gap that intentional conversations can close. Joseph walks through three conversations every leader needs to have to move their teams toward real engagement. By sharing real-world examples, Joseph illustrates that the conditions for strong performance are within every leader's reach. Here’s a hint: it’s not through policy or performance reviews, but through the quality of the conversations you’re willing to have. Chapters [Start] The Quiet Quitting Problem: Heather introduces Joseph, and he tackles this central question: why are so many employees only doing the minimum? 05:43 Discretionary Effort: A look at the concept of discretionary effort and why it has become the defining leadership challenge of the knowledge worker era. 10:41 Crucial Conversation One: Why the way leaders frame work determines whether employees show up transactionally or with genuine investment. 17:30 Crucial Conversation Two: A look at The Other Side Movers, a moving company staffed by people who would otherwise be incarcerated, to see how they work with accountability. 28:06 Crucial Conversation Three: When expectations and observed behavior diverge, how a team responds determines the health of its culture, and a closing Q&A with Heather. Links and Resources * Crucial Learning [https://cruciallearning.com/?utm_source=Podcast&utm_medium=website&utm_campaign=podcast] * Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High [https://cruciallearning.com/books/crucial-conversations-book/] * Crucial Conversations for Accountability Course [https://da.cruciallearning.com/crucial-conversations-for-accountability/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=paid-search&utm_campaign=PPC-GO_course-ACC&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=23093356730&gbraid=0AAAAADFz68XALekc0AybcVQ7ZcCHhppFa&gclid=CjwKCAjwtcHPBhADEiwAWo3sJlQJKUOCpuye4LDguEqU5K6AgZvj0vffHVAFWM6Nky1nO7DdeqpguBoCbWUQAvD_BwE] * Crucial Conversations for Accountability Miniseries [https://cruciallearning.com/courses/crucial-conversations-for-accountability/miniseries/] Learn more about Joseph Grenny here. [https://cruciallearning.com/blog/author/joseph-grenny/] The Crucial Skills Podcast is brought to you by the authors and experts at Crucial Learning [https://cruciallearning.com/], home of Crucial Conversations for Mastering Dialogue and Crucial Conversations for Accountability training.