Heart & Graft (Episode 25): The Hidden Problem with Praise at Work & How To Fix It

Heart & Graft (Episode 25): The Hidden Problem with Praise at Work & How To Fix It

In this episode of Heart and Graft, Nicky explores the psychology of affirmations through the lens of motivational interviewing (MI). Drawing on neuroscience, workplace experience, and personal stories, this episode unpacks the difference between saying “thank you”, giving praise, and offering meaningful affirmations that build self-efficacy, and intrinsic motivation. Along the way, Nicky explores: why some feedback disappears into a “black hole”; how well-intentioned managers might being creating 'praise addicts', and how to use affirmations at work. Why listen? * Learn the difference between praise, feedback and affirmations * Understand how motivation really works * Discover practical ways to build self-efficacy in others * Explore how affirmations contribute to psychological safety * Hear real-world examples you can immediately apply in leadership and workplace conversations Sign up to The Monthly Graft e-news community for additional content, including dealing with 'anticipatory grief' at work. [https://mailchi.mp/1a1fc73144e0/monthlygraft]

Heart & Graft (Episode 24): The Menopause Brain - What Every Workplace Needs to Understand

For years, menopause at work was reduced to stereotypes, awkward jokes, and whispered conversations. But what if we’ve been missing the real story? In this episode of Heart and Graft, Nicky sits down with menopause coach and educator Sam Palmer to explore what menopause can actually look like in working life. Together, they unpack why so many women silently struggle at work and the small practical changes that can make a huge difference. This isn’t just a conversation for women experiencing menopause. It’s for managers, HR professionals, trainers, colleagues, partners, and anyone who wants to build more human workplaces. Why listen: * Explore the organisational cost of avoiding talking about menopause * Discover the neuroscience of the “menopause brain” * Find a series of small, practical adjustments that genuinely help * Learning how to move beyond token gestures and tick-box policies * Find out the added strengths that menopause brings. Connect with Sam Palmer: * Website: https://www.midlifemakeover.co.uk/middle-age-health-and-fitness [https://nor01.safelinks.protection.outlook.com/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.midlifemakeover.co.uk%2Fmiddle-age-health-and-fitness&data=05%7C02%7C%7C26dd3cf11426479ebce508dec211c6a8%7C84df9e7fe9f640afb435aaaaaaaaaaaa%7C1%7C0%7C639161578798681124%7CUnknown%7CTWFpbGZsb3d8eyJFbXB0eU1hcGkiOnRydWUsIlYiOiIwLjAuMDAwMCIsIlAiOiJXaW4zMiIsIkFOIjoiTWFpbCIsIldUIjoyfQ%3D%3D%7C0%7C%7C%7C&sdata=OHeYgm31EokJ2NhMOuQWaxjaA7ZH3DPlFuheON4RjJQ%3D&reserved=0] * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sampalmermidlifemakeover/ [https://nor01.safelinks.protection.outlook.com/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.instagram.com%2Fsampalmermidlifemakeover%2F&data=05%7C02%7C%7C26dd3cf11426479ebce508dec211c6a8%7C84df9e7fe9f640afb435aaaaaaaaaaaa%7C1%7C0%7C639161578798704505%7CUnknown%7CTWFpbGZsb3d8eyJFbXB0eU1hcGkiOnRydWUsIlYiOiIwLjAuMDAwMCIsIlAiOiJXaW4zMiIsIkFOIjoiTWFpbCIsIldUIjoyfQ%3D%3D%7C0%7C%7C%7C&sdata=BJFHjk9LnpM9KoazNvgVRk9RNWx3%2FABMoOP7DSpYxDo%3D&reserved=0] * Facebook / Community: https://www.facebook.com/samsmidlifemakeover [https://nor01.safelinks.protection.outlook.com/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.facebook.com%2Fsamsmidlifemakeover&data=05%7C02%7C%7C26dd3cf11426479ebce508dec211c6a8%7C84df9e7fe9f640afb435aaaaaaaaaaaa%7C1%7C0%7C639161578798716394%7CUnknown%7CTWFpbGZsb3d8eyJFbXB0eU1hcGkiOnRydWUsIlYiOiIwLjAuMDAwMCIsIlAiOiJXaW4zMiIsIkFOIjoiTWFpbCIsIldUIjoyfQ%3D%3D%7C0%7C%7C%7C&sdata=%2BFz7hVNh5dbQI4hOQCbif0UqBIXiYbpY2wkP6CHWiMk%3D&reserved=0] * LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/midlifemakeover/ [https://nor01.safelinks.protection.outlook.com/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.linkedin.com%2Fin%2Fmidlifemakeover%2F&data=05%7C02%7C%7C26dd3cf11426479ebce508dec211c6a8%7C84df9e7fe9f640afb435aaaaaaaaaaaa%7C1%7C0%7C639161578798728233%7CUnknown%7CTWFpbGZsb3d8eyJFbXB0eU1hcGkiOnRydWUsIlYiOiIwLjAuMDAwMCIsIlAiOiJXaW4zMiIsIkFOIjoiTWFpbCIsIldUIjoyfQ%3D%3D%7C0%7C%7C%7C&sdata=%2FePdlFGbXSHZ5lmmeN%2BFeLvcrf33UnP4rU%2Fbh30XaSg%3D&reserved=0]

Heart and Graft (Episode 22) - Beyond Niggles: Managing the Human Side of Conflict at Work

In this episode of Heart and Graft, Nicky talks with Mia Shepherd [https://www.linkedin.com/in/mia-neupauerova/] about workplace conflict: how it builds, how to reduce the chances of unpleasant conflict, and what to do when feelings boil over. Why listen * To understand why conflict at work is often about something deeper than the surface issue. * To hear practical ways to address tension before it escalates. * Explore how our background can led us to avoid conflict with colleagues * To explore how managers and facilitators can create space for honesty, repair, and better relationships at work. Together, Nicky and Mia explore how conflict can be managed in more civil and useful ways, including practical techniques such as creating space to talk, using timed speaking, and helping people focus on shared goals. They also look at how unspoken conflict can quietly damage relationships and performance, and why it matters to give people the chance to put things right. If you enjoy honest, reflective conversations about how to make workplaces more human, this episode is for you. And if you’d like extra reflections and bonus content, don’t forget to join The Monthly Graft newsletter [https://mailchi.mp/1a1fc73144e0/monthlygraft].   Learn more about Mia's work through her website. [https://www.neupauer.org/]

Heart & Graft (Episode 21) - Grief in the Workplace: What to say, what to do, and practical ways to help

In this episode of Heart and Graft, we explore one of the most human, and often hardest, experiences to navigate at work: grief. Nicky is joined by Hannah O’Hare, Chief Executive of Forest Holme Hospice [https://forestholmehospice.org.uk/], to discuss how bereavement shows up in the workplace, why people often struggle to talk about it, and what compassionate support can really look like. Together they explore the emotional, physical and practical impact of grief, the pressure managers feel to “get it right”, and the small but meaningful changes organisations can make to support grieving colleagues better.   Why listen: * Learn what grief can look like at work, beyond sadness alone. * Hear practical advice on what to say — and what not to panic about saying. * Understand why some people want to talk, while others need quiet space and time. * Find out how leaders can make it easier for people to talk about loss and bereavement. * Discover low-cost, high-impact ways to make your workplace more bereavement friendly * Hear honest reflections from someone working daily with grief, loss and end-of-life care. Sign up to The Monthly Graft e-news community for additional content, including dealing with 'anticipatory grief' at work. [https://mailchi.mp/1a1fc73144e0/monthlygraft] Connect with Hannah on LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/oharehannah/] Forest Holme Hospice Charity on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@forestholmehospicecharity]

Heart and Graft (Episode 20) - How to Spot and Navigate Workplace Boundaries

Uncover the nuances of workplace boundaries in Episode 20 of Heart and Graft, where Nicky, Mia [https://www.linkedin.com/in/mia-neupauerova?skipRedirect=true&miniProfileUrn=urn%3Ali%3Afs_miniProfile%3AACoAABMdkU0BoU7CYEM2y0Sf1OhvIbkX1d1xtCE], and Joel [https://www.linkedin.com/in/joelfielder/] explore noticing when limits are crossed (for you or colleagues), why boundaries extend past work-life balance to policies, conversations, and power dynamics, and how they differ for leaders and team members. Gain clarity on this fuzzy topic through real stories and compassionate insights—ideal for HR, trainers, coaches, and anyone building human-focused workplaces. Why listen? * Learn to recognize subtle boundary infringements, like discomfort in personal chats or clashing work styles, before resentment builds. * See boundaries as more than "no" to tasks * Understand leader-staff differences, like watching for team micro-expressions. * Get practical ways to address clashes, redirect conversations, and foster team norms. Sign up to The Monthly Graft, the Heart and Graft newsletter [https://mailchi.mp/1a1fc73144e0/monthlygraft] for extra content and community updates.