How to tell the Difference Between Anxiety and Anxious Attachment

How to tell the Difference Between Anxiety and Anxious Attachment

Today I'm answering three questions I get asked constantly. And I picked these three on purpose, because they build on each other. The first one is the controversial one: can a fearful-avoidant actually have a successful relationship WITHOUT going to therapy? People want me to say no. I'm not going to say no. But I'm also not going to give you the comfortable answer. The second question is one almost everyone struggles with: how do I know if what I'm feeling is anxiety, or if it's a real need I should actually honor? Because those two things feel identical in your body, and most of the internet can't tell you the difference. And the third one is personal, and a lot of you have felt it: "I feel abandoned every single time my partner goes off to a team dinner or out with friends. How do I get over this?" We're going to take that one apart together, because the real answer isn't what you think it is. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2001000/fan_mail/new] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2001000/support]

What to Expect When Anxious and Fearful Avoidant Start to Heal

If you ever thought healing your attachment was impossible - here are two other people who were able to do it.  Today I did something I never did before - I had a discussion with who I have witnessed working on healing their attachment styles.  This episode gives you three certified coaches walking you through what healing looks like, our experiences in our past and current relationships, how attachment styles shows up and how we all react differently to triggers from a secure space.  We are excited to teach you everything we know.  Leave a review and let us know what you think. Share this with your friends and don't forget to subscribe.  I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2001000/fan_mail/new] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2001000/support]

What to Do When Avoidant Pull Away

It’s crushing when your avoidant partner disappears. But why are they doing it...and what can you do.  On of the most disruptive things happening in avoidant- anxious relationships is when the avoidant partner suddenly disappears without an explanation.  We want to understand their motives, explain how this hurts us, try harder but perhaps if we understand why they tend to do this we can rest at ease - or make some hard decisions that will benefit us.  This podcast is meant to guide you if you're going through this or if you've gone through this.  For my book - From Anxious to Secure - https://stan.store/DecodingAttachmentStyles/p/from-anxious-to-secure [https://stan.store/DecodingAttachmentStyles/p/from-anxious-to-secure] For my mini online program - Boundary Bootcamp - https://stan.store/DecodingAttachmentStyles/p/boundary-bootcamp [https://stan.store/DecodingAttachmentStyles/p/boundary-bootcamp] To book a session with me - https://stan.store/DecodingAttachmentStyles/p/book-a-session-with-me-ui52g6pv [https://stan.store/DecodingAttachmentStyles/p/book-a-session-with-me-ui52g6pv] To Subscribe to School of Attachment - https://stan.store/DecodingAttachmentStyles/p/weekly-coaching-tools--strategies [https://stan.store/DecodingAttachmentStyles/p/weekly-coaching-tools--strategies] Disclaimer: I am a certified coach with a psychology background, not a licensed therapist. The content I share is for educational and informational purposes and is based on Attachment Theory principles. I am currently funding and researching a personal project on attachment behaviors and feelings with 175 individuals. This page is not a substitute for professional therapy, diagnosis, or treatment. Please use discernment and consult a qualified mental health professional for personal advice. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2001000/fan_mail/new] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2001000/support]

What To Look For When Dating An Anxious Attached

You may have been dating and anxious attached and they seem put together. They are not the needy and clingy ones you heard about. They don't remind you of your ex who was needy and clingy. You might even think you're being tricked. Are they manipulating you?  Chances are you have bummed into a not so rare gem. There are emotionally mature anxious attached gems that can behave in very secure ways and that is healthy for a long- term relationship. However, you don't want to sabotage these relationships by testing them too much because these are the ones that won't stick around and beg like your emotionally immature ex probably did - and you don't want to risk that.  If you're anxiously attached, this may trigger you or help you to grow if you're ready for that.  I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2001000/fan_mail/new] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2001000/support]

What To Do When Male Partner Has Many Female Followers

This is an episode recorded for my instagram Wednesday live. These are the questions I answered for my followers there👇👇👇 1. My avoidant treats me like he’s a bf even we are not longer together for months. We have been on and off but he always treats me like his bf when we are together  2. Does avoidant experiences physical symptoms when their relationships feel too much? 3. What do you think of the opinion that avoidants generally cheat (emotional/phyical/leave doors open, etc) 4. Why do DA cheat? 5. How to deal with silent treatment from a fa partner?  6. Husband is avoidant, he gets extreme stressed about the future and shuts down for months? 7. My boyfriend has mostly female followers on instagram. It triggers my anxiety. What should I do?  8. Are avoidants who don’t do the work usually emotionally immature?  9. Is it okay to tell an ex you know would need therapy/ counselling to let them know?  10. I have been in no contact with someone for 10 weeks. He then asked to meet then went missing again. Checking he sill had access. 11. Can avoidant heal/break patterns without therapy?  I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2001000/fan_mail/new] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2001000/support]