Chosen, Desired, But Not Loved

Chosen, Desired, But Not Loved

What happens when someone chooses you, desires you, or wants access to you, but doesn't truly love you? In this episode of Exclusively You, I explore the painful realization that being chosen is not the same as being loved. People may be drawn to your beauty, talent, intellect, status, usefulness, or potential, yet still lack the capacity to care for your emotional well-being. I discuss how this dynamic can lead to people-pleasing, emotional suppression, and the fear that if we show with anger, sadness, frustration, grief, or vulnerability, we will no longer be wanted. The truth is that these emotions are part of being human, and they are often the very feelings we must move through in order to heal. If you've ever felt valued for what you provide but unseen for who you truly are, this conversation is for you. Subscribe to Exclusively You for honest conversations about identity, emotional safety, relationships, faith, mental health, and personal growth. Stay Connected TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetierraburn... [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbDdQOVNPMF9ZamhrLVdVTGZ3c3dtS0JRdUFLd3xBQ3Jtc0tuVFBoWWtjRFQydklMRG9HcC1RRURVaTJ4T2FTc1RBRnZQcXRxX1c0TXFZaWJjQVJKYUxfM0tBWnB6RXAxLTF4WnNwQzJCQmJVNGhvaGYxRW81dmtfcEU2TjVyc1d5Zlo3cUF0ckdvVFhPYU5PTi1uaw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.tiktok.com%2F%40thetierraburns%3F_r%3D1%26_t%3DZT-96SwCvWWTJW&v=7i-YJTGsV9A] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thetierrabu... [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqa2NibjhtcFVTbWlJdV9acTB1aDFNYnAwVGp2d3xBQ3Jtc0ttVmN0MTFLeWcxLVZLdU4wWmJXSjBpN0FnZzZrN0I5NExxLTk1UzIzYUF1cnVCamtRT1FqWGtJbmotcjRvVXBwVnZvZS1EdVc0SFo4R0trWE5ZUHZTNlp1Z0pTYWQ5SjFsOTVFalhKSVE5Q2JxWWpCbw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.instagram.com%2Fthetierraburns%3Figsh%3DMW4wZmlsdXpsazE2YQ%253D%253D%26utm_source%3Dqr&v=7i-YJTGsV9A] Business Inquiries: info@tierraburnsllc.com www.tierraburns.com Professional Disclaimer: The content shared through Exclusively You Podcast, social media platforms, videos, live streams, and related materials is provided for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. This content is not psychotherapy, counseling, diagnosis, treatment, or professional mental health advice. Your engagement with this content, does not create a therapist client relationship with Tierra Burns, LCSW, or any affiliated entity. Because every individual's circumstances are unique, the information shared may not be appropriate for your specific situation. For personalized mental health care, please seek guidance from a qualified licensed mental health professional. If you are experiencing a mental health emergency, contact emergency services or a crisis resource in your area immediately. Please note that I am unable to respond to direct messages or comments regarding clinical concerns, personal mental health questions, or requests for therapeutic advice. Social media is not a secure or appropriate platform for clinical communication, and any such messages received will not be answered. If you are experiencing a mental health emergency or crisis, please call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline), call 911, or go to your nearest emergency room.

Finding God, Friends & Yourself in College | HBCU Life, Dating & Faith

What happens when you're trying to find yourself in college while staying true to your faith? In this episode, my niece, Nai Bracken, shares her experience navigating HBCU life, friendships, dating, social media, bullying, peer pressure, and her relationship with God. We discuss the pressure to fit in, the importance of finding community, maintaining values, and learning who you are when everyone around you is trying to tell you who to be. Subscribe, Comment, & Stay Connected TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetierraburn... [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbDdQOVNPMF9ZamhrLVdVTGZ3c3dtS0JRdUFLd3xBQ3Jtc0tuVFBoWWtjRFQydklMRG9HcC1RRURVaTJ4T2FTc1RBRnZQcXRxX1c0TXFZaWJjQVJKYUxfM0tBWnB6RXAxLTF4WnNwQzJCQmJVNGhvaGYxRW81dmtfcEU2TjVyc1d5Zlo3cUF0ckdvVFhPYU5PTi1uaw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.tiktok.com%2F%40thetierraburns%3F_r%3D1%26_t%3DZT-96SwCvWWTJW&v=7i-YJTGsV9A] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thetierrabu... [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqa2NibjhtcFVTbWlJdV9acTB1aDFNYnAwVGp2d3xBQ3Jtc0ttVmN0MTFLeWcxLVZLdU4wWmJXSjBpN0FnZzZrN0I5NExxLTk1UzIzYUF1cnVCamtRT1FqWGtJbmotcjRvVXBwVnZvZS1EdVc0SFo4R0trWE5ZUHZTNlp1Z0pTYWQ5SjFsOTVFalhKSVE5Q2JxWWpCbw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.instagram.com%2Fthetierraburns%3Figsh%3DMW4wZmlsdXpsazE2YQ%253D%253D%26utm_source%3Dqr&v=7i-YJTGsV9A] Business Inquiries: info@tierraburnsllc.com www.tierraburns.com Professional Disclaimer: The content shared through Exclusively You Podcast, social media platforms, videos, live streams, and related materials is provided for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. This content is not psychotherapy, counseling, diagnosis, treatment, or professional mental health advice. Your engagement with this content, does not create a therapist client relationship with Tierra Burns, LCSW, or any affiliated entity. Because every individual's circumstances are unique, the information shared may not be appropriate for your specific situation. For personalized mental health care, please seek guidance from a qualified licensed mental health professional. If you are experiencing a mental health emergency, contact emergency services or a crisis resource in your area immediately. Please note that I am unable to respond to direct messages or comments regarding clinical concerns, personal mental health questions, or requests for therapeutic advice. Social media is not a secure or appropriate platform for clinical communication, and any such messages received will not be answered. If you are experiencing a mental health emergency or crisis, please call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline), call 911, or go to your nearest emergency room.

The Hidden Reason You Never Feel Good Enough

Have you ever felt like no matter how much you achieve, accomplish, or overcome, it still doesn't feel like enough? You may feel like you are constantly chasing confidence. In this episode of Exclusively You, we explore the deeper psychology behind feeling "not enough" and the feeling of needing more confidence. I discuss how it becomes a safety issue. Together, we unpack the connection between identity, belonging, emotional safety, perfectionism, people-pleasing, and the pressure to constantly prove yourself. If you've ever struggled with insecurity, comparison, imposter syndrome, or the feeling that your best is never enough, this conversation is for you. Subscribe to Exclusively You for conversations about identity, emotional safety, belonging, leadership, faith, relationships, mental health, and personal growth. ** Hosted by Tierra Burns, LCSW, therapist, doctoral student in Sports & Performance Psychology, minister, Army veteran, and creator of Exclusively You.

Episode 4: The Hidden Cost of Being Flawless

Many black individuals have to been taught that they have to be "twice as good to get half as far." We hardly talk about what that does to our nervous system. This episode, Tierra pulls back the curtain on the "twice as good" label. She discusses how perfectionism sometimes includes the stress of feeling like you aren't allowed to make a mistake. This episode is an honest conversation on dropping the weight of perfection and reclaiming your right to exist in your humanity.

Episode 3: Called Without A Crisis

In this episode Tierra discuss the mental and emotional impact on gatekeeping, rejection, and deconstruct the trauma to testimony pipeline that dominates culture.