24. The Unconscious Voice Behind Your Choices -Change Your Self-Talk, Change Your Life

27. Stop Abandoning Yourself - You Are Not The Problem

The Cost of Abandoning Yourself - Why You Still Feel Unseen Feelings You Can Trust - Episode 27 Sometimes the reason you feel unseen…is because you’ve been abandoning yourself to belong. In this episode of Feelings You Can Trust, we explore identity, safety, and what it really means to feel aligned in your relationships and community. Through our first listener letter, we talk about what happens when you don’t feel accepted — even in spaces that are supposed to understand you — and why you don’t have to force yourself to “cope” in environments that don’t feel safe. We also unpack the difference between social identity and your true, spirit-based identity, and how abandoning yourself to meet expectations can keep you stuck in survival mode. Because real belonging doesn’t require you to shrink. ⏱️ Chapters 00:00 – Life update: grief, growth & showing up anyway03:05 – Mental load, EMDR & processing 06:57 – Proof of Life: good news still exists 08:48 – Listener Letter: feeling unseen in community12:00 – You don’t have to cope in unsafe spaces 14:00 – Inner circle standards & safe relationships16:18 – Social identity vs. true self 20:13 – Building aligned community22:44 – How identity keeps you in survival 31:04 – You are not your career34:58 – Stop abandoning yourself 📚Books Mentioned: 📖 The Princess and the P.I. by Skye Warren — A romance that explores trust, vulnerability, and connection between two very different worlds. 📖 Deep End by Allie Hazelwood — A contemporary romance centered on consent, communication, and emotionally safe intimacy. 📖 Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by T. Harv Eker — A mindset-focused guide on how your beliefs about money shape your financial reality. 📩 Want to submit a listener letter?Email: feelingsyoucantrust@gmail.com 🎧 Available on YouTube, Apple Podcasts, Spotify & Substack Disclaimer I am not a licensed therapist. The perspectives shared in this podcast are based on personal experience, education, and reflection. This content is for informational and self-development purposes only and should not replace professional mental health support. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit feelingsyoucantrust.substack.com [https://feelingsyoucantrust.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

26.You’re Never Going to Feel Ready - Do It Scared

Taking action is one of the hardest parts of building a life you love. Visualization can be inspiring. Planning can feel productive. But the moment you actually have to do the thing, fear tends to show up. In this episode of Feelings You Can Trust, we talk about why taking action often feels so intimidating, how perfectionism keeps us stuck in the planning stage, and why you may never actually feel “ready.” We also discuss how fear shows up in the body, how anxiety can spiral when we’re about to make a big decision, and how learning to recognize that fear response can help you move forward anyway. Because the truth is: building a life that you love often requires making decisions while you’re still scared. And the more you practice moving through fear, the more confident you become in your ability to handle whatever comes next. ⏱️ Timestamps 00:00 – A moment of loving my life02:01 – Why this episode is about taking action04:04 – Proof of Life: kindness in everyday moments06:24 – What I’m reading07:48 – The Feelings You Can Trust framework 08:36 – Why taking action feels intimidating09:53 – How perfectionism blocks growth11:12 – Letting go of the “perfect vision”14:05 – When expansion feels uncomfortable 16:01 – Anxiety, fear, and catastrophizing17:30 – Recognizing fear in your body19:47 – Catching fear before it spirals 21:15 – Moving forward even when you’re scared23:23 – The boulder metaphor: resistance and growth25:47 – The truth: you may never feel ready 26:26 – Doing it scared28:18 – Final reflections on growth and possibility 🎧 Feelings You Can Trust explores how to build a life you love through a simple framework: * Get out of survival * Declutter and organize your mind * Visualize * Take action * Rinse and repeat 📩 Listener Letters are coming next episode!If you have a question, perspective, or something you’d like advice on, send it to:feelingsyoucantrust@gmail.com ⚠️ Disclaimer:I am not a licensed therapist. The perspectives shared in this podcast are based on personal experience, education, and reflection. This content is intended for informational and self-development purposes only and should not replace professional medical or mental health guidance. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit feelingsyoucantrust.substack.com [https://feelingsyoucantrust.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

Proof the Framework Works: I Got My Dream Car!

This episode is different. Today, I’m sharing a real-life example of what happens when you actually apply the Feelings You Can Trust framework. Not perfectly.Not overnight.But consistently. From mindset shifts to intentional action, this episode walks through what it looks like when visualization, alignment, and stewardship move from theory into real life. This is not a conversation about dreaming. It’s a testimony about building. Because the life you love doesn’t happen by accident —it happens through awareness, alignment, and action. ⏱️ Chapters 00:00 – Life Update: A Real Milestone01:20 – Why This Matters 02:00 – Proof of Life03:45 – Humanity & Perspective 05:30 – The Framework Refresher 07:30 – Applying the Work in Real Life10:00 – Scarcity vs Vision14:00 – Stewardship & Responsibility18:00 – Choosing Alignment Over Comfort 22:00 – Faith in Action26:00 – Patience & Process29:30 – What This Really Represents 31:00 – Closing Reflection 🎧 Episode 25 is available now on YouTube, Apple Podcasts, Spotify & Substack. Disclaimer I am not a licensed therapist. The perspectives shared on this podcast are based on personal experience, education, and reflection. This content is for informational and self-development purposes only and should not be considered medical, psychological, or legal advice. Please consult a qualified professional for support specific to your situation. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit feelingsyoucantrust.substack.com [https://feelingsyoucantrust.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

24. The Unconscious Voice Behind Your Choices -Change Your Self-Talk, Change Your Life

Feelings You Can Trust EP 24: Change Your Self-Talk, Change Your Life We often think change happens through information. But real change happens when what you know aligns with what you believe. In this episode of Feelings You Can Trust, we explore the unconscious mind — the part of you that stores patterns, emotional memory, and learned responses — and how self-talk acts as the bridge between conscious intention and unconscious belief. If you’ve ever wanted to show up differently but found yourself repeating the same reactions, this conversation will help you understand why. We discuss: * The role of the unconscious mind * Why “knowing better” doesn’t automatically change behavior * How self-talk reveals what you truly believe * The impact of repetition on identity * Listening to yourself without shame * Becoming a safe space for your own growth 🎧 Episode 24 is available now on YouTube, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and Substack. 💌 Listener Letters return next cycle — send yours to FeelingsYouCanTrust@gmail.com Disclaimer I am not a licensed therapist. The insights shared in this podcast are based on personal experience, education, and reflection. This content is for informational and self-development purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, psychological, or legal advice. Please consult a qualified professional for support specific to your needs. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit feelingsyoucantrust.substack.com [https://feelingsyoucantrust.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

23. Your Reaction Is Running Your Life - Emotional Reactivity Explained

If you’ve ever said something you didn’t mean…Shut down when you wanted to speak up…Or reacted in a way that didn’t feel aligned with who you’re trying to become… This episode is for you. Today we’re talking about emotional reactivity — what it is, why it happens, and how to respond instead of react. We explore how survival mode shows up in conversations, relationships, and even in the way we cope alone. I introduce the “watchtower” metaphor to help you understand what’s happening in your nervous system when you’re triggered — and why slowing down is the key to reclaiming choice. Because building a life you love requires bravery.Living in survival keeps you in fear. Let’s talk about the difference. ⏱ Chapters 00:00 – Why I’ve Been Gone + Life Update02:08 – New Segment: Proof of Life 🌎04:31 – Plastic That Dissolves in the Ocean (Hope Is Real)08:35 – Listener Letters Are Coming10:06 – The 5-Step Framework Refresher11:43 – What Is Emotional Reactivity?12:23 – The “Watchtower” vs. Alarm System17:03 – The Gap Between Trigger & Reaction20:04 – Emotional Reactivity & Self-Sabotage22:53 – Who Is Your “True Self”?26:06 – Old Habits vs. New Behavior27:26 – Slowing Down: Tools for Choice28:22 – Reaction vs. Response (The Real Difference)30:46 – Is Survival Running Your Life?31:28 – Final Reflection 💌 Listener Letters Coming Next CycleWant advice, perspective, or to share a story?Email: feelingsyoucantrust@gmail.com 📚 Join the Book Clubhttps://bookclubs.com/join-a-book-club/club/black-girls-love-smut Disclaimer I am not a licensed therapist. The perspectives shared on this podcast are based on personal experience, education, and reflection. This content is for informational and conversational purposes only and should not be considered medical, psychological, or legal advice. Please consult a qualified professional for support specific to your situation. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit feelingsyoucantrust.substack.com [https://feelingsyoucantrust.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]