EP 35: What used to spiral into tension and reactive words… didn’t | unfiltered moment from inside my marriage

EP 36: Second guessing my decision | Staying with myself through the spiral

Send a text [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2079150/open_sms] In this episode, I share a real-time voice note I recorded in the middle of a worry spiral. One book club attendee rescheduled.  I offered a new time.  And as I was getting ready to leave, the second-guessing it all. Was I people-pleasing? Was I abandoning myself? Did I actually want to go — or was I trying to be “nice”? Instead of powering through or canceling, I pressed record. You’ll hear the thought loops as they were happening. The body sensations. The over-analysis. And how I navigated myself back to center — not by forcing clarity, but by staying with what was real. This episode is a live demonstration of nervous system regulation in motion. Not perfection.  Not performance.  Just practice. And the result? A relaxed, grounded, genuinely beautiful evening. If you’ve ever questioned your decisions, doubted your motives, or spiraled into “am I making the right decision?” — this one will feel familiar. If you want more moments like this—honest, real, and rooted in emotional safety—come be part of my email space here [https://mailchi.mp/1b891d68baf7/subscribe-to-newsletter?fbclid=PAQ0xDSwLOIYBleHRuA2FlbQIxMAABp-8qTtHxs5RUwavo0wnwiO9RjIRBeE7yLb-XOBaRL3-8SI6BPtvRUA4cRx3o_aem_0nBKhWCFJE6qP0gEQxCrvw]. It's how I've healed my relationships in real time, mid conflict. Want to work with me? Hop on over to @alyssa.wack [https://www.instagram.com/iamalyssawack/] and check the link in bio✨ If you enjoyed the episode, please be sure rate, review & subscribe!

EP 35: What used to spiral into tension and reactive words… didn’t | unfiltered moment from inside my marriage

Send a text [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2079150/open_sms] In this episode, I’m sharing a fresh, unfiltered moment from inside my marriage. A 2:30am wake-up.  A simple request.  A “no” that didn’t land well.  And the familiar edge of disappointment and irritation rising in my body. What used to spiral into tension and reactive words… didn’t. Not because I suppressed it.  Not because I forced positivity.  But because I paused long enough to notice where I was actually responding from. I walk you through: * The subtle difference between silence and shutdown * What it feels like to catch yourself before sending the reactive text * How dysregulation meets dysregulation in relationships * And what happens when just one person chooses to stay connected instead This isn’t about being perfect.  It’s about breaking a toxic cycle in real time — first internally, then relationally. And maybe the most important part:  The moment later that day when I caught myself saying, “It doesn’t matter”… when it actually did. If you’ve ever: * Felt disappointment but didn’t know how to express it cleanly * Shut down instead of asking for help * Or wondered how to shift long-standing patterns in your relationship This episode will feel like sitting in my kitchen while we unpack it together. Because I don't think the breakthrough always needs to be loud. I think it can be choosing to respond differently in the smallest, most ordinary moments. If you want more moments like this—honest, real, and rooted in emotional safety—come be part of my email space here [https://mailchi.mp/1b891d68baf7/subscribe-to-newsletter?fbclid=PAQ0xDSwLOIYBleHRuA2FlbQIxMAABp-8qTtHxs5RUwavo0wnwiO9RjIRBeE7yLb-XOBaRL3-8SI6BPtvRUA4cRx3o_aem_0nBKhWCFJE6qP0gEQxCrvw]. It's how I've healed my relationships in real time, mid conflict. Want to work with me? Hop on over to @alyssa.wack [https://www.instagram.com/iamalyssawack/] and check the link in bio✨ If you enjoyed the episode, please be sure rate, review & subscribe!

EP 32: Rewriting "if it's that big of a deal, I'll just do it myself" in my marriage PART ONE

Send a text [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2079150/open_sms] I didn't realize how much I would avoid asking for help until recently. Then actually asking for said help and feeling like there was push back or annoyance to only find myself saying "if it's that big of a deal, I'll just do it myself!" And finding myself waking up ultra early to do the thing while feeling pissed I was doing the very thing I asked help with. Well, I'm sharing this whole journey with you. From the moment I began avoiding asking for help, all the way to the point where I feel so incredibly supported and don't even hesitate to ask for help now AND I don't feel any push back! It was so much fun recording this full fledged relational rewrite with you!! Be sure to catch part two with the follow up share on the conversation I had with him and the whole circle moment! If you want more moments like this—honest, real, and rooted in emotional safety—come be part of my email space here [https://mailchi.mp/1b891d68baf7/subscribe-to-newsletter?fbclid=PAQ0xDSwLOIYBleHRuA2FlbQIxMAABp-8qTtHxs5RUwavo0wnwiO9RjIRBeE7yLb-XOBaRL3-8SI6BPtvRUA4cRx3o_aem_0nBKhWCFJE6qP0gEQxCrvw]. It's how I've healed my relationships in real time, mid conflict. Want to work with me? Hop on over to @alyssa.wack [https://www.instagram.com/iamalyssawack/] and check the link in bio✨ If you enjoyed the episode, please be sure rate, review & subscribe!

EP 34: Feeling emotionally held by my husband | Healing the father wound

Send a text [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2079150/open_sms] I found an episode I had uploaded but never published from this summer - it was too good to not share. So here you go! Yesterday was a moment I once craved but didn't know how to name. There was a time when a spilled bowl of oatmeal would’ve ruined the whole day. Where my reaction would’ve triggered his. When my feelings would’ve become a fight. When something small turned into an argument or taken personally—every time. But yesterday… something different happened. Something I didn’t even know I was allowed to want five years ago. I decided to share a real-time moment from our family camping trip, how one small accident—spilled oatmeal over a campfire—became a portal into emotional safety, repair, and nervous system trust between me and my husband. What changed? Not perfection. But how we held each other when the tension rose. This episode is for the version of me who used to feel like she couldn't say anything without it turning into a fight. Who questioned how she felt. Who avoided bringing anything up because it always got twisted. It’s for the woman still wondering if emotional safety in partnership is even possible for her. It is. And this moment is proof🖤 If you want more moments like this—honest, real, and rooted in emotional safety—come be part of my email space here [https://mailchi.mp/1b891d68baf7/subscribe-to-newsletter?fbclid=PAQ0xDSwLOIYBleHRuA2FlbQIxMAABp-8qTtHxs5RUwavo0wnwiO9RjIRBeE7yLb-XOBaRL3-8SI6BPtvRUA4cRx3o_aem_0nBKhWCFJE6qP0gEQxCrvw]. It's how I've healed my relationships in real time, mid conflict. Want to work with me? Hop on over to @alyssa.wack [https://www.instagram.com/iamalyssawack/] and check the link in bio✨ If you enjoyed the episode, please be sure rate, review & subscribe!

EP 33: Rewriting "I'll just do it myself" in my marriage PART TWO

Send a text [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2079150/open_sms] Part two of..  I didn't realize how much I would avoid asking for help until recently. Then actually asking for said help and feeling like there was push back or annoyance to only find myself saying "if it's that big of a deal, I'll just do it myself!" And finding myself waking up ultra early to do the thing while feeling pissed I was doing the very thing I asked help with. Well, I'm sharing this whole journey with you. From the moment I began avoiding asking for help, all the way to the point where I feel so incredibly supported and don't even hesitate to ask for help now AND I don't feel any push back! It was so much fun recording this full fledged relational rewrite with you!! If you want more moments like this—honest, real, and rooted in emotional safety—come be part of my email space here [https://mailchi.mp/1b891d68baf7/subscribe-to-newsletter?fbclid=PAQ0xDSwLOIYBleHRuA2FlbQIxMAABp-8qTtHxs5RUwavo0wnwiO9RjIRBeE7yLb-XOBaRL3-8SI6BPtvRUA4cRx3o_aem_0nBKhWCFJE6qP0gEQxCrvw]. It's how I've healed my relationships in real time, mid conflict. Want to work with me? Hop on over to @alyssa.wack [https://www.instagram.com/iamalyssawack/] and check the link in bio✨ If you enjoyed the episode, please be sure rate, review & subscribe!